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Morning all
Hope noone minds me starting the new one, feeling like I'm starting to get motiveted
sink is shiny and control journal is getting there
Happy flying to all

link to flylady website for anyone who wants to join us

Marvin - have a ((((hug)))) you sound as if you need one. Your DH sounds as if he needs a reality check especially with everything you are having to cope with. I am sure I remember being told that marriage is a partnership where we support each other and look after each other in sickness and in health.

Thanks Shazronnie. When I can find the charger I will charge the batteries for the digicam and start posting pre fly and flyed pics of the house by zone.

Well I have washed my face and tied back my hideous hair (the rest of me is still stinky, but I'm hopin my babies won't complain ), and I am feeling a lot better for it. Gonna chuck DD in the bath later and do some FLYing then - I can get both her room and the bathroom attacked a bit and still see her .

Marvin - think that sounds like you've done your loving movement

Getting a new hoover today!!!!

I just managed to post how to be organised in mornings

Also, I decided to draw up a rota which included dh - he only has small jobs like feeding the animals, putting the bin out, loading the dishwasher and making the bed. He was a bit reluctant at first moaning that he had a full time job etc etc. Anyway, I put him straight when he saw my list and I explained that ds was also a fulltime job (which at 7mths and on the move he bloody is!) and on top of that I do everything else.

Well, this am when I came downstairs the livingroom was immaculate, the dishwasher stacked and the bin put out! Then when dh left for work I went upstairs to find he had made the bed too!!! It makes me even more keen to do my job today knowing I have his support.

Amanda - very sorry to hear your worrying news, fingers crossed that you get the results you are after.

This is me and the kids, DH not on it, he was the photographer!

Dome and brood

And me flame.

Chloe - that is grounds for thumping him!!!! He's get on well with our mate who talks about me being able to do things in my "spare time" because I "don't work".

I don't remember if my bed is made, and it is distressing me (DS asleep in there and I ain't risking going in!!).

DH hasn't got an official rota as such (and I don't think he's aware of the control journal), he just gets told when to do things .

He is wanting to know just how many people I have shown the pirate picture too as well

Morning FLYers...I'm not flying much at the moment...managing shiny sink and occassional 15 minues bursts of activity (not in the zone!). But haven't done anything in bathroom and one other oom zone yet. I don't get the mission emails until 2 days too late...although they are sent in time, they seem to get lost over the ocean on their way from the US!

Was having a bit of a sulk yesterady and decided I couldn't FLY as well as work outside the home FT...until I realised that I have 6 hours at home every evening/night!!! So...I am strapping my wings back on!

I mean that it is hard to FLY your house when you aren't actually in it, not that SAHMs or WAHMs have loads of free time!

• I love them pictures!

I know, I get pretty fed up with dh thinking his job is so hard and mine is a piece of cake. When we both worked fulltime he would do his fair share but since having ds it seems that he thinks he is immune to houseowrk coz I obviously have more time than him. He neglects to remember though that when he has a dinner hour I might not get to even eat. Yes, ds has his naps but in that time I generally do the housework, when he is awake I am amusing him, be it at home or out and about. I do come on the computer for a few minutes at intervals in the day which probably all adds up to abour 40mins. He claims he wants to be a house husband and I should go back to work. Firstly, I earn pitance and secondly he actually enjoys his job, I didn't. I am also going back 2 full days in November and I already do cleaning/ironing a day every week for my nan, then there's my avon too. Come to think of it he should really count his lucky bloody stars I do as much as I do!!!!

I invited a friend in after the school run this am, and when she commented on my weekly timetable on the fridge, I started to tell her about FLYing. She said she'd noticed a change, but didn't like to comment for fear of suggesting that my house was always a mess before (Not her exact words) but the clear surfaces was a big change.

I am so happy it has been noticed by someone. I ned positive feedback, as I find it quite depressing to put so much into something I don't enjoy if it is taken for granted.

DP is doing more too and now it doesn't have the "I'm doing it becqause it's filthy in here and YOU should have done it" feel that his cleaning always used to have.

Chloe - the solution is to go away for a few days on your own, so he can try doing everything you do.
DP will tell anyone that he has the easier job out of the two of us, after trying to look after toddlers/babies on his own.

He does need reminding from time to time though (and the whole "I'm going out because I've had a hard day at work and I need a pint " is another thread entirely)

Chloe - the solution is to go away for a few days on your own, so he can try doing everything you do.
DP will tell anyone that he has the easier job out of the two of us, after trying to look after toddlers/babies on his own.

He does need reminding from time to time though (and the whole "I'm going out because I've had a hard day at work and I need a pint " is another thread entirely)

the sorky hub has one job to do, put the bins out.....oh make that 2 jobs; bins out and washing in on a night.
We have a standing python conversation like the spanish inquisition sketch about how many things he has to do.

I do everything else. If he moans about something not done, or having to do something else then I deliberately don't do something like iron his shirts for work, and say it's because I had to catch up on your jobs, that thing you left for me to do. Believe me, when he has to spend 15 minutes ironing a shirt in the morning he starts being very nice and most amenable to the odd extra job.

Crack the whip girls and crack it hard!

JJ - Full time working mums have the hardest of all imo. We can do bits during the day, working fathers tend to come in and "help" after work, whereas working mothers tend to be more likely to come in and get back to full time mothering iyswim.

lol @ jessajam's comment.

just got back from being out with dd to find tidy kitchen. shame there are toys everywhere in the living room

hello everyone
Hope you don't mind me crashig your thread...
I have just started FLYing and found this thread. Glad to see lots of people doing really well with it. I'm still taking small babysteps (only started last wednesday) but so far I'm pleased with my (meager!) results...!

Have to say that IMHO full-time SAHMs have the hardest job of all. I work two days a week and can honestly say that those are by far my "easy" days while my three days a week, while much more rewarding, are the ones I find the most challenging! I salute everyone out there who stays at home every day....

chisigirl

I am slowly working on getting DH to multi-task! For example, when he is sitting in front of the TV watching nothing in particular, could he also be picking up the wooden blocks that are all over the floor? When he is cooking lovely dinner for us, and waiting for something to be done, could he use that time to put away everything he has used so far?

I have had some success with getting him to put his dirty socks etc in the laundry basket (which is about a foot away from the area of the floor he tends to leave them on. I did this by lettng the accumulate for a few days on the floor an dthen putting them under the duvet on his side of the bed so they greeted him when he climbed in to bed! He looked very confused...but got the message!

PMSL @ MULTI-TASK!!!!! What, you mean MEN!

Actually doing more than one thing at a time, be careful he might spontaneously combust on you lol.

lol Jessajam.

since i've been flying my dh had been tidying the kitchen as he's gone along (unheard of) and also putting his papers in one place !

phew... ive gone abit mad in the bathroom! I started cleaning my shelf thingy infront of the sink, and I extended to the whole bath, all the tiles, shower screen... even scrubbed all the taps with an old toothbrush