Applying for Uni 2019 Part 8: Results Day - congratulations, champagne, clearance, commiserations... Our DC will get through it whatever happens.

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Following on from our previous thread.

Good luck to all DC awaiting results and university places.

School question: Is it only the SLT and the Exams Officer(s) who get to see the results today?

@Laniakea I'm sorry your DD is having such a rough week x

Hello, late to the party!!

Just wanted to say, DD is also going to York, and has been given Alcuin, which was her first choice. She's already in the group chats for her subject and college. She had an unconditional but performed really well and didn't take her foot off the gas, which I knew she wouldn't.

Also, DS (who most definitely would have taken a foot and possibly two off the pedal...), started Lancaster last year. He's in Pendle college. He's also no party animal. He didn't contribute to any pre uni chats etc and was still fine if you're worried about this anyone.

For those who have similar quiet souls, Freshers week isn't or at least doesn't have to be about getting smashed. DS went to a club once and disliked it - the rest of the time he just did other activities more suited to him. I think he probably got drunk maybe two or three times the whole year, but he's found a set of friends that would rather order a pizza and have a bottle of beer and then chill to share a house with this year. In fact, he preferred start of normal lessons than Freshers - hang in there if required.

Glad to have found the thread - I'm on a Facebook group but don't contribute, you lot seem more 'me'.

My first has been the cost of the accommodation at York (albeit en-suite) compared with Lancaster....

for your DD @Laniakea

Son seems to have decided to take the offer from Bath. This weekend he’ll need to get that sorted and then we want a checklist of things he needs. A lot will be for him to do but we just want visibility they’re getting done :)

And we’re happy that any remaining weekends will prioritise anything he needs from us - shopping for kitchen bits, whatever. Again he just needs to have that info more visible to everyone and not leave it until the last minute

@Laniakea - adding to the chorus of sympathy for your DD. How horrible for this to happen now.

@MrKlaw - given that your DS really liked Warwick I think Bath is probably the better choice for him, it’s our local uni so DS2 discounted it but liked Warwick because it was so similar.

@Laniakea Sorry to hear your DD has had such a rough week. Hopefully things can start to look up once she has got over the turbulence.

@milesandmilesandmileandmiles t hanks so much for your post. DS is one of those quite souls. I was starting to worry about his lack of interest in Facebook groups, freshers etc so I’m glad to hear it won’t be the nail in the coffin to his making friends at uni.

@MrKlaw I haven’t been to Warwick so don’t know how it compares to Bath. But I think long term Bath is a nicer location as after first year Warwick students often have a long commute.

Your ds’ results are amazing & I also can’t believe Warwick didn’t take him. But it is a very funny year for Maths. I know a couple of extremely able pupils (got A in Maths GCSE in Y9, A in A Level Maths last year) who “only” got As in FM this year.

miles and miles my son is going to Lancaster and loved York too. The accomodation cost at Lancaster will be tough for us do perhaps we dodged a bullet by him not choosing York!

I'm currently working out a plan about money for ds. Ds maintenance loan doesn't quite cover his accomodation. Fortunately we have been saving money for our 4 children for years exactly for this type of thing so I have passed some of the savings across to ds for living costs. He is very sensible with money fortunately and not a party animal. It will run out eventually though. God help us when my 4th child goes to uni - he is like a loose canon!

So, DD has been telling me about a friend who had an unconditional offer, got top results in one A level, but failed the other 2. DD says the uni have withdrawn the place, anyone else come across this scenario?

Shimy my DD loves having friends, but is taking no interest in contacting others on facebook or tsr.

Clankboing yes, we've got to work out costs. Making sure she has enough, but at a level we can afford. DD's first two choices were shared rooms approx £5,000, but if she doesn't get them, there's a big difference self catered £2,500 up to catered £8,000.

@Laniakea hope things get better. Really though, I only knew one long term relationship from home that lasted the first year (most didn't last the first term) and in a lot of ways it's better to deal with it in the security of home than when first off on their own.
Ditto friendships. People think it'll be great: we're all off together. But when they're actually there, they'll either end up splitting up, or end up limiting themselves. I know a couple of people who really regretted being with friends because they felt they couldn't branch out and try new things because they friends didn't want to.

DD1's happy this morning: She's got her Durham College confirmed-by post, really nice to get a package from them. So she can now look forward-except the arrival time. We've got to be there between 9am and 10:30am. Probably good as she's a bit shy, I think she'll be better to be there first than arrive and find everyone else settled in. However, with a 5 hour drive, we're going to need to stay overnight I think.

Anyone else got a dc going/been at Josephine Butler?

@errorofjudgement if it was confirmed on UCAS as unconditional, they can't do that. Tell them to get onto UCAS and ask them to help.

If it was only verbally unconditional and not shown on UCAS, then they can do that.

If they contact The Student Room (will be online now rather than phone lines) they may be able to advise best way of going about it.

Apparently dd tells me, Plymouth and Portsmouth have been awkward about taking some of the insurance people who missed their firm.

@ifonly4 Well that’s good to hear, I don’t feel so bad that I’m the only parent whose dc isn’t terribly excited about meeting new people online or going to freshers at their new uni now. Hopefully he will meet other like minded people over there.

errorofjudgement I recall someone at DD's school getting an unconditional as long as she got grades. So I assume they meant EEE.

I did read yesterday that there was to me small print attached to unconditional offers but I have certainly not seen it. It's shocking behaviour if true.

error that's awful. I know of one who was predicted AAB, got ABB, obviously not a fail, but she's still got her unconditional. Was it a high ranked uni?

@errorofjudgement. That's sounds odd about the unconditional place being withdrawn. Might it be that the Uni is suggesting the student isn't suitable rather than them actually withdrawing the place. I'd be curious (nosy 😅) about what happens.

Deposit paid to secure Dds room at York. She went for ensuite non catered as it was one of the cheapest options and she wanted her own bathroom! But now she's got the option to ads catering on. Either 5 weekday dinners or 5 weekday breakfasts or both.
She was up for both until I reminded her she prioritises sleep here and doesn't usually eat breakfast.

@Laniakea your poor DD is going through it isn't she? Sending you both a big hug, hopefully the mist will clear and she begins to see things more positively soon. 💐

Things are all moving very swiftly now, aren't they?

DS has just applied for his student bank account.

Out of interest @DrMadelineMaxwell how much of a deposit did you have to pay to secure your DD's room at York?

For costs we’re covering accommodation and he lives on the minimum maintenance. We also expect him to try to pay us back in the following years summer break. So in theory we aren’t paying anything, just fronting the money each year.

If we can afford it we’ll just put any money he pays us into a separate pot to help him out once he finishes uni and moves out (well do the same if we charge him rent living at home)

He can earn enough to cover Bath accommodation in the summer break 😲😲

@Shimy DS is also uninterested in joining Facebook groups, making contact through TSR etc. His argument is that he will 'find his tribe' easier by meeting people face to face and doesn't want to pre-empt that by 'meeting ' online. I think he is probably right though I think some would feel comfort in 'knowing' somebody else before arrival on the first day.

Hi Psychology/Childhood studies I have suggested maybe she defer until next year

Re DDs friend, I don’t suppose I will hear any more than I’ve posted.

I do wonder if it was unconditional provided they passed their A-levels as suggested by Tapas.
Or perhaps they had to pass at least 2 of them.

The school s/he attends are generally regarded as pretty good at supporting students so I assume s/he is getting guidance from them.