OK The boys start back at School on Monday, so who is up for a Baby Fly thread

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But rather than a one a day baby step, we do a two a day one.

I need to get back on top of things, plus I will be on my own for the first time in over 5 years.

What's happened KAQ? Nothing too terrible I hope?

Thereisalight - The bin bag threat worked a treat! She's 11, so more than capable, just always been a bit of a disorganised slob (like her mum )
My youngest is 6 and every so often she manages to tidy her room so well I have to search the wardrobe and under the bed etc to see wear it's all been stuffed :)

My kitchen is looking remarkably tidy...just have to keep it that way now, that's the hard bit.
Next battle, is the landing/study area and as always keeping on top of the washing pile.....

Things seem to be going ok today, no disasters at all for at least 2 hours! Amongst other things I just bought a new ( to me at least) car, it really needed cleaning so I took it to be valetted, if you ever do that, stay and watch. I didn't and couldn't work out why my car was so wet - allegedly they cleaned the interior with a jet wash :(....

Am utterly knackered tho, so I'll be back for catchup tomorrow.....

I don't suppose either of you have seen my motivation anywhere, have you?

I know it's here somewhere...

Its probably eloped with mine. The dcs are doing their drive mummy nuts bit today by all shouting for help with dif things at the same time. In a way its my own fault for being a bit disorganised. After all if all their drinks bottles were lined up on the mantlepiece after breakfast they wouldn't be asking for a drink etc etc.

No4 doesn't want to feed to sleep tonite, but he's exhausted and so am I.

I give up today, I'm going to get him to bed have a glass of something and go to bed myself.

Tomorrow I need to get out of the house with the kids and take them somewhere they can run about - let off some steam.

Night.

Laundry monster's back...

I think we have 2 choices here...
We can either give up and sacrifice ourselves to the laundry monster or start again.

Where do we start?

I just stunned mine, but the kids have disassembled the house while I did it :(

I have 2 and a 1/2 hours tomorrow morning to get straight.

I can see it, but just not quite reach it iykwim?

so much to do...

we will make it you know, we might have crap motivation, but we are clearly tenacious! We're the only ones left!

x

Yes - we are still here. We will do it. We will get back on track.

You know, I've not been feeling great - sort of unhappy, not unwell or anything. And when I get like this (I'm assuming it's my hormones - I was like this with DD2, too), I like not to go anywhere or do anything.

But I'm being a bit hassled by a friend - keeps telling me how worried she is about me (I know I'm a bit grumpy, but really, I think she's going overboard a bit) - anyway, taking these comments on board, I've been trying to get out to see people - people I've been putting off seeing for a while - things just kept coming up - it's not that I didn't want to see them, more that I couldn't. Anyway, the long and short of it is that - if you make the effort to see people, you can't actually get anything done round the house, can you?

So after this week, I'm stopping and hibernating again as the untidiness and chaos is creeping back and I don't want that. And it also makes me feel anxious - I have 3 children to run around after and very little time for myself or my DH, and I know it might sound awful, but I've not got much left to spare at the moment. My family and my house (and my sanity) are my priorities for the next little while. And if that makes me grumpy, so be it!

I'd like to get the house sorted so that I can get a cleaner in once a fortnight up until the baby is born and for a few months after - but the house has got to be de-cluttered and sorted beforehand. So I really need to get back on track. I have to re-motivate myself.

I'm glad you 2 are here still.

X

Thereis, Your description of you your feelings and your balance of the little time that you have being divided up between going out and doing housework..... sounds exactly like me. Most people don't understand that I'm actually much hapier when the house is under control, some people can say "bugger it" but I hate coming back to a messy house!

In RL I try not to give advice unless I'm asked for it, on the basis that people don't appreciate it most of the time.

So feel free to ignore the next paragraph...

It has been found that there is a corellation between omega 3 oils and depression. The way it works ( basically) is like this. Your brain cells are all connected together, when your body is low in EPA or DHA they don't communicate well. When pregnant the baby takes as much epa / dha as it needs to grow and develope, leaving the mother with a defisit. It is felt that this is what causes ( in many cases) PND. Certainly most mothers with PND are low in EPA and DHA. If you take very high quality Omega 3 ( must be high quality and screened to ensure it doesn't contain mercury) it can act like happy pills. It reduces the risk of PND and gives your baby as much as they need. It helped me loads, I never had PND, but I used to get those feeling of " can't face the world" " hibernate" etc.... Feel free to ignore if you wish :)

I'm going to be daring.

I'm going to start tomorrow with a list!

See you 2moz

I feel a bit of a fool for having rambled on on here of all places! Really sorry .

I'm ususally OK once baby has been born (so far anyway). It could explain a lot. I'll hav a lok into this though, KAQ - and thank you. I really appreciate it. Do I get supplements from health food shops?

But - like you - I've done a list - and I've done quite a lot on it already!

It's just dawned on me that I too like a tidy house - but that I'm not so motivated - so it's hard. But if I can keep on top of it - things are generally much easier and the world seems a bit brighter.

Thank you again

x

Don't feel a fool, There is no need, I have rambled lots of crap on here at times and I may have to namechange completely soon because I've outed myself on another thread. Which is my own fault but annoying because I've been KAQ for quite a while.

I'm mostly unmotivated when pregnant - interspersed with moments of extreme organisation, somehow everything comes together and the house is straight before the baby arrives

I'll find you a link for the omega 3, you do have to be careful to take the right one, I'll come back to you on that one...

I'm going to write my list when I get back from the school run 2moz, I did my "Good friend" bit today and literally held my friends hand at the dentist, out all day so my house is a tip!

x

Thereisalight - How long do you have to go?
I think it's completely natural to want your home under control when you're about to have a baby. The old ladies would call it nesting.

With 2 dc's already I can completely understand your need to not let the situation spiral out of hand.

It is good to get out, but like you, I need to spend time at home to get myself straight.

Having a fairly orderly house means life runs more smoothly. On the rare occasions I manage it, I feel so much more in control. I just can't keep it up. Life is a juggling act with a family isn't it....

DD1 lost her school diary at the weekend. It contains all her homework deadlines, timetables, passwords, teacher contact details etc. She was utterly convinced she last had it at home on Friday.
I turned the house upside down looking for it and felt guilty myself, as if things were more orderly she wouldn't have lost it.
Anyway it turned up at school on Tuesday, so not my fault after all. But it has made me really want to get sorted.

I'm making a list today too. I'm going to keep it short and achievable.

Post parcel
Run errands,bank etc
Wash load out
Dry wash load put away
Hoover throughout
Clean kitchen

I could add to this, but I want to tick everything off, so I'll keep it short.

I might make a long term list that I take things from each day too. Am I slipping back into my list habit?? (All list making no time for anything else!)

I have come to realise that if I get on top of the house and do a "tickle and flick" in every room every day getting rid of the post and putting away the washing. Then it doesn't get out of hand in the 1st place. Once its out of hand its hell to get back on top.

Todays goals
Clean Bathroom DONE
Dishwasher unload DONE
Dishwasher Load DONE
Do Ironing DONE
Sew on school badge
Put away clothes
Sort our room
Cook Tea
Lay Table for breakfast
Find Waterbottles
Clear Stairs

I think that is doable and set me up for a good start tomorrow.

Back later :)

That's where I need to be KAQ - and then I might, might just stand a chance of getting round to the other more odious chores (like our bedroom). But at the moment I'm treading water - my routine isn't established enough yet for it to become second nature so I keep lapsing and then I have to catch up again. And by that time I'm exhausted and fed up with housework and don't do much for a day or two and then we're back to square one.

If I could keep it in a fairly decent state to start with, I might be able to move forward and have the house I want.

KAQ

Supplements something like this?

Hang on a minute.... i'll be back...

Right, found it :) last year I was on a thread where a lady called Knicknack dropped in, and posted a link on the thread to the best ones to buy. I also posted on the thread to the ones that I have been using over the last few years, but I suspect she knows much more than me.

The thread is here

Being as I'm giving you that info, I may as well give you my list of pregnancy necessities, again feel free to ignore :)

Iron replacement when needed always use Spatone ( available in Boots the chemist) doesn't cause all the nasty side effects and is completely natural.

Pregnancy multivitamins I always use Solgar prenatal nutrients, the vitamins in it are naturally sourced and I discovered I react badly to synthetic vitamins - with dd1 I thought I had morning sickness for months it was actualy caused by the folic acid I was taking! and apparantly 50% of us are likely to have the same reaction!

For acid indigestion take natural yogurt - its a natural alkalai whereas milk is slightly acidic and will long term make things worse.

For omega 3 I took the pharmanord ones on the link, I started off at 1 a day and gradualy increased it to 2/3 I don't recall which But its the amount stated.
The double bonus of taking it is that lots of women get constipated towards the end of the pregnancy, but it kind of helped things along

Lastly, whatever you take , take it at night. Its less likely to upset your stomach.

HTH, but feel free to ignore :)

Oh yes, on the link my name was kitkatqueen- I've lost a bit of chub since then

Thereis.. going back to your house, can your dp give you a hand to get on top?? Even if it was just a couple of rooms completely straight? Because if you could get to that point those rooms you can keep on top of. I think you are doing really well tbh, its very hard to get things sorted when you are pregnant.

If you are near me I would be happy to turn up and help, I'm in Norfolk, or could any of your friends or family help out?

I totally believe that you can do it, but I think its going to take a lot out of you in the process.

Hope you are ok.
x

Memudmagnet, how are you doing????

Hello!

Not doing brilliantly
dd2 having problems at school (might be dyslexic) so spending all my time researching stuff and working out how to help her.
No work done.
No washing done.
House a tip.

Must have a go at it tomorrow.

Thereisalight - I'd help too if I could (Sussex)
Must be off now for some food a glass of wine
Back later.....

MeMudmagnet, sorry to hear about your dd! How old is she? What problems is she having?

My Dsis has severe dylexia and completed a degree a few years ago as a mature student - she was only diagnosed during her 1st year of her degree. There is so much they can do to help now :) The most important thing is know if that is really the problem.

I've given the kids chores silly names and it seems to be helping! While I'm swishing and swiping the bathroom in the mornings they "Chuck,Flip and Yank"! ( Chuck jimjams under pillows flip duvet over bed yank the curtains ) Then everybody shouts light monitors while the 2 that can reach the light switches flick them all off!

My house is at about 70 % atm The clean washing monster is raising its ugly head again, but I've been ill again.:( I don't understand it. I never get ill and in the last 6 months its been every few weeks. I wonder if I should speak to the gp about it, maybe my immune system is low for some reason

Glad theres still 3 of us :)

KickArse - How did your Dsis get to that stage without anyone knowing there was a problem??
DD is only 6 and so far behind her peers (at least a year)she can't read or write without help. She has started with a specialist tutor out of school.

WRT to household chaos...
It would seem, for all of us, when things throw us off course (illness, pregnancy tiredness, any other complications) we lose control a bit.

Glad you appear to be gaining ground, that's encouraging

memudmagnet, I have no idea, when she was finally assessed and they found a way to help her ( tinted lenses ) she told me they were surpised she had managed as she had for so long. You've got me -I don't know! She did leave school without a single exam result tho!

According to my dsis without her special specs the words move around the page, individual letters float above the page, I can imagine that would make reading v difficult. :(

If your dd is 6 then I'm told by my friend whose ds is 6 that she cannot have a diagnosis of dyslexia for her 6 yr old because a diagnosis is not valid until they meet all criteria and 1 of the criteria is age, they must be 7. Its ridiculous! I've recommended to my friend that she gets her ds tested separatley from the school.

Just being nosy really but is it the school that have suggested dyslexia? Have you ever heard of dyspraxia?

Even if dyspraxia is not the issue the dyspraxia foundation reccomends a book with to do pages for children which can really help with writing. They are quite expensive but you can pick them up on ebay. I'm considering getting one for dd2 because they are so helpful with chape forming.

Please feel free to tell me to bugger off :) or mind my own!

It's her outside tutor that suspects dyslexia. She has also recommended that we wait till she's 7 before testing. School have been pretty disinterested so far.