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Fledglings assemble for the nurturing November thread!

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foxessocks · 31/10/2020 16:08

Thank you to EerilyDeleted for being an excellent leader on the October thread! Time to put your feet up for a well earned rest now!

This is my first time running the thread so sorry if the links below don't work I'm learning as I go!! If they don't I'll come back and try again Grin

If you are struggling with C.H.A.O.S. (Can't Have Anyone Over Syndrome) and S.T.U.F.F. (Something That Undermines Family Fun) then this is the thread where we (loosely) follow the step-by-step Flylady housekeeping system (in our own, unique, relaxed style) with lots of support and chatter along the way.

The FlyLady link is here Don't be put off by the twee language of the site – we all agree that the underlying system is very effective.

This little-and-often system is designed so that you can follow a series of steps and routines each day (which gradually become second nature) in zones of the house which are designated weekly; defining and minimising housework - which in theory should leave you with loads more time to do something more interesting instead.

At the same time it is intended to reduce that panicky "rabbit in headlights" feeling when you are overwhelmed and everything needs doing all at once. No problem if you miss a day or two; just jump right back in and it will all come around again next month.

It's up to you, but we advise not signing up to receive the Flylady e-mails as you will be swamped with marketing nonsense. All the information you need will be linked here on a daily basis.

From the first of the month, we will be following Flylady's steps and routines using a three-pronged approach (dependent on the stage everyone is at):

  • start or repeat baby steps
  • repeat baby steps + do 15 minutes a day decluttering in the current zone
  • reinforce baby steps and do daily missions if you have finished decluttering.
  • And if you are really enthusiastic and have finished decluttering - you can go on to detailed deep cleaning in each zone.

There are three key points to keep in mind throughout:

  • No perfectionism allowed - this is harder than you would imagine and many of us on this thread struggle with this one.
  • You are never behind - just start where you are and anything you do is progress.
  • It didn't get into a mess overnight, it won't get tidy over night - accept it will take time to get on top of things and you will be happier.

If you are new; then trying to spend 15mins decluttering daily and doing the baby steps is a good way to start. Some of us (mentioning no names) can have scary looking ‘ta-da’ lists but don't let that worry you. Do what you can, anything is better than nothing, and don't judge yourself against others.

If all else fails, a brew + the power of three technique + a bit of support on here can work wonders.

Here's the launchpad for more experienced fledglings Launchpad.

Don’t let it put you off if we appear a bit cliquey, we really aren’t. Some of us have been on here for years – but all lurkers, intermittent returnees, oldies and newcomers very, very welcome.

SingToTheSky put together a glossary of the many weird and might-seem-a-bit-cliquey terms. We have been going a long time but we always love newbies - hopefully this list will help you settle in.

KCC - the Keep Calm Corner, invented by our lovely Fledgling SC back in March, where the OP posts nice diverting links, memes, questions etc to distract us from the pandemic.

Ta Da - instead of a to do list (which is of course welcome too) we often post our achievements, with accompanying jazz hands, in order to celebrate the positives, however small they seem! Sometimes if we want to share an embarrassed giggle/commiserations we also post a ta didn’t - the stuff we didn’t get done!

BRC - Bag/Box of Random Crap. These are usually formed when we are panic tidying and shove anything in “to sort later” which is also known as a stash and dash .

Power of Three or PO3 - the idea that if you’re feeling really unmotivated/overwhelmed by your to do list, you just choose three things to do, and then post when you’ve done them.

DLMS - didn’t lose my shit - in other words, somehow stayed relatively calm despite a stressful day!

SS/S&S - Swish and Swipe - this is one of the key parts of the morning routine, a quick once over of the bathroom.

Home Bleugh - Flylady's Home Blessing routine

And a few basics:
LOL - load of laundry
WM - washing machine
TD - tumble dryer
DW - dishwasher
HSL - hallway, stairs, landing

And finally "The Naughty Corner" - this is for Fledglings who perhaps didn't get done what they had planned for the day but are in need of a comfy seat, pile of cushions, tasty snacks, stiff drink and friends to chat to

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Tinselette · 25/11/2020 20:19

Take your time to take it in Hills re CAMHS 💐 I know this is not the easiest time of year for you either. Unfortunately I have a very troubled family and have not seen my sister for ten years, nor parents for almost five. They live over the other side of the world. I'm actually very family oriented myself and have a happy family and good friends. Shrugs - my new mantra is It is what it is...I'm into radical acceptance at the moment - throws hands up in the air at the madness of it all 🙌

Tinselette · 25/11/2020 20:21

Wine is an excellent idea Foxes. 🍷

Tinselette · 25/11/2020 20:28

woolly you have great legs and I love the tights

SingToTheSky · 25/11/2020 20:33

Oh and thank you foxes for recommending the four pillars book, I think I’ll read that. I’ve seen it mentioned on MN before but I always trust Fledgling recommendations above general Mumsnetters :o

I am hoping to get a spare moment to go and write up my therapy session soon. I don’t normally leave it a week! 😳

Then seriously seriously need to sort the tesco order 😣

HillsBesideTheSea · 25/11/2020 20:46

OH ffs. Just triggered a massive allergy reaction due to a vitamin tablet. If you a hoping person, could you send a bit of hope that I stay out of A&E tonight and tomorrow. The bastarding thing is slow release.

Tinselette · 25/11/2020 21:04

Fingers crossed Hills

HillsBesideTheSea · 25/11/2020 21:31

Thankfully the teen can see the funny side of things, taken the mickey out of me something rotten, pointed out I probably need to check all my meds for the offending ingredient and then told me it is a rather extreme way to get out of having to deal with CAMHS. On a plus note he checked my chocolate and I am good to eat it HmmGrin

Oh if you don't laugh....

Gin

On a plus note found something that might help my craving for crisps which i can't eat cos allergies

TheUpholder · 25/11/2020 21:44

Oh Hills Flowers Hope a good cry helps.

Star for decorating Zoo

Hope tomorrow is a better day for you Sing and Foxes

Welcome Sherin and Macken.

Love the tights Woolly, I want to try Snag.

I’m enjoying the festive names Tinselette and Hazel.

I have minimal ta das for yesterday and today. The kitchen is tidy and I’ve done an LOL, and I’m half way through the working week 🙌🏻

Waves to ED, Bower, Merry, Mc, Flushi and all other fledglings.

Tinselette · 25/11/2020 22:01

DS has a cold and as night follows day will probably get a temperature and all that now entails. Only have the door left to do on his new room.

ExpensivelyDecorated · 25/11/2020 22:06

The new Christmas rules won't help us - both our DFs are in their 80s so vulnerable, even if we are allowed to see them we probably shouldn't as DH and I both work outside the home. Also DH's family consists of 4 households so too many. We've only seen my parents twice and Dh's dad once since Feb. It is shit.

Tinselette · 25/11/2020 22:18

That is rubbish for you all ed

Sherin18 · 25/11/2020 22:59

Hi everyone, thank you all for welcoming me. Today has been a bit of a flop, I woke up very prepared to start flying but DD seems to have a sickness bug. She’s been quite poorly all day and has wanted cuddles so housework has gone on the back-burner, other than a few loads of washing from where she was sick. She’s now in bed with me and I’m looking at baby names, I’ve left it quite late.

mc that’s really good to hear it helped you! I’m coping with keeping up with housework at the moment but I know it will be a lot more difficult with a newborn plus DD, so hopefully I can get on top of everything so I can let it slide slightly when baby comes along.

tinselette I have a fleecy Father Christmas duvet cover, it’s so cosy. I hope your son feels better.

wooly I love your tights!

I’m sorry you’re feeling low sing

I’m sorry you haven’t been able to see your nephew foxes it’s been a really horrible year.

I hope you’re okay hills and a trip to A&E wasn’t needed!

I’m sorry to hear the Christmas rules won’t help you ED, it’s so difficult to choose just 2 households to see.

Tinselette · 25/11/2020 23:03

Oh Sherin I hope your DD is better soon. X

Bowerbird5 · 26/11/2020 00:35

Thanks Woolly he says the stuff has to go somewhere. He was going to DS2 house tonight so I sent him with a box. CDs and GCSE books. I will take them to the Hospice bookshop sometime in the near future. With lots of the kids needing extra help they might be useful if not too out of date. I gave him four big beach towels that are DDs & DPs and a big experimental painting of DDs too.🤣 made a little space. I will have to sort her stuff and put it near the door then it can be grabbed and put in. When they eventually get home and find somewhere to live we can hire a truck and just empty that loft bedroom at DS3’s😂.
Love the tights I had some that colour. Good legs too😁 I have never had Snags.

Well I didn’t get the boudoir done as I kept expecting builder anyhow I was expecting someone else and therefore wanted to clean the kitchen. I have cleaned the worktop from Everhot to window to door. Every jar and canister thoroughly cleaned.
Washed out bread pot.
Washed up and put away.
Polished worktop with the special spray. Need to do bit in front of baking cupboard tomorrow.
Decanted some sugar.
Moved old kettle and lead.
Changed things around a bit and it looks much better, less cluttered and like it should.
Washed the thing that holds the Fairy, soap and nail brush.
Cleaned and shined my sink.

Had to stop because I felt waffy so had to sit down should have taken blood pressure. Not heard from nurse which is surprising because it was all over the place when I did the fortnight including very high and very low.
Tomorrow will do table, and shelf and top of dresser. Wash floor(persuade DH to wash floor) someone has left big bits of mud on it. I left it to dry over night and then sweep up in morning.
Ouch now I have ear ache.

I watched a bit of the hoarders cleaning programme and lit fire and dusted the table, tv unit and clock.
Then had some time to myself by starting a Christmas jigsaw. 1000. Did about a fifth of it. DH came home. Went to see how DS3 is. DH is not obeying all the rules though technically DS2 was delivering furniture when he came twice. DS3 is the one we need to keep an eye on. DH said he was fine except their team lost. It is unusually to see them bonding. DS 3 once said to me “Dad’s a bit of an arse!” I checked him over it but he is right really. They didn’t ever have a very good relationship especially as a teenager. We had the school refusal. It is so bloody hard. DH doesn’t really understand sensitive kids because when he went to Secondary if anyone hit him he hit them back twice as hard. He said no one bothered him after a fight one day. DS3 is only about 5’5” and was bullied in Secondary. He is a kind, sweet lad and should have done something like looking after animals. He loved animals and was good pals with the vet’s son who was very like him.

So who do we leave out at Christmas? When I first heard the news I thought you could mix with three families. So sorted for us and BFs now it is a problem. I think DS3 should go and live with DS1 or vice versa then we would be ok. They all work together anyway and it seems they are going to go back to work. DS2 was hoping that wouldn’t happen. Now he will have a headache as all the food and drink needs to be ordered and then after Christmas they will be shut again and lots of waste.
BF has one adult son at home and one with wife and three boys. One DS has a teen who live half the week with mum and a DP who has two children that see dad so many days and a DD together. So how does that work. Are they all allowed to go or not? Some of our kids at school live in a house with 5 or 6 kids with different fathers including some in different countries. Bloody nightmare.
I think we will be in Tier two.
Oh yes and we are allowed to cross the border for five days. What happens if I go up to see sister on the fifth day? Depend if in county...no cases or in hospital in Aberdeen was quite a few?

What a strange year.
Well that was long sorry.

Wonder how SC is doing over the water.

Random: Do not try the honeycomb kit kats. No that wrapper on my bedside cabinet is not mine oh no it isn’t.

Tinselette · 26/11/2020 00:53

I hope your sister is okay Bower - I know she's not well. Ach, don't worry about the honeycomb kitkat - product testing on behalf of chocoholics everywhere so you're doing us a service 😁 What am I doing up at this time? 😜🛌

Bowerbird5 · 26/11/2020 01:59

I don’t know and why am I still awake.

She is still in hospital from when we didn’t know where they took her to bless her. She has had something to eat yesterday. Her son was allowed to visit her. That will have bucked her up.

I seem to have missed reading this whole page.

Hills hope you are ok.

Dancingtomusic · 26/11/2020 03:26

Bower- so good your sister in hospital has had something to eat and so glad her son was allowed to visit.

Hills- 🤞 you dont get a big allergic reaction. Sending you a (((hug))).

Woolly- I love your tights! Also I loved the christmasks you have made! I need to use the millions of fat quaters I had bought to make masks.

Sing- hope the fresh air helped.

Zoo- its nice to paint and change a colour in a room and see it become brighter.

Hi tinselette!

Hazel- I managed to watch more Christmas films. I love them.

Welcome all newbies.

I wrote a long post yesterday but its got lost. I keep waking up at 2.30am...so I go on Mn as the house is quiet.

Ta das...
🎺 cook for everyone- different dishes.
🎷made a huge mess in the kitchen i was decluttering and when to bed to try and get little ones to sleep.
🎺in morning came down to horror show of kitchen.
🎷lol x4 remembered sch uniform- phew.
🎺 baked a orange and blueberry cake.
🎷made special naan to go with curries.
🎺fed everyone- was going to cry when children complained about the food.
🎷finished watching Christmas movie.
🎺Dh went food shopping.
🎷decided to clear my hells kitchen instead of putting kids to bed at 7pm. As I couldnt face seeing the kitchen like that in the morning again.
🎺kids went upstairs with me....wow...never happens.
🎷went upstairs 7.20pm to get kids to bed.

Cherry waves to everyone and anyone I have missed. Christmas is such odd time this year...do we see my family
...or Dh family....will one family get offended if we dont see the other? I dont know.

🎄🎂🍰
Feel like I would like to make a Christmas cake for my hubby. Does anyone have a easy recipe I could follow please? 🎄🎂🍰

Stilllivinginazoo · 26/11/2020 05:53

hillsFlowerswhat a shitty day.hope you are tucked up cosy in bed not a+e

I always missed being part of a big family with zoolets(until my DM died we had big family gatherings)but this year has taught me they will be ok just with each other.dd1 has declared doing Xmas at home,maybe visiting to walk only.this is based on fairness as her fiance has 22 close family members.we bubble with dd1,but I'm happy with that.xmas she normally visits and opens gifts then heads dad's or partners family for food.boxing day they tended see her dad who was alone.,but he's living with girlfriend now so she's content he's ok,not lonely.we plan open gifts on zoom.not sure on situation with "d"p.tbh I'm hoping he's working so decisions don't need making....

Let scoutcat in at 10 last night.hes been chewing lately and virtually hairless from waist down I was worried how cold.we were having trouble getting his description flea treatment,but dd1 picked some up yesterday so in week or so he should be fluffing back up again nicely!I expected to be woken by him crashing round in kitchen but he's been very quiet.will get him brekkie in a sec,bless him❤️

Stilllivinginazoo · 26/11/2020 05:59

Oh,and happy Thanksgiving hazel🦃

foxessocks · 26/11/2020 06:55

Morning quick links and then I'll be back later
flight plan
Today is errand day and our mission is to declutter the dressing table

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Tinselette · 26/11/2020 07:12

Thank you Foxes. Still painting here today but suspect ds will be off school with cold. Poor love. About to shove on coffee machine...

Dancingtomusic · 26/11/2020 07:35

Foxes- hope you are ok today? 😊

SingToTheSky · 26/11/2020 07:55

Happy thanksgiving hazel! It’s on the home ed plan this week here. 🍂🍁🦃🥧

Hoping hills is ok!

Get well soon to all ailing Fledglings and Mini Fledglings.

last ta da from yesterday
☁️Printed some work for DS
☁️Finished home ed plan and attempted printing - need to find replacement cartridge today, it’s around somewhere...
☁️Sorted two more subs for DS. All adds up money wise (despite epic discounts via a home ed group), but I feel we are in a better place to actually make use of these things now I’m better at planning
☁️Wrote up most of last week’s therapy session

DH did the shopping edit while I was writing as it was getting near the deadline, and we totally failed to meal plan at all. Must make sure we use up some stuff in the freezer! We do have some supermarket vouchers too so will make a proper list for a top up shop next week to make sure they’re used in time. Next food delivery isn’t for over a week and is on my birthday so will include treats :o 🎂

Right, think I’ll get my writing done before attempting to move for the day 😂😴

Stilllivinginazoo · 26/11/2020 08:04

Tada
Cats fed
Wash on
Harpic lav
Sorted shelving units at end of my bed(lots mini crates with daily stuffweeklyand spares for all..nail varnishes,razors etc)
Polish sills
Wipe away condensation
Wake dd2 to take reflux meds
Polish bookcase
Polish drawers
Breakfasts made
Remind dd2 take ADs
Wash in drier
More on

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