Be honest! What things do you judge in other people’s houses?

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Just a fun post.

Recently doing a huge renovation in our own home and am absolutely mortified at the dust everywhere, I keep having visions of visitors coming to the door and seeing all the dust everywhere, it is thick!

I also currently have a spatula sticking out my down pipe drain as we have just unblocked it and it’s to catch any old leaves/moss until it’s replaced 🤣

Smells. If toilet is clean.

C8H1 The smugness was in the choice of vernacular to talk about watching a TV together, and the assertion that her DC only read in their rooms.

Neither of those quotes show me to be smug. Sarcastic, yes, dismissive yes, having an opinion different from the PP, yes, but not smug.

I recently went to my friend’s house - single mum of 4. Her toilet was dirty so I cleaned it. If you have kids there’s a high chance your toilet has moments of not being spotless. Rather than judge maybe help out?

@puffalicious you do ‘do’ judgey people as that is what you are, judging how my teens lived their lives and the words I used to express it. Be dismissive and sarcastic all you like but at least be honest with yourself and other people.

Dirty cookware / plates/ kitchen counters etc, dirty toilet, bath or sinks, smell of cigarette smoke. Houses where there are young children but no sign of any toys anywhere...

Also, I think grey is boring & depressing. It's literally the colour of rain clouds.

@ComtesseDeSpair

I always thought I’d trained the cats never to go on the work surfaces. It took a nanny cam to realise that I’d actually only managed to train them to make sure they never did it within my line of sight.

We do have a camera in our kitchen so I know mine don’t jump up there. One of them was definitely harder to train than the others though.

I don’t judge much in other people’s houses, only if it is absolutely filthy (not normal levels of mess and dirt) or if the house is too immaculate with no signs of who lives there. Clean and tidy is great but if it looks like no one lives there I’m always a bit surprised, especially if they have children.

Oh and I’m not including renovations in filth, that’s a different type of mess and dirt.

Some of these are really shameful. Someone invites you to their home, so assume it’s a friend and people say rhey judge their parenting, their TVs, their books on display,

I just can’t comprehend how people treat others like this.

@Rosebuud

Some of these are really shameful. Someone invites you to their home, so assume it’s a friend and people say rhey judge their parenting, their TVs, their books on display,

I just can’t comprehend how people treat others like this.

Yes but you don’t tell them, you just say it behind their back. So don’t worry. Gossiping is a harmless pastime and a bit of judginess is human nature.

a bit of judginess is human nature

"a bit" are the key words there. These threads always go the same way with performance shock horror at the thought of $CURRENTLYDEEMEDCOMMON item in someone's house.

In real life, people scarcely notice or nick ideas or think "not my cup of tea" unless they have nothing better to do than snipe about Wilma's taste in cave painting with other, similarly idle people.

Worse than a house with no books is a house with fake books. You know the sort, the fake leather spines with nothing inside, or Readers Digest heavily abridged versions of classics. I was a bookworm child who read everything in sight so you can imagine what an embarrassment I was to these particular home owners.

Yes but you don’t tell them, you just say it behind their back. So don’t worry. Gossiping is a harmless pastime and a bit of judginess is human nature

Against your friends? Who invited you into their home? I don’t think so.

@Rosebuud

Yes but you don’t tell them, you just say it behind their back. So don’t worry. Gossiping is a harmless pastime and a bit of judginess is human nature

Against your friends? Who invited you into their home? I don’t think so.

Well sometimes I do say it to their face 🤷🏼‍♀️

But I have friendships that MN would find utterly bizarre because they’re based on years of mercilessly ribbing each other. I don’t do the whole social-graces-reciprocal-friendship thing.

Dirt and bad odours.

[quote Badbaddog]@puffalicious you do ‘do’ judgey people as that is what you are, judging how my teens lived their lives and the words I used to express it. Be dismissive and sarcastic all you like but at least be honest with yourself and other people.[/quote]
I'm very honest, always have been. I'm well aware of my own misgivings and idiosyncrasies. They just don't include being smug or judgey. I don't judge you for being a MN middle-class stereotype I just object to it and you stereotyping others.

Step away now, you won't win this one.

I judge myself for having little piles of tat in various places, either on it’s way to where it belongs or things with no home. There’s always tat on the bookcase (have moved a mug and a hairbrush that were heading to their homes but the random radiator key has stayed there because I’ll know where to find it and can’t think where else to put it) don’t know what that says about me? I also have a tv in every bedroom so we have more tellys than people.
I don’t particularly notice other peoples homes, maybe if they have got something nice that I wish I had. I do however judge them if they hang their toilet roll the wrong way! Even dp’s no toilet roll holder, just balance it on the cistern or radiator is better than hanging it backwards

I already have won this @Puffalicious, you are judgey of me while knowing nothing about me, you are dishonest, and you’re actually now showing yourself to be pretty smug about it too. But if you’re happy to carry on fighting your losing battle, I’m happy to carry on beating you at it 😊

@Puffalicious shit I’ve never seen someone on here get so wound up by another poster!

The irony is you’re both MN stereotypes by bragging about your kids exam grades and uni places all over the shop 😂

Badbaddog Nah, you haven't. Don't delude yourself.

I've not judged you or anyone else at all (apart from in my initial post of judging cigarette smoke/ filth/ awful animal smells). In fact, I stated exactly my philosophy: each to their own. I challenged you when you started to judge others who are not like you. I am also not smug, just rather forthright.

[quote Cheekypeach]@Puffalicious shit I’ve never seen someone on here get so wound up by another poster!

The irony is you’re both MN stereotypes by bragging about your kids exam grades and uni places all over the shop 😂[/quote]
I'm not wound up, I'm actually rather amused. I stated my DC's success in life to show that he's not ended up a delinquent due to having a TV in his room. The pearl clutching is terribly amusing.

@Puffalicious you don’t sound amused you sound really irritable

[quote Cheekypeach]@Puffalicious you don’t sound amused you sound really irritable[/quote]
But then, you don't know me. I'm definitely amused by a PP who keeps trying to defend judging people for having TVs and not living their lives like they do. It's amusing.

Well my toddler watches lots of TV in particular paw patrol, no RG uni offers yet though

[quote Cheekypeach]**@Puffalicious shit I’ve never seen someone on here get so wound up by another poster!

The irony is you’re both MN stereotypes by bragging about your kids exam grades and uni places all over the shop 😂[/quote]
I haven’t said anything about exam grades or uni places, that was the forthright and non-smug @Puffalicious, ironically perhaps! I also haven’t judged other people’s TV habits. I’m open to the idea that I should have had TVs in every bedroom, but I couldn’t afford it then or now. I did say ‘family experiences’, may I roast in hell 😂

And @Puffalicious, I think we amuse each other, am I at least allowed to say that??