Mozhe IS NOT going back to work next week after all......

[mozhe]

.....no, have decided to delay it by a week or so......Mr Mozhe is on 'incubator watching' duties....P-in-L's are manning the home front,( and DSsX3...), with nice new aupair....and Mozhe,Nanny and DTs are off to St Barts,( in lovely Carribean...),for a week's sun/swim/chill out !!
Any one been before ? Any pointers ? Off first thing tomorrow......

Nbg - I wasn't expressing an opinion on whether they are right or not just stating what I believe is fact. She is not sitting cuddling him, but watching him.

cod x posts .. so relieved i am not the only doubter!

I must go do stuff...will think on that bonding question...honest !
I am nice person really...but think perhaps I don't know a lot of people like those who hang out on MN,( probably why I like it...),nobody I know in RL has said anything like some of the posts on here.
Staff on NICU think it's a good idea...even children's psychologist is supporyive.
Is it because I feel I want to do it ? Or because I can do it ?

agree with awen

stop showing off

utter nonsense

Kew - I was thinking the same kind of thing - that the way newborns/premmies are looked after in France is I think very different to over here. The culture/mind set will be different.

Oh well maybe one day he wiill be the chosen one to go on holiday with mummy, and nanny. (huge sigh)

I am at your decision to do this.

OK I've not been in your position but I've had friends with babies in SCBU who have not wanted to leave the unit to have a meal or few hours sleep let alone leave the unit for a weeks holiday.

Fair do's Kew.

All I know that if I had a baby in SCBU I would implant match sticks into my eyes so that I couldnt take my eyes off him.

right.. so she scarpers when people start doubting her postings.. hmm

I have doubted her validity before.. tbh i do so even more now.

Ok this is too much, am meant to be working but really...

water-ski-ing? just after giving birth
St Barts?

Jealous as fuck? Yes, of course I am, and in the nicest possible way, are you totally barking mad insane? You sound a little out of touch with your circumstances, really. Is it honestly worth it?
France has beaches too.
Do you not have a garden you can lie in? A balcon?
Whip the old bikini on, have a cocktail, read Paris Match, and voila, you're virtually in St Barts.
Hope your lo is doing ok, btw

I also post from the rather detached position of being parent to a child who was in a similar position to Mozhe's DS and utterly alone for first three months in hospital. He has no problem bonding.

Have no idea what I would feel in her position.

"nobody I know in RL has said anything like some of the posts on here. "

that's the joy of Mumsnet, we can say what we really think... your friends might not

"Is it because I feel I want to do it ? Or because I can do it ? "

It's because you want to and that you don't see anything wrong/strange/bizarre about it.

I could go to St Barts tomorrow and leave my very young children if I chose to but I don't want to. I would hate to leave my toddler children for a week, let alone a preemie in nicu.

I am with pph on this one Mohze. Most of the time I admire your zen stance - but for me the maternal pull would be overwhelming and I could not leave a newborn baby in SCBU and go so far and for so long; no matter how competitive the father and medical care were.

Speccy - I think mozhe is fake. THere I have said it. She wouldnt be the first. Has anyone seen pics etc ??

mozhe, just rereading your old thread - you said your DH was taking time off in October, how come the sudden change? You also said you were going back to work immediately, but that it was ok because your department is right by the hospital.

That's not quite the same as several hours away by plane, is it?!

pic of mozhe waterskiing while wearing huge maternity towels and dripping breastmilk......

instead of you going now and then dh going later-why not wait and all go together as a family in the future?

or would that be too normal?

I can see why people are disagrering - just think its pointless.

I do this Awens post was uncalled for "he is prob shagging the au pair. "

why is everyone getting so het up? Sure they would not make the same choice - but really her choice has no impact on you or anyone else you know.

So fine - let her and her DH make their choice and you can all step away from the thread.

Why bother ranting ?

I have doubted her before - I have felt she posts for a reaction quite often.

Seeing awen and other feel the same makes me feel less horrid.