What chores does your DH do everyday as a bare minimum?

[pippiLS]

Mine, not much because he 'works full time' (9am-5pm from home office).

He works 12 hour dats usually and I'm a sham atm so not a huge amount during the week. Loads the dishwasher some nights, dies kids bed time if he's home in time. Picks us up from swimming & takes ds1 to football mid week.

Weekends he does the food shopping, I don't drive, and cleans the bathroom and other general stuff. He never does laundry of any type buts that's about all he avoids, pretty good really!

drops dd at cm, collects her, brings the tea in, washes the dishes (I cook), bathes dd and does a load of laundry. bins on a tuesday.

tbf though I work ft too, so ee both just do whatever needs doing and when.

Sorry for dreadful auto corrects in that

Mine works full-time as a research scientist.

He also does breakfast with DD3, washing up, loading and unloading the washing machine, hanging up washing, taking out rubbish, cooking, mowing, bathing DD3 and bedtime/stories (DD3 stuff not housework imo though) (we both share all the aforementioned tasks) DIY, magicking amazing things out of wood (he's currently making an outdoor rocking chair out of an old cable reel), mending things amongst other things. He does a number of the school runs. He doesn't do masses of cleaning but will vacuum from time to time and claims to brush the loos even though I don't see the evidence.

My DH justs wants to come home from work and relax, he doesn't want to have to worry about 'cleaning'. I've come to the conclusion that he's a dirty pig or lazy or both. I'm not much better actually but at least I want to change and I'm prepared to do something about it - he is just not .

Mine empties the dishwasher and does me a cup of tea in bed when he goes out to work.

Today he has also made lunch, weedkillered the drive, done a load of washing and tidied the front room.

Later I will iron what he washed and dried but other than that I have done bugger all.

We don't have my chores and your chores. I probably do most stuff but he more than pulls his weight.

"My DH just wants to come home from work and relax, he doesn't want to have to worry about 'cleaning'."

Well, isn't that peachy for him? I'm sure most of us would like to do that too. Unfortunately, we're adults and know that a house and family don't run themselves.

on your behalf.

My lovely dp works full time, 7am till 3.30pm. Daily, he unloads dishwasher, childcare, empties bins/recycling. Takes ds for shower and get ready for bed

makes tea morning if he is there and night.
changes morning nappys approx 3 days a week
bins
all gardening
about half the cooking
about half supervising children's tea
sole responsibility for his study and en suite. but never actual cleans them
makes almost all the bread
carrys stuff around
about half the guinea pig care

occasional washing up, hoovering and other cleaning.
and anything else as required.

feels pretty equal here. we have the same amount of free time in the evening. I have easier days, he gets to sleep all night.

daily? feeds the cat (not washing bowls or anything, plonking food down for the one that eats wet food because the cat won't leave him alone in the morning if he doesn't.) also, he puts our ds to bed.

weekly - recycling and washes his shirts.

I'm sahm and keep telling him he isn't doing enough, as he needs to be helping with what I can't fit in within the day.

oh gets babies ready for bed and does stories.

DH and I both work full time - I do think that helps; if one person is out of the house working and the other person isn't, a sense of unfairness creeps in.

DH does the laundry, cleans bathrooms, hoovers the difficult bits like the stairs (we live in a 3 storey house and I hate doing stairs) and does the dusting/wiping down of surfaces as he goes, does at least 50% of kitchen cleaning and well over 50% of clearing table/stacking dishwasher. Empties all bins and does the recycling, mows the lawn. Sorts out packups (I make the sandwiches). Does all the bill-paying/insurance type stuff.

BUT he didn't always do this much, and when I was off on mat leave he gradually did less and less. Not at first, as DS was prem and spent a lot of time in hospital, but after the first couple of months I seemed to be doing more and more. I didn't mind then as I was at home all day, but when I went back to work he didn't suddenly leap into action again.

We sat down and each wrote a list of all the household tasks we could think of, and then who was responsible for doing them. I think it shocked him a bit and he was happy to take on some of the areas. It's the key thing, that responsibility - otherwise you end up 'asking' them to do tasks that are actually household responsibilities and they think they are doing you a favour if they do it once! Could that work for you?

'It's the key thing, that responsibility - otherwise you end up 'asking' them to do tasks that are actually household responsibilities and they think they are doing you a favour if they do it once! Could that work for you?'

This is what I'm aiming for balia. Just need an exhaustive list of all the things that need doing and how often, my/our standards have really slipped recently as I've been feeling resentful and so doing less and less.

Loads/empties dishwasher, does bins, ironing shirts, sorts school uniform.

I do general tidying, laundry, cooking.

Everything else 50/50 as and when it needs doing.

We both work full time and have a cleaner.

Works for us..

If he's not working away on average he leaves the house at 8 and returns anywhere between 7 -11pm. He tidies after himself, makes all meals that he's home for and does all weekend cooking. If were both at home all maintenance jobs are done by whichever one of us is around/sees it first. I do all laundry and big cleaning, food shop, cooking when he's not here and general organisation/finances - I work part time.

Daily? The washing up. That's it. And even that follows a big row last year.

He irons his own shirts. And the kids' school ones.

He does the bins weekly and occasionally empties them in between.

He cooks one meal at the weekend, again following The Big Row. Sometimes he folds laundry. He might go to the supermarket at the weekend to get whatever he is going to cook.

He's out from 7.30-7.00 but often goes to the gym/pub/shops after work.

He has no bloody idea what the kids do or need.

So if he's out of the house between 9 and 5 (which, to be honest, is not a particularly long day), what are you doing in that time? Do you have pre-schoolers?
If so, that's your job, and any household chores get done within that time is a bonus. Then, from 5pm, when he arrives back, what remains to be done ought to be split 50:50.

Pisses me off no end when blokes refuse to look after their own kids as they've "been working all week" and it presumably counts as yet more work, but they consider it OK for women to do it 24/7, as if it's a jolly.

Dishes, ironing mostly, taking wet stuff to dryer, bins, dog poop from dog pen. He's pretty good

I forgot the biggie, he does kids bedtime too.

DH empties the dishwasher and clears away most nights. He also cooks for himself several times a week and for us all at least once.

The best thing we did to redress the balance a bit was to make ironing his job, so he washes and irons all the kids uniform every weekend.

i am ashamed to say this .but hubby and i have traditional marriage will we say .he works .me ASAHM..3 sons i autistic .he does this .

tea dishes .
windows weekly
the garden
bins on bin day.

he would,nt know how to use a washing machine .or iron
cooked for me once when not married and obviously trying to impress.
wouldnt do women,s work according to him ..

but he does have good points .
he is a hard worker
and was always willing to look after children done his fair share of getting up during night .

Is out 8-6:45
Loads the dishwasher as I do it wrong
I unload it.
Sometimes does washing if I'm behind.
The online food shop

I work part time we have 3 DC.

I'm starting to think he should read this!

Oh he does iron his shirts but that's because I don't do any ironing otherwise. I'm highly allergic to ironing!

Dh loads/unloads the dishwasher each morning. Puts a load of washing in the machine/another in the tumble drier. He has a tidy round before he leaves - dd and I leave earlier. He puts the bins out on a given day. I come home, make dd's packed lunch and cook dinner. He is usually in by 7. I do the food shopping and we have a cleaner. It feels pretty equal - but then we both work full time and have school age dd. I do do the banking/organising though....

"wouldnt do women,s work according to him .."

WTF is "women's work?"

And isn't "working hard" a given? At least, it ought to be. I don't see that as a bonus worthy of mention, to be honest. It's a bit like saying "well at least he doesn't hit me," to excuse the fact that someone is an abusive arse in every other way.