Fledglings Soar Calmly into September - the FlyLady Thread

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Calling all fledglings, newbies and lurkers to the September FlyLady thread! Join us as we try to sometimes rather loosely follow FlyLady’s routines to steer us gradually towards clean and tidy homes and organised lives, with lots of nattering and support along the way.

The more the merrier, so please feel welcome to join. I’ll post daily links to try to keep us on track, and I’ll explain the system as we go if we have any newbies. If there’s anything you’re not sure about please ask. The website is here but be wary of signing up to the emails. There are lots.

Thanks to our lovely Sing for keeping us flapping through August, you did a grand job.

The naughty corner is fully stocked for anyone needing a little respite. I am already keeping it warm for everyone today and I’m not even sorry

Remember, you are never behind, just jump in where you are. Let’s do this Fledglings!

Just popping in with a laugh from Cagletini. During dinner DS said something about the word insane.

She indignantly said “I’m not in sane! I’m in ENGLAND!”

😂

My experience is that they break the new kids in gently in terms of homework. It is the only gently break in that they will get. Mostly to give the kids time to settle into the new school and routines. There is a lot of new routine with senior school. I know for our school they lose a break and have a longer day. Plus they end up in year groups of 250 plus and have to learn the school layout. So it is quite a transition, and a bit of a culture shock. So in terms of the lower school the lighter first month on the homework side is good thing.

Ds has already had homework but this is normal for the school for exam year groups. (yr 9 to 12).

I am trying to figure out the best plan for this evening, and tomo as it is going to be a busy one tomo too.

Yes I think it’s fairly common for homework not to be piled on at the start of year 7. Possibly the case over several year groups lately due to Covid TBH - more energy spent on getting used to whatever new rules there are etc.

Good point about the online systems though. Gosh I feel old now… at my school we had to write our homework tasks in our contact book and it was all very Non Digital - page x-y in Z book, etc 🤣

I’ve come back upstairs to continue a bit of sorting.

sing Cagletini's just great. You've done a wonderful job with her 🌟

DD has come home from her first day back (year 11) feeling a bit peopled out, she finds it a shock going back after a quiet summer mainly spent on her own. All her homework has been accessed through an app since year 7, they started with paper homework diaries which were a disaster for her as she couldn't get the information down on time or clearly (dyslexic), the app is brilliant. There's a parent app with all her letters, reports, timetable, teacher contact details etc too.

I have just made a rhubarb crumble with the last picking of it from the garden. And there is lovely cool rain falling (and a few thunderclaps).

Okay I've largely caught up with housework now. I need to clean the Banister, light switches and grubby doors in daylight tomorrow.

Tonight I'm having a bath!

Hair and dinner done (will tidy hair up more in the morning with better light and having let it do it’s thing-curly). Also managed to rotate dw and get rubbish out of kitchen and vacuum up hair and sort animals. Now collapsed on bed with the fan on me.

Feel like I’ve earned my sleep today so I hope I get some.

Sing- you have a funny dd 🤣

Sorry for earlier all the crossed posts- i didnt see them so sorry I didnt refer to them in my post. Thank you eveyone for being so kind. 💕

Half- thank you.
I made myself focus by thinking, what would the fledgings do....so i did 3 laundry loads. Cooked soft food for ds from 12pm till 2.45pm. Rushed to get kids.

Zoo and wellies - thank you for tooth suggestions. Ds tooth came out at lunchtime when another boy put his hands over ds mouth 😬.
I nearly cried talking to ds new teacher- she was so understanding of my morning.

Dd teacher actually gave a backhanded telling off to me for being late. So annoyed.

Made kids a icecream milkshake which they loved. We did fun maths with cars and tracks.
Then dd (aged 5) burst into tears- no one at school wants to play with her. They say she stinks (she has clean uniform everyday.) She says the teacher ignores her. (Dd is very switched on and will question everything and will want to answer every question.) It broke my heart to see her so upset.
What do I say to her?

Oh dancing that is so sad! I don't even know what to say to her but i would be raising it with the school asap! Did she have these problems last year?

Thanks everyone for the different perspectives on homework. School started three weeks ago now. It seems a long time to be doing next to nothing. LG is home by 4pm on two days, and 3pm the other three days. It's a lost opportunity to my mind, but maybe I'm just a boring old fart.....

ED this is what I thought we would have with our school app. Unfortunately, the app is simply an uninspiring mess. DS told me of his colleague who offered - for no charge - to build a professional app, which could be customised for each child, and he was turned down. I've looked at apps for other local authorities, and found them to be clearer and more concise, with links to relevant websites, eg for various SENs.

Anyway, if I think any more about this, I won't be able to sleep.

Humph. Woke up again at 3am for the 4th night in a row. Have spent the last hour mentally rejigging upstairs furniture (and resisting the temptation to go downstairs and retrieve the tape measure). Have now resorted to MN. At least you’ll have the links waiting for you first thing!

So sorry about poor DD Dancing. Kids can be so cruel. In terms of the teacher I’d probably reassure her that sometimes the teacher might have to ignore her if she knows all the answers to see if the others know them too. No idea what to say about the other children being awful to her though. Poor little mite . Agree with That about broaching it with the school.

Hope. I agree that sometimes a crisis clean is the only way.

Any crumble left for the naughty corner ED?

You’ve definitely earned a good sleep Badger

Cagletini is so funny Sing.

Sympathy with peopled out teens.

YesTaDas:
✅ LOL washed and hung out
✅ s&s
✅ hand washed dishes after discovering I had no dishwasher salt, so unable to get new DW on the go
✅ wiped benches
✅ cleaned hob
✅ cleaned cutlery tray
✅ wiped down dining table
✅ mopped downstairs
✅ enjoyable shopping trip and lunch with DM. Made a start on buying for baby. Forgot dishwasher salt
✅ smiled and nodded and kept eye rolling under control when DM suggested this one might sleep better if I use the Moses basket instead of co-sleeping. She never did it and we all slept. Yes, because you had babies that would sleep and didn’t mind being put down. Mine screamed incessantly and it was co-sleep or die.
✅ school run and an hour in the garden with DD
✅ tried on maternity clothes that eventually arrived. Packed most of them back up. I am a whale 😭
✅ made lasagne
✅ dispatched DH to shop for dishwasher salt

‘Tis errand day today. Still in zone 2 and our mission is to declutter the drawer with the foil etc. Mine isn’t too bad so I’m not bothering.

tidy DS has the same teacher as last year (requested since we were given the choice) and she doesn't believe in homework. She says that it's her job to teach, not the parents, and the only homework they would have is anything they didn't finish in class. His last teacher was the same, although I have a feeling it's really going to be a shock to him next year when he goes into junior high and has a tonne of homework every night.

Anyway, not really anything to report, a slight tidy of the kitchen, and rotated the DW. Other than dinner cooked, nothing else done. It was a full day of work. Tomorrow will just be leftovers for dinner, so I might actually accomplish something after work 🤔 😅

Up I'm sorry you feel like a whale, hopefully you'll find something you can be comfortable in. DMs always have the best advice 🙄 just so what works best for you. Tell her you tried her advice and it didn't work (if co-sleeping works best for this baby) do whatever you have to do to keep everyone happy.
dancing definitely talk to the school, her teacher. Voice your concerns. It's always so hard when they have a hard time making friends. My DD is like that, only ever has a couple she talks to. She's more mature than most DC her age, so I think that's partly it. She also really enjoys helping out with the special needs kids and has spent her lunch with them many times.

dancingdeffo talk to teacher.poor lamb
Up hope you got more sleep
Hills hope heats now fucked off.i wasn't impressed at rise temps either
Sing she's class.love her!💖
Tidy mine all went in with reading every day from secondary and one other simple task in secondary that was in planners.it seems this year planners are gone from.girls school as all homework now online.shame,as was useful way to communicate with school over issues,keep tabs on homework etcI suppose progress marches on

Up at stupid o'clock but too tired be productive

Cats fed
Wash on
Spent 40 minutes fighting eon website which was slow AF to top up gas and electric..
Best crank up the toaster now

DD mood is best described today as "delightful"

Thank you all, you have given me strength to mention it to the teacher at the gate.
Fingers crossed

Trying not to be late today 😬

Good luck this morning dancing. Poor little love, dd. She sounds like a sweetheart.

Crisis clean completed. Things were complicated by the fact that I've delayed onset muscle soreness from working out two days ago. I was arghhhing and ohhhing the whole way through the clean yesterday. I found a fitness instructor in Minnesota who puts free workouts online (Lindsay at NourishMoveLove on YouTube). I did her 30 min leg workout (she has modifications) and let's just say I'm in remedial lunges and pushups. I'm so unfit but weight bearing exercise is good for perimenopausal women so on i go. She has 10 minute routines too. Gosh she knows her stuff. Anyway less sore today so will attempt 10 min arms 😜

10 min arms

Email the head as well as mentioning it to the teacher and name it as bullying I’d say.

My sister is popping around in a bit which has prompted quick bathroom tidy and cleaning the toilet and sink properly. Kitchen sink is soaking then I’ll have a wipe round.

Not enough clothes to make a dark load currently so lol delayed. Dw just needs emptying and I want ds to do that after school. He went off to first day back pretty happy and looking good apart from trousers are a bit tight round bum and crotch area so yet more uniform has been ordered.

House not great but at the willing to let someone in whilst apologising for the mess and using work as an excuse

Half- weldone for making time to do a workout and looking after yourself. I will have a look at the workout.

Thank you everyone- I spoke to the deputy head who was on the gate she said she will look into it straight away.

I have just had a txt from Ds best friends mum. Her son has tested postive for coronavirus today. He has been off school since tuesday.
Should i go to the school and take my kids out of the school and do a Lft test on both kids right now?
Or wait until they get home?

Wait till they get home Dancing. Is the child who tested positive at the same school?

Yes the child that tested positive - his mum has kept him at home since tuesday.
He normally is in the same class as my son. They are best friends and do everything together.

I am doing a lft myself now. Never done one before.

Hope all ok dancing 💐

Tired and sweaty 🥵 and haven’t done anything other than maths just for fun. Didn’t start work with the Caglets yet as DH had his appt on zoom and I really couldn’t be dealing with the stress of trying to manage all three. Also DD1 is now making French toast which is an excellent use of her time IMO. :o

po3.1
❗️Do symptoms survey from GP
❗️Get Caglets starting some work
❗️Do antibody test (DH will post for me)

Dancing I always feel like a scientist doing them with my little test tube and swab.