Be honest! What things do you judge in other people’s houses?

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Just a fun post.

Recently doing a huge renovation in our own home and am absolutely mortified at the dust everywhere, I keep having visions of visitors coming to the door and seeing all the dust everywhere, it is thick!

I also currently have a spatula sticking out my down pipe drain as we have just unblocked it and it’s to catch any old leaves/moss until it’s replaced 🤣

Net curtains 🤯
Grubby towels & cups
Clutter

I could go on... some of it is just common sense. Like don't serve me a cup of tea with other peoples lipstick or tea marks still on the cup 😷

Smell of smoke, smell of pets, dirty toilet. Everything else I don't judge because we all have days we don't get everything done.

I don't have many books in my house anymore. I'm trying to declutter before moving (if I ever find anywhere) and DH and I have been reading ebooks for years. It's no reflection on our reading habits at all.

Smells from pets like cat trays ... dirty tea towels and dishcloth .. that turns my stomach I want to get them in a bowl of bleach 🤮

I also don’t understand the no books thing, ours are in a cupboard, and we use kindles, how would you know if someone had no books? They don’t need to be displayed?

Now that’s really weird!

What's weird? Not feeling the need to display books? They are for reading, not showing off. We're all prolific readers in our house, but dh and I only really read on Kindles now. We have some books still, but not loads, and they live in bookcases upstairs. I can't begin to comprehend why that would be considered weird unless the purpose of your books is to make guests think you're well-read.

"Love life laugh" type quote on pretty much anything.

I only really judge peoples houses on cleanliness that say, oh I’m OCD at cleaning (they don’t have OCD) and go on and on about how clean they are. Then I go to the loo and there are dirty skirting boards or any kind of dirt.
I also don’t like the whole hinch bandwagon, glass dining tables with the satin chairs, mirrored furniture, trays that have tat arranged on it, grey and white theme, astroturf, hard landscaping for the whole outside space, artificial topiary balls no actual living plants

I think I silently judge dirt, E.g a toilet with 💩 marks or just a feeling of 'ick'.

Grapefruit spoons? WTF? I though cake forks was ridiculous enough, but people are supposed to buy spoons to use with one particular fruit that they may not even eat?

It's difficult in the spring if you have hay fever.

I judge those with pristine homes, or who slavishly follow interior trends.
People with small children but no evidence of said children's toys or lives.
Artificial grass and airfreshners, especially those vile ones which spray intermittently.
Lack of house plants, poorly cared for house plants and pets, ie. Dog shit covered gardens.
Dirty homes.
Huge televisions, particularly when situated over fireplaces.
The list goes on but you did ask!

Oh God, slogans and feature walls with some shitty decal tripe. Anything "prosecco or gin o clock" sequence or "in this house..." "this family.." "live, laugh, love" type shite.

Homes where the children have to share bedrooms.

LOL 😆 Or ‘ HOME’ - to remind you that you’re not at work or in the pub? 😂

Jesus. How judgemental can you get?

You judge someone on not being privileged enough to have a bedroom for every child? Says much more about you than it does about them.

This just equates to you saying “poor people shouldn’t be allowed to have children”.

I judge people who have more children than they can afford, yes.

So in your view " affording" a child means giving each child a room on their own? What a privileged world you must live in.

With that view very few people could "afford" a child especially the way house prices are in some areas.

Sharing a room is hardly a bad thing.

There’s a massive difference between having more children than you can afford and two children sharing a room.

I think we all make judgements all the time without even meaning to.

But the only thing I would judge harshly would be a very dirty home. I went into a neighbours house once and it was filthy, like the floor hadn't been hoovered or swept at all for months. Dirty stuff chucked everywhere, smelly. They had small children and it just wasn't a nice place for them.

Another neighbour when I was a child had the most disgusting house I've ever known, literally cat piss and shit everywhere, children's beds with no bedding and soiled.

I do have a lot of sympathy for people who have got depressed and let things go but it's unfair to let children live in squalor and I'm afraid I do judge someone who can't get their arse into gear enough to have reasonably clean bedding, toilet, floor and kitchen worktops.

I do get bemused sometimes by peoples decor and cluttered houses stress me out, but I wouldn't look down on someone.

Lack of books. Which is weird because we don’t have many in the living room (but piles in the bedrooms, a roomful at MIL and a stable-full in my sisters barn). We need more space.

I mean yeah cause you do just automatically judge everything, can't really stop yourself making judgements constantly, it's how we ... judge things.... it's kind of necessary.

What doesn't matter to me is how others judge my home because I have a hard enough time with my own judgement. Given I spend most of my time here, it's my workplace and my leisure place I have it how I need it which is neat and mostly clean, when you've cleaned the last thing the first thing needs cleaning again.

If someone else's home is messy I think 'I could not live here' but that's about it.