Husband and Bloody Holidays!

[PotatoPudding]

DH hates spending money on holidays because, unless it’s food, he thinks it’s a waste to spend money on things you can’t keep. He’s also a massive snob. He was fine to go on holidays when I was able to pay for them, though.

His dad lives in Florida (not a cool part) and his sister lives in Spain (a really boring, small town) where there’s nothing for me
or DS 5 to do. DH just spends time catching up with his family while we are stuck indoors (in Florida) with nowhere to go (there are no paths and it’s miles to anywhere).

He refuses to go to a resort because he thinks only poor people go to resorts. I found a lovely week-long Norwegian cruise for £700pp but he doesn’t see the point without the extra package for more restaurants we won’t eat in, which is another £300 per person. He’s therefore saying £3000 for one week is too expensive.

I don’t want to go self-catering because I want a bloody holiday with coffee being poured for me and no dishes to clear up.

I am open to all suggestions home
and away.

However, please don’t bother commenting if it’s just to criticise my husband or my marriage; I know he’s an arse. I want good holiday suggestions.

Well it seems an obvious suggestion, but as you are in Florida anyway could you not extend your trip for a few days in Orlando?

He won’t pay the hotel, park and car hire prices on top of the £3000 round trip.

Surely there's a whole world of hotels in nice places which are not in a resort and are less expensive than a £3000 cruise?

That’s why I am here: For Mumsnetters to let me know what’s out there.

Part of the reason I went back to work full time!

I am just part time at the moment, as I study two days a week. Once I am qualified, I will go full time again.

Have a look at I-escape there’s some cool kid friendly but non resort places.

Well I would start refusing to go on these boring trips to visit his relatives then. The money saved can pay for a proper holiday.

Thank you. I will check it out.

Or to be more helpful, what holidays did you go on prior to DD that he enjoyed, to get an idea of the art of the possible.

This place is lovely
https://www.i-escape.com/muxima

Gorgeous and reasonably priced
https://www.i-escape.com/azur-hotel

Lovely place
https://www.i-escape.com/villa-pia

We don’t really like the same kind of holidays, so didn’t have many together. The only place we both enjoyed was Tokyo, which we will go to when DS is older.

I don't think you can be married, as I am married to that man. #sorrynotsorry.

It's absolutely infuriating. I have put my foot down now the kids are older and refuse to go, and book my own holidays

😂😂😂😂

I can’t wait until DS is older and can have a proper say. I really struggle visiting family, as it’s not really a holiday. Maybe I should leave them both at home and just bugger off to the Maldives.

Good luck @PotatoPudding we’ve been to the 3 linked and all were great, interesting, non resorty and perfect for 5 year olds. I felt like I’d had a holiday!

Yup. He does not get that 4 weeks a year with his parents is no holiday for me.

I have two long weekends away booked and am looking for 5 days over October half term. I'm thinking something AI with a pool so no cooking or cleaning up or laundry and I can swim, knit and read while the kids mess around in the pool, with maybe a couple of day trips. Organised by the hotel so I am not visiting the same places over and over again.

Thank you. These all look amazing!

How about somewhere like Sri Lanka? We did that at that age and stayed in some really cool places. Or is he a 5 star guy? We love little guesthouses with character (although do like 5 star sometimes too!)

@PotatoPudding Im sorry but I cannot resist this! Anyone who goes on a cheep cruise and thinks it’s enhanced by paying extra for yet more frozen food is not a snob. They are deluded.

How old is DS? Can you just not book a family resort with him? Lots of parents go away with dc without husbands. See it all the time in Cornwall. Rent a house and DH comes if he wants to. I get the hotel but (and I agree) but self catering is better than boring Florida! Or go with your parents? Is that possible?

Thank you for your comment. DS is 5 and DH refuses to go to a resort. I mean, he’s never actually been to anything other than a ski resort, but he knows exactly what it will be like apparently.

Sadly, I don’t have the funds or freedom to go on my own and I don’t have my parents anymore (well, my mum is alive but ancient and batty)

Why does your "d"h get final say on holidays? Why does he get to make all the decisions?
Just tell him you want to go to x resort in August, ask if he is interested, when he says no way fine, I'll just go with ds then and book the holiday and go and enjoy. And when he wants to visit his family, just let him go on his own

It’s his money.

What sort of food does he like?

What about an agriturismo in Italy? Lots have nice facilities for kids plus provide gorgeous food in the evenings.