Mozhe IS NOT going back to work next week after all......

[mozhe]

.....no, have decided to delay it by a week or so......Mr Mozhe is on 'incubator watching' duties....P-in-L's are manning the home front,( and DSsX3...), with nice new aupair....and Mozhe,Nanny and DTs are off to St Barts,( in lovely Carribean...),for a week's sun/swim/chill out !!
Any one been before ? Any pointers ? Off first thing tomorrow......

Sorry but I think it is wrong

properly wrong

not just 'I dont like your shoes' wrong

so therefore I feel totally justified in criticising mozhes decision

mozhe you have said before that you don't feel like you have had a baby and sound like you are in shock - wouldn't a few days bed rest or just being pampered be a good idea first?

I hope it all goes well xxx

totally wrong
whaty if she is very ill sunddely?
eys the dad is hter but oculd oyu ever fogive yourself
nwo is not the time

saying that it isn't something you would do is a bit pointless isn't it? there's lots of things I wouldn't do that other people have done, would go out of my way to point this out to them unless they asked - she has five other children and has had premmies before and doesn't seem to be an unintelligent woman. Presumably she is accepting the risk involved in being away for a week.

infection?
the baby is not eeven term ?

barking!!!!

Well I agree too, Cod, but I'm trying to be open-minded it and see it from all angles ...!

dont
s eh is WRONG

and neglectful

mozhe - Given that many people spend years trying for a baby and fail I find it sickening that you have had quite a few (and recently a new one) and yet you happily scoot about on holiday, work etc.

Whats the point of you having kids exactly? I dont get it!

I have to say I wouldn't leave my toddler children even now to go on a week's holiday thousands of miles away - I'm far too soft and would miss them terribly. And I enjoy spending time with them.

Want to come Kew + Dotty ?
I know some people would not do this but it feels absolutely right to me....he will not miss me. We do not know each other well yet...his Dad will have a chance to get to know him a bit better too...
Am more worried about DSs having been given a Nintendo Weii....hope they don't play on it all the time..
DH will go to St Barts with DSs and aupair when I get back....just in case anyone thinks they are being short changed

of course it s not pointless

can never understand people who start threads then expect everyone to agree with them

if you were in SBCU and saw a tinsy baby in an incubator and heard the mother had gone to the Caribbean for a holdiay what would you think, really honestly?

and if anyone says 'well I would respect her decision and of course we cannot judge ' then you are talking bolleaux

Mozhe - when I responded initially, I thought when I saw
'incubator watching' duties

blimey she has a newborn baby. Then I thought, nah can't be talking about a baby, she's also on about going back to work.

Must be talking about a pet. Honestly this is what I thought.

I really, really, hope you don't regret your decision.

seriously I don't think that there is much to be gained about shouting that she is a neglectful/bad mother

But I do think that you sound like you are in shock tbh - and your body undoubtedly is still reeling from hormones etc, never mind your emotional health

If you and your family honestly think this is themost sensible thing for your and your baby's health then do it

I would feel more worried for you if you actually do manage to relax in St Barts

Part of the reason you do not know each other well yet is because you are clearly not that interested in getting to know him

If you were you would not be going on holiday

he is prob shagging the au pair.

I am sorry, I am going to go away now. I have close friends who have LIVED in NICU/SCBU for long time, and friends who have lost their premature babies, friends who spend their life grieving and regret any second spent away from their littles, whose only thought is if I could only held baby just ONCE more.... and then there is you, jetting off to luxurious st barts because holiday is nice. I think I am going to be sick.

I must say leaving a very very preemie in an incubator to go 9 hours flight away strikes me as an utterly bizarre thing to do. If you need sun and sand and a holiday, what is wrong with France?! It is July, after all. Mozhe, I know I named this kid, and we've had a few laughs, but I really think you are the living proof of my theory that all psychiatrists are nutters

your dh must be mad too

Mozhe, not having a go at you, honestly, but considering your plans and your specialism, [please be patient with me], I have always wondered if the following is just pseudo psychological babble used to inflict unnecesary guilt in new mums:

What are your views on "Bonding"?

Please feel free not to answer now. It would be very nice to know that after all, babies are not soooooo sensitive to our early choices as we have been made to believe.

No sarcasm on this, honestly.

AND THERE MY MATE SHOPPINGBAGS WIHT her ONYL SON WHO IS 14 MONTSH who may well ahev cnacer worrying her heart out ashe has a biopsy

and there this.
words fail me
am orf

Good for you for going but can't help wondering if you're posting for approval