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Mozhe IS NOT going back to work next week after all......

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mozhe · 16/07/2007 13:36

.....no, have decided to delay it by a week or so......Mr Mozhe is on 'incubator watching' duties....P-in-L's are manning the home front,( and DSsX3...), with nice new aupair....and Mozhe,Nanny and DTs are off to St Barts,( in lovely Carribean...),for a week's sun/swim/chill out !!
Any one been before ? Any pointers ? Off first thing tomorrow......

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PenelopePitstops · 16/07/2007 14:21

are you for real?

You are crazy if you are.

MamaMaiasaura · 16/07/2007 14:22

Kewcumber.. but if i actually believed she was a real poster I woulndt have. I dont beleive she is a psychaitrist, I dont beleive any of it tbh. I think she is fictitous and is making it all up.. I feel shit thinking this, but I do. I dont believe any of it.

JodieG1 · 16/07/2007 14:22

Awen I'm inclined to agree with you.

Cammelia · 16/07/2007 14:23

3 things:

  1. You're leaving your premature baby in scbu while you go to the Caribbean

  2. Your dh is going later without you but with the au pair and

  3. Don't go waterskiing so soon after having a baby, your ligaments will not yet have recovered form the softening in pregnancy. You will do you back, knees, arms in

IsabelWatchingItRainInMacondo · 16/07/2007 14:23

I really don't know Mozhe, but I have noticed that where people in RL tends to smile and nod at some of ideas, I would be getting much honest response here where nobody is particularly worried of offending me.

I don't think it's a problem that you can afford it, many people do, and although I don't have much contact with the higher classes, I know it is not unusual to pass most of the new child's care into hired carers soon after the birth. I know a few people who do that, they seem happy, their children seem happy, although all their children have called the carer "mum" at some point or another.

But, it is another world.

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mozhe · 16/07/2007 14:24

Am real....think I'll clear off now and pack....
Sorry to upset folk...I know other people who have gone on hols in similar circs...St Barts, because a friend has offered me use of his appartment there...it sounded nice
Why not waterski ? Obstetrician said it would be fine...
I will be in London in Sept...will try to meet up with Kew,( that all right Kew ? ), to hand over photo,( she knows what I mean...it would be nicer to see who I was giving it to iyswim Kew..), and then perhaps you will not thnk peole who make different choices are not real

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Speccy · 16/07/2007 14:24

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Kewcumber · 16/07/2007 14:24

I believe she is a real poster - or at least as "real" as anyone on here albeit possibly one who enjoys exaggerating for effect.

I don;t see how you can assume someone who posts regularly isn't real just because they do something you consider to be beyond the pale. People do it all the time in real life - why not on MN?

Tutter · 16/07/2007 14:25

can i just point out enid's comment "go to fricking Babington House for the weekend like normal people"

chopchopbusybusy · 16/07/2007 14:25

So Mohze - when will you get a chance to get to know your son. I assume you are going back to work as soon as you return. As for others secretly wishing they could go, I am sure many posters on this site would be able to go but would just choose not to. Oh and yes, I have done SCBU.

I also have suspicions that you are not real - or am I just hoping you can't be real.

squiffy · 16/07/2007 14:25

Of course Mozhe is barking - anyone who's been on MN has known that for months.

Mozhe, go, enjoy and let someone else do all the wind-up/trollish/offensive posts in your absence. I am sure you are more than capable of doing the physician healing thyself bit if you get a guilt hit whilst you are out there...if you're not too busy gloating at your two pensions and buy to lets and purrrfect lifestyle that is...

and if I were Xenia I would be really upset by the post asking if she and Mozhe were one and the same... that's a hell of a lot more insulting than anything the SAH's have ever thrown at her...

Kewcumber · 16/07/2007 14:26

I'd be so grateful Mozhe - thanks. Would be happy to met you. Either in my neck of the woods (out west) or City based nr work?

Hope mozhette continues his progress - cat me when you get back.

NeverTickleASleepingSoupDragon · 16/07/2007 14:26
Shock
StarryStarryNight · 16/07/2007 14:26

Well Mozhe, maybe you get a lot of honest reactions here on MN from people with different life experiences.

Anybody can go on holiday to st barts should they chose to, so it is not because you can that people are wound up about this.... It is because you chose to.

nearlythere · 16/07/2007 14:29

to be fait in mohze's shoes i wouldn't be getting on a plane to st barts (oh and yes it is nice, very quiet and mind your p's and q's) i'd be volunteering myself for the nearest high security mental institution

GryffindorInARiffindor · 16/07/2007 14:30

Do you really think so little of people that you think their issue is raging jealousy that you are jetting off as opposed to sheer amazment that a mother could leave thier sick child because an apartment sounded nice???

I don't know if you are for real, as I said, I have had my doubts - but as chopchop said - maybe I just want to believe that you can't be.

Good Lord....I'm leaving the thread now

RubyRioja · 16/07/2007 14:31

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Blu · 16/07/2007 14:32

Mozhe - is St Barts renowned for weatersports and waterskiing? If you wanted a very french island which offers extreme sports, have you considered Reunion in the Indian ocean? You can do long (5 day) treks amongst live volcanoes, as well as diving, parascending, and all the usual stuff.

I went to Broadstairs when DS was 2 weeks old and tackled some very challenging ice cream.
(But did take Ds with me.)

If it works for you, well, the logic of it is all in place - your baby will be fine, I'm sure, and your other children very fine. But you know this isn't normal don't you? So you can't be too surprised at the reaction?

Anyway, best wishes for your baby's quick growth and increasing strength, and hope your holiday works out well.

lulumama · 16/07/2007 14:33

mozhe

i think that you might be in shock

this does not seem a rational decision

surely you can delay going until baby is older, stronger and less in need of the sound, smell and love of his mum

lulumama · 16/07/2007 14:33

mozhe

i think that you might be in shock

this does not seem a rational decision

surely you can delay going until baby is older, stronger and less in need of the sound, smell and love of his mum

wannaBe · 16/07/2007 14:35

words fail me. Will just say that I agree with Enid and cod. and ...

some people don't deserve to have children.

madamez · 16/07/2007 14:37

I fail to see what's so wrong with this. The baby is being properly cared for, after all. And there's a lot of mythological bullshit about 'bonding' which is often used to justify controlling women's behaviour rather than being rooted in any actual, provable medical fact (OK so an infant deprived of any affectionate contact will die, but it doesn't matter that much whether the contact is from mother, father, sibling, grandparent, adoptive parent or professional carer. If this weren't so, babies would invariably die if their mothers hadn't lived through childbirth).
Have a nice holiday, Moz, but take it easy with the waterski-ing.

Cammelia · 16/07/2007 14:38

Bonding is equally important for the mother madamez

Luella · 16/07/2007 14:38

mozhe, can I just say from someone who has had a baby in special care that I understand where you are coming from, but please re-consider the holiday as you will most probably regret it in the future.

People who have not been in this situation will no doubt find it shocking to hear mozhe saying, the baby will not miss her, she needs a break etc. But I understand totally where you are coming from. You don't allow yourself to bond with the baby as you're too scared something will go wrong and you can't let yourself open up that amount of love, as a way of protecting yourself. I get it. And the going away thing, when my DD was a couple of days old, I had to get away from the intensity of the SCBU, and I went for lunch with DH. At the time, I thought it was what I needed, but I still to this day regret that I left DD for a couple of hours when she needed me. It hasn't prevented us bonding, and since then I have become more overprotective than normal, don't want to leave her overnight etc, even though she's now 20 months old. By the way, in the restaurant the waiter asked when the baby was due as I still had a bump, and then it hit me, I needed to be with her. Please take this on board mozhe, because with the hormones etc, you are not thinking straight at this moment.

controlfreakyflitwick · 16/07/2007 14:39

mozhe.....
are you:
(a) xenias long lost twin
(b) sectioned
(c) hairy arsed trucker form east midlands
(e) someone who enjoys provoking reactions by their attention seeking behavior
(e) all of the above.

enjoy your holiday