Oxford aspirants part 5......the wait is over the results are in!!

[TangoWhiskyAlphaTango]

Thought I would start a new thread as its likely to fill up quick now.

So here we are after many months of applications, assessments and interviews. The wait is finally over for those with DC who have applied to Oxford. Those with Cambridge applicants have another 2 weeks to wait until the 25th Jan (bummer!!)

You have all been a lovely bunch to share this journey with and I wish your dc nothing but the BEST OF LUCK for tomorrow (and the 25th).

@TangoWhiskyAlphaTango glad to see you back. Similar story here with mocks - English had we were told "been a disaster" but result on average better than she thought.

Good luck to all those waiting for next week, it must be really hard. Stay strong.

@TangoWhiskyAlphaTango glad to see you back! We state school HSPSers need to stick together!

I liked @ealingwestmum description of 'moving on day', happy to move on in either direction whichever the outcome, but the torture of not knowing is starting to get to me

Oh I hadn't thought of going out to dinner the night of the 25th - what a good idea. Probably the local pub for a pizza [wild]

For GCSE results we went out the night before, which was my bright thought to emphasise to ds that i was really proud of how he'd worked for them whether they went well or not. Completely coincidentally that was also an Eat Out to Help Out night But I think for this one I'm going to tackle it head on as 'moving on day'.

We went out for dinner the night DD got her offer for interview at C as we thought we might as well celebrate now as we might not be celebrating on the 25th. 😳 But, I might book somewhere anyway to either properly celebrate (she gets an offer) or to commiserate (she doesn’t). She really really wants a place but she (and we) are realistic, HSPS!!!
Got an offer from York and an unconditional from Exeter. Still waiting for Durham and Glasgow.

@TangoWhiskyAlphaTango sooo glad you're back ! DD also had Bath so that's lovely to have a look .. Love @ealingwestmum moving on day .. we will be doing the same..we all need it !

Sorry got so excited that you're back I meant .. to have a look at... also
waiting on Durham.. LSE..and UCL .. I see a couple of offers coming for there but not many ..I've got my doubts and worries about DD going to London though ..

@TangoWhiskyAlphaTango glad you’re back, state school HSPS here too, love the original supportiveness of your threads.

DD has 2 A*s and A in Dec mocks which is better than she thought, with another set to come after half term. She’s also waiting on LSE but tbh I think regrets applying there now and feels it was a wasted choice. Three other offers in place at RG universities though.

It’s going to be a tense weekend 😬 good luck to all those waiting.

So glad you are back @TangoWhiskeyAlphaTango.

@PermanentTemporary We did exactly that! Just DD and I went for dinner at a posh local restaurant the night before, both to show her I was proud whatever, but also because of Eat Out to Help Out 🤣

Re grandparents, I had a good sob on offer day. My mum died when I was 24, four weeks before DD was born. She really looks like her (both beautiful - it skipped a generation 😂) My mum was so proud when I got into Oxford. She was from Oxford but left school at 14. I so wish I could tell her about DD. She would have been such a wonderful Nanny.

It's been a long time and I don't even think about how much I miss her most days, but it really hit me on that day and I just really wanted to tell her.

My Dad is thrilled enough for both of them though - he's been lovely.

Ah that's lovely. Proud GPs are a blessing.

A candidate I know just got winter pooled for Medicine at C and had another interview. Quite exciting. Though I do feel like knocking on their door and telling them this kid was born to be a doctor and to pull their fingers out. Having said that they weren't necessarily born to be at C, just like ds.

Welcome old gang. Glad to see you all.

@Eightytwenty yes, we’re Scottish. We were very surprised at an unconditional (which has no strings attached) coming from an English Uni.

@Eightytwenty our DS (Oxford PPE reject,lol) is currently at Warwick doing his Masters so we’re very used to the long distance. Though Exeter is very very far away.

mynameisnotmichselcaine she would be so proud. And remember, she lives on inside you and your DD: her legacy is alive and kicking.

I lost mam 7 years ago only and I miss her so very much, every day, especially where the DC are concerned as she absolutely adored them.

Super envious of grandparents….

My df died when I was in my 20s and dm two months after dd was born. They would have been so darn proud of the dcs going to Oxbridge as they had reduced educational opportunities and I, er, enjoyed being a teenager and wasted my chances

I have found that no one is interested in your dcs apart from you and grandparents. Even siblings offer a polite well done and that’s it. I never mention the dcs and siblings never ask . I would never tell other people unsolicited. I am always interested in other people’s dcs but they never reciprocate !

Ahhhh @DottyHarmer

I think it’s great. I love to see young people doing well.

My sister and I are v interested in each others' kids, possibly for slightly competitive negative reasons, but I do adore them both and my sis loves ds. But yes, I wouldn't really bother keeping the others up to date as they're not too interested.

My DSis is a bit (ok very) obsessed with Oxbridge. Her own two DC got in, and I think she is now more interested in mine getting in than I am, and has actually been asking me for info on progress and dates! I don't really get the importance some people place on Oxbridge, personally. Hence DC2 and I continuing to be totally chilled about the Cambridge results. Cambridge hasn't even been mentioned for ages now, and there's a danger we'll forget what day the decisions come out. I'd better keep checking this thread!
My DC1 has been supported to an extent by some of the extended family in their extracurricular endeavours. I suppose that to date they're the one in their generation of the family who has been in the public eye most. And they've picked up some amazing professional mentors along the way, who have done so much for them, often for no financial gain.

Gosh, add to grandparent envy, professional contact envy! We know absolutely no one useful. In fact, when it comes down to it academic prowess is useless compared with a good contacts book. Dh has always been terrible at networking. He finds it excruciating. Story of my family: decent brains but in the back row where pushing yourself forwards is concerned. Actually not even in the back row - loitering outside a side entrance…

I try not to feel grandparent envy - my DCs have always been grandparentless.