Stepping forward in October: the new look fledgling Fly thread.

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OK so maybe not new and improved exactly... but a more slimline, concentrated version!

Huge thanks to Hills for guiding us so slickly through September !

Many of us have been here forever; the thread where we (loosely) follow the Flylady housekeeping system here to combat CHAOS (can't have anyone over syndrome) with a load of chat and mutual support along the way. For that reason, we may seem cliquey, but we really aren't and all newcomers, lurkers, returnees and (intermittent) regulars are hugely welcome!

We are not posting links to the Flylady site on a daily basis anymore, just the daily baby step and flight plan, and the missions and zones on a weekly basis, but don't hesitate to ask questions about the system if you have any!

More information available here and from the launch pad here.

And borrowing heavily from Hills September introduction ... .

There are 4 levels for Flying:
-Baby steps - good for finding a routine in the tasks and getting over the perfection crippling effect
-Baby steps and missions - yep basic routine and more in depth tasks

• Baby steps, missions, and deep cleaning (if you are at that stage) - can't clean clutter so don't consider this one if you need the next level
• Flying combined with a decluttering system (kondo/unfuck etc etc) lets be honest fly lady is good for routine but not so quick with the decluttering results sometimes.

There is NO wrong or right way of doing this, it is about adapting the system to suit your life circumstances, which will be different from someone else's.

And when it all gets too much: come and take a seat by the fire in our specially adapted "naughty" corner where you can enjoy virtual and and tangible support from fellow fledglings.

Meant to say earlier Zoo bulb planting sounds amazing! Hope the DC enjoyed it! I'm really cross with myself because it's something I've meaning to do in the country and haven't got done.

Ta da
Washing on
Dishwasher on
Made shopping list for tomorrow (went to the shop today but I still forgot stuff )
Paid bill
General tidy up
Rubbish out

Cag I second what sc said - it's been quite a year for you!

I am feeling a lot better today and also, more noticeably, calm... so I can only conclude my hormones have a lot to answer for at the moment. Let's hope new exercise regime makes it a better month pms wise! I think I'll start tomorrow now I'm pretty much recovered from my cold.

cag agree with SC and foxes,big year for you.youve done SO MUCH!!!!!sending hugs
Foxes glad you are feeling better
SC impolite people get my🐐

Well the bulb planting went ok,D's stressed a bit.made DP come and for an hour he fork turf out way I dug and planted,D's step turf back in place.each hole had 5-6 daffodils and we planted over 4 buckets full!!the girls helped the rev and they didn't plant a quarter what we did as DP and I both work FAST!!
End of an hour DP tired and D's had enough

zoo that sounds like a very productive day bulb planting and glad you enjoyed it. Sorry it ended with the resentment feelings I can understand that. Hope you have a better night tonight as well.

Well...I decided to just go for it and just did my first run for couch to 5k! Feeling quite chuffed actually. Although I don't really have any "gear" and it has flagged up that a headband would be useful to keep my ears warm! I was a bit self conscious but think that will get better. Added bonus is dh got hungry while I was out and has started dinner so I don't have to do anything now!

I'm back! went on holiday for a week (UK, spent the time doing fun days out with the DDs before I get too pregnant to feel like doing much!) and have now launched myself into some kind of mental nesting phase combined with Marie Kondo style de-cluttering.

Today the DDs and I have bagged up two giant (80 litre) black bin bags and seventeen (17!) bag for life style bags of stuff to charity shop. Poor DP offered to take it, but he hasn't seen quite how much there is yet!

Also had some lovely news that one of my close friends is due her fourth baby a month before me! They are only telling people now as her DP needed a bit of time to get used to the idea, but I'm delighted!

DP is poorly again, so I've booked him a GP appointment to get more bloods done...I feel so bad for him when he is like this, and I also feel bad for being a little bit annoyed at his low energy!

Wing flaps to all, I'll catch up properly on the thread tomorrow!

Aw thanks guys. I’m sort of frustrated with myself though as I think maybe I’d have found this year easier by looking after myself better but I just struggle with that.

Yay steg glad to see you! Slightly disappointed as I thought you’d gone away to have the baby 😜😂 but perhaps I was wrongly assuming how far along you were. Really glad you had a nice trip away though! And fantastic decluttering!

I’ve had an ok afternoon really

cag from my own experience, sometimes you look back and realise you weren't taking good care of yourself when at the time you're just on autopilot so the important thing is you've realised it now so decide what you need to do to take better care of yourself starting now don't be frustrated with yourself because that's not taking care of yourself for a start!

So happy to hear you are feeling a bit better all round Foxes and whey hey with the exercising; well done for getting stuck in tonight!

Nowt like a bit of gardening to lift the spirits Zoo! (Although sorry to hear your dp couldn't maintain his helpful phase.). . Oh and ta v much for goat!

Lovely to have you back Steg! Holiday sounds lovely and 🙌
🙌🙌 WOW @ 19 bags for chazza! . Lovely news about your friend & hope your dp's appt goes well tomorrow.

Well after walking the furry earlier I am sitting here on a dark rainy night with a solitary fishcake [life on the edge as ever]. An hour or so before I have to fetch dd but at least I have full control of remote! . Can't say I am looking forward to 2nd w/e in a row with DH away but at least it's half term next week and he'll be back on Mon hopefully. Must resist temptation to present him with list of things I couldn't do on his return (mainly involving his signature and tall ladders) as he'll need to rest. At same time rather frustrating not to be able to crack on with time critical stuff (architects plans in particular) as there are so few days when he is not working! Aargh! Think he may need to be persuaded to delegate a bit more some hope.

Hope everyone has a good evening and a lovely weekend!

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Aye Cag what Foxes said, and also, I can't imagine many mums who have a one year old, have moved house, are battling health issues and are home educating their two other DC have time to look after themselves frankly! There are a finite number of hours in the day and something has to give! But prioritising yourself at certain regular times should help with the rest I imagine and is important but don't feel bad though! X

Thanks lovelies. It all feels a bit too complicated to unpick ATM as life is so chaotic 😖 more conversations to be had I think. Doesn’t help DH hasn’t been well either so we are both completely wiped.1

Anyway I started today by starting a food diary (again) this time I am also monitoring how much water I’m drinking. Need to get out of the house more as well but didn’t today.

Plans for Halloween have been sorted anyway so DD is happy and the whole issue with the other people is moot.

What do I know Cag (everything so much easier with an only) but once your DH shifts are established, and Cagletini a bit older, would a timetable help on gridded paper? Five or six days a week. Half hour increments. Pencil in regular getting up time and bedtime and every 30 mins in between. Hatch out fixed slots ie dance classes, tkd and other classes plus travelling time. Then lesson time. Then meal times. Then identify what is left over. Then allocate self care slot once a week maybe (and daily food diary time?)? And maybe exercise time for you? Regular cleaning and shopping time. But maybe that is all too rigid and school-like and what you were trying to avoid in first place?!! I only suggest it because that is what really helped me when I was first SAHM and I was all over the place and it helped me make more efficient use of time too by identifying free weekly slots. As I say though, I think lack of time/hours is more the issue in your case though!

Should have said it's good to pencil in down time in timetable too!

And even if you don't stick to it rigidly, it helps by giving a rough shape/form to days ifysim and you can add in weekly, fortnight ly, monthly tasks etc. Sorry I'll stop rambling now

Not rambling sc it’s really useful :) we are (well I am) thinking of this sort of thing. Hoping to start with the routines thought up so far after half term (although with a tooth out on Monday and Halloween shenanigans Tuesday and Wednesday I’m not expecting miracles) and again gradually building up what we are doing, in the same way we’ve built up home ed stuff (which in itself is a work in progress)

Evening all, I have been lurking and trying to keep up with the thread for the last couple of weeks. It's been half term this week which has meant a nice break from all the evenings rushing around ferrying DCs to sports, Scouts etc. We're away for a few days, but had quite a blitz on the house before leaving so it should just be a laundry mountain to catch up with when we get back.

Cag - a belated Happy Birthday to your adorable Cagletini. I am in huge admiration of you for carrying on home educating whilst dealing with a newborn, a housemove and a DH who works awkward hours, not to mention dealing with your own health conditions .

Foxes well done on the run! I did C25k a few years ago, I got up to the full half hour but not managing 5k in that time. After a long break I started running again this year, not C25k this time, just slow jogging and it feels great. I really need to lose weight though, I have just started a food diary too.

You have managed to get back to running? Yay. I know that you were disheartened when you had to stop

It is half term, ds has gone to stay with his father, people drive on the hills like fucking idiots in the dark!!!! Blooming gritters are out, I was doing the speed limit and yet the number of fucking ass holes who over took me despite the double white lines in the centre never ceases to amaze me. Honestly surprised that the sheep and cattle don't end up with more field ornaments!

Flying - fuck all
exercise -fuck all
diet - erm
mood - pms rages combined with fucking cunting bastarding arsing technology rages. I am currently dreaming of a house with no electrical supply other than generator, no central heating and nothing that beeps, requires internet or stroking in just the right fucking way to get it to perform its one sodding function. washing machines are supposed to wash clothe- particularly when you press the start button (note button not touch screen thingy, it doesn't need a touch screen thingy) Oh and I killed another kettle today. Is that 6 or 7 for the year now?

Please don't send chocolate not supposed to eat chocolate, or cake, or anything nice. The bramble vinegar is medicine that doesn't count.

I have a hot water bottle, extra fluffy blankets and hoping that sleep is in less going tos and waking ups than last night probably a bit part of my grumpiness tbh, although not the washing machine hatred part that is just normal now

Note to self: don't post when tried and had a bad technology day.
Clearly I have lots of strong feelings about technology and unsafe drivers. sorry!

Aww thanks Hills. I thought long and hard about going back to running as it's not really recommended for people like me (with prolapses) but I have spent a few years working hard at core and pelvic floor strength with yoga and pilates, am running as gently as I can manage and feel that overall the benefits outweigh the risks. I feel your technology pain, fucking Nest thermostat is the bane of my life .

Maybe we need a technology hater anonymous thread... I fear I would take over the thread though. It has been an exceptionally bad day for me and technology/electricals. Blue sparks and everything kinda day (and no there were no sparks from the kettle, on off button just died on it)

Hey Ledge good to "see" you! Hope you are enjoying your break! All that core work + pilates + running etc sounds v impressive indeed! .

Hills sympathies re: exploding kettles. We go through at least two a year on average! I blame it on a combo of hard water and in-built obsolescence! Nothing is built to last anymore sadly. Sleep well and enjoy your child-free time!

Cag small steps and all of that!

Well coach was late but dd had good (but exhausting) day spent largely in a monastery and - this being the continent - she and her classmates were allowed to imbibe (very modest) quantities of beer! Wonder what Ofsted would make of that? . Shattered now but can't sleep! Think a live-in may be in order in the morning! G'night all!

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Morning all!
Nice to see you ledge great start on running foxes and yup technology hills fuck it all. I had muchos swearing at the printer the other day as it was convinced it had a jam when it didn’t. Thankfully that’s now sorted, DH printed this (which he’d taken at the nature centre) in full A4 colour to test it, good thing we have instant ink 🙄😂

Anyway I didn’t get a lie in but I don’t mind so much because Cagletini slept a solid 10 hours 😱😱😱 I really thought she’d wake as in the past she’s fallen asleep as late as 7pm and then it’s turned into a nap rather than proper sleep. So that’s really brought it home that I need to make the effort to get her to bed properly. We had so much more time to ourselves in the evening (including proper talk with DH) and the Caglets got to bed a bit earlier too. TBH I think life will look a whole lot better if we can crack the sleeping.

Anyway didn’t post a list last night so ta da
✅three washes done - one was a rewash though 😳
✅got up on time for DD’s friend to arrive (they also went to the cinema alone for the first time)
✅cooked a massive slow cooker batch of chilli
✅sent DD and friend to shop for a few bits
✅had friend round for catch up as I couldn’t get out to meet her for coffee (DH had to go get DD’s meds so I was stuck home) and arranged Halloween plans with her and her DCs
✅made a nice dinner
✅bathed baby and put her to bed
✅read to Caglets
✅had proper talk with DH
✅divided up chilli and put in fridge
✅kept food and water diary (and made better decisions especially considering the abundance of party food in the house)

Not a bad day at all really. Plans have changed for today, mum is visiting and was going to just come here, but I found out that the lovely indie game shop (that we went to the other week when it was closing) is having one last hurrah with 50% off 😱 so mum is meeting us there instead, she can still get to that town direct and she likes it too as it’s a lovely town to wander in.

cag sleep is often the key to a lot of other stuff I find!

This morning is not going to plan so far. I woke up with a headache and ds has had one tantrum after another. So far we've had he didn't want milk in his porridge, he wanted dd bowl which she kindly gave to him but then he had the wrong spoon, he wanted all the felt tip pens, he didn't want to take his onesie off to do his nappy even though I was putting it straight back on after, and he wanted to bang the door repeatedly and I wouldn't let him

I'm totally exhausted and it's not even 9am. We still need to go to the supermarket as I need to return the lightbulbs I bought the other day which are the wrong ones. Humph.

Me and dd are taking the ignoring him approach now and we've turned the TV on so we don't have to listen to much to his constant whining! I know he's probably just tired and not feeling well but arrggggghhhhh

foxes wow whatsoever the day.it can only get better,right?

Cag that meerkat lazing reminds me a bit to much of myself

Hills I repel all tech.cant turn on computer,set timer on hearing,control wayward phone with tourettes....
I have the power to kill toasters

Steg glad you are back!
SC hope got lay in. I tackled ironing in the end before I attack another round of washing
I'm still laying unmoved on sofa.this is not good as a) no one else is up meaning back to school sleep patterns are gone
b) if I'm not doingy morning bird thang I'm depressed.bugger it

Today's plan
Get walk in very soon as ment rain as well be cold midmorning
Do something with the mess
Try and fit in some me time