Aw, zoo, that's brilliant news, you and she must be so proud! 
for you and DD2.
Shanara, so very sorry to hear of your losses. Hope your DH is feeling better physically and you can dial back your DS's anxiety. Be kind to yourself.
Tineslette continued infection sounds grim. Is it time to try Oil of Wintergreen And A Mustard Plaster? (I have no idea what these things actually are, but they are the Traditional Remedy of Reference in my family!) Apols for levity: hope the nth set of ABs are working.
Bower pleased your back is improving a bit, take it gently. Maybe watery stew will flag to DH he needs to step up a bit!
We3, KT, foxes, Expletive, Chic, Stressy and everyone with ill / grumpy DC, cherry waves and all round. Well done on parlaying DS back to school a day early, We3 - he must be hopping mad!
SC, Lane, Hazel, zoo thanks for your thoughts on teens. I think I was just blindsided by the unfairness of DD's behaviour. Her ASD makes her very keen on "fairness" but it also makes her obsessive. Her current obsession is her own emerging personality / persona, which is what all this is about, so we are filtering general teenage self-obsession through ASD and Special Interest traits (and Dr Who). It's a good job I love her lots. Zoo, we are having to work hard on DD's Asperger's-related bluntness as DS3 has "passive" ASD and just accepts that everything he does and says will be socially wrong. This means DD makes massively blunt statements like "Christ, you're sad for liking Star Wars" and DS3 will go away and cry and delete all his lists of things he loves about Star Wars, because he adores his sister and just wants to fit in. She can't see it's a form of bullying in itself because it's not deliberate, it's just her but it's making life really difficult. (DS2 just tells her to f off).
Lane, thanks for your insights in Ritalin. DS2 has no autistic traits / diagnosis, he "only" has dyslexia, ADHD and hEDS. I suspect there's also some dyspraxia in there that was masked by all the other things, but no diagnosis. He has spent all his time in the school system believing he's just lazy and worthless because he can't get it together like his mates do. He takes 1 slow release tablet a day and it's noticeable when it wears off. He's also not slept properly since he started the tablets before Christmas and his CBT counsellor has told us to get melatonin as a matter of urgency today and to ask his Child Psych to up the Ritalin. Back round the loop of appointments to try to sort this out!
I think it was you, Lane, that said you've become the family where people say admiringly "I don't know how you cope". Us too, and the moment it's mentioned I cope a bit less, every time! As long as I can pretend this is "normal", I just deal with it, but when people say "how are you still upright?", suddenly I'm not. The internet meme about what doesn't kill you leaves you with a really dark sense of humour and some very unhealthy coping mechanisms gets ever truer!
Hey ho. DS1 has at least reported that his Twitter is Performative Teenage Angst and he is much better than he seems. We shall see!
Hoping for basis morning routine this morning and I'll try to build on that.