Surely drive and ambition can be channeled into parenting, though, Xenia? For example, I think it takes a huge amount of drive to home-educate your children.
And can you not see how offensive it is to imply that only dull, unintelligent, limited women will want to stay at home with their children? Because that is the message I am getting from what you say.
I firmly believe that what is 'right' varies from family to family, and can change as circumstances change. I agree that no parent should feel guilty for their career/work choices - and that includes being a SAHP - and it really annoys me when it is women making other women feel guilty about their choice, whether that choice is to work or to be a SAHM.
And I know that my dses have benefitted by having me at home. For example, because I was a SAHM, I had time to go and volunteer in the boys' school, and as a result, I saw ds2 in the school environment - when he wasn't happy because it was the end of school and he could escape - and I saw the unhappiness in his demeanor and on his face, that was being caused by bullying, and that I hadn't seen any sign of, up to that point - and I was able to ask him what the problem was, and we were able to tackle it with the school. And I was only able to do that because I saw how unhappy he was - he never showed it out of school (as I say, I guess because he was just happy to be out of the bully's ambit for another day).
That's just one example - I have others. But what it boils down to is that I think I made the right decision for my family. Others make different decisions, and I believe that they make the best decisions for their families in their circumstances, and I applaud them for that.
I don't applaud someone who makes such judgemental observations as you have, Xenia.