Mozhe IS NOT going back to work next week after all......

[mozhe]

.....no, have decided to delay it by a week or so......Mr Mozhe is on 'incubator watching' duties....P-in-L's are manning the home front,( and DSsX3...), with nice new aupair....and Mozhe,Nanny and DTs are off to St Barts,( in lovely Carribean...),for a week's sun/swim/chill out !!
Any one been before ? Any pointers ? Off first thing tomorrow......

Not so fast ll!

You are right - far too hasty me.

ARRGGHH sprots day is cancelled, my spelling is pretty shite atm. Anyhow.. another post to bump this to extinction

Havign now read Mozhe's birth announcement thread, I can see that she makes a number of comments about watching a premmie new born sleeping is like watching paint dry. If that is how she is feeling and has the opportuinity for a "free" holiday, I personally can understand why she took up the offer, espcially when she knew her dh would be there for her ds. SHe has made her own judgement about the risk of something that might happen while she is way, against the good it could do her (and the twins), and while her decision may not be everyone's, it is still a valid one.

It's maybe not what everyone would do - but then, that is what Mumsnet is all about - lots of different ways of parenting.

I have done things that many people on Mumsnet would utterly condemn (from leaving children alone in hotel rooms, to giving him fruit shoots, to letting him cross the road on his own) - yet I don't think it make me a bad parent. Equally, I try not to condemn other parent for doing things I personally don't like/wouldn't do (although I do struggle for dummies in 4 year old childeren ). I love my ds dearly, but when he was born 6 years ago, I didn't feel an immediate bond in the way that some describe. My love for him has grown over the years, as he becomes more of a wee person.

I choose always to take posters at face value rather than think the worst. If they are conning me, then that is an indictment on them rather than me. I will always choose to think the best until proven otherwise. If that is naive, then I would prefer to remain that way.

Are you doing a Cod Awen? Good impression

Noo I am just very lazy and cant be bothered to go back and edit my posts time and again.. Als o press send too fast so sometimes say very norty things

Yep 808 and still going.....

I think there's a lack of insight here...although haven't read the whole thing so maybe someone's said this already.

But it seems really, really obvious to me that Mozhe and her child have yet properly to bond, and the fact she is going away is probably her way of dealing with the huge (unfelt as yet) shock of giving birth so early, combined with the immense frustration of not being 'allowed' near her child in the way a new mother needs to be in order to cement the realtionship.

It must be bkloody awful to see your baby in special care and not be able to touch him, take him home, enjoy him...or even feel sure that he is yours to keep .

Having just had a baby, well I find it hard to leave him in a different room...I feel so strongly for him...but then, I am allowed to. He is healthy, he is home, he is ready to be loved, he is mine.

Some of us are not so lucky to be able to let ourselves 'indulge' in our new children...it would be too painful, should they never make it through this little limbo.

Go easy

flightattendant - ptsd is very common in extremely premature births I gather and often triggered if you have already experienced one before - classic symptoms are lack of bonding and disassociation amongst others. I wouldn't be presumptious enough to state this is the case here - she may just fancy a nice holiday, or she may just be a very elaborate, very well researched, very well sustained troll.

Back from st barts yet?

What do you care?

She doesn't exist remember?

call it curiousity.

Yeah I spose you must be fed up waiting for her to get back,

You're probably giving yourself an RSI from all that knive sharpening..............

was thinking today that it's a shame she never came back to tell us how things went. whilst i couldn't leave a 3 week old in hospital to go on holiday i'm not as against this as a lot of people were. i could easily leave a healthy 4 week old for a couple of weeks if i needed a break.

what fun - a revival

HERE WE ARE

odd that someone bumped it before you, but 2 years ago