Working our way through the babysteps - the new installment of the back to school flylady thread

[Carrotsandcelery]

Hello again everyone! This is the new thread for us as the old one was getting a bit unmanageable.

Oh, and my DD1 will be 3 next month too! This time next year we need to be applying for schools!!!

Oh bessie I hadn't thought about school, my dd will be 3 in November.
Ds will be 8 on Tuesday.

No, I'm still here! My house has been the cleanest and tidiest it's ever been all week and my IL popped round today when we were in toy chaos. Oh I could just cry!!!!!!

Autumn my DC's are similar in age to yours, DS is 7 and DD will be 3 in Dec. We were looking at a school on Sat! ekk

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Evening everyone. I hope everyone has had a good weekend.

I have survived the visit to my dmil. Dsil was only there for about 5 hours and was perfectly pleasant for that time. Hopefully things will settle down now that everyone has completely ignored the problem seen each other. Dmil and I had a great laugh together with the dcs so I feel much more part of the family again.

Since we have been home I have unpacked the suitcase and got one load of washing on. That will be about it for tonight but I will get going again tomorrow.

Autumn I am sorry you are leaving. I hope the new thread works for you. If it does please let us in on the secret. Come back and visit often.

glad it went better than you thought carrots. I'm off for my soak now and read my book, catch up with everyone tomorrow.

Glad the weekend went well carrots

I've done bugger all today! Just 2 loads of washing & none of my usual Sunday chores! We went for a BBQ at a friends house for lunch and the girls & I all had a nice nap this arvo

So lots to do tomorrow, am up with snotty DD2 atm - surely this cold can't go on for much longer?

Morning all.

I hope everyone is well slept and all dcs are healthy.

It is a beautiful day here so I have been on a much bigger than normal walk with the dog. I barely moved at all over the weekend and spent a lot of time in the car so I feel it has done me the world of good.

I haven't done much housework yet today. I have been posting ebay sales and listing more items though so that counts as a bit of decluttering. This ebay lark is a bit addictive as well as helping to empty the house and making me a bit of cash for Christmas.

So far I have:
washed and dressed to shoes
made packed lunches
got dcs to school
posted parcels
walked dog
put another wash on
hung a load of washing
listed some stuff on ebay
cricked my neck - I have no idea how

To do:
load dishwasher
clean worktops
empty bin
declutter kitchen table
sort some clothing/do some ironing
see if we have any food in the house

We are away again on Friday as dh is running in a marathon [proud emoticon] so I don't want to stock up too much. I see it as a good opportunity to empty the fridge and freezer a bit this week.

Today's mission is here something that needs done in this house, definitely.

What is everyone else up to?

Just though I would pop in and say hello.
I am on my lunch break so am MNetting. I need to go and wrap ds birthday presents in a minute and I am waiting for mum to visit. Hope she remembers I have to get ds from school later.

You have been busy Carrots.
Hope you didn't mind me leaving the baby steps thread. I was just finding it hard to get everything done but I will keep using some of what I learned along the way.
Catch you later.

Hi Autumn I am missing you today. I hope you find a system that works for you.

Aww Carrots, I might pop on to give you a bit of cheering on as it is quiet on here in the day time. I suppose some people are at work.
I am very tired at the moment as I also have a cold as well as my other health issues.
I must go as dd wants me.

I have just lost it with ds1 he was being really horrid to a 4 year old girl, he's a very large 9 btw, and I tried getting him in, to tell him his behaviour was not acceptable, he wasn't happy and I had to take him in by his ear as he wouldn't comply any other way, I tried to tell him calmly that his behaviour to the four year old girl was unacceptable and he shouldn't threaten to hit other children, so please can you go back out and say sorry, at this point I wasn't touching him he completely avoided eye contact throughout little chat, then he thumped me in the shoulder, so I told him to go to his room, he refused to go ran to the lounge and said he was staying on the sofa, I carried on with the go to your room repeatedly he carried on shouting, no I am going to stay here, I ended up taking him by his arm, very difficult with a 6 and a half stone 12 year old sized boy screaming, shouting and hitting you, I got as far as the stairs and he carried on screaming at me and shouting that he was going to stay here so I ended up screaming in his face to go to his room, I know, not good with an possibly aspie boy but he wasn't listening. All I wanted him to do was apologise I cant believe it escalated that far, my throat hurts I hate raising my voice and the worst bit is the front door was wide open and everyone on the close heard it I'm feeling very guilty now. :( sorry about the rant guys:(

Oh Gossip don't feel bad. I have lost it over much less and I am sure many others have too. Sometimes we are just human and need a bit of forgiveness (and sometimes dcs need to know that they have pushed it too far too).

Have a to help your throat and give each other some space for a while. Make sure you give him a good hug before bed though and you can apologise for shouting and encourage him to apologise for his behaviour.

Big hugs and don't be so hard on yourself.

I've ended up locking my self in my bedroom because of him. gggrrrrrrrrr!!!!

He's broken a door handle.

Oh jings Gossip has it all calmed down now? If not is there someone you could phone to be around until he settles down?

Gossip are you ok? Has everything settled down?

Yeah I'm fine both kids have gone to sleep ds1 was upset that he broke the door handle he didn't mean to, he was using it for leverage to try and open my door [hmmm], he just had a major meltdown i am struggling with what to do with him I've asked on sn what they do with their aspie kids and it all tried and tested stuff but I don't know whether I'm doing it right or at the right times even, sometimes he'll meltdown, others he'll go hyper and nuts and others he'll calm down but I don't know his triggers because he's so bleeding unpredictable.
but at least he's asleep now and I've managed to devour a big fat bar of choccy to get me fat to feel better. Bloody drama's, I really wish I could have a calmer life sometimes.

Oh Gossip - poor you How are you feeling this morning?

Hope the ebay sales are going OK Carrots - are you using their labels? It took me ages to work out they're cheaper than Royal Mail.

My voice is a bit croaky this morning from breaking it but ds1 has apologised and I explained the reasons for why I was angry with him, he seemed to understand and he has been helpful and obedient too lol. Off to do a course this morning so I'll check back in later.

I am glad things have calmed down Gossip and I hope you enjoy your course.
Robot I had no idea that the ebay labels were cheaper. I will have to look into that but we have no working printer just now (we are techno fails on that front)
I have a busy day ahead so won't be popping in I don't think. I hope everyone has a good day though.

Oh, Gossip that sounds pretty tough. Hope things are calmer for you all today.

Robot, that's a good tip about Ebay postage. I have loads of stuff to list, but I hate doing it - it seems to take me forever.

Autumn, sorry you're going, but I know what you mean. I find it easy to compare myself with others and then get dispirited at how much I'm still struggling with the housework.

I've lost my enthusiasm for housework now and I'm running out of steam in general. My evening routine has completely gone down the pan and I'm struggling to get up & out in the mornings. So I'm going to re-start from the very basics again. My parents are visiting tomorrow which should give me a bit of extra time / motivation for a couple of hours.

On the positive side, the house is still a lot tidier than it was, the washing up is usually done after each meal now and the bathroom is swished & swiped daily, which makes a huge difference to the feel of the house.

Yay I've finished the baby steps. I'm going to join you on the daily mission Carrots.
Hope you're ok gossip sounds full on last night. Hope you enjoy your course, what are you doing?
thanks for the top tip robot. I haven't been brave enough to sell on ebay yet but one day the day will come. I'm more of a buyer of random rubbish treasure.

Angel are you letting your perfectionism get the better of you? Set that timer :)