What chores does your DH do everyday as a bare minimum?

[pippiLS]

Mine, not much because he 'works full time' (9am-5pm from home office).

No, I wasn't suggesting anything about your husband. I don't know him. I said "someone" as in a generalisation.

I don't see this thread as tongue-in-cheek, either. I see a poster who is feeling put-upon and that the balance in her marriage is unfair.

I wouldn't call your setup "traditional," if by that you mean to imply that it's something to hanker after, as in "the good old days." In many cases, I see it as simply an excuse for a bloke to sit on his arse while his wife runs herself ragged doing two full-time jobs. If one is a SAHM it's slightly different, I grant you, but there are many, many cases on MN where women are working full-time and yet still picking up the lion's share of the household chores because...... well, who knows why? It makes no sense to me. "Women's work" doesn't wash with me.

As for men who claim not to know how to work a washing machine! How many female washing machine engineers are there? Men can build and repair them, but apparently are unable to put in a load of laundry with a detergent tablet, and turn the knob to start them off? That's just a cop-out, and more fool anyone who falls for it.

DIY- changing the odd plug and mending a dripping tap hardly equates with the daily repetitive slog of three meals, laundry and the endless cleaning and laundry required to keep a house ticking over. And even fitting a kitchen is a once in a decade (or more) thing.
I'd rather get someone in to do that and have a partner who pulled his weight on a daily basis.

We have a traditional set up in that I am a sahm but I am damed if that means I am doing all the housework!

He can see what needs to be done just as I can and he gets on with it just as I do. Yrs when he is at work I do it all but once he is home he is Just as much 'on duty' as I am!

Nothing.
He leaves the house at 6 am or earlier and returns after 8pm, then works at the table for another couple of hours.
Nothing at the weekend either unless we have people coming round then he will Hoover but mostly moans about my lack of organisation when he can't find batteries or Hoover bags.

I'm on maternity leave right now, but before, we both worked full time. Dh did the dishes, cleaned the kitchen and took out the bins daily. He also cooked and did everything else in the house when I had morning sickness or when I am bad with spd. Now that I'm not working, this is still the case, although I do as much as I can, but it will take me all day to clean a room from top to bottom fuck spd

Normally, when I'm not so incapacitated, he cleans the dishes and kitchen, does the bins, does our en suite, his own washing and the towels and sheets, hoovers the halls and stairs and does the garden.
I do the living room, bedrooms, bathroom and downstairs loo, cooking and the washing for me and dc. I also pay all the bills and do the admin (we pool all our money). I think we have things pretty balanced!

It wasn't always like this though. When we first got together his mum and previous gf did everything and it took a year of fighting to get things on an even keel.

Sahm does not = housewife.

Daily - he makes the bed, walks and feeds our dog. His work days are very long so that's about it.

Weeklyish/on days off - he does all the sweeping and vacuuming and dusting, and the trash/recycling, and a little cooking. Opens the mail and sorts it so I can pay the bills (I hate going through mail). Cleans the bathroom.

Similar to Rhonda's DH, my DH's penis has never gotten in the way of his doing the above even though it is quite large

DH also needs to be managed. He will do set tasks when asked but the only things he does routinely are washing up, ironing of his shirts and putting out of the bins, and one of 6 cm runs in the working week.

He will do minor DIY when asked. He's very good with DD but following a big row he does now understand that I don't expect to come home to a bomb site when he's been in charge!

The running of the home (meal planning, organisation, laundry, gardening, admin e.g. House/car insurance) is all done by me. He works F/T and I'm P/T.

I think like Pippi I need to write out all the jobs and do a bit of reallocation...

ok i think by the looks of things .my hubby a lazy sod .but it does,nt feel like that but compared to some others hubby,s he is a cave man .if i am honest and don,t eat me here .i never wanted him encroaching on my position as mother and to me that means keeping house

.i was never brought up in this manner my mother always worked and my dad always helped

.well i suppose taking the boys shopping on a saturday while he washes and polishes his car maybe is a wee bit much if i look back to when they were younger.no he never goes to supermarket .i suppose if i had ever took ill he would have just had to learn .

but at 50 i doubt he going to suddenly change now .

"DH also needs to be managed. He will do set tasks when asked"

Is this how it works for him at work too? He will only do anything if his boss specifically asks?
And if not, how come it's acceptable at home then?

What's "to learn" about going to a supermarket?

Keatsie, stop boasting, I wasn't going to mention size

We've been together a long time. I know he isn't about to change but if I don't ask he doesn't do. So I ask, rather than do 100% of the work!

Mine leaves the house at 7:30am and is home between 4-5pm.

Everyday he will tidy up the toys in the living room, vacuum downstairs, either wash up or cook dinner, bath the DC, do DC bedtime with me.

At the weekends he will clean the bathroom and vacuum upstairs. He works on Saturdays so we share the Sunday morning lay in. If it is my turn to lay in he will get the DC up, give them breakfast and prepare their lunch.

Works from home about half the time. Home days:packed lunches, dishwasher, does dinner with me, transports DC to activities. WOH days: nothing aa often out v early til v late eg midnight or later. Does all car related stuff and diy in holiday time. I feel very happy with the balance.

I'm a SAHM and he works full time so I tend to do most of the housework. Things he does daily are: walk the dog before bed, put the recycling out, we both tidy toys away/clean up kitchen/dishes in the evening. He also does our DDs bath every night.

I am a sahm by choice of after 20 yrs being FT at work so I expect to be doing the majority of home related stuff. And I really enjoy it anyway. I feel like the work I do now really benefits my family, whereas my previous work mainly benefited my employers.

It's more about downtime than distribution of housework, because every couple will have a different mix of hours worked/not worked in or out of the home.

So if he slobs about in bed while you get the DC ready for school, and then drags himself in in the evening and plonks himself in front of the telly with a beer while you're still putting away laundry, cooking dinner and putting the DC to bed because "he's worked hard all day", then he is taking the piss and a is an entitled lazy arse who thinks your job is look after him.

However, if you're a SAHM or work part time, and when he gets home in the evening finds you on the sofa with your feet up and a G&T, and you immediately issue him with a list of chores you've "saved" for him even though you've been lounging around for hours, then you're a lazy arse who's taking the piss.

In our family, when we get home we both muck and in and plough through everything that still needs doing until we're done and can both crash together.

Mine works full time and does lots: sweeping, all of the the cooking (for us as well as batch cooking muffins and meals etc for DD), hoovering and ironing. Puts the rubbish out, does all of the supermarket shopping. Does lots with the baby (changing nappies, bathing, feeding dinner, putting to bed etc). Lawn mowing and any DIY or attic related stuff. He also makes me breakfast in bed every day and runs me a bath every evening. He's happy to do all this - I don't ask him to. I've offered to cook but he says that he actually enjoys it. He knows that DD takes up a lot of my time (will only sleep on me during the day, still feeds a lot etc).

I'm now a sahm (well, on a five year career break).

Dh leaves the house at 7 and is back anything between 7 - 9pm depending on meeting etc. He takes the bins out, empties/loads the dishwasher and anything else that needs doing that I haven't managed to do. At the weekends he does the garden and anything that needs doing. Im a SAHM. OP, I think your dh is swinging the lead if he's doing 9-5 without even a commute!

DH is out of the house at work 7.30-8pm x5 days a week. He does nothing. When heavily preggers with Ds 3 and still at work, I begged and begged for a cleaner, he kept saying he'd do it at the weekend. So I created a hideously long list of cleaning jobs. He got through the first 3 on the list before agreeing to a cleaner "until 6 weeks post delivery" (and a year later, she's still coming ). I have to hoover daily, cook daily, washing daily, the kids homework and afterschool clubs take up a lot of evening time, so my cleaner is my life saver. As for DH, well that's him and that's what he's like. I blame his upbringing. But my DS is very helpful

Empties dishwasher while he makes his breakfast
Brings me a cup of coffee in bed in the morning
Runs my morning bath

Helps clear up after supper

This is the bare minimum - he often does a lot more!

My DH cleans up the kitchen every night after dinner, that's the deal, I cook he cleans. He loads the dishwasher, wipes he sides and vacuums the floor. He also unpacks the dishwasher in the morning while making his breakfast.

On the weekend he will pop in some washing if there is any and hang it out. He is slightly obsessed with vacuuming so does this all the time as well!

Oh forget to mention DH works full
Time, out the house at 8am and normally home by 7pm.

He also dresses and takes DD to the childminder every morning, but not sure that is a chore.

Rhonda I've just been told I was mistaken, it is so very large in fact that it constantly hinders him as he cleans, and yet he soldiers on bravely to do his share. I'm sure yours would say the same