What chores does your DH do everyday as a bare minimum?

[pippiLS]

Mine, not much because he 'works full time' (9am-5pm from home office).

My dp does shift work so his hours change, no set jobs but basically when he is at home he just gets stuck in with whatever needs doing!

I am a sham with five kids so yes when he is at work I do everything that needs doing but once he is at home we are both 'on duty' and he will cook, clean, wash up, Hoover, do laundry, take kids places basically we just get on with whatever nerds doing.

If one of us is tired/ill the other picks up the slack and we arrange in advance 'time off' ie nights out etc.

Oh and I don't have to ask dp to do stuff, he has eyes he cam see if for example there is washing up to be done or the laundry needs doing or the floor needs sweeping. Ditto he knows we need to eat and the kids need packed lunches made or that the little ones need putting to bed.

5, I wish my H had eyes, he does everything I ask, but needs to be managed. if I don't point it out, he wouldn't do a job (unless I'm part way through, then he comes lolloping in to interfere, like some big shaggy annoying dog).

Loads/unloads the dishwasher
Cleans up after dinner

If I ask, he will set the table for dinner and peel a few veg.

He also fixes broken stuff, changes lightbulbs, and helps when my computer goes wrong.

(he has been reading over my shoulder and thought I wasn't giving him enough credit)

Washing-up
Wiping down the table, chairs and floor after the kids have eaten and I put them in the bath.
Getting his own lunch ready
Tidying up in general I suppose.

He is the neat freak

I'm going to assume that those of you doing everything are SAHMs. Otherwise, it's just too sad to be true.

"Women: know your place." is apparently still alive and well.

He cooks and tidies the kitchen. Then either does ds bedtime or puts the lounge back together. I do all other household cleaning and finances but ds is shared equally as is food shopping. Both ft though.

We both leave the house at eight and I'm back at four, dh at six or seven

I do drop of and collection at cm, dinners, washing, ironing, cleaning, floors etc

Dh does the bins, sterilises bottles, Baths baby, last feed etc so I get a rest from about 7.30 he will also finish the washing up and set table for breakfast.

Off

Depends what needs done, we both work 40 hours minimum each. If I'm being honest he does more than I do. I do the cooking tho. Dh can not cook to save his life.

He does the washing (I put it away), runs a Hoover round the place every weekend, cooks most of the weekend food. He works full time outside the house.

I put the washing away, do most of the weektime cooking, tend to make sure the kitchen is in a decent state. I work full time freelance.

We both do bins, compost, recycling, etcetera as and when.

Oh and obviously we both clean the loo and shower. I clean the sink more.

But since you ask... Firstly, we both work full time, I am currently doing more hours than DH but he has a longer commute.

DH daily:
walks the dog
does the cooking
put the laundry in the tumble drier and folds it when its done
baths the DDs and gets them to bed
hoovers the living room (the dog sheds like a blizzard)

Me daily:
get DDs up and dressed and give them breakfast
take DDs to school
put on laundry
Pick DDs up from after-school club
does cooking, but DH more often then me.

We take it in turns to make packed lunches

We have a cleaner for the rest.

And DH does all the washing up that doesn't go in the dishwasher. I hate washing up.

I don't iron so most work days he irons his shirt, sometimes trousers
Bath kids, this is often a joint job
Cook my dinner (almost every night)/ bring me cups of tea/ wine / g&t and chocolate
Load and empty dishwasher
Most food shooping.
We alternate feeding and putting to bed our toddler.
Put bin out ( practically a daily chore with all the bins)

He is a terrible tidier/ cleaner. He will load the dishwasher but not put anything in the bin/ recycling. Doesn't clean work surfaces.

Don't get me started in the garden!

mine makes the kids packed lunches for school, washes up the tea dishes and puts DD to bed on a night

We both work full time, though I am currently on maternity leave ATM with DD2.

He does the nursery run for DD1, Bins, Washing up (though we share that) and helps with the laundry. He also does all the food shopping and puts DD1 to bed at night, helps her with reading. He also does all his ironing! And occasionally the hoovering.
He's a teacher so he also does the evening meal in the school holidays. 2X a year he goes bonkers and gives the whole house has a massive declutter (usually when he's lost something). He will also fix stuff, put pictures up etc.

I do general day to day tidying, put laundry away, most of the cooking. I also clean the bathroom and any deep cleaning. I also do all the day to day household admin.

It's pretty much a 50/50 split, and it works for us. I don't think I could get my head round DH not doing it.
My dad has always had his set chores and doesn't sit down until midnight most nights, so I'm used to men doing their share of the housework. His dad is the same. They are both in their late 60's.

This is one of the most depressing threads I've seen in a long time.

We've been married for nearly 30 years & gone through times of me being a SAHM, both working full time, me working part time/Dh ful ltime, me working & DH retired.

The chores get done. Always have. See it - do it if you are the one there & have the time. Never really had to discuss it beyond who is cooking & who is shopping.

magimedi, that sounds like the perfect set up, maybe we'll get there one day.

Thanks for all the responses, we have had a breakthrough of sorts. The huge chalkboard wall now has a task list of daily/weekly chores with names next to them with a 1/3 (him) 2/3 (me) split as I only work part-time. There are also chores on there for the DC - make bed/wipe down table/sweep under table/wipe around basin and WC in their bathroom.

We'll see how it goes...

eh CLAM i hope you are not suggesting my hubby is abusive because we have a traditional marriage because he is not .this thread is ment to be a bit tounge in cheek .i like being a full time mother .i chose this when my eldest son was born .as i said he is an exellent father and to me that is more important than doing the housework .

oh and forgot .he does all diy .we have never employed a tradesmen .he has fitted our bathrooms/ kitchen he is just not the duster type .

Almost all of the washing

Most of the dishes and cleaning Thr kitchen

Some tidying and hoovering

A huge amount of the cooking

Some shopping

He is in charge of cleaning the bathroom he uses and doing his own ironing.

Emptying bins and some general maintenance.

His penis and his job have both managed not to get in his way when he does any of the above yet.

DH works more than full time as a lawyer.

He does half the nursery drop offs / pick ups
Bins always
Puts washing on if need be / empties washing machine if need be, same with dishwasher
Cooks a couple of nights a week
Makes bed in the morning, tidies up
Ie stuff that needs doing, like I do.

April he should know how to do washing / ironing though. What would happen if you were ill?

And 'women's work'? Wtf.