Applying for Uni 2019 Part 8: Results Day - congratulations, champagne, clearance, commiserations... Our DC will get through it whatever happens.

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Following on from our previous thread.

Good luck to all DC awaiting results and university places.

School question: Is it only the SLT and the Exams Officer(s) who get to see the results today?

RedRec, where is the Vanbrugh group chat, Facebook?
Dd should try to get involved, so far she's seems to be avoiding actually thinking about going...

Hi FrameyMcFrame,
My son found it on the University of York Freshers Facebook page. Hope that helps, if she wants to join it, and that it gives her more of a feel for the place. Think he lurked a bit before joining in!
All the best.

Hi @Ingles2 DS has got in Stevenson College which happened to be the same House he was in all the way through Comp as well!

*Stephenson

Thank you olliepolly. Taking some time out over next few days to get her head around it. The early term start adding to the pressure.

@dunlurking I work at York uni. It's lovely. Campus uni. York is a lovely city. We have a number of students who forget to confirm open days but still turn up at the last minute. Why don't you combine a trip with the York maze which is close by. That may catch her interest.

@rainandshine52 thank you sooo much for your thoughts. I’ll suggest it to her. She’s very grateful for this offer but was in floods of tears last night at the thought of having to make new friends and not being with her school friends at Sheffield. Turns out there’s a whole undercurrent of insecurities about getting to know people, making conversation and not being relaxed with people she hasn’t known for a long time. We have scrolled through societies to find some she might want to join so feel she is able to think a little more clearly now she has cried over and acknowledged the issues.

@FrameyMcFrame sorry I didn’t reply last night - was with dd while she opened up to me. Glad to hear your dd sounding excited about Vanbrugh. My dd says she doesn’t want to meet people on FB but I think she will lurk anyway.

We were trying to find the music societies and musical theatre last night. Are there string groups/choirs/orchestra (not tooo high powered) that I can direct her to? Also does anyone know about playing rounders? Probably won’t happen in the autumn, I know. Would netball be through her college?

Morning everyone, I'm a bit late to the party. DD got better than predicted, 2 x A 1 x C so we are still in a bit of a daze. She has declined ed her original offer from Cardiff Met and yesterday we were looking at alternatives. Still alot of decision making to be done if she wants to go this year or defer for a year

@momo. Well done to your dd what subject is she wanting to do? Hope she finds somewhere to suit her, but if not a year out and a better look at options might be the best plan.

@Dunlurking yes totally understandable. I remember the feeling myself. Last week we visited my old uni friend I made on day 1 in uni halls - 34 years ago !!

@rainandshine52 that’s impressive! Sadly I’ve lost contact with my hall friends but still keep up with some subject and society friends. (1982 start).

Congratulations to your dd moomoo Hope she finds what she wants.

Dunlurking it may have changed now, but in the past the university choir was non audition for the students (non univ people could also join but I think did audition!) - and was absolutely amazing! Maybe someone with more recent knowledge can confirm. (Not suggesting that your dd won't pass an audition! - but I mention it as you said not too high powered! The standard is excellent but it's a large choir so perhaps not too scary)

I'm not sure about the university orchestra - suspect that may be more high powered, but with luck someone with more knowledge of string groups will come along. It may be that the college is a good place to start for that.

Also, about the friends thing. I think, though your dd won't agree, that there can be real advantages to not going with a group of friends. The friendships don't always survive going to the same university, as some of them understandably want to branch out to new things/people, and that could be quite stressful/upsetting for those who have hoped things will carry on as before but in a new location.

It also means you don't feel constrained to be exactly the same person that you were at school.

Ime even for the less socially confident, shyer, dstudents, going somewhere without school friends is not a particular disadvantage. But I can see that it would seem very scary if you've been thinking that you'll be with a group of friends, to go somewhere where you know nobody! And getting to know new people does take time - I think perhaps one helpful thing can be to say don't worry if you see everyone else forming wonderful friendships on day one and you're slower to find them - give yourself time!

@SoonerthanIthought that is sooo helpful - your choir/orchestra/strings and friendship advice. Thank you very much. She would do okay in an audition but the nerves might put her off trying in the first place. Do you know what the choir is called? It didn’t seem very clear what the main choir was when dd was scrolling through societies.

We’ve been concerned for a while that she was going to miss out on making new friends and joining societies at Sheffield. Obviously we’re sorry for her pain, but a little relieved as well.

Hi, Dunlurking, sorry to barge in on your conversation, I have posted on earlier threads. Just saw your query about music at York.
York is known as a choral uni. It has 6 choral scholarships and there are additional opportunities at the minster.
There is also a chamber choir, a group called 24 and a huge general choir that is also very good.
Our younger DS has sang all his life and it's his first choice because of the singing!

www.york.ac.uk/music/about/ensembles/choir/

Here's the link - and looks as though it is still non audition! It's a wonderful choir.

One other thing about friends - my impression is that York is not one of the universities that attracts the huge gangs (ok that is tendentious, I mean large groups) of existing friends that some universities apparently now do (less of an issue in our day I think). I think that phenomenon can be an issue for the 'singletons' if the existing groups inadvertently make them feel excluded. So if my impression is right, there will be lots of new students looking for new friends!

York is a fabulous place (not knocking Sheffield btw - equally fabulous!). But fair enough that your dd is taking time to come to terms with it - it is difficult to change plans at such short notice and even more so when they've all been under stress for a while waiting for results!

Serin yes, i think the general choir is the one I've linked to - I think they get the chance to sing in the Minster once or twice a year which is absolutely amazing! (Other concerts in the hall on the campus which is also great.)

Still, I know it's not all about the choir/music for your dd dunlurking,! But York is great generally - i wouldn't be surprised if your dd ends up thinking everything turned out for the best. Meanwhile, would it be feasible for her to nip over to Sheffield for the occasional weekend to club with her friends - not suggesting it as a regular thing because you do want to 'invest' in your university, but to have that on the horizon may help?

Dunlurking Does your DD know which college she will be in yet (sorry if I missed it)? Once DD knew which one she was in she spent some time looking at their website/FB page and has definitely bought into the college system and, although disappointed not to get into Bath she is now looking forward York.

She also spent yesterday sorting admin stuff and looking at her list of things she will need to take with her. Surprisingly talking about plates/pans/cooking utensils has definitely moved the excitement to another level. Is that something that might help distract her from Sheffield?

DD does have friends going to York (3 of her close friends) but they have all chosen different colleges and have discussed how they won't meet up very often, particularly at first because they all want to make new friends. I also realised yesterday that the main freshers week events are held in colleges which I thought was nice.

Serin and Soonerthan thank you very much for the choir information. Brilliant! She sang in the younger age National Youth Choirs (girls) and sang once with them in the Albert Hall so this should suit her really well. I know she's planning trips to Sheffield to see friends but I don't think they will spend the time clubbing, at least I hope not. They actually changing their minds about clubbing Thursday night and just spent the time chatting (with 1/3 of the year group apparently) in the town Wetherpoons.

JennyWreny she's got Halifax. Don't know what she's discovered about it yet. She's back to being morose this morning and gone off to work in the village shop. At least she had the best night's sleep she's had for weeks.

*changed!

The gloom lifted here yesterday & Dd did the rounds of various parties then ended up split up with her long term/serious girlfriend. They are being sensible etc but it is very upsetting. I don’t think she’s stopped crying yet. Can’t say it’s been a good week - poor kid, adulting sucks

Your poor dd Laniakea End of school and end of university both seem to be times where relationships are assessed and end. Dd split up with her long term boyfriend the night before her last final. Hope your dd is ok today.

What a week for dd Laniakea. She must be in pieces, poor girl.

Oh dear laniakea : lots of tea and sympathy today.

Sorry to hear your DD is having such a hard time of it at the moment @Laniakea. It really is a time of great change, isn't it?