Fledglings Fly in Flaming June; C.H.A.O.S. will be banished soon!

[sanguinechompa]

Welcome to the June 2012 Fledgling Flyers thread. Park your mops, buckets and microfibre cloths here!!

A huge "thank you" to Toffee for leading us throughout May!! Hope you have a fabulous holiday in Spain!!

If you're house is a mess and you are strugging with C.H.A.O.S. (can't have anyone over syndrome) and S.T.U.F.F. (something that undermines family fun) then this is the thread where we (loosely) follow the step-by-step Flylady housekeeping system (in our own, unique, relaxed style) with lots of chat, support and along the way.

We advise not signing up to receive the Flylady e-mails as you will be inundated! All the information you need will be linked here on a daily basis.

From the first of the month, we will be following Flylady's tips on restoring order to our homes, and as we are all at different stages we will be using one of the following methods:

• repeat or start baby steps

• repeat baby steps + do 15 mins a day decluttering in the current zone

• reinforce babysteps and do daily missions if you have finished decluttering.

More info here, here and here

All welcome!!

Evening all.

I think, apart from death of DF, I think this has been the most horrific day ever. We told the dc's this morning and it was the hardest thing I have ever done. There was lots of tears, lots of cuddles and lots of love. I know this is the right thing to do but I can't help questioning it. There have been so many good time and am I right to throw it all away? I know the answer is that I am not throwing it away, we still have those memories and, in time, we will still be friends but at the moment I am struggling with the concept that this is it. DH has been my life for 16years, , I've never lived on my own.

The DC's are amazing. DD was initially very upset but, as expected, is, I think, too young to take it all in. SHe is very sad but very matter of fact about it all. DS, as expected, is devastated but being incredibly grown up. He has had lots of questions, lots of tears but has coped amazingly well and been very mature. My children are amazing . I really felt for DH as well. He never wanted to be a part time dad but that is what he is going to be and it is breaking his heart. At least I am still in my home etc. It all sucks.

Despite all this, I am coping. There are tears, there will be but I am ok. Going to pick myself up and try and resume some sort of normality for the DC's if nothing else.

On a positive note, I have booked a camping holiday to Pembrokeshire today. We normally go to the caravan but it is too close to home, too many memories etc and I really need to get away properly. Pembrokeshire is my favourite part of the world ever with many happy childhood memories and I can't waitto go. We are going to go with Dsis and bil. DS is over the moon as I have bought him a cheap phone. Batman has the batphone and he now has a dadphone.

Thank you for your continued support and kind words. As sc said they may just be words on a computer screen but they mean so much as many of you have become friends over the last few years.

Tomorrow is another day and all that.

If you have managed to get to the end of this mammoth post, blame bitchy, she said to post it all, so I did

oh ellie you are so incredibly brave and strong. I can not imagine how horrible today has been for you. It is SUCH a brave decision for you to make, but if at the end of the day you and DH end up happier people you will be a better Mummy and Daddy and your dc will benefit, even if it all feels horrible, and questionable at the moment. Keep posting here. We are all here for you with lots of virtual and

Not so mammoth in comparison to some of my mega-whinges Ellie and far more justified!!

Ellie I'm really sorry the day was so awful for you and for everyone and that you are going through such heartache. But you can rest assured that although there are bound to be hurdles to come, you have taken the first step in the best way possible for your dc. You, your dc and your dh all sound so brave and sensible - given time, I'm sure things will get back to a more even keel. It's great that you are planning ahead and have booked the Pembrokeshire holiday - it sounds exactly like what you and the dc need right now- and it's good you have something positive to look forward to you. Bitchy is right - keep venting away on here - anything that helps - even a little bit!

Blue a perfect catch! End of month took me by surprise too - was sure I had at least another week to go somehow ....

See you on the other thread everyone ...

Thanks ofm. I have no doubt we could quite bumble along quite happily for another 6 months as we are still best friends. However, the same issues would them crop up. And although we love each other as friends, I think we both deserve more than that. It's not fair on either of us. I do love him and I always will but not in the right way anymore. If I hated him then all if this would be much much easier.

Going to try and get some sleep now although ds is still awake.

X posts. Thanks sc. Wise words as ever.