What chores does your DH do everyday as a bare minimum?

[pippiLS]

Mine, not much because he 'works full time' (9am-5pm from home office).

pippi I meant to say, allocating the chores is a really, really good idea. Before we did it, DH didn't have a good sense of everything that had to be done or how often, he's not really a planner, and I just hated being the one in charge of remembering everything. We had "housework fights" that were more about who had to remember things than who had to do them.

Now we each just deal with our own list. I hope the chalkboard works well for you.

Dh is out 7-7 everyday but does washing up, sorting the kids, night feeds, cleaning and errands I am constantly sending him on in the car. Eg supermarket, picking up and dropping off stuff for facebook buy and sell sites etc

I am going to get lynched for this, I believe that if one person stays at home and one goes out to work; then the stay at home person deals with the home.

I am not saying that the worker should not do anything at all, but the lions share should be done by the person actually at home.

I am not trying to say we are in the 1950s, but to me it makes sense - you're actually at home, so deal with the home.

same point made 3 times

Ely, if you have babies, your job as a sahm is children, not the home.

When the kids are at school, it is reasonable to expect a sahm may have up to 5 hours a day for housework or other work.

The sahm parent having to do everything assumption is odd to me, it's not like the household stuff only needs doing between 9-5 there is still stuff to be done after those working hours, mess is certainly made after those hours, cooking, cleaning up and washing up and packed lunches and getting stuff ready for the next day etc, getting Kidd sorted with homework and to bed etc. Yes the sahp does all with the kids and around the house whilst the other is at work but why should they continue to do everything once the other parent is home and what is the other parent doing whilst the sahp then carries on doing everything?!!

I do all whilst dp is at work but once he is home we are both on duty! There is often cooking be done,kids need attention (we have five) there is generally always a bit of tidying up and organising for the next day to be done etc. In our house dp and the kids pitch in with this, the idea that i would bust a gut doing everything is quite frankly hilarious.

I am on Mat leave. He works 9-6:30ish.

He does the bins, tidies the kitchen after cooking approx half of the time, last baby feed if home on time. Helps put him down to bed, does the majority of nappy changes when he is there, his own ironing ( and my work stuff when I am working).

He doesn't cook or do any of the washing except for the odd load or any of the food shopping.

We have a cleaner once every two weeks

The same as I do, and probably more as his mess tolerance is lower.

Walks the dogs at 5am
Feeds dog and cat
Brings me coffee in an insulated mug when he leaves for work
Cooks twice a week
ASC Pick up 3/4 days a week
Takes ds1 and 2 to football training 3x a week
Does all of the ironing
Takes the washing out and hangs up to dry when he gets home
Whatever cleaning, tidying, packed lunch making, putting stuff away that needs doing at the time.

Never cleans the bathroom properly though.
He might sling a bit of bleach down the toilet and do a 10 second wipe round with a cloth.

Do grown ups have "chores"?
Don't we all just do whatever needs doing at the time?

And being at work 9-5 doesn't exclude anyone from looking after their own home FFS.
If it did, our house would be a tip.

5, totally agree! me having babies did not turn my previously semi-capable h into a helpless idiot that requires a housekeeper.

Mine works from home 8.30 to 6ish but often does more work later in the evening. Does all the gardening/lawns and DIY, and manages an allotment(all hobbies really). Bins. Nightly we take it in turns to cook or sort baby out (bath, bottle, bed) but I do almost everything else (washing, tidying, cleaning up kitchen nightly) though we have a fortnightly cleaner. Currently on mat leave and told him he needs to do more day to day stuff when I go back to work (soon)- will usually do stuff when nagged but wish I didn't need to (long running argument)

Daily
makes his own packed lunch.
prepares breakfast for all 3 of us.
Clears table after tea.
Listens to boy read
Reads bedtime story to boy.
Does washing up.

Week ends he also mows lawn, chops fire wood and does his own and boys ironing.

Dh works in a full time regular hours job with the odd week away at conferences. I work very irregular hours. Generally I deal with school and washing clothes, buying food and weekday cooking but dh can do those if I'm working away for a week just as I can do all he does if he is working away for a week.

Do grown ups have "chores"?
Don't we all just do whatever needs doing at the time?

This ^

Dp and I both just get on with whatever needs doing!

So this am I got up at 6;45 then woke elder two to get up ans ready for school, I then showered and woke ds3 and ds4, dp got dd up and made bfast for the little ones, we both shivvied the kids along to get ready for school and made sure everyone had all the needed, at 8am dp left for work, at 8:05 I took little three out to drip ds3 and ds4 at school. Ds1 and ds2 had left at 7:40.

I am now home having stopped on the way to get some shopping, since I got in I have tidied up kitchen, put Lasundry away, put another load in the wash, tidied bedrooms and hovered and am now pottering and playing with dd etc.

Later I will collect ds3 and ds4 and a friend of ds3's, then I will start on dinner, dp will be home in time to help get little ones to bed and tidy up and get sorted for tomorrow.

Dp works shifts so is sometimes about in the day and when he is Will do school runs and laundry and shopping etc, sometimes he does evenings so I do all the eve routine. It varies from day to day and yes I do more house stuff as I am here more but once home dp just gets on with whateverneeds doing.

Of course we have chores - semantics, semantics. Call it housework if you feel that's better.

This thread is really, really depressing.

The only way I can imagine it is fair for one person to do the bulk of the housework is if they are at home all day either when the kids are at school or they don't have kids. Even then, it's hardly fair for them to do everything?

We just do what needs doing. We each have things we tend to do that the other doesn't - he's relatively immune to the state of the bathroom and the bedsheets, I'm relatively immune to decent food (food is just fuel to me most of the time) and the garden. So I clean the bathroom and change the beds, he cooks and mows the lawn etc. But the rest of it is just done when one of us is in and it needs doing.

Yep stuff just gets done when it needs doing! Dp is very good at keeping on top of the laundry of which we have lots and he does the bulk of shopping and generally cooks when he is in. I do more general tidying and de cluttering. Dp changes bedsheets as its easier as he is taller and kids have bunk beds, I tend to put clean laundry away and sweep floors and Hoover, dp tends to make pack lunches. It really varies from day to day, there is some stuff I do more of and other stuff he does.

We play to our strengths I guess, I do baking and make cakes and do crafty stuff with the kids, dp doesn't like that stuff but he takes them out on bike rides and plays computer games with them. We both help with homework and the general running of the house is just done by both of us as we go along.

I can't think of any housework that dp doesn't do if it needs doing. And I don't have to micromanage what he does or tell him to do it, that would drive mental!

Waves back to dame I meant to reply to your pm the other day but mnet has been playing silly buggars and not letting me.

Oh thank God, I thought you had the hump with me and couldn't figure out why I thought you had name changed at some point and I'm pretty sure I PM'd some poor random poster who has never replied

Sorry to derail thread OP :)

I did name change yes but am crap at name changes and figure fuck it I don't say anything on mnet I wouldn't say in rl!

You aren't on Fb anymore :(

I am good just busy as ever and starting to panic ad I only have a year and a bit before dd goes to school :(

FB was cheesing me off, I had to come off it

I NC to Dame for a bit then forgot how to change back

How can dd be ready for school? Think how lovely she'll look in 'school plaits and bunches' though

She will be four in Dec so starts school Sept 2015. I don't want my baby to go to School!

Resists the totally irrational thought of having another baby

But yes she does look fab in bunches etc :)

He cooks dinner for himself and DS (I'm pg and still feeling sick at the sight of meat!). Sometimes he puts the dishes in the dishwasher, and sometimes he puts DS to bed and cleans his teeth.

when hes home from work, we both must muck in

tea tidyed away
reading spelllings time tables

bathing kids

general tidying

DH and I both work full-time. He works out of the home and I work from home.

DH does

Cooking
Cleaning
Washing
DIY
Car Maintenance
Hoovering and Washing the Floors
Walks the dogs

He does a LOT more housework than I do. I work full-time hours over four days and have Fridays off. He has started doing the housework after work on a Thursday so I don't even have to do it on my Friday off now! He's so fab.