What’s missing in my daughters room

[Mamadooley]

We have a few decorative bits we are waiting on being delivered but does it seem something is missing from my daughters bedroom?

@Davethecat2001

This is my daughters room.. she is older but still likes pink, but decided against too pink and girly as she will no doubt get to an age where she doesn't love it so much!

We went full on rainbow instead.

I was actually going to go rainbow but when I went to order the stickers they were over £60 delivery! Plus the cost of the stickers 🥵 so we had a change of plan, I mean I could have got different ones but they were very nice

@Davethecat2001

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You’re daughters room is beautiful!

It’s really pretty, I would get some nice curtains.

@Davethecat2001 wow! Love your DD’s room! So bright and colourful

@Mamadooley I love your daughters room. My son has autism and would never cope in a room with bright colours and toys. That’s fine for children who can cope with that but my son needs a calming, very neutral space that doesn’t overwhelm him.

I’m sure she will absolutely love it!

No one saying it needs to be bright, people are just suggesting some more variations of colour.

Also, not all Autistic people are the same. My eldest is quite happy to have lots of colour around.

The OP however, knows her child better than we do.

@Midlifemusings surely for a BEDroom to be functional it needs a bed.. which this has?

I personally don’t think toys are for bedrooms.

@DoucheCanoe I’m assuming that wasn’t for me as that’s a big reach from what I said which was just a little anecdote about my own child and sympathising with OP who also said her daughter needed a calming space earlier in the thread.

I think the ability to hang things in the wardrobe, so a little step/stool. Books need to be lower. Laundry basket and a mirror. A diary/calendar/to do list can be very helpful. Music?

@5zeds

I think the ability to hang things in the wardrobe, so a little step/stool. Books need to be lower. Laundry basket and a mirror. A diary/calendar/to do list can be very helpful. Music?

Thankyou for your suggestions, my daughter is 23 months old and non communicative, we’re in the very long process of working towards an autism diagnosis. I won’t go into it all but there’s certain things that aren’t practical for her that would be lovely for another little girl her age in the same room. She will have an Google home in her room when we move into it. It’s one of those things that’s personal to each Individual child and at this age my neurotypical sons room was full of stuff but it’s just not same for my daughter because her needs are not the same as his were and she dosnt do and play with things in the same way he would. It’s very difficult for people to understand without meeting my daughter I suppose xxx

Try a hot pink cushion and rug for accent.
It will add some pop.
It's a sweet room though

Toys!!

Not speaking at 23 months is pretty normal though isn’t it? My 23 month old literally started saying a few words in the last month. But he isn’t talking sentences or anything, just dada, mama etc..

He can also climb up in the arm chair and leap off, but it’s not particularly dangerous imo, it’s just a chair, it doesn’t tip, and he usually sits on it.

I know you mention Autism, and it’s good your looking into it. But please be careful she doesn’t get a label of autistic = not being able to do anything alone. As time goes on, there are many things you should be letting her do alone, ie getting own clothes out drawers with guidance, choosing book to look at. As lovely as it is, at some point, toddlers become older children and then adults who need to have as much independence as possible, even with additional needs. You can make it easier by adding drawers and only putting say 4 T-shirts in, 4 socks, and the rest higher.

@Caspianberg

Not speaking at 23 months is pretty normal though isn’t it? My 23 month old literally started saying a few words in the last month. But he isn’t talking sentences or anything, just dada, mama etc..

He can also climb up in the arm chair and leap off, but it’s not particularly dangerous imo, it’s just a chair, it doesn’t tip, and he usually sits on it.

I know you mention Autism, and it’s good your looking into it. But please be careful she doesn’t get a label of autistic = not being able to do anything alone. As time goes on, there are many things you should be letting her do alone, ie getting own clothes out drawers with guidance, choosing book to look at. As lovely as it is, at some point, toddlers become older children and then adults who need to have as much independence as possible, even with additional needs. You can make it easier by adding drawers and only putting say 4 T-shirts in, 4 socks, and the rest higher.

There is much more to it that just not speaking, and when I say not speaking I mean at all. There’s certain things that as her mum I need to protect her from, for example she has no concept of fear and head bangs so I have to be very careful, I mean ideally I would like to get her a fabric bed for that very reason but it won’t stop her banging her head on the wall 😩

@Caspianberg you’ve just reminded me that dh and I had a big disagreement over dd around 18-28 months.

He was convinced she was autistic- no speech, wouldn’t sit still, couldn’t watch tv, climbed absolutely everything and anything. She was actually pretty dangerous and needed watching constantly. Little interaction with us as she was too busy climbing and jumping.

I even spoke to the hv about it, although I thought in my ignorance that autistic children were the “good” babies that sat quietly on their play gym, because they didn’t need the social interaction. Dh was much more experienced with children and SEN than I was.

Needless to say she was just fine. Did very very well in gymnastics which I started as an outlet for the climbing and to use up some of that energy. She trained every day for years and that kept her energy levels under control- miss a session and she was back to sitting on the roof and sliding down the bannister!

It’s good to get the assessments done early but there is such a wide range of “normal”

[quote Nomoreusernames1244]@Caspianberg you’ve just reminded me that dh and I had a big disagreement over dd around 18-28 months.

He was convinced she was autistic- no speech, wouldn’t sit still, couldn’t watch tv, climbed absolutely everything and anything. She was actually pretty dangerous and needed watching constantly. Little interaction with us as she was too busy climbing and jumping.

I even spoke to the hv about it, although I thought in my ignorance that autistic children were the “good” babies that sat quietly on their play gym, because they didn’t need the social interaction. Dh was much more experienced with children and SEN than I was.

Needless to say she was just fine. Did very very well in gymnastics which I started as an outlet for the climbing and to use up some of that energy. She trained every day for years and that kept her energy levels under control- miss a session and she was back to sitting on the roof and sliding down the bannister!

It’s good to get the assessments done early but there is such a wide range of “normal”[/quote]
I agree there’s a huge range for normal! Although when our health visitor came to do a visit at our home, she totally agreed that she needed to be seen, but in my dd’s case I am almost certain she is autistic and if she isn’t I would be astounded

@Mamadooley one of my children is autistic so I thought quite hard what helped. Montessori bedrooms are worth a Google for ideas and the kind of things I described are very helpful especially if your child struggles to communicate.
A time line and a posting box might really help too.

Just noticed you said she has no sense of danger, is the wardrobe tied back to the wall? You can get kits to easily fix furniture back so it can't be tipped over.

@PragmaticWench

Just noticed you said she has no sense of danger, is the wardrobe tied back to the wall? You can get kits to easily fix furniture back so it can't be tipped over.

No not at the moment, but it has a child lock at the top so she can’t open it, but anchoring is something we will be doing xx

@Derbee

Also, those plastic socket covers are dangerous. If you do some research you’ll see they’re not recommended. They increase the risk of electrocution and house fires. Much better to put the box from by the window (which is also dangerous!) against the wall, over the sockets.

I know you said you’ll have the windows locked, but I still think having a box by the window is a design flaw.

Just wanted to repeat this advice about the socket covers @Mamadooley , it's something that jumped out when I was looking at the pics too.

For room decor, my preference is always more books 😉

Something like this to meet her need to climb?home4dreams.com/en/pikler-triangle-toys/
Some blankets and a rug to hide under.
Beautiful room.

home4dreams.com/en/pikler-triangle-toys/

Curtains.

As far as head banging goes what about a padded panel like a head board on the wall? You could add Velcro dots so she could stick up soft stars or moon or little stuffed animals. For an autistic child you might like to add some texture to rub your hands on as that can be very calming. There are some beautiful oil and water timers and lamps too.

@LaWench

Bedside table with lamp.

Yep. Always have a table with lamp next to the bed