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If you find it quite easy to run a household, would you mind sharing your wisdom with me?

230 replies

Janni · 05/03/2008 14:40

I'm starting to think it's not about how many children you have (I'm better now I've got three than when I had one), nor how much space you have (I've lived in all sorts of dwellings and struggle wherever I am). I don't think it's about whether you have a cleaner (when I did I half-killed myself shoving things in cupboards and drawers before she came). I've tried Flylady - I just spent even longer on MN.
I know all about decluttering and I don't think clutter is the problem. I'm not interested in a debate on the division of labour between partners. What I want to know is this: What do you say to yourself each day to keep on top of things? How do you do the same things over and over and not give up? How do you stay on top of things even if there are unexpected events that throw your routine out of kilter?

In short, HOW DO YOU DO IT?

OP posts:
Tommy · 06/03/2008 19:58

wow (gulp)

I need to sit down and read this thread from the top.....

Tommy · 06/03/2008 19:58

wow (gulp)

I need to sit down and read this thread from the top.....

JackieNo · 06/03/2008 20:13

I'm not very organised either, but am much happier when things are tidy and clean.

I'd definitely agree with ibblewob about the 15 minutes thing - the Flylady saying that 'You can do anything in 15 minutes' really is true - just setting a timer and seeing how much you can get through.

Bozza - for windows, I'd definitely recommend microfibre cloths. I've got this pack of cloths from Lakeland (where else?) and the yellow cloth in there for windows and mirrors is fab. You only use water, wringn it out till it's nearly dry, and you just wipe it over - no smears, so you could even do it at night, I reckon and get a good result.

Clarabumps · 06/03/2008 20:24

i have just returned to work this week. ds is 8 months and jesus all i seem to do i tidy up. My partner came over to my house this week and found that i actually don't sit down from the minute i get in. goes like this..get in, dump jacket, plonk ds in walker to flee around the living room while i make his dinner for him to spit at me.take washing out machine. put mote washing in, hang up said washing, feed the little one, run his bath while i change him..bath bottle bed..make a bit of toast for my dinner while i wizz round with a hoover.(undoing all my good work with my toast crumbs) iron clothes for next day, bath for me, clean the kitchen,make bottles, pack bags for nursery, then go to bed to try and get seven hours before work...this is just maintainence..haven't even tackled the "big clean" as yet.. it's only been four days and i just want to know if anyone has any tips...does it get any easier???? any shortcut ideas? i'm bloody knackered and dunno how the hell my mother done it with three kids! i'm rebelling tonight with the kitchen a tip and have opened a bottle of wine! to hell with domesticity..i'm done.
sorry for such a ramble....

Clarabumps · 06/03/2008 20:27

what is this flylady of which you speak???i'm away to google it!!

ibblewob · 06/03/2008 20:32

Flylady

Clarabumps · 06/03/2008 20:40

aha this looks like sonething i need to use..although where to begin...do they hire out jcb's to shift all the junk you have hidden away in cupboards??

threestars · 06/03/2008 21:28

You get yourself a DH/DP who barks and snarls when he's in a messy house and allow yourself to get ground down so much that you start cleaning out of fear... or that's how I started to change, anyway.
Nowadays I quite like having the house clean and tidy and feeling smug, and start barking and snarling at him when he messes it up.

It's easiest to approach it like tasks you'd approach at work. A list to tick off helps. And concentrate on a room at a time (are you still there, or have you fallen asleep?!).
And have a treat waiting for when you've finished. NEVER start off by switching on the computer. Look, it's 9.30pm now and I still haven't got round to making my supper...

Clarabumps · 06/03/2008 21:35

the vino has kicked me into touch and i have tidied the kitchen..small steps ladies.. have a pile of washing on the washing machine that needs hanging up. anyone know of a troup of elves that can hang this up for me?its my pet hate.. just been on flylady website and actually think that i might just print the whole website off and work through it.( how incredibly geeky) i may well change my mind though once faced with a foot of a4 paper.

clerpi · 06/03/2008 23:27

At last! I love you all! I've just realised I'm normal!
Thank you so much!

Yes, low standards, very good at "not seeing" the mess, and if it needs ironing, it doesn't get cupboard space.

I'll admit to cleaning the kitchen each evening, before I put the boys to bed, and we do tidy up the toys most nights. But that's as far as it goes. Visit me during the day and you'd wonder if we'd just been burgled...

Joash · 06/03/2008 23:51

set yourself a time limit - in my case it's 10.30 a.m. What doesn't get done by 10.30 a.m. doesn't get done on that day.

You have to have a clean house to start with though.

Usually, all the everyday cleaning is finished before I take GS to school (vaccuming, dusting, dishes, laundry, beds, bathroom, putting rubbish out, etc, etc) any bigger things that need doing, get done in the hour that I get back from school (changing sheets, windows, preparing (and sometimes part cooking) evening meal.

At 10.30, I stop, have some breakfast in peace with the newspaper, before getting on with stuff for me (studying, socialising, shopping, etc).

squilly · 07/03/2008 00:14

Someone said that when the house was messy they were depressed; now they're not the house is lovely. GOD, I should be SOOOOO depressed...but maybe I'm just a pig. And you know what pigs are happiest in!

I wish I hadn't come here...now I feel inadequate and am competing, once again, for crappy mom of the year.

HLG3 · 07/03/2008 00:34

doesn't always work that way - I find that when I am down I cant bear a messy house, but when I am ok in myself, the mess does not impinge. Right now, I am dragooning my older boys (14 and 12) into clearing up the little one's toys every night, and running around sorting out everyone's washing, and planning extra hours for my cleaner. This is not a good sign!
Dont go there on crappy mom of the year. None of us can judge on that one till we find (happily) that we havent raised serial killers and they can pay for their own therapy.

callan · 07/03/2008 06:40

i buy my mother a bottle of gin a month (the posh stuff mind) to iron as i see ironing as a waste of life. i tidy religously every morning between 5.30 and 6.30. cleaner does the rest. i work 50 hrs/wk but only have a 3.5 yr old boy. 6 bed decrepit victorian 3 storey semi is in total renovation, have 3 dogs to walk and husband works 39 hrs wk, part timer! it just sort of "comes together" the secret for me is tidying, laundry at least once every day which is put away as soon as dry and no ornaments as don't understand clutter or chintz anyway, open spaces look tidier.it's all about what works best for you.

NumberSix · 07/03/2008 08:04

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ggglmpp · 07/03/2008 08:18

I think an important factor is your dh/dp.

When I was married to a messy bastard, it was an uphill struggle - an endless tide of mess. Now having remarried a tidy man () life is so much easier....

imyflutterby · 07/03/2008 08:59

I write a list of what I should do every day and then pick the 3-5 (depending on how long the list is)absolute 'must do's'. I tell myself that as long as I get the 'must-do's' done everything else on the list is optional, ie: only if I feel like it!

Monkeybird · 07/03/2008 09:04

OK this is not an excuse buuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuut...

here's what the morning is like in our house (and god knows how it will fall apart even more when I go back to work in 2 months...)

2am (yup, that's when it officially starts): stumble out of bed to feed the screaming baby. Lately this has involved 1-2 hours of screaming afterwards for no apparent reason (teething?) We are exhausted.

4am: see 2am

6am: baby and 3yo wake up. Feed baby again. Fall back into bed to catch up on an hour's sleep. DH gets up with little ones. DH sorts out breakfast for 3yo, changes baby's nappy, unloads dishwasher, makes himself a cup of coffee, get them dressed. This all takes about 45 mins. Once that's done he makes himself some toast.

7am: 8 year old wakes up and comes downstairs in a strop (every day. Without fail). DH spends half hour cajoling then shouting then threatening privileges removed to encourage breakfast because until he eats, he is a monster.

7.30am: I get up as can no longer sleep for the shouting. DH goes to have shower/bath. Between now and 8am I hold the baby and give him another feed; sort out DS1's school uniform (yes, i know I ought to have ironed it and put away and then he gets out night before but...); most of this time is also spent refereeing the two older children who will either kill each other or smother the baby if left in a room on their own.

8am onwards: more shouting and cajoling as we persuade DS1 (who you may have guessed by now is a real handful) into his school uniform. Shoes and coat become a further warzone. Much sending to bedroom and banning of games/grounding/ imposition of early bedtimes ensue... If there's a break between the battles, I try to squeeze in time to have a shower and brush my teeth before DH leaves the house. Usually there isn't, so I have to make do with a wipe down with a baby wipe and furry teeth for some time.

8.30am DS1 is shepherded up to the 'walking bus' for school and either DH walks DS2 to nursery or he stays with me. DH then either comes back to drive DS2 to nursery or I bundle baby into the pushchair and walk with him taking DS2 to nursery (3 days a week)

9am: if DS2 is at nursery AND the baby decides to have a long nap, I may get a chance for a quick shower, but usually he doesn't

9.30am: various other chores impinge: shopping, buying curtain material, unpacking boxes (moved house), sorting out paperwork, or, if baby still asleep, I sometimes just ,er, sleep for half an hour because I haven't had a full 6 hour period of sleep for 9 months or so. He then either requires playing with (will scream if left on his own in one place for too long), feeding (many times), changing, bathing (because he usually poos up his back at least once a day), putting down to sleep again (which takes a good half hour) or just holding cos he's unhappy (teething again?)

IF the rest of the day allows and I haven't got other stuff to do, then I might fold laundry or tidy up or clean the kitchen. It isn't too bad at the moment because I'm off but it will get worse if the baby continues to wake for long periods in the night.

The evenings are pretty much the same as you can imagine with lots of refereeing. In addition to this however there is then dinner to make, plus baby is particularly cranky and goes on nursing strike at the moment since my letdown doesn't happen fast enough...

...so the idea of just squeezing everything in while the children are playing happily and quietly or while they're eating is a non-started in our house.

And then the rest of the time (and for 3 days a week I do have a small amount of 'free' time between jobs) I find that my priorities are simply sleep and me-time (MN, bath, catching up with friends on the phone or out for coffee, reading etc).

Feel no failure or moral ineptitude at this choice, but do wish there were more hours in the day to be able to prioritise housework as well... Would be grateful for discipline/fitting it in ideas from WOHM who have 3 VERY demanding children also AND manage to run the house!

ggglmpp · 07/03/2008 09:14

pmsl monkeybird!!

soapbox · 07/03/2008 09:24

Prufrock - have just ordered a robomop!

I can't believe that it is only £30 - a bargain!

We have hard floors throughout the downstairs and whilst they are properly cleaned twice a week, I'm hoping that this will help them be a little less manky between washes!

ginnyweeze · 07/03/2008 09:29

Do ANY of you have jobs? Seems to me you spend the whole time tidying up. I do as little as possible, it's mind-numbingly boring menial work. Here I am, brain the size of a planet, and I'm cleaning the toilet.... No thanks!

sbaby · 07/03/2008 09:41

Agree with Mrs Badger, don't let things build up, try to tidy as you go and run round like a maniac during nap times to keep on top of things.

I also have little baskets, boxes and containers in cupboards everywhere so that everything has its place. For example there is a bath box with everything I need for bathtime and a changing box for nappy changes. Very anal but if things aren't in order I find it too stressful!

ernest · 07/03/2008 10:08

those who've ordered a robomop, will you come back and let us know if it's any good? I need more than a bit of a dust, we usually have loads of hardcore crumbs etc. but only hard floors. am tempted, but would like to hear from you 1st. Does it really go all over a room, or just keep in same-ish place?

I don't have any laundry problems, despite 3 boys (4 inc dh), but took me a long tie to dvp system.

but paper work and tidying is the bane of my life.

foxythesnowman · 07/03/2008 10:14

Soapbox - where did you order it from? £30? Sounds like a proper bargain. I want one!

NoNickname · 07/03/2008 11:08

Foxy - I think she got her Robomop from here

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