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The Hoarders Anonymous Thread Part Three...Still Sorting It Out ~ Together!

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Solo · 26/03/2017 22:16

Are you are any of the following? Can you be described as a clutterbug? Are you a hoarder, in a mess, untidy, disorganised, lazy with housework that has lead to something that you now feel unable to deal with. If you are ill and not coping with the housework. If you are emotionally attached to items for whatever reason. If you cannot just ask someone in for a cuppa at a moments notice or dread the meter reader asking for access.

Are you nodding whilst reading any of these words? If you have a combination of any or all of these things or something completely different, please join us. No one here will judge you. We have something in common and we have a common goal. We share our ideas and we share our disappointments no matter how big and our celebrations no matter how small. We cheer one another along and drag the drowners from the depths of despair.

Join us; we don't bite :) Welcome to thread number 3.

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Nettleskeins · 18/03/2018 22:15

yes, something happened here, I threw away some more "middling" clothes and a beautiful jacket made of silk which really did not SUIT me, but used to when I was thinner. I sorted out drawers in bedroom, hoovered my bedroom floor, and hung up the remaining clothes which were in a heap.

through this I found a Cold play album which the cat seemed to have peed on, that dh bought several years ago, and I had in a rage bunged in a drawer to clear it away from sitting room, and I've been listening to it in AWE ever since. Something about blood pressure rush of blood to head that's it.. Heaven to lie in tidy bedroom listening to music, don't think I've done that since a student.

And all the hifi has gone now, I using downstairs and a small cd player in bedroom (much easier to dust)

Wiped down worktops in bedrooms.
Cleaned 3 basins and two loos.

kitchen as messy and cluttered as ever and children's bedrooms dreadful. I think ds1 has 8 plastic bottles lying on his floor, but he can pick them up not me!

Shoe cull downstairs still working well, I can actually fit things back in shoe cupboard now adn they are not all over the floor.

Only problem has been that I want to put winter clothes away now and it just gets colder and colder, we were missing a vital blanket yesterday because I mistakenly removed it last week, so cold last night in the loft.

Cag hope you are okay, spring will make things easier if things feel hell atm, it is awful being stuck indoors with all the clutter which comes with cold weather.

Nettleskeins · 18/03/2018 22:19

I had to really force myself to throw clothes away btw. I will list them in a roll of honour. A black skirt from Monsoon that was grey and tatty and looked like a witch's shawl and had a hole in it I was never going to mend. A red jumper dress that I had worn non-stop for two years and was completely baggy and was too short in the arms and tight. and...cannot remember the rest, that's how unimportant they were, once they are gone, you only enjoy the SPACE.

Solo · 19/03/2018 00:02

Nettle you have done so well :)

We are absolutely freezing here at home this weekend due to still not getting the boiler fixed. I'm going to buy an oil filled radiator tomorrow and have it on low on the landing so that the chill is gone. I'm so fed up with all of this crap!

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Nettleskeins · 19/03/2018 19:14

oh what a nightmare Solo had this about 12 years ago when kids were little it took 6 weeks to reinstall boiler. Looking back I should have been mor e ruthless just FINDING someone who could do it in the timeframe I wanted (the plumber got pneumonia and couldn't work for us when he had booked in, and there was already a delay organising it before that) We lit a fire and wore nightcaps practically, the children were very healthy I seem to remember and got no colds or coughs the germs froze to death instead.. It was hell, and heaven when SPRING came and warmed things up.

today I tidied ds's room, easier since I last did it a month ago (deep clean) removed nearly two plastic bags of recycling plastic bottles, hoovered floor, he changes his own sheets and washes his own clothes so that wasn't too bad. Dusted behind bed too.

mopped bathroom floor
removed old shampoo bottles
cleared weekend newspapers

made veggie stew out of old vegs.

Nettleskeins · 19/03/2018 19:16

have you checked outlet pipe isn't frozen, the drip pipe on outside of boiler vent? Often that is simple cause for boilers seizing up in cold weather. You just need a hairdryer. I think you can google it.

Solo · 20/03/2018 00:26

It's an F1 fault = Ignition fault. It's not a combi boiler so, definitely not a frozen pipe. Thanks though :). I was without a boiler around 2 months before Dd was born. She came at Christmas and I had to bring her home to a freezing house and it was a year until I got a new boiler...brrrrr!! That was over 10 years ago. I did buy an oil filled radiator tonight but, it's not really got to work yet. We've got 5 hot water bottles in bed with us. I was so cold last night that I couldn't sleep...on that note; good night. Thanks

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Nettleskeins · 20/03/2018 10:21

electric blankets are good too! and woollen rugs on top

Nettleskeins · 23/03/2018 21:53

not a particularily good day. -ie house is silting up again with unwashed saucepans socks and paperwork
I did manage to go to the dentist and sort out a broken tooth.
Cooked some good food.
Oh yes I did clear out the top freezer drawer yesterday and threw away a lot of out of date food, and defrosted and washed it. And put lamb stew, ratatouille and some bolognese leftovers in for another meal.

I've wiped the worktops
emptied food compost
taken out the rubbish
done the recycling
put dw on
put washing machine on
left some saucepans to soak
and used up some green veg from fridge that was threatening to go off.

Nettleskeins · 24/03/2018 17:15

update on today.

used up more food in the fridge rather than letting dh buy more food of his choice Hmm = saved money and time
long walk with dh to cheer us up!
washing on
dh tidied up ds2's room with him and dropped a model aeroplane Hmm
small bag of rubbish removed from ds2's room
continued to remove dirty plates and glasses from ds1's room in lead up to A levels (I think this an intervention worth doing, despite my reservations on helping him tidy)
emptied food compost
dh did the dishes after lunch

and we did well, we went to a remainder bookshop and didn't buy anything despite being tempted by cheap embroidery and art books. well done us..

Nettleskeins · 24/03/2018 17:17

also removed all empty plastic bottles/shampoo bottles from bathroom
ds2 emptied recycling (that is meant to be his chore, he does it willingly although erratically)

Nettleskeins · 24/03/2018 17:18

dh also managed to pot up a dying camellia with an old pot from behind the shed; existing pot had broken in wind last week.

now to sweep the front garden, I have been saying that for several weeks and it is still at the sides of path covered in dead leaves (they are mulching down nicely I have to say Wink)

drowninginstuff09 · 31/03/2018 18:30

Joining this thread in hope that I will get the house sorted enough so I can pack it up to move to my new one when I finally complete! I feel so down with it, like there's something wrong with me to make me this way. I got rid of 5 bags of stuff I didn't need today through freecycle, but am then sat here trying to work out why I can't just throw my old uniforms! I have 5 out of date hair dyes and I have just retrieved them from the rubbish bag as 'maybe I could still use them'

Nettleskeins · 31/03/2018 21:14

it's guilt drowning you feel like unless you can find someone who wants it, it will be wasted. Just try thinking, my time is being wasted, and my time is worth something, I am worth more than the uniforms or the hair dye, and I need to get rid of these things to have the energy to move house, and make a wonderful new environment which is worthy of me, uncluttered and spacious. Oh and say to yourself I can buy new hair dye if I need it, I deserve it, If I need it again.

I threw away some old magazines today. It was easy. I started cutting out articles I wanted to keep and then I thought...no..and just chucked them..they will be easily forgotten when they have gone, and there will always be more articles, when I have space and time for all these things..which is not now.

No easter themed stuff here this year, just the garden and its contents! feels slightly odd, but a relief not to be trying so hard.

Solo · 01/04/2018 02:35

Happy Easter! 2 wasted days bar the laundry all washed.

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decluttering · 01/04/2018 11:40

I have so much to do I don’t even know where to start.

Nettleskeins · 01/04/2018 15:39

Today the house is pretty bad. A lot of it could be cured with a few hours of slog I suppose, but it seems like a waste of Sunday...In the meantime I will try to take out the recycling (enormous amount after easter eggs) and I have already taken out the rubbish.

Solo washing is the worst thing really, to have done that you are ahead! There is washing all over my bannisters and all over the kitchen chairs and ALL over the bathroom and corridor floors. Will have to steel myself not to start shouting at various people to sort their possessions and actually DO IT MYSELF, probably the best approach. Will tackle it after a dog walk. I say to myself.

Nettleskeins · 01/04/2018 15:41

Happy Easter!!!! isn't it lovely that it is spring and nature declutters herself so effectively..I am looking at the garden and all the tatty leaves have just faded away and new shoots are showing. Human contribution is lots of nasty bits of plastic, which I will remove forthwith, all those pots that never got into the recycling.

Nettleskeins · 01/04/2018 15:43

So my list for today is:
recycling
wash bathroom floor laundry
throw ds1's clothes in his room
compost dead flowers
mop around loo upstairs
put old mops in the car for tomorrow tip run
plastic pots in garden bin

Cagliostro · 02/04/2018 20:24

Hi all, and welcome to new folk!

I fell off the thread, had a couple of weeks where I was just completely failing to do anything other than panic. Pretty much hit meltdown point. I seem to have bounced back a bit though.

Came up with a plan as to how to navigate sorting out everything, we’ve been clearing out bottom of the huge wardrobe (one of those sliding door affairs that takes up a whole wall) and putting the properly packed boxes (ie one of duplo, some of a set of books etc, rather than Boxes of Random Crap) in there to get them out the way. I think this way we can feasibly avoid the need to use my friend’s garage, which I suspect would be fine as I have decent tubs, but the anxiety I’d feel about everything would make it very stressful.

TBH this has involved a little churning, for example I’ve taken things like Polydron out of the perfectly adequate trofast unit in order to store it in a sealed tub. BUT this does feel productive. The rule is, and the Caglets are (slightly reluctantly, but with understanding of the reasons) on board with it, that anything boxed up in the wardrobe is Out Of Bounds. Until we move house. A big deal for them as it will be a few months (don’t exactly know when which is really stressing me out). So basically we are putting all but their most played with stuff away. They also have the incentive that they’re getting Minecraft once everything is sorted (all their toys and clothes, plus they have to help me with craft stuff and home ed supplies). As schools are on easter break, we are taking a home ed break too (apart from trying to get into good habits with some online learning stuff - we get great deals with a home ed group, but TBH I hoard them... bargain prices but pointless if we don’t actually use them!) so no book/paper stuff or projects for a couple of weeks, in order to have more time to tackle the house especially as most of their clubs don’t run out of term time.

We have moved our pyjamas socks and underwear into a couple of emptied trofast drawers which meant we could get rid of the hanging fabric organiser things, which were really pointless TBH as things kept falling out of them onto the floor. I don’t know why we kept them for so long.

Massive catch up on laundry done by DH between shifts as the rest of us were at mum’s. Loads of stuff that had been crumpled on the floor of the wardrobe included! Managed to choose some stuff to get rid of too, in fact we filled 3 shopping bags of bedding and clothes for charity and chucked a few bits.

Huge thing, we got rid of all the Happyland. 😱😱😱😱😱
Has anyone seen the rubber duck videos on FB? They cut one open and it’s gross. I have known this for a while and in fact the other week DD had to get rid of a doll that she had used in the bath and water had stuck inside the head and you could see mould spots. Happyland figures have holes like ducks and I was paranoid as it was, about not being about to get it clean. I washed it all, and was thinking of Milton etc, but even then you can’t actually drain it out properly. And I realised that no matter what I’d never actually feel like it was properly clean, enough to give to DD2 in a year or so. Anyway the Caglets agreed it could go, I’ve promised that they can choose her some new sets when she’s old enough (which will never go near a bath and will be properly stored). Today we chucked all the figures and animals, and I’ve cleaned up the big rocket and vehicles (no insidey bits to get secretly gross) and given them to my friend, a reception teacher with no toy budget, so everyone’s a winner! Such a huge amount I must have spent on all that over the years, but in terms of play value it’s been worth it a million times.

We’ve also agreed to donate a den building kit (fine, but frustrating) and I’m pondering the play food.

I’ve waffled enough! And my curry is nearly here :o

Nettleskeins · 02/04/2018 21:24

I think that is briliant you got rid of the Happy Land, and personally I would get pass on the play food too (looking back the Play Food was a nightmare, so many bits to sort always and they were not that interested in it for long, it would have been better to teach them to cook frankly! in the time I spent clearing it, I could have given them a real carrot or made cupcakes, or cornish pasties, or jam tarts)

I've given away in my time..Brio, duplo, lego plane set, American Dolls, 4 sindy's and assorted clothes, and although I loved it all when I had it, I do not regret finding someone else who could enjoy it for th e next 10 years, when my children had definitely moved on.. And what fun it will when baby gets special stuff just for her in years to come.

I've kept up with the recycling. Trying to read some books I have already rather than buy more, dh has lots of thrillers for me to get through.

Solo · 12/04/2018 06:23

Thought I'd post to keep the thread in my TIO :) How's it all going? I can't sleep and fleetingly thought of going downstairs to do stuff...It was most fleeting though :)

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Nettleskeins · 12/04/2018 22:10

today's been good in one sense. I did some serious cooking for a dinner and friends came over; I used an old cookbook and followed all the instructions to the letter. Bad in another sense, I am making more mess in my creative efforts. The utiliity is stacked high with clutter and I am not really facing up to it. Not helped by ds2 working in adjoinging space and wants not to be interrupted. However, possibly a good excuse for me Wink

Nettleskeins · 12/04/2018 22:12

I did notice though as I cooked how everything could have been in better places, and the ingredients were very haphazardly arranged, and it was NOT a very efficient working kitchen, although cosy and welcoming. I need to make it a machine for living! Also I had no mixing bowls and no sieves and far too many baking tins.

mickeymacca · 12/04/2018 22:39

Can I crash your thread? I've had some success with getting rid of clothes using kon Marie method but I still have loads... I'm so attached to things that I don't really like just keep thinking oh that will be handy or when I'm slimmer I'll wear this. Please inspire me to really get rid of loads of the stuff I don't wear. I know I'll feel better with the space. Help!!!

Cagliostro · 12/04/2018 23:41

Welcome mickey :) I am not the best to advise on clothes TBH as I just throw on any old thing and am quite happy with a few well worn jeans and tops 😳 so they aren’t a hoarding issue for me. But I do think keeping clothes to slim into is something you could do without really. You may change shape from before, and you may want to treat yourself to new stuff! And anyway, if you don’t really like it, you deserve better than to wear it.

We’ve had no progress here since my previous post, until today. I’d been seriously flagging but I got a hold of myself and wrote a list for myself and the Caglets. Lots of silly little tasks to busy them with really (put shoes away, find empty water bottles etc) but also some organising, we sorted things like the nappy box (OMG, so many packets of wipes around the house!) and I’ve packed up another two boxes of board games! Also finally started sorting through the baby clothes. It’s weird, I found it so easy with the first lot (newborn/0-3m) but with the next size I have just procrastinated over it.

DH is off tomorrow, so we want and hope to get stuff done (that’s why I decided to get ahead today on the stuff the Caglets and I could do ourselves, and leave the trickier stuff to do with him). The plan originally was to be ready to get the cotbed delivered on Saturday but we haven’t even ordered it yet, we still need to measure and make sure it’ll fit! She’s busting out of her Moses basket now.

I am stressing out about what’s left to do, there just seems to be random crap everywhere that I’ve no idea what to do with.

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