Countdown to A level results day - 2023

[HereWeGo2023]

Following on from the A level support thread I thought I would create one for results day.
Hopefully you will all join me for the long nail biting wait and the big day at the end of it!

I think we're doing quite a good job here of forgetting all about A-levels for the moment, bar the odd frisson of panic.

Dd is working through her emotions re the break-up (she's angry now!) but she seems to have found a good balance of work/socialising/music/gym. Slightly to my relief (though I didn't admit it) the tattoo parlour didn't take walk-ins the other day, so her unblemished skin remains...

Valencia sounds brilliant, FFG - all these tales are making me want to re-live my lost youth.

Well done for request for special consideration.

I am doing the same as you - i.e. torturing myself and not looking forward to having to deal with her tears if things don't pan out the way she would like.

It is difficult isn't it?

I went through this last year with her elder sibling who was waiting for their A level results.

its horrible; you are consumed with worry in case they dont get the grades but sort of beat yourself up for doubting them if that makes sense. Dd has barely left her room since Jan, constant revision and I keep thinking surely her hard work should translate into her grades.

Her bio mocks were a C grade at Xmas but shes worked so hard ; just hoping she can scrape the B she needs

DD thinks shes done well and keeps trying to add up her marks. She loved paper one and paper three but hated paper two (AQA) I keep thinking the papers aren’t easy for a reason and theres no way shes got the kind of marks she thinks she has.

Don't want to wish my life away but hope next 5 weeks go quickly.

I could have written that myself. DD exactly the same, you are right it is horrible. I am trying to find another way of dealing with it but can't seem to...

Perhaps I can somehow regroup and chill whilst she is Spain.

At least it helps to post on here and find that I'm not the only one feeling like this. So thanks for posting it has helped me realising that I'm not a total nut job for feeling that way!

Is there a fresher thread for 2023 starters? Ive seen threads that have been going for years on mums net. Im on the 2020 one from the eldest DD that started then and they are mostly graduating now. Its lovely to read how everyone is getting on and all helping, especially in the first few weeks of move in.

That's a nice thing to think about.

Today has been really up and down at this end.

DD has been scouring charity shops for nice dresses for Valencia.

That is as far as i've got.

@sammyjoanne ibwould be keen to join such a thread once I know dd1 really is going to be a 2023 fresher! I know some people already have that certainty (IB or pre existing grades) but for lots still awaiting A level results it might be a teensy bit premature to join. But if one was linked here I would bookmark it and join it if it proved relevant!

Yes I don't think we want to tempt fate by joining a freshers 2023 thread yet, but it will be (hopefully) a natural evolution of this one once the results are out. DS going to uni is going to be a huge change as he is our only, so the house will feel very empty.

Yes, I agree with @tribpot that a freshers thread will hopefully be a natural progression from here.
@Forestfriendlygarden Is there something you can do as a distraction so you can enjoy these 5 weeks rather than them being so torturous for you? Is your DD stressing too? She seems quite busy with the pre-uni online course, work and prepping for Spain so hopefully distracted. Could you have a couple of special days out together before she goes to Spain? And think of some lovely things to do for yourself esp now probate sorted - it’s been full on for you & not surprisingly a difficult time. It’d be good to have some niceties in your diary.

Nothing much happening here. DD seems chilled, nothing she can do about it now, and if it does go pear-shaped there’s other options. She’s got a very part-time bar job but doesn’t want anything full time as we have her aunt here from Oz for a few weeks, plus go away in 5 weeks for our family holiday. Yes, poor planning on my part booking flights on results day! 🤞🏼we don’t have to do clearing. Need to ensure we are totally packed and fully organised the day before just incase though!

Probate not sorted, it's gone to the court that's all.

After pretty much ten years of full on single parenting, I'm planning to do nothing! That probably won't work out like that though, as only having moved here in November - there is still quite a bit to do. Timetable very packed so no room for days out and I need to do some things around my arthritis to ease the pain. 😀

Thanks for the replies :)
DD2 is with boyfriend and his family at Cardiff at the moment. Shes been there 3 weeks now and back on Wednesday by catching the train back to us in Notts. So will be picking her up that afternoon. Then will be a short hello and then a goodbye the following day as im back at Lancaster for DD1 whos a year 3 and shes moving out Thursday/Friday. Shes got summer accommodation at the university whilst theres a gap between accommodation contracts. So a lot of the items will be in in a storage facility which im there with car to help move that lot. Then the rest will come with her to uni accommodation, which will be lots of fun as its one of the graduation days so I know it will be busy. Will also be lovely though, seeing them with their caps and gowns on at campus knowing that will be DD1 next year. So staying there Thursday and Friday night in her room with pump up bed (saves on hotels lol). Then its going to be a quiet few weeks, although DD2 will likely to meet with sixth from friends leading up to exam results day.

Hello! Just found you all here :)

It feels like ages since DD finished her ALevels (7th June was her last exam) and we have mostly put thoughts of results out of our minds. DD has been working hard at her part time job (well almost full time at the moment as she has been doing 36 hours a week) saving for uni and her holiday. We got back from a lovely restful week in Tenerife on Sunday and she has been at work all week but leaves on Monday for a week in Belgium with her boyfriend.

I am worried that she won't have got the grades as she needs pretty high ones but since there is nothing to be done at this stage I'm trying not to think about it. I am going to look into the clearing process soon so we are prepared on the day if things don't go to plan.

if it does go pear-shaped there’s other options

Yes!

Year after year these threads are so intense. Now it's my turn to wait for results with DD. No way are we wishing the weeks away like pp.

Lots of lovely things planned, results day will tell us if she goes with Plan A (doubtful) or Plan B ... or C.

Whatever ... it'll be fine.

Not sure that anyone is 'wishing the weeks away' pp.

Just that each person's process is different so guess it will be a good idea to respect that fact!

Don't want to wish my life away but hope next 5 weeks go quickly

This is the pp I was referring to.

Yes I hope the next five weeks go quickly too,
but I don't wish my life away.

For some people this hasn't been an easy ride. So don't gloat. Or indeed by goady.

This is a support thread.

be goady.

That post was mine

We have had an awful few months and with respect, you know nothing about my life or circumstances and thr need for this chapter to be over with and closed off

Your circumstances may be different which is fine but please dont assume its bern any easy process for all

Well said @Forestfriendlygarden

you and I seem to be kindred spirits here

For some people this hasn't been an easy ride. So don't gloat. Or indeed by goady

And don't accuse me of gloating or being goady.

I'm giving my perspective. Just as this board shouldn't be the domain of parents of only A* students, this thread shouldn't be just for those who are making a drama of results day.

Its not been an easy ride for us - A levels are tough for most students. I'm glad most on here are, like my DD, privileged to have lots of good things to do over the summer.

Just need the weather to improve!

I would go with that, it has been an awful few months. In fact with the recruitment crisis, not having a maths teacher for G.C.S.E's, Covid a number of times, my mum'd death, and a massive number of other challenges including an arthritis diagnosis which means I'm in pain every day - which I manage and generally dont' even mention -

As for not just for 'A star' students. What an awful thing to say! I wouldn't dream to descriminate on that basis. As pp said, families go through all kinds of things and the fact that we are all even here on this thread is an achievement in itself given the circumstances!

This is all getting a bit intense and unnecessary. Calling Bea floating or goady was unkind and not in the spirit of support and they were neither floating or goady. They are right things will be ok in the end - it may not be the original plan but things always work out.

All families face challenges / difficult times so let not have a race to the bottom please. Some people share those details here some don’t - I don’t post about these things but accept that some do.

Forest I know you are stressed but I think you have jumped on Bea unnecessarily and unkindly here - her feelings / opinions are just as valid.

I hate the count down and wishing time away but get that other people like that. But to jump on people who express differing views is verging on gate keeping.

My dd is very worried - she doesn’t think she’ll meet her firm which should have been easily within her reach. She will be very upset if she doesn’t get in but I do know things will work out and feel it’s not for me to micromanage it.

Ive spent a day or so ruminating whether to post this but have been kind of upset by some of the recent gate keeping so am doing so.

Sigh obv gloating not floating

Sorry it’s also important to remember that whilst it is fantastic that young people sit A levels and gain Uni places this is their achievement and not that of their parents.

@Forestfriendlygarden good decision re photographs.