New Uni starters 2015 (continued from Preparing for Uni)

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Thought we needed a new thread to continue from preparation.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/higher_education/2466997-Preparing-for-Uni-in-2015-continues

Suspect all have arrived by now...

Hope she feels better soon Cooroo.

DD is home till the 18th too and is missing uni and her mates already!

DS arrived home this afternoon. As he flew home he's hardly bought any luggage - laptop/tablet and one pair of trousers and 4 shirts - all clean and ironed! He has a few clothes which he left at home.
He was home for just over 3 hours and then went out to work He has already taken his shoes in to be repaired which he is expecting me to pay for and has asked for some new boots for Christmas which was followed by "if I get them on Monday can I wear them when I go out on Monday night, Oh and Wednesday too!
I think he is going to cost me a lot more than he is going to earn whilst he is home.
DS goes back on 9th and has assessments for 2 weeks. They have 3 days off officially at end of Jan but also, it seems, he will be off between his last assessment and the start of Feb. Not clear yet if he intends to stay away or come home again - which will cost me another return flight

DD is now home too! She went out last night to catch up with friends and made a lot of noise coming in at 2.30am - back to reality. She is back on the 18th but then has a 2 week exam period. She has said she may go back for a couple of days before then.

DS went to bed for a few hours early evening, then got up, had a sandwich and went back to bed!

Still hasn't surfaced yet.

DS made it home.... I hardly slept the night before because he had to be up at 04.30 to get a taxi to the airport - knowing it was a big end of term party night didn't help. But hey, he did it!
Then it was business as usual - food, PLaystation and then off to meet his mates.
Great to see him tho' .... Haven't seen him since drop-off in October, so lovely to hear all about his new life 😀

Hope you are all enjoying having dc back for Christmas. Dd has been back for 2 weeks already and it seems like she has never left. Will be very strange when she does leave again. She has had a friend from university to stay on Friday night which was nice. Good to get to know the people who make up her life when she is away from us.

I'm actually finding it more stressful with her here now! She's exhausted and rundown and had a bad experience at a party in last night of term - she calls it coercion, may have been rape - so now I'm worrying about her much more than when she was out of sight. We did a cinema trip together which was lovely, but I feel I've let her down in some way, that she wasn't able to avoid the experience and be more firm. And worry about her confidence although outwardly she's very confident. Just feeling a bit .

Cooroo perhaps your daughter might want to call a helpline to talk to somebody trained about what happened. Message me if you want details of a particular organisation that offers this service.

Cooroo really sorry to hear that. Sounds like she should follow Marianne's advice and talk to someone trained to help her.

Cooroo I second Marianne's suggestion.

Oh Cooroo , that sounds very tough. Absolutely agree with the others above.

Cooroo what a horrible experience, so sorry that happened to her. Please try not to blame yourself in any way at all, neither of you have done anything wrong and your dd has kept herself safe by instinctively doing what felt least dangerous at the time. You might also benefit from talking it over some someone Freephone 0808 8029999 12am - 2.30pm/7pm - 9.30pm

Some of the content in ths video could conceivably be relevant.

www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/video/2015/dec/09/i-was-raped-and-blamed-myself-im-not-ashamed-any-more-video

Hope everyone had a calm and relaxing Christmas. We've been very busy, dd hasn't done much work for uni but is cracking on with it today.

We had houseguests who have only just left so she is finally getting her room back and is able to sort through her new gifts and put things away properly.

She is working NYE but apart from that we are planning on doing nothing much except uni work and watching tv

We're taking her back on Saturday so will load her up with basic supplies again just to see her through the first few weeks back. How quickly that first semester went!

Hope you have had a good Christ Fairenuff.
DD is not back to uni until the 18th with an exam on her first day back. She has been very busy socialising with her old friends!

DS has done no socialising or revision but has been very affectionate and seems pleased to be home.

He's going back on Sunday evening. This holiday has flown by!

DS has just been the same as always. I've just taken him shopping for new clothes as he's grown and is taller and skinnier. No socialising here either. He doesn't go back till Jan 15th so still a while to go.

My DD isn't returning until 17th - been out once and spends most days in bed!! No work allocated and no exams although has a lot of assignments on her next lot of modueles! I'm fed up with the mess she leaves around that she will clear up 'later' BUT it is lovely to have the hugs and conversation - it's going to be hard when she does return for both of us! But her birthday is 2 weeks later so she will be home again after two weeks to celebrate :) Can't believe how quickly the first term has gone by - also she hasn't really gelled enough with her flatmates to want to live with them next year so may look into similar student accomodation for yr 2! X

I think DS would love to stay in his room at halls for Yr2, but don't think that's allowed. He says he hasn't really thought about house sharing yet, but has looked at some houses online this holiday...

Dd is going to share with four others from her halls. Two of them found a house they liked but the others weren't able to view it before they broke up. They will sort it out in January I expect. There is certainly no sense of urgency about dd

She met up with friends twice over the holidays, has had a few shifts at work, she had her birthday and we've seen lots of family so a very social couple of weeks.

Now we are just rotating between resting, uni work and eating all the left over Christmas goodies.

DS has worked 2 shifts over Christmas and is working NYE. He has allegedly done some revision for the 3 exams he has in January after he goes back on 9th Jan.
We have had quite a busy Christmas visiting relatives some distance away and DS opted to come and visit another relative in hospital a long drive away. What is driving me mad though ( and I didn't miss one bit when he was away) is his inability to get up and ready on time when you need to be somewhere that is time critical. FGS If he says he will come with us and we tell him the arrangements the day before, how hard can it be to set and alarm in time to get showered and dressed and be ready to set off at the appointed hour. This is the lad who was up and ready hours before his flight home from uni before Christmas but just doesn't seem to be able to do it when other people are involved

Dd has only been out with her school friends once since she has been back and she has been out for a drink with one of her old teachers. She has had a friend from university to stay for a couple of days but other than that she has been doing lots of reading for next term. Even still, she is not yet half-way through what she needs to have read and she is going back on 9th Jan!

Luckily, dd has college accommodation for all 3 years so we don't need to think about next year yet.

Hope you are all having a lovely holiday!

Horsemad - your ds is at Southampton I think? Tell him to look at The House Academy - they are the agents ds has used this year, their properties are nice and not extortionate.

Thank you Ohtobeskiing, I'll pass that on!

DH is making noises about buying a student let, but I'm not keen tbh.

Dd says lots of people are looking for an extra 1 to make up their numbers Horse so get him to ask around if he doesn't mind sharing.