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I hate home Ed ☹️

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Rachaelc1981 · 12/12/2023 15:13

As the title suggests…… I hate home schooling. I have 2 sons being home schooled. We took them out of school at the beginning of the pandemic. Eldest is 12 and other is 8. They just won’t do it. They are both so far behind. I sit with them every day encouraging, helping, supporting and providing everything they need. They won’t concentrate, they will write 2-3 words and then sit and talk about sodding YouTube etc then continue with 2 more words and so on. They both need to go back to school but I don’t know how I’m going to get them back with them being so far behind. I even do school work at weekends and during holidays if they haven’t done enough that week. My 8 year old has many issues (tics and still has accidents) so I’m worried he will get bullied. My eldest is extremely immature for his age, again worried he will get bullied. I’m not looking to be judged or even needing a reply, I’m just venting off as I feel there is no way out of this situation ☹️

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Kittylala · 14/12/2023 12:22

Time to go back to school. Home Ed simply does not work and you are letting your kids down and you know it. I don't need a debate about it. I taught home Ed kids privately - I've never known kids to be so bratty and their parents so entitled! Never again!!!

SutWytTi · 14/12/2023 12:33

Kittylala · 14/12/2023 12:22

Home ed does work, but clearly not in this case.

Rocknrolla21 · 14/12/2023 12:38

Thesearmsofmine · 14/12/2023 10:08

Honestly this post is depressing to read. There are always certain people who push home ed at all costs even when it isn’t working and it reflects so poorly on the community.

It’s been coming up to four years that these children have been at home, OP has posted several times that she doesn’t like it, that one of her children has asked to return to school, that her children may have SEN(if not then there is clearly something else at play for an 8 year old to be in nappies still) but the OP hasn’t done anything about it.
Yes there are different ways to home ed which for some can be successful but the OP has had almost four years to research different options and try them out. This isn’t someone new to home education who is finding their feet.

it’s ok to admit that home education isn’t the right choice for your family, what isn’t ok is to plough on regardless at the detriment to your children.

This. The op has had them at home for 4 years. They need to go to school, not longer at home. I’d love to know where they are in terms of education compared to my just turned 7yo. She has 15-20 mins homework a night. That’s 10 mins reading which is usually 25-40 pages of a book, atm she’s reading about Victorian surgical practises. 3 tasks on Emile which could be anything from number bonds, fractions, grammar, geometry etc. and a few minutes on spelling bee and times table rocks stars. She probably covers far more in her 20 mins homework than the op does all day. Also if they’re at home isolating then presumably they don’t do any extra curricular activities either? Our primary school has an after school club every day, this term the clubs are a bit rubbish, but my DD’s chosen forest school and Christmas crafts. The terms with the good clubs she’ll stay after school every day, and she also has swimming lessons once a week. The ops children sound utterly deprived :/

Minglingpringle · 14/12/2023 12:40

What is your husband’s stance on this? Can he help you grasp the nettle and take action? Or is he encouraging you to continue home educating?

Kittylala · 14/12/2023 13:54

That may be your opinion. If it worked, more kids would be learning at home. There's a reason why teachers have to train many years. I wish you good luck.

Thesearmsofmine · 14/12/2023 16:00

Kittylala · 14/12/2023 13:54

That may be your opinion. If it worked, more kids would be learning at home. There's a reason why teachers have to train many years. I wish you good luck.

There are thousands of children being successfully educated at home and the numbers are growing all the time. Of course it doesn’t work for all and I do think the OP should put her children into school going by the information she has given but blanket statements like home education doesn’t work sound foolish when it is quite clear for many it does.
As for teachers training for many years, I could complete a QTS course in a few months. In independent schools and academies you don’t need QTS at all. There are also some teachers who really shouldn’t be in the job.

yousexybugger · 14/12/2023 17:34

HJ40 · 14/12/2023 11:33

Whatever opinions on anything else, I think it's a much, @yousexybugger , to call the 8yo incontinent because they wear nappies at night.

Unfortunately I stand by it. There could be a perfectly simple reason but it should be investigated.

OP it is much better to admit you're out of your depth and seek support than allow this to drag on. It is ok to do that.

TheGrimm · 14/12/2023 17:58

Put your children first for once.

You admit you are sinking and are dragging your children down with you.

I would sacrifice myself for my child.

You have put them at the mercy of the world ill equipped and with targets on their backs.

I hope you can correct this and change their future trajectory.

I fear your defensiveness and self righteousness will stop you from putting your children first ……. For once?

Please, prove me wrong.

eardefender · 22/12/2023 09:24

Hi Op, schools are generally shit. You cant just chuck them in and hope for the best, sorry to say this but there is no guarantee they will get anywhere near the support they need. Hence why these boards are full of parents who have had to remove their send children. Sen provision in schools is dreadful and schools simply cannot cope with the needs they are presented with.

Get them in the process of assessment and diagnoses by contacting GP and getting them referred.

Apply for both of them to be assessed for an EHCP and then be prepared to appeal and fight for it. This will give them to help they need to return to school.

A tutor is about £25 an hour. use some of their DLA money to pay, even for an hour a week, they will engage and listen to a tutor and they can be given some homework.

Having a send child is hard and overwhelming, having two even more so but you can only kick the can down the road for so long.

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