Fledglings step their way through June; yikes we'll be Flying in to summer soon!

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Welcome to the thread where we (loosely) follow the Flylady housekeeping system here to combat CHAOS (can't have anyone over syndrome) with a load of , chat and mutual support along the way. Quite a few of us have been on here for a while, so for that reason, we may seem cliquey, but we really aren't, and all newcomers, lurkers, returnees, regulars, and intermittent regulars are very welcome!

Every day I will post a link to the activities for "Today" which summarises everything you need on a daily basis if you want to follow the system strictly, but we tend to adapt it to suit our individual circumstances, homes and energy-levels!

Please note that, although Flylady is keen for us to check in to the website, we've recently had a few concerns wrt security, so although there is lots of useful info on the site, it's best not download it or put any of your personal details into the website for now.

More information on getting started available:
here (containing baby-steps!) but please don't hesitate to ask if you have any further qs.

There are 4 levels for Flying:
-Baby steps - good for starting a routine and overcoming the perfection crippling effect
-Baby steps and missions - basic routine + more in depth tasks
-Baby steps, missions, and deep cleaning (if you are at that stage).
You can't clean clutter so don't consider this one if you need the next level.
-Flying combined with a decluttering system (kondo/unfuck etc etc) let's be honest fly lady is good for routine but not so quick with the decluttering results sometimes.

There is NO wrong or right way of doing this, it is about adapting the system to suit your life circumstances, which will be different from someone else's, and don't be put off by the barftastically twee nature of the Flylady site, the underlying system is sound. Feel free to ignore any step or routine that doesn't suit you or your home! No perfectionism allowed!

And when it all gets too much: come and take a seat by the fire in our specially adapted "naughty" corner where you can enjoy virtual and and lots of support from fellow fledglings.

More info follows ( but again, please note we advise only looking at the pdfs and not downloading them ):

** launch pad (general info) here

** daily babysteps pdf (ignore the ones that don't suit you or your home) here

** week day missions (some fledglings find it easier to do them at weekends) here

** info about zones (explanation of how zones work) [[http://www.flylady.net/d/br/2017/06/11/please-explain-the-zones-6/
here]]

** weekly zones (a rough weekly guide to which area of the house we are tackling currently, again adapt to suit yourself) here

** daily focus (helpful guide to allocate a certain day for a certain task) here

** deep cleaning lists pdf (only attempt when you have decluttered as you can't clean clutter!) here

Oh and not forgetting "habit of the month" which for June is : drinking water!

Good luck and happy Flying one and all!

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Did quite a lot yesterday, but it was rather overshadowed. I was supposed to be throwing my mother's birthday party on Sunday. I have put a lot of time and effort into organising it, and I have to say, it was running like clockwork. Food booked, menus planned, I was ready to make the desserts and spend two days cooking and getting the house ready around swimming lessons, toddlers etc. It was for 13 people.

My mother told me yesterday she doesn't want the party at my house, she wants it at hers, and she can't understand why I can't bring all the food to her house 25 miles away. However, she won't do any of the work or tidying up because the party wasn't her idea.

I'm very hurt. I don't want to work in her kitchen, or transport delicate cakes. I don't want to make any cakes at all now actually. Or finish off the bunting I was sewing for it.

And I need to take the sodding car to the garage again for its expensive airbag repair, and DH is away now until tomorrow night. He told me not to throw a party, that she would find some way of ruining it.

How rude of her Cordelia Think i might be tempted to say the party is at yours, and obviously you want her there but if she cba then that is up to her.

I had another terrible nights sleep even though i took max pain killers before bed. Pissed off. I have been resting for days and its not helping. Ordered a pregnancy pillow. I cant have this for another 11-13 weeks. FML.

RE my due date and kids back to school i think i would rather baby be born at 38/39 weeks so i have a week or so before everyone else is back to school.

Cordelia I too would day it's a mine,come or I just get to eat all the cake...
I've I knew a school mum who had two babies a year and a day apart beginning of July(adding numbers 4 and 5 to her house) she picked up and carried on as thankfully easy births but the heat days before number 5arrived almost finished her off as was during a hot spell.the little one started full time school this sept just gone

Lil zoo fell on her wrist at school yesterday and came home puffy and painful(on ice all pm) can't clench without pain and still puffy.as had 2xrays in less 6months decision made to ice and elevate today and go for x-ray tomorrow if no improvement.shes a walking disaster zone!!

Tada
Wash on
Cats fed
Rang school absence line
Put together dd2 lunch

Just posting this on behalf of zoo :o

Fanx cag my phone is a bugger to try and screenshot.generally turns itself off despite perfectly able to do it on dd2 phone so it's not my usual tech incompetent self

Agree Cordelia , unless illness, frailty or genuine anxiety involved, it is impolite to accept an invitation and then try and change the arrangements. How disappointing for you after all that effort .

Sorry you are still suffering so badly I've - hope the pillow helps a bit - and fingers crossed for 38/9 wks!

Hang in there Foxes !

Hope Lil'Zoo's wrist ok Zoo!

Got a bit distracted switching between French, Belgian, Dutch and English telly watching the 75th commemoration of the Normandy landings. Fascinating in itself and fascinating to see the slight difference in emphasis of coverage ... ! Also, hadn't realised that the French gov had awarded the British vets the Légion d'Honneur. Really incredible stories. Lest we forget and all of that. Particularly poignant given current political shenanigans

Zoo/Cag . That rings so true

My Dad asked me to organise the party, so she didn't accept an invitation as such - I was trying to do something nice for both of them.

I've sent an email to my Dad saying I will do the bare minimum, and I will bring some of the catered stuff that can't be cancelled or changed and he and my sisters will have to sort desserts, cake, crisps and lots of other things. I am washing my hands of most of it. I don't want to spend hours making her a cake at the moment, so I won't.

I would say have the party here without her, but I think no one would come.

Oh Cordelia families eh? Never easy . It sounds like they don't want to cede control. Particularly difficult when your intentions were extremely kind

You are very perceptive SC - it's all about my Mum's need for control.

Anyway, the car is in the garage, I'm going to start cleaning up the kitchen. But hot sweet first.

My late ma used to be a bit similar Cordelia. Great in terms of independence and resilience - in some ways - very, very difficult in others. I hope the weekend isn't too difficult for you

Cordelia she does sound a bit controlling. You are a lovely daughter, planning such a nice party.

Hope trig exam has gone well. Working away here. Cup of tea then back after lunch.

Ironing to do tonight and a quick home bleurgh

CordeliaI'm sorry things have turned out that way.you are right not to put heart and soul into it but I totally get how much it hurts.familys can be a blessing or a curse."you can pick your friends but you can't pick your family" is a mantra I use when mine jab knives in and twist a bit more.id NEVER call people who behave like my family do friends

Zoo

I am ready with my large pasta pans ready to serve the famished teens! (It's this time of year - over three week exam season - when me and an Italian grandmother traditionally take over lunch time feeding /afternoon study group supervision).

First part of trig went well apparently thanks Lisette. But second part was a calamité unfortunately!

Oh sorry about all the family issues everyone , I feel very lucky with mine but I know a lot of people who struggle

Ta da
Daily routine and s&s bathroom
Work

To do
15 minutes kitchen
Cook dinner - cod in tomato sauce we were meant to have yesterday!
Ring and change an appointment

I've had some good new re job! They aren't getting rid of me. But they are discussing changing the hours and also making me enjoyed by them rather than freelance. Apparently they'll call me later today . So I'm a bit more relaxed now.

Just scoffing chocolate in the school car park before I go in to work. Not the best lunch I admit...

Catch you all later

Making me EMPLOYED by them that should obviously say

Good news on the job foxes

I am getting overly pissed off about a missing washing powder scoop

Ta da

Wash on x2
Washing on line
Dryer on
Recycling out

I am in a mood. That is all.

foxes wonderful news
SC I have visions of you a la lunch lady Doris in old fashioned school canteen
I've last time mine disappeared many moons ago was being used as attempted trowel to dig mud,and other time was a new bath toy...
Cag I have no words of comfort,perhaps virtual 🍫?

Tada
Had nap as in foulest of tempers,suspect may not be tired enough to sleep tonight now,but heyho
Dd2 had awful day at school- pe was nightmare.i media teacher has split her from sitting only girl in class she knows and DD isn't happyI have my tin hat on and threw galaxy ripple in bedroom door and tiptoed off

DS been on one a day
Lil zoo hand isn't improving despite elevation and ice.she cannot form a clenched hand.theres no funny colours etc,swellings not ballooning.shes not in agony,it's just bit tingly/hard to move then painful.dp off tomorrow so trip a+e for 3rd x-ray in 6months- last two were found just ligament damage.shes a walking disaster!!

Tea tonight for little ones- as D's was fretting didn't want hot food.lil zoo cannot eat left handed with cutlery so I opt give them cheese salad sandwiches carrot sticks and crisps followed by rocket lollies!!

Red pepper and chorizo veggie sausages in oven with squash,carrots,courgettes,red onions and broccoli.naice bread at the ready.i need branch out more variety(know I eat a lot veggie sausages combination with veg,but it's a step up from bread and cheese!!)

Foxes so happy to hear that about your job!

Cag

I've got my furry slippers on Zoo but actually I don't serve, just "cook up a storm, dump on table, retreat"!

Another pathetic ta da list : put rest of on-line groceries away, cooked and tidied up and did some washing. Then some French study. Tired again! Collapsed upstairs again. But did cook supper; veggie night so healthy bulgar wheat salady thing with tomato sauce and mint. Also made carrot and leek soup for weekend.

Evening all,

codellia that sounds really annoying especially with all the time, thought and effort you put into planning it. They can't say you didn't try whatever you decide to do.

Great news foxes

Nothing exciting to report from my day. Just work and being a mummy.

Ta da

Made tea
Washed dishes
Wiped over kitchen surfaces
Mopped kitchen floor
Put a wash on
General tidy up

Hey ho the weekend is within touching distance now.

Not quite caught up yet but sorry about the whole party thing cordelia your mum sounds very controlling :(

And yikes at the plaster falling off sc :(

I’m not in such a shit mood now, I escaped to the pub for a bit (the amount I do this makes me sound like a boozehound, I in fact sit and drink Pepsi 😂) and wrote some notes for planning home ed for the next week, the rest of term (4 more weeks after that) and then the summer holidays (7 weeks). Feel a little bit clearer now even though my notes are a mess!

I then got Cagletini to sleep just as the others left for St. John so I put a load of laundry away and sorted out some more bits to try and sell.

And watched sooo much Outnumbered. Really laugh out loud funny!

Ive would you consider induction if offered? I’m sure I’ve read about that happening when the SPD pain is so severe.

Cagletini is totally wide awake. Running round with an apple. Sigh.

🌼 Launch pad link containing Friday's flight plan. Best to read and not download!

for planning Cag and hope you get some sleep!

Waves to Laurajjj and everyone else!