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[shouldbedoingthehousework]

Good morning

I'm up early, getting ready for work and making the cake I should have made last night Don't feel like going today - have a bad head and a sore throat but will dose up with something in a minute and hope to get through it (can't afford not to this month!)

So, no FLYing for me today, got fairly on top of everything yesterday so hope the house will survive the weekend!

Have a good day everyone

I am right thinking there is no weekend mission aren't I? Shouldn't we all be house blessing or something instead? Hope so...but if not I'm sure someone will do the link later

Ds was feeling a bit better by bedtime last night so I hope that continues
I'm still feeling about tort's news

Saturday is Family Fun Day.

No mission.

Did anyone check yesterdays mission? I tried it just now, and the link didn't work!

No family fun here. DP has gone to work already, I've tried to tell him (again) that things are not good for me at the moment and I really need him to help. He accused me of not caring, and left

I will go and get breakfast sorted and try and pick myself up.

Oh Jelley {{{{hugs}}}} I've been in a similar place these last few weeks After finally getting to sit dh down and talk there is a glimer of light at the end of the tunnel... feel free to email me if you'd like to off-load - shouldbedoinghousework at hotmail . co . uk

Never did get around to looking at the mission yesterday - sorry some days I do, somedays I don't

Jelley {{hugs}} I know that feeling very very well. DH has a very strong superwoman mum and he just assumes all wives are as capable. He puts everything else first cos he knows I'll still be there.

However, I do him a down

Yesterday My legs stopped working, they couldn't support me and I was dragging myself across the yard to get back into the house . I staggerred round the kitchen to find my mobile and made a very pathetic call of 'sorry to do this but I really need help as I can't walk'. He was home in 15 mins sorted DS out etc. He phoned the specialist nurse to stress the urgency of an appointment and this morning he said 'If you've not improved over the weekend I'll ask my manager if I can work from home.'

Bloody hell, what a turn around!

Yesterday AM was so good. DH got up with DS washed,fed and delivered him to school. I had Bridesmaid duties so a touch of pampering before heading off to the outfitters. Got the dress ordered and..I've gone down a whole dress size!

Then

DS home
Played with DS, cleaned out sandtable and refilled with water then added cooked pasta and noodles
Peg washing out
Collect loads of toys liberally distributed over the yard
Tidy porch up
Get washing in (raining
empty table
Bring toys in
Collapse in heap...stand up, stagger round to collect toys off yard.
Summon cavallry.

Confined to bed for the day. DH has taken DS to the dad's group, taken him for a hair cut. MIL having DS this aft while DH goes to watch football.

So no flying for me today!

Still really really happy for Tort great to get fantastic news!

Have a good one ladies...I'm here all day!

shouldbe Thanks for starting the thread. I hope you are feeling better by now.

Jelley You don't say much in your post about why things aren't good so it is difficult for me to say anything useful but I'm thinking of you both and you're welcome to CAT me anytime. If there is anything I can help with, I will.

grouchyoscar That was very scary for you and for your dh, too. I've told my dh that if I was a bloke, I'd want you as my dw as with you organising eveything at home, I'd be free to really concentrate on work things, knowing all the home stuff was running like a watch! I suppose that it can go a bit too much that way, though, as the dh might feel that there is nothing he can do as it is all done and perhaps better than he can manage, so it's good to share tasks and praise on the dh for stuff he does. I asked my dh to do some ironing last w/e as I was snowed under with house stuff. He said that there was no point as I'd just criticise it for being wrong (he has a habit of ironing things and then folding them immediately into a postage stamp so they are more creased afterwards than before! Not that he irons more often than once a year or two.) I apologised for that and asked him to do the sheets, underwear, pjs and he did! I thanked him afterwards, too. So...I do practise what I preach sometimes! I hope that you're feeling much better now. Keep your mobile in your pocket until you know you're 100%.

Sorry for the long post! Dh has gone to town with the shopping list. I keep a standard shopping list on the pc. I can fit two on one piece of A4. I just print it off, cut it down the middle and cross off what we don't need that day and add on anything unusual that we do need i.e. icing sugar, cash out, go to library, post letter, etc. That reminds me, I didn't write organic next to the milk as I always choose organic without thinking. Dh probably won't know unless ds tells him, but it's not the end of the world, so I won't worry! Letting go a bit feels good!

Thanks all.
I'm not saying much as I fear I will turn the entire thread into a big whinge.
I'm beginning to think I have pnd.

DP throws his super mum back at me, too, but that I can take, as I know it is just selective memory. Her momories of four small children don't match his of being one of them iyswim.

go - that sounds really scary

I'm going to go and try and do something now (3rd load of washing is finishing, but nothng else touched yet.)

Thanks Ivor

I do thank him for every little thing he does, which annoys him and he's asked me not too. I didn't realise until this morning just how much I do without thinking. Poor DH was asking where DS's clothes were and what he should wear for the day (ds not DH!). Aaah, poor lamb, lost without me!

It's good not to have to worry for a few days. Legs still a touch fragile so I won't push it for the weekend.

Jelley Is your doctors' surgery open today so that you can make an appointment? If not, can you ring 1st thing on Monday? Try to choose the nicest doctor in the practice, too, as it is a hard subject to talk about. Just going in there and saying (or writing it down and giving it to the doc) "I think I may have pnd" is the first step. If you need any back-up (remotely, unfortunately, as I'm sure I'm miles away from you), then give me a shout.

grouchyoscar My dh was like this with the kids. No colour sense or knowing how to dress for the occasion. I told him off this morning for putting on his scruffy jeans with a mark down one leg. They are probably the ones he wore out on site the other day. Fine for on site, not for shopping in town! He changed them. I think your dh, though worried about you, will enjoy taking the lead with your ds. I remember when I had dd. Dh took paternity leave and went out with ds to the local zoo and stuff. They'd never done it on their own before. Ds was 15mths old. They both enjoyed it and dh managed fine, even if things were a bit rough and ready.

Right. I'm going to be good and get showered and dressed.

Done:-
~ 2 loads of washing on line
~ 1 load in the w/m
~ recycling done
~ d/w loaded
~ admired dd's powerpoint presentation she is doing for homework and helped with grammar and punctuation
~ set dh up for shopping in town
~ stripped our bed

To do:-
~ shower and dress
~ load on the line once finished in the w/m
~ ironing
~ lots of tidying up

Ivor - my doctors is a big practice, and I don't know any of them as I'm very rarely ill. I am going to talk to the hv on Monday though.

Something must be sinking in with dp. He has rung me three times this morning to see if I'm ok

jelley hugs! Everyone hello grouchyoscar hope things get better with rest.

Have been out jogging and walking this morning and a walk which took me 48 minutes has been completed 34 so am very happy.

Am going to do more tidying and hoovering today expecially upstairs.But I will do stuff with the kids first as this is our weekend too and ds goes away on Monday for the week with school. He is petrified and counting down the minutes, becuase of the violence with my X he has slept in my bedroom for 18 months and moved out at half term. He feels this is something he must do though and so I am encouraging him but am sending him with valerian herbal rememdy in case he cant sleep.

Thanks to ALL for your supportive messages

DH/Ps can shock you. You get used to managing things on your own and then they shock you by noticing/listening/helping! Then you end up feeling guilty for doubting them. You're right IVOR he's loving being DAD to DS, ringing me to give updates etc. and about time too.

Jelley, sweetie, if you need a whinge then feel free to mail me at [email protected]. I can't promise to make things better but I can empathise. I'm here all day so I may as well do something useful.

DS has been on dad's mobile to cheer me up.

He was at a piano and was bashing the keys and singing 'Chocolate chocolate, chocolate and biscuits to cheer you up'

Blub! How beautiful!

Jelley - You're lucky to be so rarely ill that you don't know the docs. My friend was telling me about her back pain and I urged her to go to the docs, not just suffer pain daily. If she'd gone to mine, I could have given her a detailed account of how good my docs are for different things. I was told last week that there are no appointments at all in March for my favourite doc and I need to ring at the end of next week to get an April one, but there you go! I'm glad your dp is keeping in touch.

grouchyoscar So glad it is going well.

glitterfairy That sounds sensible. I only give my dcs the dosage they need to go with them to school or wherever, for their safety and for anyone who might think to nick it and take it all for a prank. It has never happened, of course, it is just a precaution.

hi all
i only really get on the FLY threads at the weekends but i feel proud of myself for flying in the week with FT job etc etc ....

Jelley - hope you are doing ok - just had a quick scan of the posts so big (((hugs)))

Hope everyone else is fine this morning - i have:

done 3 loads of washing
cleaned lounge, kitchen
cleaned toilets
put clean laundry away
made home made soup - think may have added a touch too much chilli
sorted DS's meals

Am having a well deserved break now!

ds and dh home, seems DS was adorable today so he's come home with a Lego Bionicle!

They're out again so intense me time now. Still feel wobbly and fragile so bed is the best place tbh

Oh for a no fly day I have

Done
Empty DW
Put away
Clear draining board
Empty TD
Sort for putting away
Sort out dry washing to ironing pile
Pack toy/entertainment basket for ds to take to MIL
Give DS his meds
Make lunch for me (pasta with cream cheese and red pesto...no knives involved!)
Tidy utensils to DW
Eat lunch

Oh and I ordered a compost bin for the garden as I'm sick of chucking veg trimmings to landfil. Only 13.50 inc a kitchen caddy for carting it out. And it's delivered!

Hope your having a good day

Taylormama a good squirt of lemon juice will temper an over chillied soup/stew. if it's too much

thank you grouchy - i ate all my spicey soup but DH didn't - he is a wuss! Will remember that tip tho' -

justivor thanks for that tip. The medicine is a herbal rememdy so wont harm anyoe who drinks the whole bottle and is going to be stored witht he teacher. To be honest it is just the thought that it is there which calms him down.

Evening all.
Busy day in the tort house!
Shed tidied out and front lawn mowed. Hope to do back lawn tomorrow once soggy extention plug has dried out! Shed is not at all water tight.
Swept paths.
played toilet flush (like tag!) with DC.
Played on trampoline.

Hope everyone has had a good saturday.
GO Hope your on the mend,

jelley {{{hugs}}} Hope you are ok, and get time to chat with dp & hopefully your gp next week.
shouldbe I got amazing pain relief for my terrible sore throat this week from the chemist in Morrisons 'Merocaine'. Hope you feel better{{{hugs}}}
grouchy you really are going through a awful time. Which makes your flying even more inmpressive.Take Care, glad your dh & ds had lovely time today.{{{hugs}}} I truely hope things improve for you very soon.

Everybody hello tort thought about your great news again today!

Been out all day with dh & dd to Olympia, London for La Dolce Vita-Italian Stands very nice time had by all. I am completely knackered. Brought in washing, put a load of washing on when we came back & fed neighbours cats.
DH gone to chippy for our tea, then I am off to bed. See you all tomorrow.
Have a good night, sleep tight, don;t let the bed bugs bite.EHM

jelley i havnt been around much today, but iv just read some of this thread and if you want to email me you are welcome, my ds is 18 weeks and i was diagnosed with PND when he was around 6 weeks old. its hard to go to the gp but worth it in the end. FLYing has really helped too (setting routines etc)

but as i say hunny email me on [email protected] if you feel like it. i know how it feels, still have very bad days but there are some good days now too!

hi everyone else, no FLYing for me today i popped to town this morning to get a last minute bday pressie and DH did all my FLYing for me, i just had to sort the washing!!! hes good sometimes! lol

Thankyou all for your kind words and thoughts

I'm now thinking it may just be sleep deprivation and the result of constant back pain. I will make a drs appt on Monday though, as at the moment I definitely need to do something, whatever the cause is.

Dp promised he'd get up today. I've been up since 5.30 He would have got up if I'd nagged, but by then I'm cross and can't go back to sleep any way, so I'll have a nap when he takes the children out later (another promise mad yesterday, but one I won't let him weasle out of!)

No FLYing today, apart from the never ending laundry pile. DS weed on out bed last night, so the covers have been changed after one day.

Little things like that Jelley which are no ones fault can also get really depressing when you are already feeling bad. Hope you get your rest.

OK I am making a list today because some jobs have been waiting weeks and I keep saying I will do them and dont.

Washing
drying
hoovering upstairs and stairs
de clutter dining room 15 minutes

For the rest I am once more on a ballet day and need to pack ds things (he didnt sleep last night but paced the house anxiously!).

hi everyone,

i havent read the whole thread but i know GO and shouldbe arent having much fun so (((hugs)))) to you.

I had DDs birthday party yesterday - went brilliantly. I'll add a picture of the cake to my profile. V proud as only the 3rd cake i ever made!

Just talked DH into a magazine subscription of Good Housekeeping for my birthday how sad am i??

have a good day all

jelley {{{{hugs}}}} again I didn't get back yesterday but have been catching up this morning - I hope you manage to get to the doctors tomorrow - the first step is getting there...I haven't been in the best place for a while now and counselling last year threw up possiblities that I had PND after dd was born but I never did anything about it and so it has continued to affect my over-all mood... This morning I had almost exactly the same situation with my dh - I ended up creeping off downstairs with the kids while he lay in - I know how irritating that kind of thing is - be sure he does take the kids off your hands for a while later, it's important for you to get some rest.

glitter Hope the ballet goes well

We're toying with an Ikea trip today - we must be mad! Ds needs a new bed so we're off to see what they have to offer...going to head off soon in the hope that we'll be able to get there and back quickly

Have a good day everyone