Meet the Other Phone. A phone that grows with your child.

Meet the Other Phone.
A phone that grows with your child.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Housekeeping

Find cleaning advice from other Mumsnetters on our Housekeeping forum.

Pointy sticks at the ready... and a few choc biscuits and brews too.

999 replies

carrotsandcelery · 26/01/2012 14:29

OP posts:
bessie26 · 06/02/2012 17:49

Embrace the urge scout! Grin

carrotsandcelery · 06/02/2012 20:39

Hi everyone! Sorry for causing worry. We had the psychologist at the hospital again and it went on until nearly 1pm. By the time I got the bus to the car and the car to the house it was time to pick up ds. Dd had a friend to play so we were having a laugh playing some games together then it was time for some one to one with ds, time to cook and then it was time to get them into bed. I am shattered.

Everyone has done so much today. I have done the usual dress, lunches, dcs to school, dw loaded, worktops cleaned, tea made etc but no declutters or hotspots. There just hasn't been time. This hospital lark is like a part time job Shock

OP posts:
bessie26 · 06/02/2012 21:03

Hope it went well carrots? Do you have to go every week?

carrotsandcelery · 06/02/2012 21:16

We go roughly once a fortnight in general. It is very draining. Even the journey there is stressful and it is obviously not pleasant going into detail about all his problems all the time which is also draining. I am beginning to cope better with it. The psychologist said today that she just wanted to take dh and I and give us both a big hug today. She has no idea how much that meant to me. It isn't fun but the fact that she realised that made it a bit more tolerable.

zoo part of ds's problems include anger issues. How old is your ds with the problems? We have been learning a little bit about it, although we are dealing with sleep primarily first. There is a good "workbook" on amazon for children who lose their tempers but it is expensive and definitely wouldn't work for every child.

Things we have found which help ds are:

Levelling out his blood sugar (so not getting too hungry in his case)
Not allowing him to get over stimulated (minimal tv/computer/wii time)
Not accidentally rewarding his temper with extra attention
Teaching him relaxation techniques eg blowing imaginary bubbles, imagining he is butter melting on toast
Teaching him to walk away when he is struggling to control his temper (with praise, praise, praise when he does it)
Teaching him more socially acceptable ways of releasing his temper (eg pushing against a wall, bashing a bean bag etc)
Letting him know that everyone has a choice when they get angry and it is up to him to decide not to lose his temper

Obviously if she is quite young some of these will be tricky.

Btw, on a flylady front, decluttering rocks as I made £43 on ebay today. Woo hoo!

Twilight is snoring loudly and seems quite happy with herself. Pup is upstairs with dd being snuggled so he is happy too. Grin

OP posts:
BlackCatTryingToFly · 06/02/2012 21:19

Hi all, Glad your o.k Carrots. Did everything go well at the hospital?

Scout I still need to find the urge to declutter as it is "decluttering Habit of the month". I really hope I find it soon!

Passes Brews all round.

BlackCatTryingToFly · 06/02/2012 21:20

X posts Carrots

carrotsandcelery · 06/02/2012 21:34

Hi BlackCat. It was a very positive meeting. We were feeling like we weren't getting anywhere but when we talked through his log we realised that, although we are far from there, he has made good progress. He is doing babysteps too Grin

I haven't managed to move from the sofa to do any more. I should probably accept that I am done for today and start over again tomorrow.

Well done everyone who has been working hard today and battling bugs and pmt etc.

OP posts:
carrotsandcelery · 06/02/2012 21:34

BlackCat try ebay - it is a great motivator Grin

OP posts:
Scout19075 · 06/02/2012 21:44

to carrots. I think you've done enough today and hope you have your feet up with a Wine.

Thanks BlackCat, I didn't realize there was a habit of the month. I'm still decluttering (and flinging) -- haven't done house blessings and all of that yet.

I've just done the weekly shop and put everything away. I'm having an ice cream then will go do the washing up and I hope to be in bed by 10:30 tonight.

BlackCatTryingToFly · 06/02/2012 21:48

I am done for today. Am sat here sniffing Olbas oil to try and clear my nose.

I need to take advantage of when I feel well --and stop sitting on my bum doing not much, MNetting-- It's not until you feel ill you really appreciate feeling well! Grin

Carrots Glad DS is making progress even if it is small steps.

carrotsandcelery · 06/02/2012 22:06

I did do shopping and putting away as well Scout. The hospital takes me near Aldi which would be too long a drive just to go there on its own. I have done more than I think really. Grin

OP posts:
BlackCatTryingToFly · 07/02/2012 05:53

Morning all, I am feeling a bit better this morning but still have a cold.

Hope things are going better this morning Zoo.

I am hoping I can make an early start on things as I am up early.

To do:
Breakfast
get dressed
make beds (mine done)
sort clothes for everyone
sort school bags
school/nursery run
wash up/dry up
decluttering (hot spots)
laundry

That will do for now.

liveinazoo · 07/02/2012 07:23

nice list blackcat!
stilll bit uuurgh but at least im up at a respectable hourSmile

carrots dd is 8 in april.some good ideas there.she does a self esteem groupat school(courtesy family support worker) but it may be time for another chat with them i think
glad twilight settling i wellSmile

[brews] all round!!

guna try another go at my dreaded room today

must crack on.have quick pop to shops after dropped kids (then my breakfast) so be around 10ish

Scout19075 · 07/02/2012 07:36

ARGH! Would anyone like a MrScout? Free to a good home. He started banging on last night about some magazines that were "on the table." Um.... the ones that have been there for two years? They've been moved. Oh, and some newspaper from before we met. It's still there but "what's so important about it?" "It has some of my photographs." He's had lots of pictures in vavious local newspapers what on earth is so special about this one?! And I've said before if it was special you should take care of it! He's just stopped and looked at some bags with the look of "what's she doing now" before getting his coat on to go to work.

BlackCatTryingToFly · 07/02/2012 09:21

Ta Da's!:
(done)
Breakfast
get dressed
made beds
clothes sorted
school bags done
Dc to school and nursery

To do:
laundry
wash up/dry up
empty bins
declutter

BlackCatTryingToFly · 07/02/2012 09:38

Forgot to ask, if I made Leek and potato soup last night and left it in the pan over night with lid on, would it still be safe to eat at lunch time today.
I know I probably should have put it in the fridge but I forgot --was too tired--
Thanks.

carrotsandcelery · 07/02/2012 09:48

It will be fine to eat BlackCat just give it a decent simmer. We do it quite often as the fridge is often too full.

Morning all. I am just whizzing out with a friend and will be running around all day but will try to pop in and out.

I can't do my dishes as we have run out of dw tablets (and it was unthinkable to do them in the sink Wink) so that is a job for later.

The house is a tip with just one day's inattendance, which shows me how much this is helping us all.

-> to anyone flagging today (while I skive off again Grin)

OP posts:
Scout19075 · 07/02/2012 10:07

I'll only be able to make part of the 1 o'clock clean club today (we leave at 1:30 for swimming). I like the 1 o'clock clean club. Grin

Ta Das so far:
we're up [grin -- I didn't particularly want to get up this morning)
finished washing up last night's pots (including slow cooker)
stew in slow cooker for tonight's dinner
swimming bag packed (less snacks/juice in case TS raids the bag)
packed HE bag for tomorrow
1 hour declutter in bedroom Shock
built brio track across sofa
cleaned up cereal spill (x3 -- TS wasn't paying attention today)

To Do before swimming:
empty upstairs trash & diaper pail
put said trashbag into bin
take kitchen trash to bin
put snack in swimming bag
put on swimsuit before going (so much easier if I'm only putting one of us in our suits at the leisure center)
lunch
tidy up from lunch (goal is NO dishes in the sink/on the side when it's time to eat dinner)

I've taken the former toy bins and used them upstairs for a Scout & MrScout bin for clothes and other stuff. I think I need a separate bin just for MrScout's "other stuff." It's amazing the crap stuff I've found in just that short time. I got TS to help -- I'd give him something and show him what bin to put it in and he'd scoop it in. I made it a real game and he enjoyed it (until he got bored and went to play with some toys in our room).

I know TS's only 2.3 but I have him help:
clear up toys
put washing in/out of washer/dryer
at shops put things in the shopping basket/onto checkout belt
give club cards and/or pay if using cash
simple cooking like stir or pour (today he helped mix the "sauce" for the stew)
carry bottles to the recycling (if we're going out together he gets a bottle to carry to the bin, which is in our driveway, and put in)

Is there anything else I can have him help me do? Probably dusting, when we get to where it's part of the routine. And I know he likes the dustpan & brush but for now it's just play (he's not good at actually getting things).

liveinazoo · 07/02/2012 10:08

youve been busy blackcat

just got in

school run was awful...we have freezing fog,black ice and remnants snow/slush on all side roads.
we live halfway up/down a hill and roads black ice and frozen slush all the\way.paths worse.took ages to slither down to a main road(dd2 hysteracal as slipped and banged cheekbone last year-black eye swollen face.terrified ice)
damn school entrance on side road and they hadnt bothered to grit path outside kids falling like bowling pins.grrr.someone complained at xcaretaker.he offered them bag grit.q outburst angry mums reminding him recession on and loads people would take his job and do properly(he storms into school)

did 15mins ironing while kids got dressed and made beds

1st day in 2wks dd3 at nursery (cof with lots phleegm making her gag
) so must get on while child free

will be in for 1o'clock club,lurking from 12ish

BlackCatTryingToFly · 07/02/2012 11:10

Scout you have been busy! That is good that your DS helps to clean and tidy.

Zoo The slush and ice sounds awful.
We have sunshine again but a cold wind today so not as nice as yesterday.

I have just been to the shop cause we needed cat food.

Will try to do 1.00 club but DM might be coming to visit so not sure if I can do it. She asked why I hadn't been over to their house lately, it is hard to fit everything in.
If I spend a lot of time out of the house it ends up looking like a tip on the other hand if I stay home cleaning all the time I don't get to see anyone.
It is hard to find a balance between, housework, children, school, family, shopping, homework MN etc, etc, I could go on but you all know what it's like trying to juggle everything.
DM has no DC at home now so has all the time in the world! I think she forgets what it was like when we were all living at home. No maybe she doesn't but the thing is I'm the only girl in our family (I have brothers) and it's just different for them. When you're a mum you are responsible for more things at home!

Sorry that turned into a rant! She sometimes makes me cross!

If I'm not around later then you will know DM is visiting. Smile

bessie26 · 07/02/2012 11:41

black feel free to rant away!

scout DD1(3.3) was probably helping me clean the cupboard fronts in the kitchen at that age, and wiping the table (just don't clean the floor first), putting her bowl & cutlery into the sink, and very specific cleaning tasks - like, you know where the bath & the bath panel meet? it gets grimy there with dust/cat fluff & water, and I clean it with an old toothbrush - she LOVES doing that weirdo, and wiping the floor. She also started "helping" me clear up any mess she made, like if she spilt a drink, I would give her a piece of kitchen roll so she could help me. Obviously she was more of a hinderance than a help, but I wanted to get her used to the idea of clearing up after herself!

I have finally sucummed to the Big Hair thing & ordered myself some, and a little storage unit which I'm hoping will be good to put DD1s tea set & pretend food in (currently in show boxes on the floor).

I have also got lunch in the slow cooker, and have swished & swiped upstairs. DD2 woke up a few times in the night (thankfully she managed to settle herself again) and so I'm letting her have a long nap this morning - I may regret this, this afternoon! I have also written a very polite reply to a "friend" explaining that I am on mat leave & so am unable to organise a dress down day within my (huge) company for the charity begging letter she forwarded to me

Right, I'd better go wake her up - it's almost time for lunch!

BlackCatTryingToFly · 07/02/2012 12:50

I have no idea if or when DM will turn up so I am going to make a start on washing up. If she is not here at 2.00 I will try and pop back in to report on progress.

bessie26 · 07/02/2012 12:52

oh, and WRT MrScout, I don't really know what to suggest, other than putting his "very important" stuff in a box in every room, in the hope that he will sort it, but by the sounds of it, I'm not sure you will have the space for a big enough box!

Does he understand how much his clutter is annoying you? I don't really know what kind of poorly you might be when your treatment starts, but could you explain that it is (by the sounds of it) bringing you down? and that if (even some of it) was put away (perhaps in the living room so you could easily have guests) round it would make your life MUCH easier & you MUCH happier?

I guess his hording is partly habit? (like your decluttering has become! Grin) and he can't be expected to totally change overnight, but perhaps he could try to keep one room clear? (you may have to forfit another one though!)

When I started decluttering, I found it very difficult to get rid of some things, for example books (just paperbacks I was never going to read again) so I looked through them & chose just a few to give away. Then a few weeks later, I did the same thing. and again, and again. Would a teeny-tiny baby steps approach like that work with him? Perhaps the fact that he doesn't have to sort it ALL out at once, just get rid of a little bit of it, would make it easier?

BlackCatTryingToFly · 07/02/2012 13:00
liveinazoo · 07/02/2012 13:02

ready to fly?
just finishing a mamoth bowl casserole dish of soup
back at 2

Swipe left for the next trending thread