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Graduation present - is it a thing?

36 replies

Treviarpelli · Today 15:41

Dd graduates this year, we’re beyond proud, we have funded her and will celebrate with her generously- but it’s only just occurring to me that graduation gifts are a thing?
Likewise flowers on the day, she seems to think they’re a thing, I think they’ll be a pain in the arse waste of money personally

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Ceramiq · Today 15:49

Treviarpelli · Today 15:41

Dd graduates this year, we’re beyond proud, we have funded her and will celebrate with her generously- but it’s only just occurring to me that graduation gifts are a thing?
Likewise flowers on the day, she seems to think they’re a thing, I think they’ll be a pain in the arse waste of money personally

Why not? But buy her something that will last.

UserNineNine · Today 15:50

We did talk about a graduation present but we paid for a meal afterwards and bought new outfits (not for dd, she got her own) and she was living back with us by then and it just felt like buying something for the sake of it. She knows we are proud of her but also its cost us a fortune to get her there. Maybe she should be proud of us and get us a present!

Amsylou · Today 15:51

Flowers, very much a yes, and I think something small like a graduation teddy as a keepsake.

caringcarer · Today 15:54

Amsylou · Today 15:51

Flowers, very much a yes, and I think something small like a graduation teddy as a keepsake.

You can get a build a bear you can record a message on. We did this when my DD graduated.

Skybluepinky · Today 15:55

It’s been a thing for years, lots of posts from people who bought their children flats, cars, jewellery etc.
Most girls got bracelet charms, jellycats, earrings, Birkin’s or Kelly’s.

AnneElliotsBestFriend · Today 15:55

We bought our daughter the graduation teddy and gave her money for clothes for her first job which she really appreciated.

CountingTheMinutes · Today 15:57

We bought ours some jewellery, paid for an holiday for them and gave them some cash.

UserNineNine · Today 15:58

Amsylou · Today 15:51

Flowers, very much a yes, and I think something small like a graduation teddy as a keepsake.

They weren’t very much a thing at my DD’s. Nobody had flowers. It was a warm day, we took many photos then we were in a big hall, I would not have wanted flowers with me for my of that. Then after the ceremony it was all very sociable, dd seeing friends, more photos and champagne. Who is holding the flowers then? Then a meal , where are the flowers going? Then we stayed over. Unsure on vase facilities at the hotel.

Flowers would be a proper pain. Like when a toddler insists that they want to take their little tykes car to The supermarket and they tell you that the definitely will go in it the whole way and you won’t have to push it once not even one time and then the last 10 metres.

AsparagusSeason · Today 15:59

We bought our sons gifts. Nothing major - a new pair of Raybans for one, a new iPad for the other.

The flowers are definitely a thing. A stupid thing, imo. We saw so many girls tottering around clutching huge bouquets. Utterly impractical when they are going straight to the drinks reception, no doubt followed by a restaurant with parents then partying with mates.

lordbaddingham · Today 16:01

This is just another example of commercialisation. Actually quite annoyed me 😂

lordbaddingham · Today 16:02

A teddy, fine. A car, no.

DappledThings · Today 16:02

Wasn't in my day but I have heard of this flowers thing now. Where do you put them when you go on from the ceremony to another celebration? Seems very odd and just an inconvenience to me.

Peonies12 · Today 16:03

Flowers will be annoying to carry around all day, I work at the graduation ceremony at my uni and it is so cramped in the venue, nowhere to leave things.
take her out for a meal and get a her a bottle of champagne to have with her friends that night.

Morphingirl · Today 16:37

Treviarpelli · Today 15:41

Dd graduates this year, we’re beyond proud, we have funded her and will celebrate with her generously- but it’s only just occurring to me that graduation gifts are a thing?
Likewise flowers on the day, she seems to think they’re a thing, I think they’ll be a pain in the arse waste of money personally

My parents bought me a Pandora charm for my graduation and then a family friend bought me a charm for my masters

LarissatheDragon · Today 17:43

Waste of time and money, agreed.

MrsBartlet · Today 17:58

We gave our two framed prints of the places they studied at which went down well.

Fraudornot · Today 18:03

We paid for everyone to stay in an air b and b at the university town and then a celebration meal - that is plenty

scaredsillyabout · Today 18:03

A friend has paid for a long trip to the far east for their son, I’ve got mine some funny graduation socks, a card and a framed picture of a favorite place in their town. Flowers would be a nuisance.

MrsHeathcliff26 · Today 18:07

Yes it can be. We took our DD on an all expenses paid trip to Europe for 4 weeks as a grad gift. She didn’t want a keepsake so memories it is.

Longtimeworker · Today 18:57

I graduated over 30 years ago. My parents bought me a necklace that I still have. DD is graduating soon and we have got her a uni hoodie. It’s just a nice token/keepsake.
I’m not good with doing stuff cos others are so no to the flower trend for me!

Motheranddaughter · Today 19:08

We sent flowers to my daughter and bought her earrings

GoodkneeBadKnee · Today 19:12

I didn't think to ask if graduation presents were "a thing" when mine graduated. I bought them gifts when they graduated because I wanted to...

BoredZelda · Today 19:25

My parents gave me money as a graduation present. I will do the same for my daughter.

Tonissister · Today 19:28

Flowers on the day are a really big thing for girls graduating. I see them walking around with huge bouquets in their academic gowns.

I have DSs. We took them each out for a fancy lunch at the restaurant of their choice with champagne. But no present, to my memory.

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