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We may be in our lockdown cages but our wings aren’t clipped! Flapping Fledglings Flying Amicably Through April, thread 2!

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LaneBoy · 18/04/2020 11:57

Just opening the new thread while I have a chance! All welcome here, join in with the housework chat, the keep calm corner and general ramblings about life in lockdown!
Any of us have been here a long time so we may seem cliquey but it’s never intentional - newbies and returners are always welcome.

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LaneBoy · 30/04/2020 09:04

❤️❤️❤️ THE KEEP CALM CORNER ❤️❤️❤️

So for my last KCC we have:

  • a hopefully reassuring graphic about learning. This is not homeschooling right now, it’s crisis schooling, it’s really ok if the little ones aren’t doing Proper Educational Stuff. There is heaps to be learned from real life things and I reckon spending time as a family will have unexpected benefits despite the scary circumstances 💜
  • a painfully relatable meme about YouTube... DS is terrible for this!
  • a reminder that the planet is being reclaimed by nature...:o

The final question - well I’m cheating actually as there are two - of the month:
1. What are your positives from lockdown? However tiny, however much they don’t outweigh the stresses. What’s made you happy that may not have happened if we were living life as normal?

And 2. What have you achieved this month under lockdown? Yes I know I already asked what you’re proud of yourself for earlier in the month, but my final request as thread host is that you be kind to yourselves and recognise that you’re doing a great job in exceptional circumstances!

My answers:

  1. Undoubtedly that we get more time together as a family and as a couple, and it’s given us a massive kick up the bum about how little effort we were putting in. Even simple things like playing video games and properly watching a movie (rather than half watching while on our phones) weren’t happening, let alone stuff like garden games and park trips. DD1 in particular has got so much closer to DS again - they’d really grown apart when she started puberty!
  1. I’m really proud of how much organisation we’ve achieved. TBH it’s not nearly as much as I’d hoped but considering I started the month recovering from the mystery virus we’ve got quite a bit done with decluttering, and we are two weeks into the routine/chore chart which is helping a lot! This is stuff we find really hard as a family so I’m really pleased.
We may be in our lockdown cages but our wings aren’t clipped! Flapping Fledglings Flying Amicably Through April, thread 2!
We may be in our lockdown cages but our wings aren’t clipped! Flapping Fledglings Flying Amicably Through April, thread 2!
We may be in our lockdown cages but our wings aren’t clipped! Flapping Fledglings Flying Amicably Through April, thread 2!
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Stilllivinginazoo · 30/04/2020 09:12

positives from lockdown finally getting past the survival mode and moving into long term plan,I've been able spent more time with zoolets actually doing stuff together and I love that they are playing together (not often I grant you,but sometimes) like the old days.ds and lil zoo were once super close,now she virtually hates him,but he's got reasonable relationship dd2(who lil zoo also hates.she hates everyone)

Proud moment that I'm not in an asylum yet try manage three that all have very individualistic needs by myself with anxiety and depression has tough me I'm way tougher than I imagined but I have had plenty of off days

We3kingsoforientareandabump · 30/04/2020 09:24

Well I skipped the bath but we're all dressed and they're now doing PE with Joe. Dishes done and I've stuck some Bicarb and vinegar down the plug hole because it was a bit wiffy.

Positive is definitely having more time to do things with the DC instead of constantly telling them I'm busy.

Achievement 🤔 my washing basket is emptied daily.

LaneBoy · 30/04/2020 09:48

We aren’t washing/quarantining shopping either. I may have been if I wasn’t fairly confident we already had the evil virus. If we can get a bit more organised I may try and make it so that non-perishables are left in a box for a few days. Maybe.

I also need to make an effort to clean door handles and such! I won’t make that a Caglet task though. Speaking of Caglet tasks I’m considering making the next chore chart a two week timetable so they can take turns at weekly tasks or do some things fortnightly, but not sure if I’m overthinking! 😳

Got rather strict with DD1 and she is not happy 🙄 we’ve said she can have YouTube on for music while doing stuff like art, and she’s gone to do that now and I set a reminder for 45min to bring down her work. I am hoping that’ll be the way forward if we check in more regularly Hmm

Lisette thank you very much for hosting May, and please don’t beat yourself up for slipping on stuff this month, I’m sorry it’s been such a rough time Thanks

Awww I mentioned the other day about my proud parenting/home ed moment when I found DS acting out Macbeth with his Transformers - the photo came up on my FB memories today so here it is :o

We may be in our lockdown cages but our wings aren’t clipped! Flapping Fledglings Flying Amicably Through April, thread 2!
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LaneBoy · 30/04/2020 10:27

⚠️ SOPPY POST ALERT ⚠️ #sorrynotsorry

Before we move over to May’s thread I just wanted to say a huge THANK YOU to all our lovely Fledglings, whether occasional or daily posters. Really appreciate all the participation, the thread has helped keep me sane! It’s been really fun thinking up the KCC stuff - it’s given me something to do each day as well - and I really love all the answers and chat and it’s been lovely to get to know you all better, so thank you for all answers over the month! 💐❤️

Right, end of soppiness, as you were folks!

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We3kingsoforientareandabump · 30/04/2020 10:40

Thank you for the thread lane. You've done a fab job and the KCC and questions have all been fab too.

We did carpet time after PE with Joe and DS1 read to the others. I've already resorted to chocolate bribery but we have some schoolwork going on. DS1 has done a bit of reading and is now drawing a Gaudi style lizard. DS2 is doing a maths worksheet and DS3 is colouring and I'm keeping DS4 entertained with his shape sorter and stacking cups. He was at the table drawing for a bit but his scribbles were getting a bit too close to the school work.

ExpletiveDelighted · 30/04/2020 11:06

Well, I think we need to thank you Lane - it's been a memorable month for the Fledglings and your KCCs have been truly inspired! Well done! And thank you for volunteering for next month Lisette

Other positives from my month.

My laundry basket is permanently empty
The garden is tidier than it has been in years.

The house is definitely improved.

The allotment is ahead of where it would normally be
I have been to the bluebell woods more often than usual
I have been to all the other beauty spots within walking distance (there are several and I don't get to them often usually)
I have watched several musicals on Youtube that I've never seen before
The DCs have adapted surprisingly well
My colleagues have worked together as a great team to change our way of working and carry on.
I have learned to use Zoom and found out how useful it is
I have saved a fortune in petrol (but not in food)
It has been really heartening to see how various small businesses have adapted
We are cooking from scratch more and baking better
I've finally got round to trying a sourdough starter
I can watch Doctors live while chuntering along taking the piss on a MN thread every day

Slychomping · 30/04/2020 11:36

Morning all!

Hope you had a better night's sleep last night averytiredmom and that you got back to sleep we3kings and Brew for everyone else who had a disturbed night!

Extra Brew for That for very early start.

And hats off to all of you who are home edding small people and not so small people and trying to balance each individual child's needs. Must be very demanding indeed. StarStarStar. I don't think I could do it and stay sane.

I'm counting my blessings that dd has been fairly autonomous when it comes to study from about 13/14 onwards...mind you...that was entirely the schools doing and nothing I can claim credit for ...they really drum it in to them here...and I mean that literally with endless rote learning and verb drills and endless classes on organisation and preparation and constant tests. Also, although I can help with ideas and tips about overall form and content, she is way, way, ahead of me in the languages she learns in, so I wouldn't be much use to her anyway now. She's the one now who constantly corrects my grammar/accent(s). She's gutted by the lockdown really as the terms are short but really intense so whenever, if ever, she gets back to school this year ... Covid-19 has put a giant hole in the academic side of things. And she secretly enjoys exam torture even though they stress her out too. Never mind the friendship aspect of it all which is v hard for teens I think.

Thanks That she is feeling weak this morning, very pale and wan but no worse I would say. She's showered and gone back to bed. I wrote her teacher's a note this morning telling them she may not be present at all online lessons today (she plans to dip in and out depending on how she is feeling) and hwk may be slightly delayed. I'm conscious Covid-19 can start with tummy troubles so I will be keeping an eye on her.

Another lovely photo this morning Lane! I had a similar proud moment when dd was about 10 yrs old and suddenly leapt up and started quoting Tennyson. I was totally astounded until she explained it came from watching Skyfall on loop with dh! Grin Grin

Positives from lockdown: a renewed appreciation of our town garden. Sad that this is not an "all family bonding together" positive but suffice to say, at this point in time, I am happy to settle for "we haven't been shouting at one another" and ,generally speaking, civilities and reasonable good humour have been maintained.

Achievements: wish they were decluttering and exercise and weight loss ones Blush but I did clean and clear the boudoir even though it's still not finished and it's starting to slip again. I've kept on top of the laundry, but not the ironing (scraping the barrel there Grin). I've baked twice a week. And I have a growing box of old-fashioned patchwork squares which will be hand sewn in to a quilt when I get to that stage. And I'm proud I haven't lost my rag with dh who has basically brought the office in to our dining room and swamped everything like a tsunami. Also I have maintained the daily training with our "puppy" and although progress is hard won, it is benefiting her mentally I think and helping to keep her calm, if not more obedient! Grin. Also, thinking about it, I suppose have had some tiny bonding moments with dd over some jigsaws and arty stuff in among the prickly encounters Grin.

Overall though, as a bit of a "homebody" I'm disappointed and rather exasperated with myself tbh that I haven't and achieved more in April, and will be making a determined effort to do better in May. (As I say every month! Blush)

Sorry I have rambled again. Waiting for dh to finish call but it seems like it's going to be a long one so I am off to clean the second floor bathroom.

Tally-ho everybody!

We3kingsoforientareandabump · 30/04/2020 11:42

Typically it was quite bright this morning and now we've ventured out for our walk it's started to rain. We played left, right, straight ahead (we all take turns choosing which way to go when we get to a fork in the path) and have ended up at the pit heap which isn't a very interesting place but the DC like climbing on it and they are high enough to see the ships in the sea.

Going to go home soon as DS4 is getting tetchy (hates having the rain over on) and make lunch (packet pasta)

Slychomping · 30/04/2020 11:43

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Lane Yes - where are my manners - I meant to say at the start of that ramble that I hope you have put "leading a fantastically diverting and bonding and original Fly thread with good humour and great leadership that has kept everyone sane" at the top of your achievement list for April!!! Flowers 🏆🏆🏆🏆🏆Flowers

And huge thanks to Lisette for volunteering to lead in May!

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Fluffiest · 30/04/2020 11:52

Well, I've finally pulled the plug and officially cancelled our holiday to Disneyland Paris. I know it's such a minor thing compared to the bigger picture but I am a bit blue about it. It was going to be our first big holiday in 5 years, and I'd really enjoyed planning it. But I know we can book to go again when the world goes back to normal, and we are healthy and safe and together which is much more important.

Thank you, Lane for this wonderful thread. It's been smashing.

A list of positives is just what I need right now. My lockdown positoves/achievements are:
❤ no church meetings during the week means I'm more rested
❤ lots of quality time with DD and DH
❤ new flowerbed dug and planted
❤ discovered new walks from our doorstep
❤ spent time doing creative writing
❤ feel more and more at peace with leaving my job in September and going to university (God willing and fingers crossed)
❤ birthday montage for DH was a hit and I would never have done it outside of lockdown

ChicCroissant · 30/04/2020 11:57

Thanks for a brilliant April lane, fabulous thread leading (hope I've got the month right, days are beginning to drift here!) and I'm looking forward to May.

DD having a good day after yesterday, her first bad day of homeschooling - that's pretty good when you think of how long it's been going on. DH cooking up a storm in the kitchen, he is now brilliant at cooking! I'm sitting quietly on the sofa and trying not to get in anyone's way!

One load of laundry in the machine, not drying outside weather today unfortunately but we've not had many rainy days during lockdown so no complaints. Also, I have downloaded Wordle (it makes word clouds) and had a play with that yesterday. Will catch up with the thread today before it moves on to May! Tally ho!

Slychomping · 30/04/2020 11:58

Wow Expletive that is an amazing and uplifting list of achievements! Bravo!

(Yes, I've discovered Zoom for the first time too and it's been ace!

It's v interesting about small businesses ...Dh is also saying how productive he and everyone else can be from home and why the Jeff is he spending so much on running an office every month! It's all v interesting! I think the world of work will be changed forever after this.

Oh bad luck re: the rain We3kings. But bravo to you for getting everyone out in the fresh air after such a poor night's sleep.

Slychomping · 30/04/2020 12:07

Oh that's so disappointing about your holiday Fluffiest. I hadn't realised you were off to uni in Sept (fingers crossed). That's a massive change! V best of luck with it! Hope it all pans out ok. Also, you mention church meetings, are you a volunteer? (Nosy emoticon.)

I now have a desperate urge to Google Wordle Chic but will do it after choring. (I have been v slack this morning! ) Well done to your dd for managing her on-line school work so well and glad she is having a better day today! Your dh learning to cook is great too!

LaneBoy · 30/04/2020 12:10

Wow I am loving seeing everyone’s positives! 😍

Not caught up yet - I am talked out! Had a phone call for over an hour. This is one of the two ladies who ran the parenting course, we’ve ended up chatting loads 😄 really made my day!

Fluff I’m so sorry about your holiday :( just because everyone has to cancel stuff it doesn’t mean it’s any less upsetting for individuals - that is a big thing to be looking forward to.

SC we were chatting about that too as I was asking her how WFH is going, we are both hoping this leads to a big change in flexible working, the effects on the environment from less travel, and stress levels etc must be worth it if the world can learn from it?!

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ExpletiveDelighted · 30/04/2020 12:22

Well, I am turning out to be massively less productive working from home (note it was not on my list of positives!) and can't wait to be back to normal in that respect. I don't mind the odd day once in a while but this is totally doing my head in. Luckily my employer owns our building and a lot of our work can't be done at home so unlikely to get leant on to do it permanently.

I have just had some sad news, someone I know has passed away (not Covid and not unexpected, but far too young).

Fluffiest · 30/04/2020 12:28

Thank you, for being nice, lane and sly .

Yes, sly, I volunteer and I'm a member of my local church. It's an independent one, and the church I grew up in, the people there are really precious to me. They're not perfect (who is?) but very loving and supportive.

Fluffiest · 30/04/2020 12:29

Sorry for your loss, ED, that's really sad, Flowers

ExpletiveDelighted · 30/04/2020 12:35

Thank you Fluffiest - I'm sorry about your holiday too, a real disappointment. That's nice about your church community. There is a big independent church here, many people I know are part of it and it does seem very close knit.

Stilllivinginazoo · 30/04/2020 12:54

edFlowers for the loss
Fluffy what a disappointment
SC STO bearing yourself up with not getting everything done.youbhaveva business running in your home FFS.cut yourself a break or I may have to come and sort you out
Hope DD is ok

Tired all about kids_uk on Instagram has lots ideas for learning with littlies

Tada
Not much,lots of arguing here today.i feeling like a stressed lion tamer....

Slychomping · 30/04/2020 14:15

Thanks for the bracing words Zoo! Grin So great about your brood enjoying doing stuff together which is a testament to your nurturing skills!

So sorry about your acquaintance Expletive. Flowers We had the same experience recently with a long term acquaintance who had been suffering from cancer for a while. ( DC around dd's age Sad) I think it must be extra hard for families arranging funerals and going through shock and grief under lockdown conditions.

It sounds lovely to be part of such a supportive community Fluffiest. I'm RC and although I like the social justice aspects of the church overall, I have lost faith in my local parish and in many priests I'm afraid, some of whom seem to forget that the people are the church ifyswim and are more concerned with the institution. For example, just before lockdown, the notice on our church door was (roughly translated from frilly French) tantamount to "don't worry my flock, your mortal souls are not in danger, the bishops have given permission for you to not attend weekly Mass" Hmm whereas I was looking for a notice saying "call this number to volunteer to help the most isolated, elderly and impoverished members of our parish" . I couldn't get hold of anyone. No one called me back despite several e-mails and phone messages. Probably unfair of me to judge as I know other parishes are doing better and the priest may be overwhelmed with funerals, but arrghhh... .

averytiredmom · 30/04/2020 14:22

I’m so sorry for your loss EDFlowers

fluffy it’s completely understandable that you’re upset about your holiday, we had planned to go away in June. That won’t happen anymore. I don’t know when I’ll leave the house again.

In answer to the KCC, the positives that have come out of lockdown is that I have been able to spend quality time with the DC, that I probably wouldn’t have had otherwise. And what I’ve achieved?...honesty just surviving it. Waking up some days with 3 young kids and doing it completely on my own I did think maybe I wouldn’t get through it, but I’ve managed to and my children are not just alive but they’re also happy!.

Also lane your DS looks so much like my DS1!

Lisette1940 · 30/04/2020 14:27

I'm sorry about your friend ED 😟 It really knocks you for six.

Fluffiest I think you did the right thing cancelling. It's such a shame because it was clearly something you all looked forward to for such a long time.

Lisette1940 · 30/04/2020 14:31

Nicest thing about the lockdown is spending time with dh and being less stressed.
Am not enjoying homeschooling 😜I miss public transport and going somewhere - ANYWHERE!!

averytiredmom · 30/04/2020 14:38

Ooh thank you zoo, I will look for that. I need to start a routine as as you might be able to tel I’ve done nothing but sit around and watch tvBlush #momoftheyear

I’ve got my ‘living room’ done, now onto the ‘playroom’. Wish me luck.

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