Morning.
Tomorrow is December 1st which means roll call for the fledglings and shiny new thread. It might seem a bit clicky but it is because it is a long term thread, park your arse in the naughty corner for moral support, natter and various delicious goodies. Oh and smidge of housework too.
We follow the flylady system HOWEVER we adapt it to suit the circumstances of our lifes and sometimes we ignore the slightly more fluffy/bonkers babysteps --because we can and there ain't no one the boss of us
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HillsBesideTheSea · 30/11/2017 11:55
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Sludgecolours ·
04/12/2017 17:53
Catching up with thread from w/e:
at orthodontist bill Longtime but appreciate the info; at least being forewarned I won't drop on floor in dead faint during apot (although that sum is a bit gulp-inducing)
Glad you had a lovely time at fair in the end Bowerbird
Sorry you had such a disappointing time CallmeCordelia damson gin sounds like an excellent solution!
Argh; can't scroll any more on this device (have run DH to late doc app)
HillsBesideTheSea ·
04/12/2017 17:59
Is it just the lins for today that are not working or are the previous batch also not working?
I am quickly running out of patience. Aspies with meltdowns, aspies with great ideas 
stupid people that don't listen to instructions and the complain their tea is not ready. I need a holiday from people!
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HillsBesideTheSea ·
04/12/2017 18:23
No I should be ok, it is a copy paste error - ie i for got the [ ] brackets to make links 
it should be an easy fix.
I now have an arrangement that I will leave the house in the evening once a week. Ergo will have time away from people. No idea what I will do with said time but I am sure I can find a nice cafe, drink coffee and watch the shoppers doing crazy stuff whilst calming knitting on a sock or some such thing. Or I could go to wales and see the sea. Lots of options no social life but options 
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Cagliostro ·
04/12/2017 22:07
I have retreated to bed with the baby. Lots of random stuff on said bed but I am too spent to care now.
I'm really feeling it today so apologies for upcoming rant. It's like a too many balls childish snigger in the air situation I suppose. I just feel like it's impossible to manage all or even most things to an acceptable level (this really isn't a case of striving for unattainable perfection. My standards are low!) and too many things have to give all the time.
For example food. A lot of the time this is something that gives. So we end up with unhealthy convenience food or takeaways or meals out which costs money. Or I end up buying too much and it gets wasted because I end up not being able to stick to the plan. Or I manage to batch cook but end up crashing having done too much and the kitchen ends up a bomb site.
Everything involves too much compromise. I manage to walk rather than take a taxi but then I'm too tired for whatever else. I manage extra home ed stuff with the caglets and then realise I haven't changed a nappy. I manage to cook but then get behind on laundry. I get a lie in but then fail to brush my hair in days. I tidy up but then the caglets don't get enough sleep as I forget to send them to bed. I make sure I have bus fare and then can't find my keys. I spend time with the caglets and the living room ends up even worse. I organise our schedules but get overwhelmed and stressy with the caglets. The list is endless in all these combinations. I gain in one and lose in another area or three.
I know with flylady the whole thing is that I'm never behind. And I definitely am trying to celebrate my achievements however small. Of course I also know some extra disorganisation, slowness and brain fog is normal after having a baby. But my standards were seriously seriously low beforehand. And now it's even worse I think.
I don't know why I feel like this! I'm not particularly sad about it as I am trying to be kind to myself. I just really want to improve and have no idea how. It's not like any of this stuff can be outsourced (house too messy and cluttered for a cleaner even if we could afford it, etc). DH is always at work. I just have to try and do more without falling apart further.
Afreshturkeyplease ·
04/12/2017 22:30
I know this wasnt fully your point cag but i often dont brush my hair messy bun dont care ...
Do your dc have some basic chores that they can do? I think you have mentioned washing clothes before.
I would focus on the basics for you for now tbh. Everyone fed no one dead.
It amazes me how quickly my house descends into chaos. I am never on top of anything.
Your baby is so tiny and you need to look after yourself. Do you have any family or friends who could help at all?
Honestly if i didnt live in fear of being outed i would show you the state of this hovel!
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HillsBesideTheSea ·
04/12/2017 22:39
OK the launch pad link is defective in the second batch of links but the on its own launch pad link is works. The first set of links are deffective. Apparently not only do i need to remember the brackets but also to put http in 
everything else is the same as the website. I am going to blame computer quirks. sorry for any confusions.
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