Do you like people calling unannounced?

[pinkandmarshmallowclouds]

This? I have the most wonderful in-laws , who I love dearly but I cannot handle the " we were just passing so decided to call in" attitude . Any one else as weird as me? I can't explain what it is exactly that infuriates me but I really really hate when people do this! Typically it always happens when the house is a mess or you're in the middle of stuff and it makes me feel embarrassed. Tell me I'm
Not alone 🤨

This is my worst nightmare. It's really not respectful of your time. Don't answer the door next time.

My parents also have form for showing up an hour or two earlier than expected, which is almost as bad.

YANBU I like to know that someone is coming,
just a text saying they will pop in and preferably an hour or two’s notice!

I think it's really rude to call at someone's house unannounced. I'd never dream of doing it.

Yes!!!! Just a small
Simple curtesy text just to say "we're in the area" my husband thinks I'm
Socially weird as his family operate an open door policy but I hate people spring boarding themselves into my personal space !

Nope, its rude.

No, I love people popping in. And I like to do the same. But then I don’t really care what state my house or my friends’ houses are inn. I’m there to see them, not their homes.

I need a ten minute warning at least, text or call. People know this about me and thankfully respect it.

I don't open the door without the heads up.

No unless it's my dc

No I hate it! I’d like at least 30 mins warning so I can tidy up and put a bra on.

My parents also have form for showing up an hour or two earlier than expected, which is almost as bad.

That would piss me off.

I need a courtesy text just so I can fling some clothes/bra on and squirt some smelly stuff down the loo!! Plus what if you're out shopping or on a walk or something?

Otherwise I don't really mind it as the only people who would visit me unannounced would be people who wouldn't act like "guests" - I would carry on doing my jobs and they'd make themselves hot drinks, wash up, play with the baby etc.

I’m always happy to have visitors but I know not everyone’s like me so I don’t pop in to see others without asking them first if it’s ok.

I loathe it ,I really don't like someone just turning up I don't mind someone texting me or giving me a quick call saying they would like to drop by but to just turn up 😤

Totally rude. What if you’ve just got in or out of the shower or are cooking or in a face mask?!

I like it as long as visitors aren't expecting a show home on arrival. Luckily everyone who knows me knows that the house will be a tip anyway.

Nope. It stresses the hell out of me. I need a text to ask if it's convenient. What if you're in the middle of something sex? Working? Are you supposed to drop what you're doing and stick the kettle on? Actually this has happened to me when wfh and I found it very stressful to have to stop for chit chat.

My in laws do this and I HATE IT!
They haven't done it for a little while but the last time they did was a Sunday around 11am, we'd had a lazy morning and I had just showered with the toddler, DH was just in the shower when the door bell rang. Toddler was in a towel, I was naked, nobody could physically answer the door, my husband shouted out of the bathroom window to them to give us 10 minutes. then MIL had the cheek to complain my DH had kept them waiting!
It's just plain rude. Thank god they haven't got a key, I wouldn't put it past them to just appear and let themselves in.

I come from a just passing and calling in family. It dosnt bother me when my family do this but not my DHs family, I need time to clean and prepare. But they arnt the sort to just call in anyway.

@grapewine

My parents also have form for showing up an hour or two earlier than expected, which is almost as bad.

That would piss me off.

One time they did it shortly after we moved house. DH was on a ladder installing a new lighting fixture and I was trying to feed a two and a four year old. They said, "don't mind us, we'll just watch".

That was seriously aggravating.

I don't let people in any more. I spent years coming up with elaborate excuses, but now I just say "I'm sorry, we don't do unexpected visitors. It upsets the kids."

Much easier. Though I do have one friend who keeps trying. She frequently tries knocking when she's passing. I just don't answer any more: she knows I hate it and it makes me uncomfortable, so if she chooses to prioritise her desire to almost forcibly invade my privacy over my comfort, then I'm happy to show a clear boundary. We're still friends, but the more she tries to force her way in (and demonstrate a lack of care for my comfort) the less I like her.

It's rude and I don't let them in.

You can always answer the door in your coat as suggested on here before

Oh goodness I'm glad I'm not alone! I really wish i wasn't like this, I've always been private but at least there's a few of us!

There was one time we were on holiday (caravan an hr drive away) and FIL turned up at 8:30 am on the Saturday morning "as a surprise" I was like lava I was so cross! Luckily i was uo and showered but I would have died if I was in pjs and make up free 😮

I was like who on earth does this!

No, but fortunately they never do! My family and in-laws all live at least 4 hours away, so popping round isn't possible!

@WeeTattieBogle

I’m always happy to have visitors but I know not everyone’s like me so I don’t pop in to see others without asking them first if it’s ok.

Is your house always spotless tho? I wish I could be like you x

I don't get how it's rude?

I do this with my friends and family (they do the same with me) and if it's not a good time I tell them that and we'll have a quick chat at the door. No hard feelings!