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Flying Resolutions for the Fledglings

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HillsBesideTheSea · 01/01/2019 01:16

Ok. 1st of January.

It's a long running thread, but we like new people. Just be aware if we seem cliquey it is simply because some of us have known each other for many mumble mumble years.

Respect. We won't tell you what you are doing wrong if you don't tell us. hint if you tell us we are doing it wrong we will tell you you are wrong

Babysteps. If you are new start here. If you dropped off the fly wagon, start here. Basically start here.

Missions. Do these, if you start with the babysteps you will end up doing these during the course of the month.

Decluttering - you can't clean clutter. But experience has shown that fly lady is good for routines but there are other methods that work better for decluttering. Feel free to mix and match.

Emails - feel free sign up to them. Most of us don't because there can be a lot, ergo whilst you are welcome to sign up for them; we don't generally recommend it. especially as one of the babysteps is to delete them anyway

Linkies. We will be linking to the launch pad from there you can get to babysteps, missions, flight plans etc etc. Be aware that some don't update until the date that they are on (eg looking at the links before midnight on Monday will not show the information for Tuesday iyswim)

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TooStressyForMyOwnGood · 07/01/2019 16:56

Sorry the bit about DH appt was for you Cag

MogTheSleepyCat · 07/01/2019 17:34

Evening all,

Hills - I love your DS's outright opinion!
Eustacia - having a cleaner is definitely not cheating. If I could find a reliable and trustworthy one, I would definitely go down that route.

It was first day back at school today for DS and whilst I was expecting it, his meltdown was just exhausting. Having had over two weeks to chill and play with very few adult demands, this morning was a rude awakening for him.
We are waiting for an appointment for him to be assessed for ASD. The waiting list on the NHS is 18 months minimum, which we are not prepared to wait that long for. So we are going to pay for the identical private assessment and then live on beans on toast for several months afterwards as it is so £££

Ta Da
DS cajoled into school uniform and fed
School run
Work at home for a bit whilst WM repaired
Into work afterwards
School run
Hoovered downstairs
Dusted shutters, light fitting, TV and fireplace in lounge
Fed cats and DS
Escaped into a reading book whilst DS sat in a stupor in the sofa (he had a good day at school though, so very happy for him)

HillsBesideTheSea · 07/01/2019 18:34

Mog Before you pay double check that the school/eich thingy that replaced statementing will accept the private assessment. Ds' school won't and they are under no legal obligation to. Each school and LEA are a little bit different too is my understanding of the system.

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MercuryRising · 07/01/2019 21:40

So we survived the first day back to normal with no real stress. Dd went upstairs and fell asleep at 7. I think being back at school was a shock to her system. I have just been loling at the man flu thread (well worth a read) but should probably get some sleep incase ds3 has a restless night. Big wing flaps to all of you lovely fledglings.

EustaciaVye · 07/01/2019 21:58

Thank you all for the kind words Grin
Sadly she isn't particularly good or reliable but she does mean I don't have to Hoover or scrub toilets. I need to replace her but I'm so busy with work I can't face it....

I am due to have an operation in a few months and am dealing with anxiety in one of my kids. It is exhausting.

MeetOnTheledge · 07/01/2019 23:22

Mog sympathy re ASD assessment, my DS was diagnosed on the NHS about 8 years ago, it took about a year and it seems wait times are much worse now. I have subsequently obtained a statement, then converted it to an EHCP, will be going through it all again for his 6th form needs this year. Hills is right in saying some schools and local authorities are sniffy about private diagnoses, it is well worth asking around on local SN FB groups etc to find out the score in your area. Glad he had a good first day back.

Sympathy too for you Eustacia, anxiety is very hard to deal with. I have to work hard at heading it off with DS, the potential is very real for him.

Well, first day back for DD tomorrow, I think she's ready

EustaciaVye · 07/01/2019 23:33

Thanks meet. School have been great, and psychologist is helping but yes it is unbearably tough at times. I won't start on about nhs provision for mental health...

I don't sleep well these days. I should use the time to be productive and tidy up. Instead, I just think about the mess Hmm

Cagliostro · 08/01/2019 00:00

Took a loooong time for the Caglets too. They were both diagnosed in 2017. We will be paying for private ed psych though for dyslexia etc assessment as no chance of that bit on NHS.

Had a very weird panicky day. Took Caglets to the SN friendly circus. Ate too much junk food.

Just did the shopping order and now chilling watching anime with DH.

Bowerbird5 · 08/01/2019 00:42

Hi
Thanks. I slept fairly well then woke at 7 thinking I would maybe go in but then started coughing a lot and had heart racing again. Was wheezy when I got up for toilet so decided a couple of days might be better than going in unwell. I think I did the right thing as after ringing in I slept until. 11. I very, very rarely do that and usually only when unwell. Even DD thought I had gone to work. So I did get a few things done slowly. Cleaned all the fireplace and fire. Not great for asthma but no one else to do it. Got a barrow of logs in later when feeling better and a bucket of Welsh eggs. Took of the Advent calendar and saw someone from the village who was on for a bit of a chat so invited him in. DD had made soup earlier for lunch. He stayed quite a long time. He lives on his own and enjoys company sometimes. He is a very interesting man. We like him. DH is going to look at music collection sometime as he is quite a collector. I sorted and packed a few more decorations. DD s boyfriend came over and had supper and put the decks in the loft for me. 🙂such a sweetie. Talked about his mum for a bit.
Washed up. Wiped down kitchen and did a bit of a sort and tidy tonight. Hope to get a bit more done tomorrow. Felt a bit better although it is just under the surface as I bubbled telling S about why I was off but more about finding it hard regarding the two sick friends. He lost a parent with cancer and stopped work to nurse them so is very understanding. Vacuum cleaner has stopped picking up. Tried everything except clean filter so DH has told me how to do that. Talked about a stick cleaner. DDs friend / old housemate works for dyson.i think he was on design team for the new 10. If she was still living with him I would ask him to take it in for me. If she remembered to ask him I might get a discount.

Toostressy. Glad you found books. We lose a lot every year and people don’t bother so well done for persevering.
Cags good news about new app.
Waves to everyone else. Hope you have a good day today.

MeetOnTheledge · 08/01/2019 06:48

Sounds as though you made the right call about time off Bower.

I woke up at about 4.30 with a lurch of nerves and haven't been able to get back to sleep, going to be very tired today. I seem to have a constant swirl of worry in my head, either about things that aren't strictly my problem (things that have happened to my friends), things that aren't really a problem but feel like it (endless list of admin type jobs), things that might happen in the future to us or the DCs, it is very wearing. I keep thinking "if I just get X checked off the list I will have one less thing to worry about and feel better" but it doesn't seem to work, some other worry just fills the space.

Stilllivinginazoo · 08/01/2019 07:19

Totally hear that meet one off list another worry jumps on...
Fitfull night as had wake up at 630 to get up for work and dd2 ask 6am wake up to "do hair and make up for first day back"

Tada
Wash on
Fed cats
Bleach lav
Sweep kitchen floor
Pack ups(incl do)
Breakfasts
Wash in drier,more in
The wake D's and see can get him up and off to school.had difficult day yesterday.went two hours,but was stressed and did nothing...

HillsBesideTheSea · 08/01/2019 07:24

My christmas cactus has just chucked half its branches onto the floor Sad

Busy day today. Full day of work plus exams plus sorting out DofE plus chores plus... plus.. plus... weird nights worth of sleep with all that is going to make for one tired girl by the end of the day.

For those of you with energy, motivation (or just faking it)

Linkies: launch pad
all the things

Good luck folks!

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EustaciaVye · 08/01/2019 07:38

Be careful with asthma bower. I'm sure you know it can take hold quickly. :/

meet know about the worrying. Been there. Hope you get some respite.

Laundry still in the machine from yesterday, last night's dinner crockery still on the side and I am rushing for work and school. Oh well...
Cup of tea, face on. Then GO

EustaciaVye · 08/01/2019 07:40

Daughter does have lovely wavy hair as I did French plant last night though :)

Slightlycoddled · 08/01/2019 07:48

Good luck with everything Hills

That sounds really tough going Meet Flowers

And Flowers for everyone whose dc are experiencing anxiety.

Bower sorry about wheezing. Hope you feel a bit better soon. I would thoroughly recommend a cordless vac. I only bought a cheapo to try it out, but even that has transformed my life!

Foxes great your ds enjoyed first day at nursery! Smile

Yay Toostressy to finding books and decluttering to charity!

Wing flaps to everyone else!

Not much Flying to report as had to unexpectedly work all day yesterday to cover someone who was off. Kept nipping back home to check on furries. (First time "puppy" has been without continuous human supervision - apart from one evening when we all went out - since she arrived.) But they all seemed fine. Either curled up in a ball together snoozing sweetly on sofa, or engaged in a form of friendly Greco-Roman wrestling! Grin. Last time I came back DD had joined them snoozing on sofa too, having had a good but tiring first day back at school.

Now have list of chores long as my arm to get through today and very little enthusiasm but will start with 15 min timer technique. Usually does the trick!

Have a good one everybody!

Slightlycoddled · 08/01/2019 07:53

Wavy hair is a definite win Eustacia Grin.

MercuryRising · 08/01/2019 08:30

Hope you start to feel better soon Bower

Grrr I have come to rant on here instead of at dd who is a nightmare in the mornings. She is only 10 but is like a stroppy teen. She is currently stomping round the house because her brother ate the last banana and apparently the grapes are disgusting. Every morning it is something.

Ta da
Beds made
Drying up done
Everyone fed
Washed up
Living room tidied
Washload in

To do
Swish and swipe
Declutter junk drawer
Wipe cupboard fronts
Pop to the shop
Playgroup
Count to 10 repeatedly until dd leaves for school

Slightlycoddled · 08/01/2019 11:18

Mercury sympathies, if it is any consolation, dd went through a phase like that which was extremely wearing but she grew out of it summer she turned 14yrs - all of a sudden like someone had turned off a switch - she still has her moments but is open to reason now at least!

Slightlycoddled · 08/01/2019 11:24

Everything/everyone a bit forlorn today. House looks bare and forlorn now tree is on pavement and decs are down and you can see the old paintwork and crumbling plaster again. DH is exasperated because various members of staff are being deliberately difficult [sigh]. DD sent a forlorn message from school at break time saying her re-sit went terribly. Me a bit forlorn because I miss dhorse, loathe being back in town, and I have back ache. Furries are a bit forlorn because they are picking up on all of our forlorness Grin (They have three walks a day but I need to find them some more interesting things to do while at home.)

Honestly, we all need a right shake and a rocket up the bum don't we?
Grin Need to crack on and count our blessings!

foxessocks · 08/01/2019 13:27

sc January blues are a real thing! Don't be hard on yourselves you can count your blessings and have a good old moan at the same time! (Not saying you're moaning but you know what I mean...dig dig dig...)

Ta da
School run
Toddler group
Collected parcel from neighbour
Made ds lunch and put him down for nap
Put new side table in place in living room and got rid of all the packaging (that they were supposed to take away Angry)
Opened another parcel of clothes I ordered and have vowed no more clothes this year!! Every year I say I won't buy anything in the sales...
Emptied dishwasher
Made scrambled eggs for my lunch

House is a mess as ds just stampedes through rooms flinging stuff about. I think I have to admit defeat 🤷 also as dh said, the new table is lovely but all it has done is highlighted our horrible sofa moreHmm

I'm also counting my blessings though sc promise!Grin

foxessocks · 08/01/2019 13:31

What would you all put on this?! The thing on top is a lamp btw which does look lovely when on! But I don't know whether to get baskets for the shelves or something else? Books?
Excuse the very old top gear mug...

Flying Resolutions for the Fledglings
foxessocks · 08/01/2019 13:31

Obviously it's missing a handle on the drawer at the moment...

Slightlycoddled · 08/01/2019 14:11

Maybe a small plant in a pot Foxes? But minimal is best I think as nice to have space to put down mug/book when you need to without having to move stuff!

Oh I'm definitely moaning Grin but thanks Smile mainly miss the friendliness of everyone in the countryside and being able to take the dogs out without getting in car. Feeling a bit cheerier now though because I noticed that our one on-line supermarket provider that delivers, was having a 10% off promotion today. So have meal planned and shopped with a discount.

Back to sorting laundry in to piles now. The excitement might just see me off Confused.

Slightlycoddled · 08/01/2019 14:18

This thread is quite funny btw. Good to know we fledglings are not alone wrt clothes clutter!

Bowerbird5 · 08/01/2019 14:20

I wish mine looked that tidy.

I have a teasmade thing, a tray for tablets, a pen. I have a cupboard underneath with magazines in and note paper.Drawer is full of book marks and tablets and inhalers. I would have books but if you can find baskets to fit they might look good and then it doesn't matter what is in them.

Thanks Eustacia, Meet, SC, Mercury, wheezing less today.Taking two extra puffs of new inhaler which seems to be helping. Feeling very tired
so haven't done an awful lot. I have taken Advent stuff down and wiped window panes. Cleaned filter of vacuum and have that drying on top of Everhot. Another use. Have sweet potato fries in just now. Really need to buy some more food but can't be bothered to drive to town or anywhere.
will vacuum if filter washing works otherwise will have to buy new stick vacuum and send dyson to get overhaul. cat looking for DD and yowling.