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Flapping calmly through lockdown: Fledglings April 2020. Welcome to the Keep Calm Corner!

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LaneBoy · 31/03/2020 10:28

Hello all!

Thank you for joining us, please note if we seem cliquey it’s only because it’s a long running thread - everyone really is welcome!

Welcome to (probably) the most bizarre Flylady thread yet... in which we are attempting to impose/maintain some kind of order in our homes, while also many of us are adjusting to working from home and homeschooling the kids for the first time too! Not to mention the anxiety around health and accessing food!

Of course, normally the opening post would talk about banishing CHAOS - Can’t Have Anyone Over Syndrome - but now we aren’t allowed anyone over anyway :o so, let’s just try and make our homes nicer FOR US. We are spending more time than ever in them, so let’s make them really wonderful places to be, our own safe little nests for our families.

Flylady routines might just help us get through this crazy time, by giving us a little structure to work from when all else is unpredictable - but as usual there is no right or wrong here. All of us follow it only to the extent it helps us - we can take ideas and make them work for us. And the key principle is, YOU ARE NEVER BEHIND. I feel like that is even more evident now, with so many of these outside pressures and commitments suddenly gone, and frankly the days rolling into one!

This is potentially a great time to declutter. Of course, Flylady suggests 15 minutes a day - but perhaps in these unprecedented times we will all do more! But we are all busy getting into our own routines now that school is out, and work too for many, and we’ve lost a lot of the outside structure to our lives. There’s no right or wrong here, we just have to try and adapt.

Links wise, I’ll just post the launch pad, and will add reminders about zones too. If anyone has Flying questions, please ask!

Star The Keep Calm Corner Star
The lovely SC came up with the brilliant idea of the Keep Calm Corner last month - this is a daily post with things to make us happy! I figured each monthly host can make this their own, and I’m a little worried my taste in art and music would not be calming to most Blush:o so for this month, the KCC will consist of:
Star Some memes - either funny (we all need a laugh! Warning though - some will likely be unsavoury :o) or thought provoking/relaxation based. Do PM me (here or FB) if you have any you want to add!
Star A daily “ice breaker” type question - obviously answering these is entirely optional, and don’t say anything that will out you, but if you want to join in and create some extra conversations on the thread then treatment, we can all get to know each other better! Again, if you think of any questions please PM!

Thank you for settling in, and of course thank you to SC for making March such a lovely thread. Thanks And lastly, a huge thank you also to our key worker Fledglings, who are doing an incredible job of keeping things running! Thanks

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LaneBoy · 31/03/2020 22:24

And yes it counts willow - you’re obviously still aware as to whether or not he did it, and it shows you’ve put the work in to get him to a place where he could do it!

I think the only reason DD1 is happily getting on with hers is that it gives her an excuse to FaceTime her friends All. Day. Long.

Had to remind her not to come and have conversations with us while still on calls though (so they can potentially hear/see us) - we’ve had words about this before, I HATE it. Makes me feel violated (home is my sanctuary and I don’t like unexpected “visitors” - planned, fab, just don’t spring anything on me!). Don’t mind the odd quick question or whatever but FFS don’t stand there for 20 minutes! Gah.

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Sizeablecontours · 31/03/2020 22:34

Evening all! Hope everyone has managed to have as good an afternoon as poss! And thanks again for all the thanks Smile!

Ta for all the explanations about NISA. As Zoo said, it's worrying to hear about traditional corner shops disappearing that is exactly the type of shop some people will be relying on atm.

A very warm welcome to Fluffiest (great nn! Grin) The gardening sounds great!

Giveme I hope you family member recovers quickly Flowers Arf at your ds rubbing his face on your legs like a cat Grin Grin That's really funny! I hope you sleep better tonight. Brew It is a very worrying time money-wise atm with everything so uncertain.Flowers

Toostressy I'm not surprised you feel the way you do. Wishing you lots of strength xxx

KTCluck I entirely agree and I don't think you are being over-dramatic at all.

Thank you very much for article Expletive it is amazing what horses can do for people - hippotherapie is quite a 'thing' over here - especially for children with autism. Rhubarb planting sounds good! Is it the type you blanch? (My late pa used to use old chimney pots.)

Hope you enjoyed your supper Lane!

We3kings love the fact that your ds3 blow dried your hair! Grin Grin

Zoo Love your ds's word of the day idea! Slouper is a good one!
Well done for long list and tidying hallway Star! Dd went through a soap dodging stage at around about 12 yrs but that passed a couple of years later thankfully!

Generally speaking we tend to be "up early, scrub and dress to shoes" people because of the dogs and because this house is cold and old has sticky out nails and falling plaster and doesn't lend itself to loungewear ifyswim! You definitely need hard footwear too because some of the floorboards are a bit rough, the floor tiles are cold, and we don't have a stitch of carpet anywhere. And the stairs aren't carpeted either! (I'm selling it well aren't I Wink)

Love soda bread Lisette (although mine is always too heavy!) And yes, apologies for dual name use there, which was not my intention (and rather undermines the purpose of name-changing!). Huge thanks again for volunteering for May!

And thank you, yes, I am totally fine now and have been for a while. Dh and dd have mild colds though (like me they have no cough, no temp). Had to make a judgement call about going out to supermarket today after calling our doctor and state info line and seven days of self-isolating on a different floor to dh and dd - today was eighth day -(rules are not as specific here as in UK) as we were getting very low on food for us and furries. Collective decision was that the least risk for everyone else and for us, was for me to go out straightaway before I mingled with other two. So I chose nearest supermarket (4 mins in car) straight after morning shower wearing clean clothes having disinfected bank card, keys, glasses, shopping bag, wore enormous cotton scarf wrapped around my face and plastic gloves and spent 12 mins in there (I timed it!) . Only one other man in there thankfully (distant) and cashier behind plastic screen.

I got a bit panicky in the shop though because the atmosphere was so silent and tense. Has anyone else experienced this? You could literally hear a pin drop which is really strange in a supermarket; it felt rather unreal! And my legs felt like they wanted to run very fast in a different direction the whole time. Very odd! It sounds really silly because there was nothing hard about the trip at all (in fact it was easier than usual, no crowds, no queues etc) but I hated it and told dh that I'm not going again for another seven days so we will just have to make things last. The furries are getting a bit plumper than usual anyway (fewer walks) so they can do with a few less rations and dh and I need to diet too!

Scrubbed hands, face, glasses, keys, wiped bank card, changed shoes and changed in to trackie bottoms and t-shirt and slippers in outer hall when I got back, and spent a lot of time Dettoling door, fridge, freezer, cupboard, kettle handles and taps and light switches and wiping down all the shopping and cupboards when I got back. I don't know whether this is over the top but I don't care!

Also today cleaned kitchen sink, surfaces inc stove top and kitchen bin, changed towel and tea towels.
Cleaned downstairs cloakroom and changed towel.
Folded clean bath towels and pants.
Served lunch (home made soup, bread, cheese) and cleared up
Cleared top of dh's chest of drawers
Cleared out BRC
Emptied dw
Soaked some whites
scrubbed dog bowls
X 2 wms then hung up on terrace
washed dog blankets and towels and td'd
dead-headed lots in the garden
moved lots of pots around on terrace
planned next moves in garden
did some shredding of papers in office
did about 2 hours of work work (dh had calls all day so didn't have much time to hand out work)
dh still busy this eve so served cold chicken and veg for supper for me and dd, made him up a plate for later, and cleared up kitchen again.

(NB newcomers BRC = bag of random crap)

Feel a bit guilty saying this but (apart from rather tense supermarket this morning) today hasn't been too bad. The house looks visibly cleaner. And the weather was sunny and bright (if cold). I have some narcissi in pots on the terrace that are giving off wafts of lovely scent. And had a lovely twenty minutes with Dog the Younger playing "mind games" on the lawn.

Boudoir is at stage where there is a massive pile of boxes and BRCs along one wall but the rest of the floor is clean and clear but now need to work my way around and finish clearing tops of all the horizontal surfaces again. It is starting to look a bit better though.

I am definitely a "butterfly" in Clutterbug terminology because all my clothes are hanging on hooks and all my drawers and wardrobes are relatively neat and fairly empty. Need to rectify that too!

Gah, sorry for the long rambling essay!
Going to give up now for a bit and read a book for a bit before bed! Drank too much coffee today! Sleep well everyone!

It's been really lovely "chatting" to you all this month! Smile In the words of Willow, No Fledgling Left Behind"!

G'night all!

ExpletiveDelighted · 31/03/2020 22:37

Oh, I totally get that Lane - when DD first had her phone she used to facetime a friend and share photos, she was careful but as I pointed out one day she had sent a cat photo taken in our bedroom with everything in a right mess in the background which did make me feel as though my privacy had been invaded.

ChicCroissant · 31/03/2020 22:46

Welcome Fluffiest, good to have you with us!

Thanks to SC for March and thanks to Lane for April - love the idea of the memes and icebreakers Grin

Just booking my space for the month! Another good day here, DD got a little stroppy when I corrected her maths work but fine otherwise, she is happy to plough through the work that school send (lots each day) although she is looking forward to the Easter holidays and the break from schoolwork not sure why!

Been out to the shops today, bought birthday cards for the next couple of weeks so I can send them early - and an Easter egg for DD. Trying to plan ahead a bit when I do go shopping.

Better check what work is already up for DD for tomorrow already, although some appears on the day. Sleep well fledglings!

Sizeablecontours · 31/03/2020 22:47

OOOhh x posts! Fab blankets Zoo and Expletive !

And well done for getting through your list today Willow!
Couldn't agree more about the spontaneous filming Lane.

ExpletiveDelighted · 31/03/2020 22:49

SC - I went to Sainsburys ten days ago and felt as you describe, there were no social distancing measures in place (although it was a general rule by then) and I felt very anxious all the way round. This weekend was much better, they are limiting numbers coming in, having an in door and an out door, disinfecting trolley handles etc. Also I downloaded the Sainsburys app and scanned everything with my phone so I didn't have to go to a manned till, I also put my card onto Apple pay so I didn't have to touch the chip and pin machine, it was all much quicker and less stressful till I got home and had a row with DH about how to disinfect the shopping.

ChicCroissant · 31/03/2020 22:52

Loving the blankets (how did I miss page two already).

I'd check about the item limit for online ordering, I think they might be relaxing them - I checked I could buy two loaves this morning and it was fine (that was shopping in-store).

Sizeablecontours · 31/03/2020 22:55

X post Waves to Chicgood to hear your dd is getting on so well with school work. There has been a state decree here that - for reasons of social equality - teachers can only set revision tasks and not teach new work. I've no idea what is going to happen wrt end-of-year exams as they won't have got through the curriculum.

[Officially hands thread over to Lane] Flowers

Sizeablecontours · 31/03/2020 22:58

Phew! Glad I am not going completely nuts Expletive! Wish we had the no-hands scanning and payment technology!

LaneBoy · 31/03/2020 23:14

Ooh yes I also have the Fortheloveofgoddon’tsharethosephotos rule :o thankfully she’s not generally too bad with that. When it’s her own room I don’t care.

SC absolutely zero wrong with saying today was good! We need the positivity! It’s good to count our blessings, surely now more than ever, while also acknowledging the struggles.

DD1 quite anxious tonight, so another chat about that - she can’t really put words to it but I said that’s ok too. She is on board with us making sure she does spend time doing other things too - I was telling her how I’ve spent far too much time on my phone lately (TBH it’s an issue for me anyway, but I was gradually improving until I got ill and not able to do my decent hobbies like drawing) - and how it’s really affecting my mental health already, I’m not sleeping properly and I’m restless.

Going to take some paracetamol now and try and chat with DH about his counselling earlier.

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LaneBoy · 31/03/2020 23:17

Oops that’ll teach me not to refresh. Glad it’s not just me with the phone call thing!

Must check Tesco tomorrow - it’s the overall 80 item limit! Normally wouldn’t be an issue but when we can’t get slots for several weeks we want to buy what we can - prioritising heavy stuff that we can’t carry home easily. I don’t think I’ll be able to get to a shop myself for a few weeks TBH.

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HungryHazelEyes · 01/04/2020 04:56

Welcome fluffiest let us know if we need to explain anything on fly lady, I think most of us loosely use her lists. I mostly have the nighttime routine that I use as it's helpful to me to have my clothes out the night before and like to have a clean kitchen first thing. Other than that this thread really helps to motivate me.

Today was a day at home for me, I got up early, made DH his breakfast and went straight back to bed! Didn't get up until after 9:30am! I had 2 cups of coffee, skyped my mum. I cleaned the washing machine, including the filter. It was so gross and stunk so hopefully our clothes will smell fresh and clean again.

I got 1 LOL done, including a dog bed for her kennel (the bed is small). I bleached and scrubbed the bathroom, that took a while. Apparently I need to do S+S as a daily routine as the sink was awful! It looks so good now I don't want anyone using it!

We went out at 5PM to walk by the river. It rained on and off but it was what we all needed. On our way home there was an earthquake, what we felt in the car was it shaking (and only because we had stopped for a red light), it felt like DS was dancing in the back- so I told him to stop lol. It was 6.5 a couple hundred miles away so no damage to our house or anything.

I ended up making dinner much later than normal tonight as was distracted by virus updates and earthquake. About to get outfit out for work tomorrow and take a much needed shower before bed.

By the time you read this it'll be morning I'm sure, so have a great day everyone!

HungryHazelEyes · 01/04/2020 05:03

zoo your blanket is looking good! Hopefully you have plenty of wool for a while.

expletive that looks like a nice cosy blanket the cat is testing! I think it passed the test.

lane how are you feeling today? Still getting more energy/ strength back?

I was going to reply to more of you but forgot what I was going to say! Waves to chic bower willow SC we3 KT and everyone else I've missed!

HungryHazelEyes · 01/04/2020 05:05

I remembered! Thank you SC for March thread, excellent job of keeping us sane in this crazy world. Thank you lane for April thread, your ideas of distraction sound great, I can't wait!

LaneBoy · 01/04/2020 05:37

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Welcome to April folks! More links than usual today being a new month.

The habit of the month is...
Making Your Bed! In some ways perhaps that is extra important now, as the days and nights roll into one (or is that just me?!). Not that I ever make my bed, TBH, so maybe I should start now. 😳

For anyone new to Flying, here’s the Babysteps which are a great way to get started. Some are more useful than others!

We are now in Zone 1 - the entrance/front porch, and dining room if you have one. Here are the missions and the detailed cleaning list if you need them!

It’s Wednesday so the daily focus is ANTI PROCRASTINATION. Guess we really have no excuses now! 🤔😳

Here is the launch pad.
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LaneBoy · 01/04/2020 05:48

🌼🌸🌻 The Keep Calm Corner 🌻🌸🌼

Hello! Soooo my attempt at distraction today includes:
⭐️An idea for an April Fool’s joke... if you can get hold of fresh veg that is 🙄
⭐️My favourite saying about blessings (bonus points if anyone knows what film the song comes from!), since we are counting them here
⭐️A lockdown reminder - much needed for me I must admit - from the fridge which (spelling aside) made me laugh

Today’s question - I’ll start with an easy boring one: Do you have any siblings?

I don’t, I’m an only child, and both my parents grew up as only children too! Very small family. 😊

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Flapping calmly through lockdown: Fledglings April 2020. Welcome to the Keep Calm Corner!
Flapping calmly through lockdown: Fledglings April 2020. Welcome to the Keep Calm Corner!
Flapping calmly through lockdown: Fledglings April 2020. Welcome to the Keep Calm Corner!
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Lisette1940 · 01/04/2020 06:03

I have one sister - she's a Muay Thai expert who lives in Australia. We don't get on sadly and are not in contact. I'm a quiet bookish type with no muscles and she's seriously ripped and has anger management issues.

Lisette1940 · 01/04/2020 06:06

The last one is why humans need to wear the cone of shame - so we can't touch our faces or stuff then either lane

HungryHazelEyes · 01/04/2020 06:11

Good morning to you lane I had forgotten it was April fools day (tomorrow for me) now I'm scared to go into work tomorrow! I think I need the fridge sign, but also need one for my pantry 😳 I realised the other day that I move around a lot less at my new job than my old one.

I have 4 older brothers. There was another girl (2nd child) but she passed away at 8 months old from cot death (SIDS). I'm definitely the spoiled one, was the girl my dad always wanted, and then I got married and moved to a different country! I honestly don't think he ever forgave me for that. My brothers will tell you I am the favourite, I'm not so sure on that though. I'm just the furthest away.

LaneBoy · 01/04/2020 06:15

Morning all. I was inexplicably awake before 5, and Cagletini soon followed, so we are eating ridiculously sugary cereal in front of Pocoyo.

Hi hazel yikes at the earthquake! Is that a frequent occurrence near you?

Thanks for asking 💐 I am definitely on the mend! I’m in that annoying phase of feeling able to do more but knowing that doing the tiniest bit too much will knock me flat again. This is not new to me (because of having ME/fibro), but I’m not sure if it’s making me helpfully cautious or just overly paranoid IYSWIM!

I must admit I’m quite glad not to have had to go in a supermarket since all this kicked off. I don’t blame anyone for finding it eerie and stressful, the photos and descriptions I’ve seen have been bad enough! The last time I went was 2 weeks ago, when I popped into the Coop before my course (obviously this was before symptoms appeared that evening). It was well stocked, averagely busy, but a lot of stress for the staff as someone was trying to buy several loaves and bend the rules etc.

Anyway, I keep seeing comments on other threads about how we (general we) are being ridiculous to worry about food availability because all the shelves are back to normal now. 🤔 Errrr not here they aren’t! Nowhere near according to DH, especially fresh food. I actually yelped with excitement yesterday as he brought home a bag of carrots. What has life become? 🤣

Plan for today: very little due to the above worry about tiring myself out. It’s getting frustrating to be honest. But I need to make sure DD1 signs into her other classes on Google, and ring the doctor at 8.30 for DS if his weird spots are still there. Maybe cut DS’ hair too and force them into some self care!

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Stilllivinginazoo · 01/04/2020 07:58

lane friend works at Asda and said fruit veg are picking up to near normal levels,ambient and frozen improving daily only loo rolls,pasta,flour,eggs are slower catching up so there's hope.on TV last night I heard there will soon be a lag with fresh produce as seasonal pickers aren't there,but it will come

Loving the leek!I keep exploring fridge/cupboards.not sure what expecting to find....I am one of four.my eldest sister hasn't spoken to me in over 23 years as was scandalised when I had dd1 and lost plot on visiting and we had no carpet!we weren't raised with money,my dad was a gardener for country houses til I was 5,then a school groundsman but she always had ideas "above her station" and after winning place at grammar school got worse.she worked in bank,then married fellow cashier who became a bank manager...she's 12 years older than me..next brother(10 years older) I now know he had ASD,always a loner,not able mix,was classed just weird back then.we got on as kids as he would play games with me,but always had to win even if ment cheating was obvs!there was huge family fall out after he married a woman who took money from him the lied to police so my dad end up in prison.none of us spoke again after that.she threw him out once money was gone.he died 10 years ago of heart attack.i went funeral as we were close when I was little.my sisters didnt.i spoke his friends and it comforted me to know he was in supported living last few years and was happy.then there's my other sister.shes 8years older and hated me taking her position as baby.she speaks if saw me picking up lil zoo(she collected grand kids same school)no other contact.

SC/ED I've been wondering about cleaning what comes in.you clean shopping with what exactly?(nosey)

ED blankie is gorgeous(as is kitty)what stitch is that?I love it,and the colours❤️mines literally cobbled together with wool I had in stash currently.i added 6new rows last night.white and light blue.i recall the blue was remnant of jumper I made DS as baby as he so tiny (5lb 10)

foxessocks · 01/04/2020 08:00

Morning everyone!
Lane I think stock is slightly improving where we are unless dh was just lucky when he went yesterday, he got everything except baked beans I think. I suppose it will be different from place to place though.

I have one older brother , he lives in another part of the country so we don't see him that often, we get on well though, he's married and has two little boys.

Stilllivinginazoo · 01/04/2020 08:00

Bit of overstate there,sorry guysBlush

Lane forgot add we same lil zoo facetiming and I HATE her having our house on view.MY SANCTUARY!!words said,I also forgot yesterday she had earbuds in that friend still hear us and I swore(her family don't) ooophsBlush

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