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Flapping calmly through lockdown: Fledglings April 2020. Welcome to the Keep Calm Corner!

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LaneBoy · 31/03/2020 10:28

Hello all!

Thank you for joining us, please note if we seem cliquey it’s only because it’s a long running thread - everyone really is welcome!

Welcome to (probably) the most bizarre Flylady thread yet... in which we are attempting to impose/maintain some kind of order in our homes, while also many of us are adjusting to working from home and homeschooling the kids for the first time too! Not to mention the anxiety around health and accessing food!

Of course, normally the opening post would talk about banishing CHAOS - Can’t Have Anyone Over Syndrome - but now we aren’t allowed anyone over anyway :o so, let’s just try and make our homes nicer FOR US. We are spending more time than ever in them, so let’s make them really wonderful places to be, our own safe little nests for our families.

Flylady routines might just help us get through this crazy time, by giving us a little structure to work from when all else is unpredictable - but as usual there is no right or wrong here. All of us follow it only to the extent it helps us - we can take ideas and make them work for us. And the key principle is, YOU ARE NEVER BEHIND. I feel like that is even more evident now, with so many of these outside pressures and commitments suddenly gone, and frankly the days rolling into one!

This is potentially a great time to declutter. Of course, Flylady suggests 15 minutes a day - but perhaps in these unprecedented times we will all do more! But we are all busy getting into our own routines now that school is out, and work too for many, and we’ve lost a lot of the outside structure to our lives. There’s no right or wrong here, we just have to try and adapt.

Links wise, I’ll just post the launch pad, and will add reminders about zones too. If anyone has Flying questions, please ask!

Star The Keep Calm Corner Star
The lovely SC came up with the brilliant idea of the Keep Calm Corner last month - this is a daily post with things to make us happy! I figured each monthly host can make this their own, and I’m a little worried my taste in art and music would not be calming to most Blush:o so for this month, the KCC will consist of:
Star Some memes - either funny (we all need a laugh! Warning though - some will likely be unsavoury :o) or thought provoking/relaxation based. Do PM me (here or FB) if you have any you want to add!
Star A daily “ice breaker” type question - obviously answering these is entirely optional, and don’t say anything that will out you, but if you want to join in and create some extra conversations on the thread then treatment, we can all get to know each other better! Again, if you think of any questions please PM!

Thank you for settling in, and of course thank you to SC for making March such a lovely thread. Thanks And lastly, a huge thank you also to our key worker Fledglings, who are doing an incredible job of keeping things running! Thanks

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LaneBoy · 18/04/2020 10:55

:o

I haven’t left yet. Trying to figure out timings for the bus home as the timetable is much reduced but no idea how long queues will be!

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Stilllivinginazoo · 18/04/2020 11:33

Tada
Fed everyone toast(that was an arguement as we are now one loaf down already
Wiped shop and put away
Swept lower floors
Gather up trail rubbish strewn where it's been dropped,putting between recycling and rubbish bags
Hoover stairs,stop collect bits of loo roll,used ear buds/baby wipes with make up on
Empty all bins
Sort littertrays
I'm so out of breath I'm virtually gasping try do shit today and they all on devices grumbling about random crap that doesn't matter.my shoulder fucking itself up again too,not a buzzing tight crampy ache and I can't lift arm above elbow height.fuckity fuck

Dd2 will be designated putter of rubbish in wheelie bins if she ever gets off her fucking phone

Dd1 text,popping shops.need any cat food/litter etc
Wrote a quite list on messenger.shes currently on seasonal aisle in Morrison's sending me pics anything zoolets might like❤️

LaneBoy · 18/04/2020 11:59

Sitting waiting for DS’ meds. Really struggled to understand the pharmacist - her voice wasn’t muffled by the mask but I really rely on lip reading to help me understand people! Awkward.

New thread here
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/housekeeping/3884038-We-may-be-in-our-lockdown-cages-but-our-wings-aren-t-clipped-Flapping-Fledglings-Flying-Amicably-Through-April-thread-2?watched=1
But no need to rush over till this page is full, I just figured I’d start it now while I have a moment!

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Slychomping · 18/04/2020 12:32

Oh Foxes 💕💕 you have SO much to be proud of (a) you sound like such a lovely, kind person and (b) you are a stunning cook (c) you are a great mother and you and your DH sound like a great team and you are giving your two such a lovely home life (and that always involves a fair degree of effort and daily commitment; it doesn't happen by accident!). There are a thousand tasks you do every day as a parent that are never quantified or acknowledged! You are doing a great job! Be proud! 🏆.

That goes for you too Giveme happiness shines out of your two boys on the photos you've posted and that is a huge testament to your love and to your efforts!

Same with Celeste (gorgeous name) Zoo - that is such a lovely photo you posted - I'm so glad she had a good birthday despite current circs (and her dad's negligent behaviour Sad - can't believe he didn't contact her on her birthday [anger]) and YOU achieved that for her!

Continuing with photos ..same for Lane and Cagletini's total absorption in puzzles! Grin ...

...In fact from what is written here, you can tell all of you fledglings on this thread are such dedicated parents, interested in your DC as individuals, regularly moving mountains on their behalves, so well done people and BE PROUD!

There endeth today's lesson ...Grin

It's funny though - having said all of that Foxes - I know how you feel and snap X 1000 because I was just about to come on here and say almost exactly the same thing .. "sorry I have been AWOL, went in to family "holiday" mode over Easter, went rather too sloth-like Blush then in response made myself ridiculously over-ambitious post-Easter schedule which I have failed to stick to (you'd think I'd know better at my age and after being on this thread for so long! Blush). Now struggling to get motivated, and I genuinely can't think of anything I am much proud of about myself ATM as I seem to be (generally; not specifically in lock down) in the middle of a middle-aged slump where I am waiting to start a new life/new enterprise in the country but there's still so much stuff to be done here and I am a walking middle-aged cliché ATM: overweight, aching joints, dull brain, struggling as wife and parent to a degree, lacking confidence doing things I wouldn't have thought twice about 15 years ago!

One small proud achievement I suppose recently was passing the French language exam needed for my nationality dossier at a higher level than necessary. But as my French (or Dutch for that matter) is still not at the level it should be having lived here for so long, I am not sure that counts! Confused

Also, I suppose I am proud I have kept driving here, on the "wrong" side of the road, when I am terrified and it hasn't got easier as they drive like maniacs (wierdly, when they are generally very pragmatic and sensible and polite people normally) and I still find priorité de droite scary as f* but again , DH MADE me keep driving, so I am not sure I can claim that for myself either.

Magical place: I love Santa Barbara . Lake District X 5 to the right (Santa Ynez mountains) Pacific ocean to the left, and Nordstrom in the middle! Grin Dh and I once sat on the beach eating breakfast while a humming bird darted about among the flowers ... beautiful!

So many magical moments ..

One evening driving with DH-to-be in glorious Suffolk countryside - spending a moment away from frantic wedding prep - turned a corner, golden sun was low in vast sky, hay fields all around, to see a farmer with shire horse pulling a wagon of hay, just like something Constable would have painted 175 yrs ago! Inspired me to have my own one day ...hence dhorse (albeit he's a smaller version but still heavy set!). One day he WILL be pulling wood even though his training has been delayed now for another year ... .

Another magical moment on honeymoon - one of the islands off Thailand - wading in the completely clear and very warm shallow sea, tropical fish, and me and she staying there (when everyone else rushed in) as the daily monsoon raged above! Odd but beautiful!

And years ago, with my family, tucked in to a mossy overhang, on a narrow sheep path on the side of a Scottish mountain on the signal of a ghillie who signalled urgently "down" and "quiet" as a stag ran down the mountain and in effect, leapt over us as he descended.

So many others, hacking out in Scottish, Northumberland or Cumbrian countryside ...seeing wild animals you would never see on foot.

Lovely to think of all these magical moments - esp under current circs - so thanks for the prompt Lane! Smile

Heigh ho! Back to reality ...

DD is starting back on 4 hrs streamed school lessons a day from Monday, so we are in the middle of a family cleaning/organisation weekend to put everyone back in a "doing" frame of mind. Education authorities still haven't taken a decision about end of year exams (the rigorous, horrible, stressful ones that ensure your passage to the following year) which I think is quite difficult for the pupils.

Garden centres and DIY shops will be opening again here shortly. And they are going to be making a decision about schools some time in May! That's all we know really. But it's unlikely that school will be the same anyway as youngest pupils will be going back first, then small groups are being talked about, not whole classes, on different days. How that will be managed (practically) I do not know!

Very much each to their own but I will definitely be sending DD back I think. There is a potential risk there as DD and DH and I are the wrong side of mid-fifties and overweight and I have a slightly eccentric heatbeat which is managed by meds (and I am A neg if that is significant). BUT I personally don't think it is good for DD's health (physically or mentally) to be spending too much more time at home (especially as an only) but also as a sixteen year old, I think you need your friends around you and not just two portly , older parents! Plus it's an important year for her at school, academically speaking.

Also, as I understand it, lockdown is about containment not prevention, because most of us will eventually get this virus, it's just a question of when. And they are saying here that - depending on how things pan out - it is possible that they may have to close some things down again, having opened up , and do that several times, depending on transmission stats. And hopefully not, but this could potentially go on for two years Shock. So in that case, you have to step back in at some point ifyswim... . Although we have been struck very badly here as , owing to the small size of the place, the world and his wife travelled outside the country for Carnival holiday - skiing or seeing family. Then they all came back at the same time and infected the country in eleven places simultaneously.

Each to their own though but I think I trust the scientists running our daily briefings here (few politicians involved thankfully). It is strange how intensely politicised health care is in UK; this definitely hits home switching between the different news bulletins one after the other.

Hazel I imagine you also have strong feelings watching the news in the USA currently too?

Sorry have only caught up half way with thread but hope everyone is ok? Must get back to chording but 🍒🍒🍒🍒🍒🍒🍒🍒👋👋👋👋👋👋👋👋👋👋👋 to all fledglings!

And to Bower's new black hen! Grin

THATscurryfungeBITCH · 18/04/2020 12:41

sc that was a post and a half!

Is anyone going to be trying the new BBC school thing?

Slychomping · 18/04/2020 12:56

Chording? What is that?! Confused Meant choring!

Forgot to say a warm "welcome" to newcomers (sorry, can't scroll down on this ancient device for your names!) !

And well done for braving the bus Lane! And ta very muchly for new thread and for links! (Argh, still behind!) Flowers

So sorry about your lecturer friend Give me that is v sad indeed. I wonder if he knew how much he was appreciated and valued by others even in quite a tangential sort of way ifyswim (don't mean that disrespectfully)?

Maybe - about being proud of ourselves I mean... (not expressing this well!) ....well, I have to be honest and say that this modern trend of saying "I'm proud of myself" sits very uneasily with me and my Catholic guilt Grin but , just maybe, it's helpful to look at it in the context of Giveme's lecturer friend RIP ...in that we all mean more to each other ..in small ways ...than we may realise ...in that each individual is very important and valued ifyswim.

Well done for savings Hazel and your Yorkshire puddings sound scrummy Expletive! That is also very useful advice about old seeds! Thank you!

Bloody hell Lane, just sent your memes and q etc ...my last post was long enough but I'll need at least three pages to write down all the things that annoy me! Grin You are playing with fire there girl GrinGrinGrinWinkGrinGrinGrin We, think we might need a third thread for April ... .WinkGrinGrin

Slychomping · 18/04/2020 13:00

Crikey! Sorry! Yes it was That! Blush. Didnt mean it to be quite so long. Must wield the blue pencil a bit more ... .

Bowerbird5 · 18/04/2020 13:08

Then I must be too Zoo as I can relate to a lot of those things. The first one especially annoys me.

Lane two words DH! He has mentioned that he was going to DS2 when I asked why I got to hold the ladder while he cuts the hedge. Ggggggrrrrrrrr! So I reminded him ...no family no friends visiting. He is now sulking outside.

Spelling mistakes in our local newspaper. With computers nowadays they have no excuse. We have actually give the kids highlighter pens and newspapers to flag up the spelling mistakes and grammatical errors. They love it.

So the weather has changed from a beautiful, bright morning to dull and cold. I am in cleaning the sitting room.
One LOL on the line and one in the WM.
Washed up. Loaded some things in DW.
Made a list for the week.
Tried to get the stain off the windows of the door. DH has used all the white spirit so have given up as nothing I have tried works.

Thanks ED nothing lost then some broad beans and peas are last years.

LaneBoy · 18/04/2020 13:22

Yes that I’m planning to use it - not for DD1 as they’re setting plenty of work and I need to focus any spare time on extra maths with her (which I have resources for already) but for DS, I’ve been wanting to increase his workload/expectations again for a while and this will be a great way of doing that without me having to think too much I hope!

Not caught up yet but town has been ok except they’ve removed all the benches from the mall! I wore my “please offer me a seat” badge (for those with hidden health conditions) but nowhere to sit. I get why obv but I am very tired now. Just glad they still have proper benches at the bus stop and the weather is better than this morning.

I bought way too much 😳 was like a kid in a candy store having not been in a shop for a month! Caglets are going to meet me at our bus stop so they can carry some bags. It looks worse than it is though as I bought lots of cereal, since those are lacking in the local tesco that DH usually goes to for supplies.

I expect the bread products I bought are terribly squashed by tins 😂 if I wasn’t so flustered I’d have packed more sensibly.

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foxessocks · 18/04/2020 13:29

Aw thanks sc that made me a bit emotional Blush , and back at you , you are doing a great job too, I'm sure we are all entitled to a bit of lack of motivation from time to time aren't we Smile , I was wondering where you'd been so glad to see you back Brew also very interested in your comments re back to school (normal life?!) as obviously we are all thinking about that. I have no idea really, I do think dd is starting to miss school a bit, her friends and her teachers more than the learning obviously Grin. Anyway, for now we sit tight and wait and see I guess! Dh has been taken off furlough from next week though, his work is a grey area really, counts as building maintenance so in some buildings obviously essential. I think they are deciding on a job by job basis and making sure they don't have to work with anyone or near anyone.

Can't stop long because don't want to get stuck in my phone and therefore into another post lunch slump. I forgot about the BBC lessons that I might have to have a look.

Had a great walk this morning up a very big hill so everyone feeling nice and worn out in a good way.

Has anyone else seen that thread on meal planning and meal preparation generally getting people down at this time? That's me! I didn't realise quite how much I rely on top up shops!!!

foxessocks · 18/04/2020 13:31

Cross post lane well done on your shopping! Dh came back with huge amounts too, and a lot of meat which we don't usually have much of when I shop. I'm not complaining because I don't want to go myself really! Well done 💪

Bowerbird5 · 18/04/2020 13:48

Ooh I see somehow I have missed some posts including SC I like your long posts. I will have to go back and read it. Oh yes the Catholic guilt and probably why I often came second in interviews as I’m not good at selling myself. One of them was to the same person who was more confident. I gave her a lift home the first time and about two years later we ended up on a course together. We worked on it together at her house and both received good marks.

Right ironing next. Method in madness as Endeavour is on so can watch that while ironing. Then I don’t mind ironing.

Bowerbird5 · 18/04/2020 13:49

Lane That is a real achievement.

Stilllivinginazoo · 18/04/2020 14:15

Well done lane
Foxes i somehow missed earlier post,you have so much to be proud of,where's your kind to yourself voice??

Dd1 bought only veg they had frozen-2 bags broccoli.thats potentially 4 days of veg max,but. Not complaining it's somethimg;!

THATscurryfungeBITCH · 18/04/2020 14:34

I am kind of hopeful that the BBC stuff might buy me a bit of time. E.g. i can hopefully set two of the big three up (seperately) watching that while i do something with the third. Its really hard to concentrate on what one is doing when all three are doing something different! And thats before adding a baby and a toddler!

Slychomping · 18/04/2020 15:24

Thanks Bower and Foxes! V kind but sorry again, I do witter on far too much!

Good luck with home edding That.

Waves to Zoo and everyone else!
😷👋

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LaneBoy · 18/04/2020 16:37

Give I’m so sorry about the college staff :( it’s hard to lose people who made such a difference. I admittedly don’t have a normal relationship with my parents but I’m more worried about losing other people.

Hazel sorry about the anniversary Thanks

Zoo well done for all that recipe sorting!

Fluff awww at afternoon tea that’s so cool! And thanks for mentioning the magazine pics - I was going to recycle the various one I’ve found but will take out some pics first for Cagletini to stick on paper etc. And if I get the older two to find said pictures then that’s something for them to do as well :o

Sorry to those I’ve missed, was very distracted reading while at bus stop etc earlier!

You guys were right about the bus being empty by the way 😂

I’m now feeling nostalgic watching phantom :)

Glad to see people saying things they are proud of. Try and think of something every day. It does help. Even if it’s something really little like “I remembered to put the rubbish out”. We can all be kinder to ourselves.

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LaneBoy · 18/04/2020 16:49

I love your long posts sc!

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Fluffiest · 18/04/2020 17:23

Afternoon tea was a hit. Took all morning to prepare but worth it. Now I'm snuggled with DD watching George of the Jungle whilst DH makes us spaghetti bolognese.

Ta da
❤ washing dishes
🧡 lol
💛 tidied 50 things - it's my self motivation to tidy. Just go around and put 50 things away around the house then stop.
💚 DH brought in some stuff back in from the garage (still sorting the house after the rewire) Christmas decs and boxes of mugs and the fancy tea set

To-do
Put away mugs and fancy tea set 😁
Put dry clothes away

To go

Flapping calmly through lockdown: Fledglings April 2020. Welcome to the Keep Calm Corner!
Slychomping · 18/04/2020 17:35

Thanks Lane and Giveme! 《Mahoosive waves》 (Did splurge a bit too much on page today Blush)

Glad bus very empty Lane!

Happy pampering Giveme!

And thanks all for keeping me company while home bleugh in progress (now DONE!). Makes the tediousness of choring a bit more bearable! I bloody HATE it, especially when still old and shabby when finished!

On a positive note: who was it down thread (sorry have forgotten) who said they are finding cleaning lasts longer when they do it themselves rather than cleaner? Because we are finding that too and lots of stuff I have neglected[ blush]!

Before I disappear again, forgot to say hi to Toostressy and KTCluck and very best of luck for week ahead. Flowers

Won't write a list but most annoying thing: DH leaving chopping board horizontally in sink then stacking dirty crockery on top of it , totally blocking sink. [grrr] Just why when there is an empty dw 20 cm to the right of it? Ditto dirty socks lying on floor beside empty laundry basket [grrrrrr x2]

😷 🍒🍒🍒👋

Fluffiest · 18/04/2020 17:35

Things that annoy: burnt toast, bathwater that's just a bit too cold, snoring, people commenting on what I'm eating (rude!), and littering.

Slychomping · 18/04/2020 17:37

Wow! Fantastic afternoon tea Fluffiest 💕💕💕

LaneBoy · 18/04/2020 17:43

Looks amazing fluff!

Trying and failing to focus on Phantom. Oh well. The music is nice at least :o

See y’all on the other thread!

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