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Original poster

Mozhe IS NOT going back to work next week after all......

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mozhe · 16/07/2007 13:36

.....no, have decided to delay it by a week or so......Mr Mozhe is on 'incubator watching' duties....P-in-L's are manning the home front,( and DSsX3...), with nice new aupair....and Mozhe,Nanny and DTs are off to St Barts,( in lovely Carribean...),for a week's sun/swim/chill out !!
Any one been before ? Any pointers ? Off first thing tomorrow......

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Nbg · 16/07/2007 14:07

But Mozhe of course he knows you well enough.
He knows your sound, your smell, your touch.

I find it sad that you've had that bad a time that your leaving your premature son to go to the Caribbean.
You must have really been through some shit.

zookeeper · 16/07/2007 14:08

If you are you have mine

Enid · 16/07/2007 14:08

go to fricking Babington House for the weekend like normal people

o fgs dont go anywaher

you dont DESERVE a holiday - your job is to be with your baby and help him through this horrible time

have a holiday later

Original poster
mozhe · 16/07/2007 14:09

I didn't think it would make people feel so cross...sorry !
Honestly thought it would be a 'sarongs and crocs' thread.....
He is my DH's baby too....he is fine...prem and little but not ill....they will have a great time together.
Bed and lolling around house are not my thing....I am hoping to waterski for first time.

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Enid · 16/07/2007 14:09

lolol at waterskiing

MintyDixCharrington · 16/07/2007 14:09

(and obviously HE won't miss YOU, he is too small. I think all of us are a bit shocked about how little YOU will miss HIM and how little you seem to care that if he becomes ill or anything worse, you will not be able to be there)

LittleLupin · 16/07/2007 14:10

Well, I'm guessing from the frivolous nature of your posts, mozhe, that Tristan is perfectly healthy and you have no concerns about him? (genuine question, not a dig)

I think you're barking but hey, your children, your choice

JodieG1 · 16/07/2007 14:10

I agree with Enid and Cod. My first baby was in scbu for a week and it was a terrible time. She was 36 weeks as well and weighed 5lb 14 and a half. We were there all the time with her and couldn't have left her for a week. Shocked really. Hope baby is doing well but I don't think you're doing the right thing in going away.

goingfor3 · 16/07/2007 14:10

You and your son don't know each other yet! Spend more time together then

RubyRioja · 16/07/2007 14:11

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MamaMaiasaura · 16/07/2007 14:11

I dont actually fully believe you, I dont actually believe that what you are saying is true tbh. Maybe I am niave but it just doesnt 'feel' or 'sit' right.

Nbg · 16/07/2007 14:11

Waterskiing at what, 2 weeks PN?

Pmsl

MamaMaiasaura · 16/07/2007 14:11

ruby - x posts

Kewcumber · 16/07/2007 14:11

"He knows your sound, your smell, your touch" - not sure he does. I think medics in France discourage interation with premmie that small (correct me if I'm wrong, someone) It is felt the child is still meant to be in-utero and the less intervention other than minimum medical the better. They don;t encourage kangeroo care (is that the right term?) like the Uk in fact posuitively discourage it

Yurtgirl · 16/07/2007 14:12

LL Pity the children who dont get a choice though eh!

Surely all children however old they are would choose to be with their mother and father.

LittleLupin · 16/07/2007 14:12

RubyR, I think you might have a point

IsabelWatchingItRainInMacondo · 16/07/2007 14:12

"....I am hoping to waterski for first time. "

Now you have made me , you are trying stiring us up? aren't you?

Have a good time whatever your decide.

P.S. But if you have an oportunity to tell us why we should be more relaxed about the bonding issue, please do!

StarryStarryNight · 16/07/2007 14:13

I find this entire thread entirely offencive and sickening.

Mozhe, you must be out of your mind.
Waterski? Are you on drugs? Or more importantly, should you be?

Nbg · 16/07/2007 14:13

ahh well they must be right then.

The boy will never know his mum by the sounds of it.

Bye have fun in St Barts.

GryffindorInARiffindor · 16/07/2007 14:13

I do hope you don't have regrets later

I don't find it shocking or dreadful that you are leaving him without his mummy. I find it incredibly sad.

Tamum · 16/07/2007 14:14

Have to agree with Enid. I can't imagine leaving a helathy newborn, let alone one in SCBU, but the idea of going away so far that there was no hope of getting back if anything went wrong (whether or not I could "do" anything).. words fail me.

LittleLupin · 16/07/2007 14:14

Yurtgirl - I know, I am just loathe to criticise another woman's parenting choices. I could not leave my (perfectly healthy) 15 month old for a week, but that's my choice.

TheCodDelusion · 16/07/2007 14:14

did we ever find out if mozhe nad xeina are hte same e perosn?

MamaMaiasaura · 16/07/2007 14:14

no offence but does anyone here know mozhe in RL. Are you real or a fictiuos poster?? My firneds ds was in hig care and she hardly left his side. Ds is having tonislls out in September, I will be staying at hopstual with hm and at home with him while he recouperates.. this is a relatively minor operation. A premature baby requiring high care where things can change so fast.. hmm I dont think wild horses would tear me away.