DS/DD off to Uni? - Empty nest support thread

[rustybear]

DS is off to Warwick in October - anyone else feeling old? Or are there any old hands with advice ?

have spoken to her again..she's feeling better
think she a bit overwhelmed with all the organising/newness etc

she always been lacking in self confidence when it comes to academics for some reason
thinks she can't do it but is more than capable..has been a running theme in her life so far

I did suggest she try and find someone doing the same dual course. She said she feels better now and things are being worked out .
Feel like I am interfering now ,she said she'll call if she needs me.
She's made good friens already and she says they're being very supportive so that makes me feel better.
Funny how it still tugs at your heart strings when they're young adults...am a wimp.

betelguese does the oxford gp not help?

I've brought my DS up on my own since he was one. There has just been the two of us for all this time. And now he's off to uni. I'm so utterly proud of him for his achievements, and he is so excited, but I feel totally devistated too.
It really hit me last night when shopping round Tesco realised I was buying food just for myself. Unpacked shopping in floods of tears. He goes on Saturday, which is his birthday as well. And I can't take him down to Luton (5 hours away!) as I have to work. No choice.
I knew this would be hard but didn't expect it to feel like a physical pain..

oh seamist

what a good job you've done though

have a hug

More hugs seamist .

Be proud of him and keep telling yourself that you'll both get through this .

It will get better .

empathy from here too seamist.

Betelguese should DS transfer to a John Radcliffe endocrinologist?
Also I email my DD endocrinologist with her blood test results it saves a lot of time and energy.

It goes like this: get form from GP receptionist. Get blood taken at JR phlebotomy dept. Ring up receptionist for result. email endocrinologist with drug dose and bloodtest result.. Get answer. remind endocrinologist to let GP know new drug dose for repeat prescriptions.

OR even like this: get 24 hr printout of blood sugars. scan in on computer. email endocrinologist with drug doses plus attached 24 hr glucose. await reply etc.

It's not going to go in the car! Hall full, two more boxes in front room, at least two in DD1's bedroom plus her huge suitcase. Help

2 cars. it's the only way.

(mind you we took 5 people altogether in the end)

can you borrow roof bars? or a box?

Mine's a C1, so not much help. We'll squeeze it in I hope

Too late to borrow-off 9am sharp according to DH :o
He's up at 7am to do the loading. Everything is packed beautifully and more to the point 'essential'.

C1 isn't huge, is it?

good luck!

(it's astonishing just how much is essential these days )

C1 is probably the smallest car on the roads (can't even put a full shop in the 'boot'. Smart cars don't count as they can't seat four adults.

Sorry, I think we are got our lines crossed. I don't think it will all go in DH's estate. A C1 second car isn't going to help much!

At least I got DH to take his 'essentials' out- things like ice shovels,3 old coats,boots etc. etc. and coffee mugs.

oh I gathered the C1 was your trailer, harbinger

even so, a C1 with only the driver in would hold quite a lot!

how far have you got to go?

This weekend it's only 1 1/2 to 2 hours away and is the bigger challenge space wise due to all the kitchen equipment.
Next weekend we have a longer drive but I hope what I think should be a smaller load doesn't have DD2's femail magic wand waved over it.:o

Glad to report that the mountain fitted into the one car. Phew.

Some very nice fit 2nd year males helped DD1 unload. One was as white as a sheet after the previous night's poor chap.(If I'd waved food under his nose........).
It's funny to think she might even be older than them!
DD2 off on Monday.

oh good - well done, harbinger!

good luck with DD2 too