What chores does your DH do everyday as a bare minimum?

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Mine, not much because he 'works full time' (9am-5pm from home office).

This thread had made me extremely envious. I never realised how unhelpful my partner is around the house! He's getting a boot up his arse!!

DH works full time, very long hours. I work 4 days a week, pretty long hours. We have a cleaner who does kitchen bathrooms beds hoovering ironing.

DH

• looks after dd from 6.30 to 7.15am
• does the washing up
• does about 30% of the cooking
• does about 50% of the dishwasher loading/unloading
• puts on and hangs out about 90% of the washing (but only puts away his own clothes)
• does DD's bedtime one weeknight and two weekend nights

there's also a lot of "life admin" which takes up as much time as chores I find - sorting out DD activities/clothes/childcare, house maintenance, finances, car, insurance, holidays, etc. DH does about 25% of this.

The occassional meal (eg pizza in oven), not much other housework day to day but will take on a bigger task eg cleaning bathroom, a big tidy of an area if asked/told.

I do the cleaning, hoovering sweeping etc every day. He doesn't see the need for this whereas I like to keep on top of things. In the summer he does a bit of garden/outside maintenance each evening but he enjoys it so doesn't really see it as a chore.

Nothing.

I work 3 days a week, so I am out of the house at work or travelling to/from work for 30 or so hours.

DH works 5 days a week, and is out of the house (at work or travelling) for 60 hours a week, at least.

I simply have more time at home, though, granted, I am looking after DC2 on the 2 days of the week that I am not working, as well as ferrying DC1 to/from school, clubs, playdates etc and doing before and after school care.

We have a cleaner who also does our ironing.

On weekdays, I do everything in the home and for the DC including cooking, laundry, putting bins out, homework and reading with DC1 etc.

At the weekend, DH and I share most tasks which works out as him doing anything garden or DIY related, and me doing more of what anyone would call traditional womens work like cooking, laundry (seemingly endless), dishwasher, tidying (endless). We take equal responsibility for the DC at the weekends.

Not daily, but weekly,he does diy, all car things, all lawnmowing, all shopping, and dog shit clearing up.At weekends he washes up, does the cooking and keeps the kitchen clean(ish).
I work pt and he works ft, so it works for us.

Nothing

He works 7am-8pm at the mo, 7 days a week so its maybe unreasonable to expect much in the way of housework...

But I work 4 days a week and am out of the house 7.45 - 6pm, and am looking after dd (2.7) when I'm not at work. And do it all, inc DIY and gardening.

Daisy, can you get any help? Or put DD in childcare/with a friend on the odd "fifth" day and have a sleep?

And if DIY and gardening aren't actually remedying safety issues, do not do them until DH is less busy.

I wish . Friends are all SAHMs with children in nursery so I feel guilty enough about DD being there practically full time already. Plus there's the cost of it.

I wouldn't mind so much if he was out of the house but he works around the home and has 3 breaks during the day - it wouldn't be too much to ask to load the dishwasher or bring in the washing if its about to rain

Breakfast in bed for both of us
Unpacks the dishwasher in morning
Does his own sandwiches
Packs the dishwasher after dinner

Cooking dinner
Washing up
Helping kids with homework
Nagging kids to get into bath
Putting a washing on, washed clothes in dryer or hung up, takes to rooms
Checking kids have uniform etc
Clearing plates from rooms
He seems to spend a lot of time faffing (he says tidying) but the place is still a mess

He works m-f 9-3
Sometimes til later on Thursday and some Saturdays 9-2

Oh ok, then he should do more - I assumed he was on some kind of awful shift pattern.

I will say what I always say then - why does he think he is more important than you? Why does he think he deserves more free time than you?

He cooks dinner, clears it up and loads dishwasher as a minimum.

He may also put washing on / hang it out.

I feed the cat and will organise dd bedtime. I might put some laundry away and tidy up if I can be arsed.

We both work full time.

Oh and he does at least one of the school runs. And he makes my pack lunch for work .

Daisy

If he was out of the house 7-8 that's one thing, though it would still be very shitty. But if he's in the house then yes, surely he can take the bins out, fill the washing machine...?

We share what needs to be done.

DH: Works full-time:

Got up first (because he uses the bathroom first)
Got dc breakfast
Made his packed lunch
Walked dc to school
He might buy things for tea in his lunch hour
He's now making our tea (dc's I made earlier)
He'll put dc to bed
Get his clothes ready for the morning

Me: I work part-time from home:

Make sure breakfast eaten, teeth cleaned, hair brushed in morning.
I might go shopping for Food
Collect from school
Make dc tea and homework chivvying.
I'll do the dishwasher.
I'll get dc's clothes/whatever together for the morning.

We both sit down about 9-10pm. If one of us is feeling rubbish, the other will do more.

I respect that working from home is still working, you have to concentrate, etc., but when I do it I am still able to move laundry along or wash some dishes. That just doesn't take much time. Daisy maybe it just hasn't occurred to him?

Even if you don't lift a finger to housework during your workday at home (9-5 say, or whatever) then you don't have a commute so theoretically have about 1-2 hours more free time than someone who WOH, so could (and should IMO) use that to do housework?!

Working FT can't exclude you from housework sadly. If it did, I would never do any
Fair enough I'm single but that means I work long hours then come home and do everything. If I didn't cook or clean, nobody would do it for me
What would men do that don't do anything if they lived alone?

Madame I agree about the commute/cleaning. Plus if you are at home you create more housework even if its just lunch dishes. It's perfectly possible to put a load of washing through or give the kitchen a quick wipe over if the course of a working day - it takes no longer than popping out to Pret to get a sandwich during your lunch hour would.

Oh and in this house, feeding the baby/expressing counts as housework hours.

Thanks for your comments, in some ways I feel better for other people viewing it as crap

He took an unexpected day off yesterday, went to the trafford centre and presented me with a box of sushi. I was supposed to feel grateful rather than being bitter he hadn't loaded the dishwasher or brought the washing in