The babysteppers Chat thread

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I agree with bessie. There are times in life when you just have to protect yourself and those you are immediately responsible for. I know it doesn't sound your usual style but this is not a usual circumstance.

Oh, I know. Poorly Nieces1&2 aren't able to travel so won't be back and supposedly SiL hasn't taken Niece3 and Nephews1&2 to any "parties" recently. We found that nugget out a few weeks ago but it sounds as if SiL is not above trying again (and seeing as it's in her circle she has opportunity). I think they're being very stupid silly and selfish.

Honestly, there are so many things with this branch of the family we could be here for hours (and I'd out myself).

Cheers, carrots.

I want something to eat in RL but I don't know what.

Oh dear Lord, and the plot thickens.

Oh Oh! What now?

Apparently girls coming home tomorrow after all (with another family). SiL made comment about girls "might not be up to coming" to Easter. MiL just emailed back and said if girls come home no one from that family is to come around.

My mother had G.Measles as a kid and ended up with RA as a result; my aunt (Mom's sister) had measles as a kid and it nearly killed her. I haven't had the booster and Toddler's still little (though he's up-to-date on his immunizations). I told MiL that it's her choice whether to have the family (with or without the two poorly daughters) but if any of them were to come over Toddler and I would be leaving.

That sounds fair Scout. It would be foolish to be around them. I am so sorry you have to have such a stressful visit.

Oh, MiL has told them not come if the girls come home. It's a shame, though. My PiL love their grandchildren but are held at arms length from them by their parents. Despite the three week break home Easter would be one of the few/only times they'd get to see them (despite living the next road over). It's also Niece3's birthday and it sounds like SiL hasn't sorted out anything for it so we were going to have birthday cake and presents as well as the usual Easter egg hunt, chocolate eggs and buffet spread.

PiL said that we should still have an egg hunt on Sunday for Toddler and then try to do a family one again in a few weeks.

And so it continues still.

Honestly, I've had enough and I'm ready to just go home.

Seriously? Does she just love a big drama or something? Life is full enough of difficulties that we have no choice in, without filling it with stuff that doesn't need to happen.

I would be really tempted to head home on the prefix that it will let your PIL see their other grandchildren if they don't see them often and redo Easter with your PIL in a few weeks when they are definitely bug free.

It is hard to do without seeming to flounce though and causing a scene.

I feel for you Scout.

Well, I don't know how much is her doing or her husband and how much is my PiL sort of blowing it out of proportion.

Yes, the girls are in transit home. However, it seems when MiL rang there this morning BiL hadn't seen MiL email and three hours later SiL has yet to call MiL back to let her know what's going on. Keep in mind MiL was gearing up for big Easter feast & celebration, as well as birthday stuff for Niece3. So now MiL is saying she doesn't know how much to get from the shops, what she needs to get (food wise) to drop off at their house, etc. I keep saying "why are you dropping food to them tomorrow if SiL is at the shop this morning she can sort it out" and "if the point of them not coming is because the girls are home and ill and infectious why are you going over to drop things off?" The response was "we stand at the door and do a transfer/handing over of goods." But honestly, why is MiL sorting out their Sunday buffet when they have enough time to sort it out themselves?

I understand SiL is their child and MiL wants to take care of her daughter and the grandchildren. But SiL/BiL often shun all offers of help, unless it's strictly on their terms and to me this is what they're doing -- BiL isn't telling SiL MiL rang (last night), SiL isn't telling BiL that MiL emailed with her conditions, neither one of them are keeping MiL informed of the girls illness/travel arrangements/impacts on Easter & the rest of the family.

ARGH!

Off to lunch.

Bloddy hell. I'd be packing my bags to go home, it's not sounding much fun for anyone! Like carrots says, let the ILs see the potentially germ-ridden GC this weekend & visit them again another weekend

Poor Scout. You have worked so hard for this weekend and it sounds very stressful. I hope you are still having fun with TS.

Dh has had a huge row with the dcs while I was in the bath. It seems (and if you are eating then please skip this post) that dd had thrown dog poo and stones onto the trampoline and ds had also thrown stones onto the trampoline. Now, dd is 11 yo and very intelligent so knows that that is a totally unacceptable and disgusting thing to do. Ds is 7yo, clever, and despite his problems is not generally naughty iykwim, just troubled, so WTA...?

I am just gobsmacked. They were sent to clean it up and then to disinfect the trampoline (not an easy task) and then scrub themselves.

I just don't understand.

It means the one part of the weekend that dh was around was horrid so he will be in no hurry to spend any more time at home this weekend and is off out now. I did ask if I could go with him. [bugrin] He is off to a corporate thing to be wined and dined while I am left at home with the shit flingers [buhmm]

I think that may be the first time I have sworn online [bublush]

ARGHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

at miniCarrots1&2 throwing dog poo. Ewww!

carrots - that's not swearing - you need to try harder!

I can't believe they actually picked up dog poo??? Gross. sounds to me like they are going to be on poo patrol until they leave home for a few days

DH has gone to play golf. DD2 has been sick 3 times today. Both DDs are napping. I am very tired/achy/grumpy/PMT & longing to goto sleep myself, but need to listen out for poor pukey-pants as it appears she is happy to be sick in her sleep & just lay there in it (can't decide if that's better than her waking up or not?)

hope shes well enough for some treats tomorrow

i turn my back on you lot for a few hours and the gossip and drama explodes!!

im so sorry this weekend is proving so stressful scout big hugs for you and TS

carrots poo slinging-really?like bessie said poo patrol if they like it that much. its horrible when it all goes tits up on the feew precioous moments dads around...little zoo wasnt in great fettle and had a tantrum and ds was being a monkey.not surprising dp hs already scurried back home!

we have been to 2 cat rescue places this afternoon..
1 an animal rescue centre

the other a kind of working farm/rescue place

the 1st was nice and we fell in love with a pair of cats just in today.ds has a passion for gingers and being called scooby he was all but beside himself.they were friendly but timid as in strange invoirament

the 2nd was very muddy and a bit disorganized but the animals were well cared for..they even had a sheep roaming thatd been hand reared and was friendly[bushock]

lots cats were hiding in their sheds as the runs had a bit that was enclosed with a door that opened at the back full old duvet and a little hole they could come out through and down a ramp to the floor

some were not kid friendly,some 50/50 so we just looked at the ones definately cope with the zoolets..we saw 6 sheds each holding 2-6 cats and none really struck us in the heart.a lot them are only allowed in 2s or because of their age

i was sure we were going to end up with ginger scooby and then we saw them...2 9month old cats that were paired to go together.one wa rubbing the netting the second saw us and as i entered the shed it jumped onto the ramp from its bedding and nuzzled and sniffed my face.i fell in love!!!
i knelt in teh shed and it was all over me purring and the other one came for a sniff and happilt sat next to me also purring.its been soo long since i saat stroking a soft furry little body that was purring madly i felt so relaxed and happy i knew they were for us.zoolets all had a stroke and they were fine even when little zoo approached.

we have reserved them and are waiting for a home visit one is due to be neutered wednesday i think and then we just need them to agree our home is suitable and pay up and theyre ours[bugrin]

To clarify - they didn't actually touch it with their hands - not that it really improves matters much I know. They used their sandpit spades which have also had to be cleaned. Utterly revolting and unnecessary nonetheless.

A very bad idea considering how cross I already was about dd's bedroom.

Dd's bedroom is now officially clean and tidy. It has taken virtually 2 days [bushock]

We have no moved onto all the stuff she dumped on the landing and tidying up the bookcases there, including removing outgrown books.

Scout I hope the "Argh" was for the disgusting mouldy carrots and not any new horror visited upon you at your PIL.

bessie - sympathies. Poor wee dd and poor you having to stay on high alert when you could do with a snooze yourself. (I am [bugrin] at "pukey pants" though btw)

What a weekend we are all having. [bushock]

least they didnt bury the poo in the sandpit carrots!

Oooh! zoo you have cheered me up. They sound lovely. Furry friends are great for stress levels.

Be thankful for small mercies zoo - the sandpit is empty for winter.

They sound ferral I know. I am as shocked as you are. I am totally baffled tbh. I mean... really? Bleurgh!

And yes, dd will be on poo duty and ds can help her hunt. They are clearly not that freaked out by it.

I'm trying to cut down DD1's afternoon nap so should have woken her after 45min, but just couldn't bring myself to do it & have sat here reading MN and eating chocolate instead. DD2 has just woken up, so had better do something useful.

bessie I know that feeling. I got away with letting ds nap the other day as he was clearly shattered but I really shouldn't have.