Graduation present - is it a thing?

[Treviarpelli]

Dd graduates this year, we’re beyond proud, we have funded her and will celebrate with her generously- but it’s only just occurring to me that graduation gifts are a thing?
Likewise flowers on the day, she seems to think they’re a thing, I think they’ll be a pain in the arse waste of money personally

My dd graduated two years ago. I didn’t see any flowers.

i didn’t do a gift but don’t see any reason not too.

I graduated in 1994 and my parents gave me a cheque to fund my gap year. Very generous when I look back.

Flowers are an American custom. A few grads had them at DD’s ceremony last year but I’d say they are completely unnecessary and a pain. She settled for a drink in the uni bar’s souvenir plastic pint glass
Oh and having three years rent paid for her.

Yes its a thing. I wouldnt do flowers but I hate cut flowers. Id get her a nice piece of jewellery oe a good bag.

Two of our girls have graduated, no way would I want to carry flowers around but each day we happened to have 30 degrees weather! There’s so much time, hours of getting gowns, the ceremony, photos, they’d be dead by the photo stage! I did get each one a nice bracelet or something from Missoma that they each wore on the day.

I've always been of the opinion that the reward you get for working hard at school/university is your qualifications. My parents never gave me presents for passing exams etc, they were very much of the "success is it's own reward" school of thought so it didn't really occur to me to get presents for my DC. We always took them out for a meal or something to celebrate the end of school exams though and we did go out for nice meals the night before their graduations.

My son’s friendship group all got Jellycat graduation eggs, they absolutely loved them!

Assuming this is university graduation, yes presents are a thing. I got diamond earrings, as did quite a few of my friends. The guys got watches mostly.

American commercialisation. Why would you spend more money when you've just funded your kids through Uni? Save it for their house deposit rather than graduation tat.

I'm quite clearly very working class, old or both. My parents didn't buy me anything (2008), and I didn't expect anything. Maybe times have changed, but if you have funded her education too she is bl**dy lucky! My parents contribution to my degree was 2 bags of food shopping once. A token gift maybe, but I'd certainly not be asking for things.

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I mean, we paid / will be paying for the gown etc, and the Graduation tickets, and a meal out afterwards, but no presents as such.

Flowers on the day would be SO impractical.

It’s a thing. My DM bought me a frame to display my degree as a graduation gift. It has the university’s crest embroidered into it. It’s very special to me.

She treated us to a meal at my favourite restaurant too.

Edit: I think flowers would be impractical too.

I wouldn’t buy flowers, graduation is a long day and she or you will have to Carry them about all day.

ds got money which he put into his savings account .

dd graduates this year and she has studied for 5 years to gain her masters. Dh and I are so proud of all her hard work and determination.

we have got her a pendant and bracelet and a coach bag. Also paid for her outfit, her gown and photo and then the meal out. I think in total we have spent approx £1000.

It never crossed my mind not to buy her a gift.

Our dd graduates this summer. A big no to flowers as we are staying near her uni the night before and she’ll be busy with the ceremony, photos and friends on the day.
Our gift to her is a trilogy of books that relate to a very specific part of her studies that she’s very passionate about. The books are out of print and we have managed to get hold of a beautiful set of first editions from a second hand book shop

Nothing major 😆😆

Flowers do seem to be a thing now, they weren’t though when I graduated eleventy billion years ago.

I am ashamed to say I asked for a briefcase for my graduation. I realised it looked bloody abysmal though. I was the original briefcase wanker long before Will in the Inbetweeners

Oh and I got a Garfield cuddly toy with a mortar board on! I loved Garfield

We got DS an expensive watch. Lots of the girls seemed to have flowers.

Yeap, it was always a thing as far as I know. I got a present for my graduation. My mum got me a beautiful set of earrings which I actually wore them on my wedding day too.

Let me get this straight... You're super proud and have funded her education but are quibbling about 'wasting money' on a bunch of flowers? She has specifically stated she thinks flowers on graduation are 'a thing' so it's clearly important to her and it's a kind yet simple gesture on your part.

Just buy the flowers hun.

That sounds like a very thoughtful gift.

Flowers on the day a pain unless you can pop back somewhere and put them in water. After DDs morning graduation/reception/lunch/drinks there were lots of expensive flowers looking like the sorry bunches in my local petrol station forecourt.

I gifted my DSs suits for their graduation and my DD a book (she’d bought a dress from Vinted herself).

We took son out for a meal in a nice restaurant. Paid for photos and a tattoo.

A university hoodie. A nice meal out. That's what mine got.

I have paid out thousands of pounds to support my child at university, maybe he should buy my husband and I a graduation present to show his appreciation! We will take him out for a celebratory meal, I think that’s enough.