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[BarefootJasnem]

A new thread for a new week...

Maybe i will do a thread later.Just have visions of mners saying its my own fault!

Poor tortoise; I think RR is right - if a restraining order is an option it would demonstrate commitment to safety.

and I have changed my named back to publicise the fact that I WEAR SHOES!!!!!

I didn't protect ds1 when i should of.I would now and have learnt from one huge mistake.I know xp2 was emotionally abusive to me and was controlling.
I can't see how ds's will cope if they get told they are not coming home.

tortoise Big {{{{{ tortoise }}}}}

I think your idea would be great for a daily thread

I cant go be e-mails. the get here in the night and not when they are spose too. Bed time 1 for last night was 6:05am today

DS1 is still asleep. GP said hes sleeping what ever he has off. He not got a temperature. So the GP said to leave him asleep. I get going to him every 5 to 10 mins. I dont know if I should wake him?

Why don't we try a daily thread next week?

Tortoise - sorry to butt in because i dont know the situ at all, but call your solicitor NOW. If you leave it until 4pm they'll be on their way home as it is Friday and then you'll be stweing all weekend. Better to know facts. At the time you are chasing about progress, ask about a restraining order against XP2. Does he still have access to keys etc to your home? If so get the locks changed and make sure it is put on your file. Sometimes the courts can be rubbish but they do also want to meet the wishes of the child/ren where possible. As i said, i dont know history but if I/we can be of any help then please let us know.

On a FLYing not, I just watched Neighbours in my bedroom (yes, I'm sad and have a TV in there) but it meant I could clear my dressing table. Hurrah - I have done something!!

I don't think i have time to phone now.Need to get boys from school.Takes nearly 30 mins to walk with dd1 walking too! I guess i could try to phone quickly!

I think now her statement is done there is no changing it.It all depends what the other pros think(childrens guardian,local authority and xp1).

Have packed for DD to go to her dads and the boys swimming stuff

Havent hoovered downstairs though, dont want to interrupt DS' TV time as this is letting me get loads done!

Feel guilty I have hardly played with him but feel better that he is going swimming today so not a completely inactive day!!

He's in court all afternoon.Won't be about until monday.TBH there is nothing he can do about it anyway!
Hey least i tried.

Ive now got to pull myself together for the boys!Which will be tough!
Think as the suns coming out we will go conker picking!

Got to go now. Will be back later.
Thanks all for listening and advising.

I know how you feel tortoise. I have xp2 thats is no longer around but is still being used to say he is. Everything I do does not seem to make any difference with SS. I know that not help but you know that you are not alone. Keep your chin up and hope that it all will be different on day. The problem I have is that you cant say to much, or you could be seen as talking when you should not be. ( SS rules ) You know where I am if you need to talk. {{{{{ tortoise }}}}}

DS1 is now awake, and seems much better, The sun coming out seems to be him waking up.

Are you still doing this? I hope so, I need to tackle under our bed which is no mean feat. There's my sewing machine, a few shoe boxes full of paperwork, various old magazines and two suitcases full of clothes that need to be sorted, plus probably a couple of inches of dust.
I tend to get carried away whenever I get round to it and end up waxing and polishing the bed frame and taking the duvet and pillows to the laundrette, which isn't always neccesary but I can't help it.
So I need kick up the arse to do the neccesary, and to stop myself doing the unnecesary. LOL

Hi Avalou, best motivation is to take before and after pics so we can all say oooh ahh haven't you done well
Here's a kick up the bum from someone who's just finished doing something similar:

Empty the suitcases into binbags and Ebay them or charity shop them - when was the last time you wore something from one?

Oh God! Friday Night! Tonight's Date Night!

Yes to a daily thread.

With regards to shoes ats all about your frame of mind really, I wear my farty birkenstocks (can't wear them out and a bout dur to the farty noises they make), to sewaty to wear shoes al day in the house. I think it is more about getting up and dressed and ready to work and deal with things. You won't get very far in PJ's, dressing gown and big furry slippers.

Hot Spot alert for today is clear out your favourite chair, all the TV mags, hair bobbles and remotes.

Thanks, I daren't post pics on here though, certainly not the 'before' ones. The shoeboxes can be dumped in the study for DH to sort out, he finds filing quite therapeutic , the weirdo
As for clothes, I am a serious hoarder and find it so hard to get rid of anything and I have had serious regrets from times I was ruthless with giving away clothes. I can get rid of DH's old things, but mine might have to go into the loft until we get more wardrobes.
It's the starting I am dreading, lifting the mattress and being faced with loads of junk, andprobably coming across a few dust smothered dirty socks etc, shudder.

Not doing date night after last weekends fiacso . DS is at scouts until 9.30 anyway. So i will head home with DD after her activity and DH will go for a run and stay at his mums until its time to pick up DS.

Avalou don't look just stick your hand in and pull out 1 box, deal with each bit at a time.

Anybody done the misc stuff like clear out bag file recipts etc, I have't.

BTW glad to here tthat even if the novelty wears off the routines are ingrained by then and you do it without thinking, its getting like that with my sink and loo, I just do it as I go along rather than waiting for a big clean up.

Mentioned date night to dh last night:

"Date night tomorrow night, any chance we might actually manage something?" (in friendly relaxed tone)

"Dunno, I've got band practice" (In, irritatingly, the same relaxed tone!)

Harumph!

I would be lucky to get a takeawy and a video, but def not tonight perhaps another night . If I don't wak off again.