Preparing for Uni in 2015 continues...

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New thread

Old one here with loads of info

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/higher_education/2408327-Preparing-for-Uni-in-2015

nork your poor dd been through so much. Must have been a nightmare time for you all of you and for that long too. So glad she's turned a corner now and is enjoying her uni life

Mossgate I am very sorry

My dd is shy i asked if she had spoke to the girl who lives opposite but she said she saw her in the kitchen and said hi. She has spoke to her best friend on skype though.

MossAgate I missed your post. Sorry to hear you are going through so much.

vodka I hope my dd overcomes her shyness at uni, she's ok if she's with like minded people, but if there are big personality types she will shy away into the background.

Took DD to uni today - only 20 miles away! Only a few people arriving so no problems with parking etc. Her mattress cover looked muddy, then we spotted more on the window ledge. Closer examination revealed fur on bed. We think the window had been left open and a cat with muddy paws had wandered in for a kip! Mattress is appalling so I can't think why. I'm going to get her a topper. Everything unpacked in an hour or so and room looked more like DD with posters, dragons and books. Met a couple of flat mates and they are all going out tonight. We had a coffee in town, and a few tears. More when I dropped her back at uni, but she left the car and walked off towards the halls. I cried too watching her! Sure she'll be fine though. Wandered into her room when I got home and realised it's thick with dust! Shall blitz it tomorrow. She's back for funeral on Wednesday night till Saturday so she's not quite gone yet!

Ive been into my dds room, she still has all her consoles at home too big to take to uni and her tv. Ive got to blitz her room too Cooroo its thick with dusty and loads of stuff under her bed. Need a real good sort out especially all her old games and all her playmobil that has been under her bed for a long time lol. My dd dint want all her dragons she collected, now they will be collecting more dust.

Hello Everyone what a day, I am exhausted!

Haven't heard from DS since we left him but we're staying over tonight so are taking him food shopping tomorrow before we set off for home.
He seemed OK, and met in person some people in another flat he'd 'met' via FB. He has a Welcome Party tonight so hopefully is having a good time.

I must say, the arrivals process was a very smooth operation. Loads of students pounced on us to help unload the car and brought it all to the flat. Everything in his room in 15 mins!
And they are all so lovely! I know that people who volunteer for that job are cheery, chatty types, but I was bowled over by their energy and, just their happy smiles. Really lovely experience

DH & I are now snuggled up in our hotel bed with a bottle (or two) of wine!!! And, it's rather nice!

Sorry to anyone whose drop off has been awkward; I was truly dreading ours although still have to say final 'See ya' to him tomorrow

for you Mossagate, sorry to hear your sad news.

Good Luck to anyone doing it tomorrow. And ((( ))) to all whose DC might be unsettled. X

Another mum here with DS on the Autistic spectrum - to all of you - it's such a worry.

Finally made it home about half a bottle of wine an hour ago. Major issue when we realised DS's bed was a single, not a double (in spite of assurances from the accommodation dept last week ) and I've spent the GDP of a small 3rd World Nation on mattress toppers and protectors and duvets and bedding. DS was getting a bit tearful at this point (He is 6'3" and his feet hang over single beds) so I had Polite but Firm Words with a poor stressed out young woman in reception who actually started to cry. I felt totally gutted for her and v v guilty. It wasn't her fault, she also works in Enablement Liaison so DS was already 'on her radar'. Bad bad Lapsed .

Everything picked up though - we were given a free bedding pack, and managed to cannibalise the bedding we brought to make a snug nest. Apparently all the most expensive ensuite room have single beds so no chance to change.

Ds is currently watching the new Dr Who on iPlayer. One (female) flat mate got v pissed early on and has retired injured. Another (male) has thrown in the socialibility towel and retired 'to do some paperwork'. Everyone else has apparently gravitated to the main campus. DS is v happy watching Dr Who with a bag of crisps and a Mixed Fruit Rekorderlig cider. He says tomorrow is another day! .

Lapsed, your DS is a Well done to him!

I gave my dd the talk about not getting drunk at parties and not staying up till all hours lol. Mind you she doesnt like drink says it tastes horrible lol

I did tell her what we got up to when the had parties, she was like mum i never knew you did those things.

I just hope she makes some friends when she is there.

Horsemad - we were also really impressed with the help we received - lots of shiny happy people having fun (as the song goes)! DS's Hall Welcome Party isn't until Monday, so lots of time to find his feet. He sounded fine on the phone, quite relaxed and comfortable.

I really envy you staying over! . We are only a 2 hour drive away and had to come back because we live with my elderly mum who has early stage dementia, and can't really be left overnight. We are completely shattered .

I was in two minds about staying over, as we stayed over last night also, but DH really wanted to, so we did. Really glad now as I think I'd have been more upset to leave today. It's weird but since he checked in I've been absolutely fine, no wobbles at all. Hmm, see what happens tomorrow!

The new Dr Who has started? When was it, today?

vodkaredbullgirl - I have given DS 'The Talk', well 'The Talks' actually, about:

Not getting pissed and incapable;

Looking after other people who are pissed and incapable;

Not having sex with girls if they are pissed and incapable; (AAARGH! - the horror! that was embarassing - he has never ever even snogged a girl to my knowlege....)

Bought him condoms; (AAARGH! - see above)

Always checking for keys, phone and wallet before leaving room. And locking said room when he leaves.

Making sure he has secure pockets to put keys, phone and wallet in before strutting his boogie stuff and shaking his funky thang (or whatever the hell they do on the dancefloor nowadays ) -in a discotheque when out clubbing;

The advisability of Running Away Very Fast from scary drunk violent people;

Showering on a daily basis.

Mumsnet Jury - have I forgotten anything?

New Dr Who was tonight!

Dont start smoking (mind you i cant talk lol)

Yes ive told my dd not to forget her keycard and make sure she puts it somewhere safe, also to make sure the door is locked. Infact i forgot to tell her that bit when she has gone to bed, she still be up so think id better txt her.

Also told her not to come back with a tattoo, i know she has asked me before and i said no.

lapsed your post made me laugh. Wouldn't know where to begin if I had a boy and had to do the talk??

Twerking. Yes, that's the thing they do on the dancefloor. Senior moment there.

Always keep a tenner stashed in wallet/purse as emergency taxi fare.

Told mine if he gets mugged, just hand his damn phone or money over. That can be replaced, he can't.

Lapsed my dd said they have twerking classes at the gym, she was like wtf.

Horsemad thats a good idea, mind you my dd doesnt spend much always has money somewhere lol

I was just going to say that Horse.

I also told dd not to get into any old taxi, even if it has a taxi sign, but to ring for one. Made sure today that she had the numbers for a couple of reputable firms.