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Flying Resolutions for the Fledglings

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HillsBesideTheSea · 01/01/2019 01:16

Ok. 1st of January.

It's a long running thread, but we like new people. Just be aware if we seem cliquey it is simply because some of us have known each other for many mumble mumble years.

Respect. We won't tell you what you are doing wrong if you don't tell us. hint if you tell us we are doing it wrong we will tell you you are wrong

Babysteps. If you are new start here. If you dropped off the fly wagon, start here. Basically start here.

Missions. Do these, if you start with the babysteps you will end up doing these during the course of the month.

Decluttering - you can't clean clutter. But experience has shown that fly lady is good for routines but there are other methods that work better for decluttering. Feel free to mix and match.

Emails - feel free sign up to them. Most of us don't because there can be a lot, ergo whilst you are welcome to sign up for them; we don't generally recommend it. especially as one of the babysteps is to delete them anyway

Linkies. We will be linking to the launch pad from there you can get to babysteps, missions, flight plans etc etc. Be aware that some don't update until the date that they are on (eg looking at the links before midnight on Monday will not show the information for Tuesday iyswim)

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Slightlycoddled · 09/01/2019 21:56

DD's lunch box that is

Bowerbird5 · 09/01/2019 23:09

Zoo my heart goes out to you and DS just send him up to me for a holiday is what I want to say.

Unfortunately there are going to be more children like this. The system is wrong. Staff are under pressure to get results, kids are under pressure from staff and it is not a good way to go. We are putting pressure on Yr1’s to perform. Ridiculous.
SENCO made a comment in meeting about not sitting children on knees in a flippant “as if anyone would be stupid enough” kinda way. Well our Head used to if a child was distressed and I did in Sept/ Oct with a little four year old who was anxious possible ASD. I know him ( cuddled as a baby) and have had a brother and sister in Nurture and another sister in class. I know mum to talk to and grandparents. He snuggled in and behaved after being very naughty outside. I didn’t think anything of it. For goodness sake he is four. He is good for me. I can cagoule him when other can’t. Sometimes they just need a bloody cuddle because it is a long day to be away from home and mum. The little ones clock watch from about 2pm they often ask is it home time. Can we not just snuggle them in and read them a story, oh no it is write this, experience that they must be doing. Poor bloody kids and then the parents that spend most of the time on phones communicating with other people and can’t be bothered to look at and speak to their children argh! Rant over.

Zoo you are doing the best you can. You are being understanding and supporting him it is really difficult. Our DS3 had lots of difficulty with school and you feel like tearing your hair out. It is so hard. DS 3 was getting bullied but wouldn’t tell us because he was threatened by them.There was quite a few of them. School were bloody useless and never addressed it until another child and a serious incidence then suddenly they made an appointment and please,please let us help! Too bloody late. The best person was a young Ed.welfare officer who the school didn’t tell for three months even though I had been in. She came to our house and was blooody brilliant. She told the school deputy head off as well for not letting her know.
Look around and see if there are any options. We have a private company up here educating children differently I am trying to get a visit and see if there are any hours I could do. They also support children transferring from care. It sounds marvellous but I want to see the reality. My old boss said he will give me a reference. He said once ” I don’t know how you do it!” That was a little lad that I did have a particular repore with. Some kids just click with you. You need to find that person for DS. It could also be hormonal I remember thinking that with my DS.
He has a job now since leaving school. It isn’t the best job or career in the world but I am just happy he has a job and he is ok. We don’t see lots of him ( his choice and work) but he manages, he has a job, some friends and loves his music. Tell your DS he doesn’t have to be a rocket scientist he will find something. My DS came out with poor GCSEs it doesn’t matter he has a job, a roof over his head, he has friends, he manages and at times is happy. That is actually all we all need.
Sorry I just wish I could do more to help you. If we lived near each other I would try and give you a break. I remember how difficult it was. I was about to give up my job ( 12-15 hrs ) when suddenly he turned a corner.
The bullies left and he went to school most of the time for the final year.

Stilllivinginazoo · 10/01/2019 05:59

bower I'm sure if you lived round the corner he would love coming to visit you.good to hear despite everything your D's "has a life" I do worry about him getting older and what he will do.he has no friends to speak of and I know he's lonely.he was up til gone 3 again.asleep now in sofa(in on other one).must get up and wake dd2 shortly.think a daytime nap may have to happen later.poor bean can't help it but lack sleeps torturing me!!

Rant over,big girl pants pulled up I must get up and sort the girls for school!

foxessocks · 10/01/2019 07:07

bower having a 4 year old at school myself that makes me sad you can't give them a cuddle Sad.

Zoo Brew

Stilllivinginazoo · 10/01/2019 07:29

Lunches and breakfasts sorted for the girls
Washings on
I nearly fell over couple times/crashing into things,I'm not even firing on half cylinders and my bloody balance isn't quite right I'm so tired...

Hoping brisk walk in cold air with lil zoo might perk me up(clearly delirious)

tibni · 10/01/2019 07:59

Sorry for not posting but things have fallen apart for ds (social care support and services) so no housework and no sleep.
I know others on here are struggling. I've been at this for many years with ds and I would say trust your instincts, no one knows your child better than you.
Tonight I have 2 social workers round but I can't say my expectations are high.
Have a good day all

Stilllivinginazoo · 10/01/2019 09:53

tibni sending virtual hugs andFlowers
I don't have the answers but this thread is a safe space to rant and dump stuff.sod the house.you are in survival mode right now and you are prioritizing what matters.x

Slightlycoddled · 10/01/2019 12:11

Again, very sorry Zoo and Tibni, that things are so hellish currently. And I wish the various services concerned weren't so strangled by cuts and - like Bower - wish there was something practical I could do to help as words are so inadequate xx

Also, ridiculous why 4 year olds can't be cuddled - you can see how the policy came about sadly - but fhs once "love" for others (and I use that term advisedly in its proper sense) and concern for individuals and common sense goes out the window, what else is there?

I have absconded to the countryside. Currently doing a lot of Munsnetting (instead of cutting up a tree which is next on the list) because need to be around/hear/see plumber when he arrives (that's my excuse anyway).

foxessocks · 10/01/2019 12:59

Sorry so many of you are having such a hard time Sad

Ta da
Washing on
School run
Ds second day of nursery school and still no tears so that's good!
Went for run after dropping dc off
Worked all morning
Collected ds
Made vegetable omlette for lunch
Dishwasher on

Just need to get ds down for his nap in a minute then tackle a few jobs. Need to ring party venue back for dd birthday as they never called me back. Not a good start and am starting to doubt booking with them at all but then I'm back to square one!

To do
Ring party venue
Tidy and wipe sides down kitchen
Wipe sides bathroom
15 minutes decluttering kitchen
Today's mission

Probably more but that's enough for now.

Cagliostro · 10/01/2019 13:32

Oh no I can only offer hugs and a lot of comfort food in the naughty corner (I may have stopped by hotel chocolat for cheap Christmas stock) 💐

I managed to walk all the way to trampolining today. Pleased about that.

DH has his appt and he’s being referred back to the surgeon who did his discectomy a few years ago. Bugger. 😣😣😣

Stilllivinginazoo · 10/01/2019 13:34

Oh cagSadpoor DH

HillsBesideTheSea · 10/01/2019 18:53

Anyone actually done any flying?

Washing up fairy tackled the kitchen whilst i was at work
put a load of washing on before work
about to put a load of washing on so there is uniform and pants for tomorrow
bought bits for lunch box

Adulting is hard today I failed at adulting. Hence the list that says makes sure have for tomo BlushBlush -apparently no pants no school plus it is PE tomo mum- HmmGrin he didn't like the suggestion to do a load of washing himself

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HillsBesideTheSea · 10/01/2019 18:54

tibni good luck and I hope you get some positive progress - even if it is only babystep size with hope!

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Cagliostro · 10/01/2019 18:57

Flying 😂 as if.

I’m binge watching Friday Night Dinner.

SassitudeandSparkle · 10/01/2019 19:17

The autoplaying ads are driving me mad on here at the moment Grin Would be good to limit my time more.

Spent a fair chunk of today removing large amounts of the school field from DD's PE kit. So.Much.Mud. Have done some laundry and need to empty the tumble dryer (don't usually use it much but just want to get the stuff dry and back into a drawer somewhere!).

Tonight - ironing, getting DD to do homework/instrument practice, sorting out admin. Rock and roll!

Slightlycoddled · 10/01/2019 19:49

Yes I need to limit my time more too Sass!

Oh no that doesn't sound good about the surgeon Cag how rotten for your DH. Hope things work out ok for him.

Virtually no Flying - went to wreck2 - waited for plumber - Mumsnetted - sorted sheets and towels - hoovered a bit - chopped up a tree branch for fire wood - poked around septic tank with plumber (lovely!) - stopped off to see dhorse briefly 💓 - came home - bunged breaded frozen fish and potato wedges in oven and peas in microwave - that's it.

Wing flaps to everyone else; going to be AWOL from thread for a bit nothing major but lots of different things happening here; hope things improve for everyone who is struggling xxx

EustaciaVye · 10/01/2019 20:09

I haven't done housework but I have organised boiler service and front drive to be Jet washed in between work meetings. Got home late and just washed supergirl with the kids - our family viewing at the moment.

It is my day off tomorrow so I will do some actual housework then, in between seeing a friend and an appointment.

Stilllivinginazoo · 10/01/2019 20:56

Flying?more trying get of the ground reallyBlush

Had nap
DS helped make mince pasties (he did pastry) for him n dp lunch
Sat and read with him for a bit pm after DP left for work
Made up some funny limericks and watched little TV together
Took him with me to collect lil zoo
Got soaked and had row dd2 as I was cold,wet and hangry,notmy finest hour tbh..
Ate crap.apologised dd2
Sent her to do homework.dried off and warmed up
Sat veg in front TV for bit whilst lil zoo and D's play rummy and dd2 upstairs on homework
Pasta pesto with peas.yogurt and fruit pud
Wash up
Put heat on and towels out for dd2 have shower
Cook my dinner
Now sat on my arse in half asleep state watch TV and text chat D's who currently upstairs colouring but judging by increasing urgency of texts he be down soon as he's becoming very agitated

Tomorrow
Must do better.place a tip,routines out window and I'm exhausted

EustaciaVye · 10/01/2019 21:02

For the first time in ages my anxiety-ridden daughter is smiling. My heart is melting Grin

HillsBesideTheSea · 10/01/2019 21:16

So glad for you EustaciaVye

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Stilllivinginazoo · 10/01/2019 21:36

eust that's FABSmile

MogTheSleepyCat · 10/01/2019 22:00

So sorry to hear so many fledglings are struggling at the moment. Life can be shitty at times.

Too tired now to post properly, just stopping by to say hi and bring birthday cake to share Cake

HillsBesideTheSea · 10/01/2019 22:32

Cake?! Ooooo Yes please!

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Slightlycoddled · 10/01/2019 22:33

Yay Eustacia! So fab!

And happy birthday Mog! Hope you had a lovely day!

G'night all and over and out for a week bit xxx

Slightlycoddled · 10/01/2019 22:34

A week bit? A wee bit! Hmm

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