No delayed exit for clutter - March Flylady Thread 2019 for fledglings!

[ChicCroissant]

What would a combo of exit and clutter be, clexit? Exclutter? Perhaps we should just stick with declutter ....

Welcome to the March Flylady thread, we’d love to have you with us as we chat and work our way through our houses in March. Flylady uses the zone method of cleaning so we’ll be focusing on a different area of the house each week – we will post daily links to the Launch Pad on the Flylady website which gives all the details of the current Zone, daily missions and babysteps.

Newbies are always welcome so feel free to join in at any time. Flylady does recommend decluttering your house first, so if you are not ready for the cleaning routines yet it’s fine to focus on the decluttering bit – add the babysteps in if you wish.

If it had been DD on her own I would have been more persistent Zoo. But I don't have the energy to fight dh as well ifyswim, especially when he has "modelled" sitting there in the middle of crap and doing nothing about it. It's when the pair of them are rudely passively unresponsive I feel (a) livid or (b) defeated in turn!

Tried being polite.
Tried rewards.
Tried getting angry.
Even tried sending an e-mail.

NONE OF IT WORKS

zoo www.coop.co.uk/recipes/leek-apple-and-cheese-pie found it on the co op website here is the link!

Oops I see chic beat me to it with the recipe!

Sc I would be FUMING

My patience is thin atm. But my standards re house stuff have dropped as i cant keep up

I feel your frustration SC. Been there and got the T-shirt.

And if you give up and start doing it yourself they say, “ You shouldn’t be doing that!” That is when I lose my shit.

Trip was good thanks. All kids behaved themselves and really enjoyed it.
Had some bad news on Thursday night. Our DS x3 friend who comes to us at Christmas is dying. I keep bursting into tears at random moments. He didn’t come this Christmas because he was too ill. He was supposed to get a bone marrow transplant but it didn’t happen I feel so sad .
DH took me out today for the kitchen tiles but at times I wished we could keep driving to the hospital. We bought three tiles to try out. The potter was lovely. The designs are beautiful. Snowdrops, cow slips, nasturtiums, feathers , herbs and she will make some to order so now DD and I need to work out what we need.
I haven’t done any hose stuff today except clean sink and toilet. I would have cleaned early this morning but it would have wokenDH and Dd. I did empty dishwasher. Kitchen is staying clean because I am insisting.
Sitting room has piles of RC about. I had it almost tidy so not sure where this has arrived from. Need to go through it and chuck some and put rest away. I don’t seem to have the energy but I am not sleeping well.

Oh bower that is devastating news :( so sorry x

bower.I'm sorry things are so rough for dsx3 friend
Tiles sound lovely

SC I wish I could help.i want hug you and bring treats so badly.men on this thread need putting in bags and shaking!!

I've you can only do what you can do.all fed,no one dead is a standard.another one i wish was around the corner I could come and help

Halfway thru menu plan,half shop list written

Little ones fed(cheese and pesto toasties.cherry tomatoes.raspberries and black grapes,crisps and yogurt)

Carrots and parsnips chopped and ready go into oven with rosemary,thyme and garlic.will add mushrooms and red peppers halfway thru cooking(prepped and in fridge). Got naice bread and cheese to have with it.not sure if will be blitzed to soup or sprinkled cheese and pop back in oven til starts melt....

Hope everyone's having relaxing evening

Oh that is so very sad Bower . Very hard for your ds's too.

Thanks for supportive words everyone BTW. Much appreciated.

I am closeted in the boudoir on my own tonight. Have just had my first bubble bath since leaving hospital (was only allowed showers before) which was ace. Now closeted in boudoir by myself watching telly (bliss)!

Bower those tiles sound beautiful.

Solidarity I've . Dont tell anyone but I didn't have high standard cards to start with.

Standard cards?

Meant standards; as in mine are extremely low

Best have lower standards.cant fall too far SC

He isn’t expected to last the weekend. His family have flown over to be at his beside. He wanted to go home but then the hospital advised against it because there wasn’t the facilities at his home city. He has leukaemia. I think they should have let him go home to his own country amongst his family then he took a turn for the worse on Thursday. He was given one last treatment with 5% chance of it working. His friends have clubbed together and paid for flights and accommodation. It isn’t the first time they have done this. I think his family are fairly poor I know he sent money home.
It is so crap.

Hi, do you mind if I join?. I have 4 boys aged 6-8 months so my house is a bomb site most of the time and would love some tips on how to clean it up (and also would like to get to know some people on here)

Sounds ideal SC. A secret small tin of biscuits is ideal too..also sticking my tongue out at those downstairs.

Hi all.

Bower, how awful to hear of your DS’s friend . Life is so incredibly shitty at times.

Cag, would agree with others’ advice. I am no expert at all on such things but I’d say if you can meet with people in advance and try to get a clearer slides of whether you are all working together (in which case people need to step up) or if you are more of an in charge role then maybe that will help?!

It sounds like a great idea but it is scarily easy for relationships to sour when business gets involved and I like to think planning reduces the risk of this.

Glad you got to have a bath SC.

Absolutely not a bad mum to have encouraged lilzoo into school, quite the opposite.

Have been trying to catch up on laundry all day. It is a bit better but nowhere near caught up. Also lost a birthday card. On the plus side I think we have a spare.

Hop aboard icarriedaturnip
We are a friendly bunch and prone to gossiping over spotless houses

Welcome turnip! Not sure I can offer tips but as a group we can certainly offer chat and support and a friendly ear or three.

I am in a properly shit mood today. Snapping at everyone.

Thank you for the further thoughts re the group. Yes, definitely too easy to turn good relationships into bad with that sort of thing, this is why I’m leaning more towards just running it. I can imagine me getting resentful if people say they will take care of things and then not doing so. It would be different if they’d all been saying they would love to help etc but nobody really has.

I can't really set the standards round here either Monday is a fresh week, that sounds good to me

Bower sad news indeed. I hope the friend is comfortable.

I started posting this ages ago and got distracted Modern life - we are all sitting in the same room, on different laptops and mostly with headphones on! We could be playing a game but just at the moment I'm quite happy.

Better post the link just in case -

Launch Pad for Sunday

Welcome icarriedaturnip, good to have you with us.

How kind of his friends to club together like that Bower, so lovely to hear about gestures like that.

A very warm welccome to Icarriedaturnip (great nn BTW). Please don't let all of my whinging our nattering put you off! Any questions about Flylady system; don't hesitate to ask!

Yes, life is so unfair sometimes Bower, especially when the young are struck down. His poor family.

Thanks for illicit biccies Bower and solidarity in rude gestures which made me cackle.

Waves to Toostressy and everyone else.

Ta for link Chic!

Welcome turnip and thanks for link Cag.

Thank you all for your welcome, a natter won’t put me off at all, it’s what I came to MN for!.

You'll fit in really well here in that case Icarriedaturnip

Welcome turnip😁 we’re still trying to perfect that.