What’s missing in my daughters room

[Mamadooley]

We have a few decorative bits we are waiting on being delivered but does it seem something is missing from my daughters bedroom?

@JuliaSways

My god, someone left the gate open at the Let's Be Twats farm.

It's a lovely room OP. Some excellent suggestions already, but to make it less pale you could go for the opposite colour (on the colour wheel) for the prints? So from memory....that's going to be greens.

That's an excellent suggestion for a colour if op is going to add another colour. A minty green would go brilliantly with soft pink(which I love by the way).

@Mamadooley

We have a few decorative bits we are waiting on being delivered but does it seem something is missing from my daughters bedroom?

The child.....

Honestly it’s not to my taste as I’m not keen on overly gendering a child’s bedroom with the traditional ‘pretty pink’ for girls and ‘trucks and trains’ for boys. I’m a fan of quite bright colours, which is obviously not to everyone’s taste, but it works for us. Possibly because I grew up with parents who also didn’t do the gendered bedroom/toys thing and my siblings and I (probably unrelated to the colours of our bedrooms I admit!) have gone on to have careers that have definitely not been the ‘gender norm’. Each to their own, and what works for some won’t be right for others, but it’s worth having a think about (as you said earlier), it’s more for you than your child.

Curtains definitely.

Also it may just be the picture, but the carpet looks lumpy. You've said it's new carpet...I'd definitely be having a word with the company that fitted it.

It looks great but I think you are prioritizing aesthetic over function. It is very feminine and pretty and I get that is your aesthetic but it doesn't look practical, fun, or functional.

To me kids spaces should be ones where they can play and relax. A room where she can never be alone because it wasn't really designed for a child and so wouldn't be safe is a shame.

I am sure your daughter is very loved and well cared for but if this need for the perfect room bleeds over to clothes or other areas where she always has to look great and play the pretty, feminine girl role - and that takes precedence over fun and function, it might be time to reevaluate.

Weirdly my first thought was a really large cuddly rabbit. Just googled and found one at a bargain £130 so maybe not. Basket of books and a couple of framed prints I think. But really, it’s a lovely room, and I hope she’s delighted with it :)

Ignore that random seaside photo - not sure what happened there

Toybox/bench at the food of the bed or as a bedside table, turn the wardrobe round so it's against the window wall, some crates for her toys and general stuff to go into at the end of the day, stick a radiator cover on, put a chalkboard/place for her to put things up on the wall on the right as you look towards her bed, wall mounted dimmable light over the bed, bunting in darker pink/leaf green/white/etc at ceiling height, a green rug (thinking of colours of roses and other flowers) and some pictures of natural things such as flowers and trees.

And of course the blackout curtains. I'd go for a leaf green again.

A reading light, comfy chair for an adult, tons and tons of books.

Nightly reading to a child (from a very young age) and introducing them to the world of books is one of the most important things you can do for a child.

Way more important than decor - lovely as it is.

Yes there have been some pure vile comments from nasty jealous posters, I still believe if she had posted a boys room that was mostly blue she wouldn’t have been told to make it less blue 🙄

I would have again suggested some additions to make it less stereotypically boy. Some craft materials or soft blankets, soft toys if people can’t go as far as a doll

I haven’t seen anything vile, or jealousy. Some have said it’s not to their taste and others have said it needs brightening up, but nothing nasty. You should report any posts that break guidelines.

@Nomoreusernames1244

Yes there have been some pure vile comments from nasty jealous posters, I still believe if she had posted a boys room that was mostly blue she wouldn’t have been told to make it less blue 🙄

I would have again suggested some additions to make it less stereotypically boy. Some craft materials or soft blankets, soft toys if people can’t go as far as a doll

I haven’t seen anything vile, or jealousy. Some have said it’s not to their taste and others have said it needs brightening up, but nothing nasty. You should report any posts that break guidelines.

*Clear #Humblebrag here.

Ooooh look at how wonderful our kids room is. 🙄

Have a biscuit. biscuit*

So this isn’t a nasty comment? Unnecessary and uncalled for? It literally took me two
Seconds to find that comment.

I love children's bedrooms 💜

I think an orange rug and art with a dollop of orange would look fab.

I don't think you'll like my idea though, I think you're more conservative than me 😝

@Mamadooley

My daughter is just under 2 and a climber! The book shelves are up high for her safety. When she’s a little older they will be lower. And we need to have things tidy and away so she dosnt stay awake all night playing 😂 toddlers eh 😅

If she's a climber make sure you lock the window, seeing a box next to a window terrifies me.

I like the idea of a dolls house 

You've had a number of people giving you information about why mixing up the traditional girly stuff with something more neutral or traditionally 'boy' is shown to help development in many, many areas. But that's the one you pick.

You clearly have a lovely house and you've taken time and care to create a nice space for your daughter. The value of that - and the caring mother who does it - can't be underestimated. But please try to consider the input of those challenging your worldview if it could possibly help your daughter

@Midlifemusings Has put it really well

@Chippingin2

I like the idea of a dolls house 

You've had a number of people giving you information about why mixing up the traditional girly stuff with something more neutral or traditionally 'boy' is shown to help development in many, many areas. But that's the one you pick.

You clearly have a lovely house and you've taken time and care to create a nice space for your daughter. The value of that - and the caring mother who does it - can't be underestimated. But please try to consider the input of those challenging your worldview if it could possibly help your daughter

@Midlifemusings Has put it really well

That’s pretty harsh! A doll’s house facilitates small world play which is really important..

“Giving children the opportunity to act out experiences through small world play supports the development of their personal, social and emotional skills. It acts as a catalyst for children to explore their innermost thoughts and feelings.”

It’s also good to encourage children to keep their room tidy and a doll’s house is perfect for this as she can be encouraged to put everything back inside when she has finished. Book basket as suggested by someone else is a great idea too!

It’s very two-colour, I’d suggest adding more colours.

She’ll personalise it up soon I’m sure.

Also, those plastic socket covers are dangerous. If you do some research you’ll see they’re not recommended. They increase the risk of electrocution and house fires. Much better to put the box from by the window (which is also dangerous!) against the wall, over the sockets.

I know you said you’ll have the windows locked, but I still think having a box by the window is a design flaw.

*"Kolani

A chair and bedside table with a lamp.

Yes."*

I actually wouldn't introduce this for a child so young. I know with my first he would have just injured himself or qesed himself inbetween that and the bed even with the bed guard! He got one at about 3 and i will do the same with my second.

Wedged*

I'm enjoying all the posters criticising OP for designing a traditionally feminine room while showing their own sexist arses.

@Mamadooley I think it's a beautiful room. My daughter is Autistic and has a very minimal room. No toys, simple colours and tidy. She has books as she loves reading but they are all lined up and in a specific order. She has a desk etc but she's 12 so needs it for her learning. This has to stay tidy and even her highlighter pens have to be facing the right way and in the right order.
She can't cope if her room is a mess or if it's full of clutter and toys.
I think your daughters room looks like a lovely calm place to be, and if she's anything like my daughter you will do all you can to encourage sleep.
A busy, cluttered room with things out of place causes my daughter anxiety and she won't settle if something is out of place.

Enjoy your new home x

I would add a rainbow rug:

www.dunelm.com/product/pink-rainbow-rug-1000182246?defaultSkuId=30715927&ds_c=Kids_Kids_Rugs_%5BGOO-PLA-KIDSACCESS-RUGS%5D&gclid=CjwKCAjwrfCRBhAXEiwAnkmKmWbGGGO4F1rzE29r5eECWQXtPfpmzbmf0iXaV217SwISuHsAfTHrTRoC5kMQAvD_BwE&gclsrc=aw.ds

Does it matter if she plays with it?

And you will definitely regret it come June if you don't add black out curtains.

To those people being unkind. My daughter has sen. To her mess & clutter would not be fun. It would be horrific & stressful & unpleasant. Op this is a lovely calm room. All the pink isn't personally my taste & I think more books, but it's a lovely lovely room & non-gendered toys.

This is my daughters room.. she is older but still likes pink, but decided against too pink and girly as she will no doubt get to an age where she doesn't love it so much!

We went full on rainbow instead.

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