Fledglings fly into December to party hard.

[HillsBesideTheSea]

Morning.

Tomorrow is December 1st which means roll call for the fledglings and shiny new thread. It might seem a bit clicky but it is because it is a long term thread, park your arse in the naughty corner for moral support, natter and various delicious goodies. Oh and smidge of housework too.

We follow the flylady system HOWEVER we adapt it to suit the circumstances of our lifes and sometimes we ignore the slightly more fluffy/bonkers babysteps --because we can and there ain't no one the boss of us

That is a bit creepy!!

Ta das
decluttered dd bedroom a bit - got a bag of toys out of there to take to grandmas house (lucky grandma!!! but she did offer!)
decluttered upstairs for 5 minutes and got a bin bag full of stuff (did include the contents of the nappy bin though so not as good as it sounds!)
daily routine although have just realised I didn't put any washing on - woops
swish and swipe bathroom
decluttered bag and purse (too cold to go out to the car...excuses)
written xmas cards for friends we're seeing later
packed children's overnight bags

To do
Put washing on!

The kids have been shipped off to grandma and grandads for the night as we are off out with friends, predictably I have come down with a cold in the last hour so not feeling quite as excited about this as I was earlier. Also having the usual wobble about leaving the children overnight which is silly but it's only the third time for ds and he doesn't always sleep through the night so I do worry a little bit although I know my parents are perfectly capable but I don't think I'll ever not worry! DH has taken them and I'm staying at home to start getting ready (code for start drinking gin ha ha!)

happy Friday everyone!

Oooh knitted dobby! I have bought a dobby statue doorstop for one of my DSDs. I have wanted to for years but my other DSD is scared of it :o but she's moved out now so she has the room to herself.

OOoohhh a knitted mandrake root would be utterly fab Hills [desperately wants one]

Foxes and whey hey to a night on the tiles! Cheers! (Hope you feel better soon though)

Waves to Cag and to everyone else!

Dh has valiantly come to pick up teens and give them a lift home.

I have got a surprising amount done despite people being here all day. Still huge amounts of parcel & present wrapping and card writing to do though but a bit further on now thank heavens.

Have a lovely evening fledglings!

You can knit a mandrake

I got sidetracked to go help my friend and spent morning building a shoe cabinet with worst instructions ever.she cleared her front room and i sat with her chat for a bit
Got in just in time for ds coming home.he made the day but exhausted
Picked up lil zoo

Got into a rare up at corner shop...lady got gobby over wanting crate beer n man behind counter not get it straught away.she was having a right go n we all know hes just hired help that speaks very little english.he has a bit of a nervous laugh too n when she decide have a rant he was laughing at her i stuck my oar in pointing out he can hardly leave shop full people and till n go out back.
shut up n keep out.who asked you
...erm you shouting yer mouth off is full invitation rattle my cage as being both rude and unkind to someone who speaks little english.
i know you and i know where you live- i was a neighbour.
youve never lived next to me(my deginition of neighbour)
i lived back your house you silly bitch i know whereyou live..
i said good for you love now whats yer point?
she stop rant at me then
Dd2 was crying she dont like confrontation.i was seething.i guess you can take the girl off a very rough council estate but cant take that out of her!!
She watched me constantly as i passed her put crate beer in car.only after did i realise she might of thought i was going to lamp her...i hate rudeness like that.gets my goat

Xpost sc
Well done!!

foxes enjoy you night out/off

Crikey Zoo hope you're ok. Glad you gave her what for though

sc i have such a big gob....it only takes control without permission when i feel strongly someone is being treated very unfairly.usually be a rude entitled cretin

Its normally only in that shop i turn into a crazy harridan/fishwife.i despise the way people talk to that man.its a good job i am not tudor borne.i remember dd2 show me a contraption they put on loud opinionated women to shut them up!!

I was going to clean the kitchen but i fell into a thread about a seal toy wanted to replace a lostt one.....

My oven is a wanker

Nuff said

Good for you zoo. I'm normally quiet and polite but I always speak up in that type of situation. Can't stand people who think they are more entitled than others. That man will be smiling for the rest of the day.

Well that's it. School term finished! Knackered. No didn't manage lunch as Yr 5 needed to finish cards and were on a go bloody slow. We had 45 mins after play ( I was on duty.) grabbed a drink of water, no time for tea and spoke briefly withHead they didn't get finished so I said carry on as Yr 1s in for lunch. Another 15 mins still not finished and came back. We had a nice time but slow, slow , slow and then bell went and I was supposed to be in class teaching well not actually teaching because last day. So quickly tidied, then iced cake. We then had cake and gave out cards and new gorgeous pencils and it was time to go. Popped next door and gave them theirs as they lined up to go. Wow! We are finished. I would really like to have shower and putting dressing gown on but I need to have shower and be ready in 1 hour as we are going out. We always go out at Christmas and summer term. Hardly anyone going this year only about 15-20. Three have left. Only one going tonight. Don't know if DD got the position or not😔 doesn't bode well if they haven't rung her by now. She didn't think she had got it. Friend passed her exams today so she has a new career at 52😄 just shows you can do it at any age if determined enough. It will make a difference for her family. Very well paid and her husband might not be fit enough to work soon.

Have a lovely Friday evening.

Oops sorry that was rambling rubbish and much longer than I meant.

Wow, well done zoo! Like Bower I’m normally fairly quiet but also like to stand up to injustice. Bower, that sounds like a hectic day. Sc, visit to vet was just to get pet passport completed. He seems ok. And “courage” for the house renevations. It’ll be worth it in the end! We love HP in this house though I’m not sure about a knitted Dobby! Waves to everyone else!

Tada

Dutch all morning
Small wash on and out
Dishwasher loaded, on and unloaded
Pet carrier basket collected from friend’s
Dh’s medication collected from chemist
Hair appointment
Shop for things to take to the UK (read chocolate!)
Fuel in car
Clothes packed

I had everything ready to leave (apart from the things I can’t pack yet) for the journey tomorrow by 18:30! This has never happened in the history of our trips to the UK. I’m usually putting washing on the radiator the evening before, going to bed late and still sorting stuff in the morning. Much easier when you only have to worry about your own stuff! First trip where I’ve been alone with the dog. Not sure he is going to be happy in the pet carrier but it’s only until Canterbury when he can sit with one of the dcs.

Yeah, bloody well done Zoo, cannot bear it when people are rude to shop-keepers. And if I were PM, I would make it mandatory for every 16 yr old to visit a foreign country and have to speak a new language for a month or so. Ignorant rude people might then develop an understanding of what it is like to be in that position and be a bit more compassionate upon their return [rant over].

Oh dear Afreshstart more

Many congratulations on the end of term Bowerbird5 and I hope you have a lovely evening tonight! Fingers crossed for your dd and the job. Oh and that story about your friend has given me hope but how sad about her dh.

Many congrats on slick efficient packing Longtime hope you and the furry have a very safe journey and a lovely time in Blighty!

Somewhat weary wing flaps to everyone else! G'night all!

my usual 5 hour round trip took over 8hrs tonight. Adverse weather, road works, police incident, and the requirement to negotiate a peace treaty between ds and his dad.

Just going to grab a hot water bottle, a hot drink and will then come back and sort the links.

Oh hills that sounds awful. Hope you slept well.

I'm semi awake and need to get up to clean but my eyelids say otherwise. Had visitor to horrendous tip/ CHAOS why oh why can't anyone come when tidy. I am going to invite her for drink over Christmas just to show it can be tidy.

Plan
Get up
Washing
Bed made, room tidied, dust, mop floor.
Sitting room: candles sorted( too many out as potential power cut twice), dust , vacuum, set fire, clean hearth.
Dining room: find table,vacuum ,dust
Kitchen: find table, worktops cleared and cleaned.
Make cake( this will help with clearing as ingredients on worktop)
Wash floor, sinks.
This will have to be over next couple of days as I have choir this morning and Carol concert tomorrow night. Might have to drift into Monday but I am going to school to sort room for next year. Weird saying that...next year!
Happy flying to everyone hope it goes to plan.

Ds3 was up 2-430 am and then i had couple hours on sofa until dd came and sat on me. Knackered.

Have judgemental relative visiting tomorrow. One i have minimal contact with but tomorrow is the christmas present exchange so has to be done. Feel like death warmed up.

Did finally finish the bastard ovens though

Saturday is family fun day. So try not to kill any family members but remember we won't have a go if it is not so much fun as perhaps you might like.

Babystep 16: here

launch pad of knowledge is here launch pad

Missions are not for weekends unless you really wish to do them now because life is too much to do so during the week christmas missions normal missions

daily focus here

flying kids

Hmm well I may end up killing someone due to sleep deprivation I suppose! Although Cagletini did actually sleep IN her Moses basket for the first time ever! 2.5hrs! I had her in with me after that as I want to move her gradually. The basket was actually ON my bed rather than next to it. Bedroom is a mess as well.

Need to pop to town later for stocking fillers and such. CBA to do anything in the house. Or anything at all really but needs must. I think I will benefit from some fresh air anyway and if baby needs a feed then hot chocolate will be essential of course.

I had great intentions for today
Ended up out in cold in pjs help DP work out ehy doirs on car eont shut jyst before he due to travel to birmingham(eventuslly guessed centrsl locking issues.fiddly that n poof like xmas panto fairy was fixedfor now but i got very cold and grumpy

Made start on tip usually referred to as kitchen(i believe it has worksurfaces somewhere?)

Then friend text me who depressed.shes gone up a notch and unstable so try rally WHO THE FUCK will take some respinsibilty for her as she was discharged from community support monday(pays private now as its only offered her on nhs 6 mnths unless second breakdown then reappeal for more)aaaargh.retreat been too no help saying ring 111 or take her a+e .fine uf i drove or she was engaging properly Aaaaaaarrrrrrrrggggggghhhhhh

Ttfn

Right.i was just getting ready ring 111 when she text me her dad had turned up(hes currently looking after her son and she is ment be having him today)i can stand down knowing he will take over.her family are struggling to support her as shes in toxic relationship(too long to go into)anyhoo i know shes not alone now so i need resume kitchen sos....

And leaves it in case anyone else needs a go>

Oh gosh zoo that sounds awful :(

I haven't left yet as have a baby attached to me again. At least I had a proper lunch I suppose. I am knackered and SO GRUMPY.

I know it's not Wednesday but I antiprocrastinated and replied to a message. Was making me super anxious and guilty which made me put it off longer. I hate my brain. But at least I explained that in the message and being friends hopefully they will get it.

Well done for tackling the message cag its hard to tackle a put it off task((queen of anti procrastination))

Ive started panic tidying realising its ds birthday monday(12) followed by one week to xmas day((sobs))

Filled two binbags with clutter from front room.its only a dent tbh.
Feeling a bit deflated and tired...

This was meant to be a day of high activity here too but we are all a bit tired deflated as well.

Found dd earlier seated at dining room table after late lunch, head in hands, asleep - post exam exhaustion I reckon - have now transferred her to sofa with fleece and hot water bottle. Dh and I are sneezing away with headaches and seem to have this low level virus bug which keeps rearing its ugly head just when you think its gone. I dunno ... anyway, ploughing on ... .

That drive sounds awful Hills you must be cream crackered after it all.

Zoo I am so sorry to hear about your friend sounds like a really tough situation.

Good luck with your list over next few days Bowerbird5! You sound extremely busy as ever.

Don't be too hard on yourself Cag if it's anything like here, it's horrible weather to take a baby out in, especially when sleep-deprived, (good excuse to wrap up warm and rest up a bit I'd say) . Well done re: message!

Whinge alert (pls feel free to ignore)
Right [sigh] I'd better get back to it. I have to say, I know it's my job and everything as dh works approx 11 hr extremely stressful days and I only do a third of those hrs, if that, but I am getting increasingly weary of all the "wife work" involved in Christmas. All the decisions about what to buy Great Aunt x on his side of the family, and all the presents and cards for the office, and all the planning. I love Christmas generally but when you get to my age it feels a bit like ground-hog day.

Dh has just nipped out for 30 mins to "do his Christmas shopping" which means in reality, going to the office and ordering everything on line. Apart from a few errands in the car to collect hams and various bottles of alcohol and helping cook Christmas dinner, that is the only preparation he has to do for Christmas. I don't know whether to be cross or lost in admiration tbh

Sc similar situation here re wife work and christmas

sc xmas is ground hog day
Evety year i swear i will be organized.we will have gifts all sort n wrap by time zoolets break up.house sorted yadder yadder.reality last minute wrapping xmas eve swearing i forget x.y.z n be glad corner shops open on 25 th as i forgot the d cells for the(insert correct toy here)
Dp orders it n rest up to me.sort.wrap n food.we dont live tig n he works long hours that are unpredictable he works in care house with mental health issues.often doing sleep ins(goes bed there at 10 after lunchtime start back in office 730 am and works all that day)
Hes working xmas day night and all boxing day(childless senior female staff"kids arent babies you dont need be there xmas day resisted urge go wring her neck esp as he gets to work new years eve night too as they kniw we dont drink )

Anyhoo whinge away.as kids xmas is magical.as adults is a stressful deadline if creating magic.....

On friend front shes now having an episode and police hunting fir her as shes run off.her fsmily are worried silly.its now very cold here n dark.she reverse charge rang her mum from a pub in town but despite alert police n them blue lighting there she was gone when they arrived....